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QUEERY: Mike McMahon
The National City Christian Church minister of music answers 20 gay questions
When Mike McMahon married his partner, Ray Valido in February 2013, it didn’t take long for the repercussions to be felt.
In July of that year, he was fired from his part-time position as director of liturgical music at St. Agnes Catholic Church in Arlington. The following month he left his full-time job as president and CEO of the National Association of Pastoral Musicians, a mostly Roman Catholic organization.
“While I knew in my heart that my ministry within a Roman Catholic environment — and thus my livelihood — could be at risk for marrying my partner, my dismissal still came as a shock,” the 64-year-old Pittsburgh native says.
An unofficial don’t-ask-don’t-tell policy was in effect he says, and many people at the church knew he was gay. But he has moved on and is pragmatic about it today.
“I can honestly say that the blessings have far outweighed the pain,” he says. “I’ve been set free to be myself in every aspect of my life.”
McMahon is now minister of music at National City Christian Church (nationalcitycc.org) in Thomas Circle. And on Sunday, Nov. 1 he will be ordained, which he says is “just another step in a life-long journey of ministry.” He had considered it earlier in life as a Catholic, but left shortly before he would have been ordained. He plans to stay at National City but be more “deeply engaged in the overall ministry of the congregation,” including a special outreach to LGBT members.
McMahon has been in the D.C. area for 30 years. He lives with Valido in Silver Spring, Md., and enjoys concerts, plays and working out in his free time.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
Coming out has been an evolving process for me, beginning when I was 23 and increasing gradually over the course of my life. I left the closet completely behind after marrying Ray in February 2013, being fired from my part-time position as music director in a Catholic church and leaving my full-time position as leader of a national Catholic organization. Like many others in our community, the most difficult coming-out conversations were with my mother. In the end, of course, love prevailed, and we had a wonderful relationship until she died in 1996.
Who’s your LGBT hero?
Two that come to mind are Bishop Gene Robinson, a faithful and courageous gay Christian leader, and the late Father Mychal Judge, a gay Franciscan priest, chaplain of the New York Fire Department and the first casualty among first responders at the World Trade Center.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
I’ve enjoyed going with my husband Ray after a long work week to Bear Happy Hour at Town, where I’ve found people to be very friendly.
Describe your dream wedding.
For me a “dream wedding” means a celebration where love is both real and evident regardless of size or locale. Ray and I were married in our own living room with just eight people present. For me it was a powerful, “dreamy” event, because we were surrounded by people who loved and supported us, and we were able to commit ourselves to one another in the context of the Christian faith that guides our lives.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
I care deeply about social issues, particularly immigration and racial justice. As people who have felt the sting of discrimination and injustice, I believe that we in the LGBT community have a unique ability and a special responsibility to advocate for those who experience the effects of racism, xenophobia and economic disparity.
What historical outcome would you change?
I would change recent Supreme Court rulings on campaign financing, gun control and the death penalty, all of which have had negative effects on our society.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Although I didn’t attend it, the Woodstock Music Festival (1969) had a huge influence on me because it celebrated some of the social movements that have continued to influence me throughout my life, particularly the civil rights and anti-war movements of the 1960s.
On what do you insist?
This I believe: that all people are created in God’s image, regardless of who they are, what they look like, where they or their ancestors came from, what is their legal status or whom they love. I believe that all should be welcomed and affirmed in our society and in our churches.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
I posted about my most recent contribution to HuffPost, where I have a blog about being gay and Christian.
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“Embracing Sexuality and Spirituality”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
I would continue to marvel at and give thanks for the person that God has made me to be, just as I am.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
I believe that God has called all things into existence and will bring all things to fulfillment in ways that I can’t begin to articulate and explain.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Lead from a heart full of compassion and in a spirit of love. Advocate for people at risk, especially young people in need of self-acceptance and LGBT people in societies where their very selves are being criminalized.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
I’m not sure about the hot coals, but I’m willing to make personal sacrifices for my husband and other people I love and for my beliefs and principles. I’ll go the extra mile to be part of a church community that proclaims that all are welcome and that all means all.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
I don’t like any portrayals of LGBT people that suggest we’re all alike. We are an amazingly diverse community!
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
I was most moved by “Brokeback Mountain,” but most delighted by “La Cage aux Folles.”
What’s the most overrated social custom?
I’m often uncomfortable with titles and usually like to be addressed by my first name.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
Is there a prize for living authentically or making a difference for others? If there were, those are the ones I’d like to have.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
I wish that I had known in the depths of my heart not only that I deserve to be loved, but that I’m already loved by God as the gay man that I am.
Why Washington?
I love Washington because of its culture, history and diversity. I love the impact of the African-American community on this city and the region. I enjoy living in the nation’s capital where important issues are being argued and where far-reaching decisions are made.
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Summer in D.C. brings sports, Restaurant Week, festivals, and more
Summer in D.C. just hits different. Congress is out, school is out, the sun is out, thighs are out. With the skies clearing from Canadian smoke, here are a few ways to stay entertained.
Dining
Summer restaurant week: The Restaurant Association of Metropolitan Washington (RAMW) is once again hosting Summer Restaurant Week, Aug. 18-24. This weeklong dining experience showcases the dynamic dining scene of the DMV, including 2026 RAMMY Award-winning favorites (the annual D.C. food awards show that took place June 29). Participating restaurants will offer three-course brunch and lunch selections for $25 or $35 per person, and three-course dinners for $40, $55 and $65 per person.
New Restaurants: A handful of new spots have opened, so the summer is a great time to check them out:
- Oribu: A new Mediterranean-Japanese restaurant in the Grand Hyatt hotel, which just underwent a remodeling effort. The sleek restaurant brings upscale charm, with dishes like Wagyu beef tartare with potato pavé and caviar.
- The Oak Room: A snazzy old-school American grill has just opened in Georgetown, alongside its sister upstairs supper club (Bernadette’s) restaurant, in the old El Centro space.
- Uchi: This showy Japanese sushi-forward chain has landed in Dupont with a chef’s tasting menu of favorites like fatty tuna.
- Kathmandu: Recalling the capital of Nepal, this warm, buzzy subterranean restaurant right in the heart of U Street brings spice, flair, and rare ingredients to its dishes (see: buffalo burgers) and drinks.
Sports
- Washington Spirit Pride Night OUT: On Sunday, Aug. 23, head to Audi Field for a massive, high-energy game following the exciting month of World Cup. The designated Pride Night OUT game promises boisterous crowds plus pre- and post-game community engagements.
- Washington Tennis Open – Now called the Mubadala DC Open, this annual tournament is only combined mens’ and womens’ 500-level tennis tournament in the world. The open is one of D.C.’s longest-standing sports traditions, and will take place at the Rock Creek Park Tennis Center July 25-Aug. 2. Naomi Osaka, Venus Williams, Ben Shelton, Frances Tiafoe, and others are expected to play.
Festivals
- Afro Plus Fest: This huge, three-day Afro-Caribbean Hip-Hop Festival brings together headliners Davido, Alkaline, and Wizkid, plus Tems and Ayra Starr. The event moves from RFK to the Northwest Stadium Complex for three days, Sept. 4-6.
- Capital Fringe Festival: Running from July 11-21, this massive celebration features dozens of live theater, comedy, dance, and boundary-pushing nighttime performances across multiple DC neighborhoods.
- The National Book Festival returns, with headliners like Cynthia Erivo, and Martin Scorsese. The one-day festival, Saturday, Aug. 22, brings together bookworms and word nerds under the theme “America 250: It’s Your Story.” There are talks, workshops, musical sessions and more.
- All Things Go: A three-day festival Sept. 25-27 at Merriweather Post Pavilion featuring Mitski, Hayley Williams, Brandi Carlile, MUNA, Zara Larsson, Ethel Cain, and many, many more artists. There are single-day and three-day tickets. Featuring and highlighting female artists, the festival has turned into a must-see for many LGBTQ audience members.
- Fuchsia Fest: The inaugural Fuchsia Fest is a new multi-day celebration created to celebrate LGBTQ community and expression, bringing together a mix of community gatherings, entertainment, and nightlife. The event takes place Sept. 18-20 and is hosted by Capital Pride.
Art and Music
- United We Dance: A high-energy rave with house, techno, bass, and festival music, on Aug. 1 at the 9:30 Club.
- The Fray. On Aug. 14, this American rock band famous for How To Save A Life is at Merriweather Post Pavilion.
- Kesha: Kesha’s high-energy The Freedom Tour comes to the D.C. area on Aug. 14 at Jiffy Lube Live.
- ALOK: On Sept. 3 at Lincoln Theater, ALOK (they/them) performs. The poet, comedian, and actor is putting on a new comedy show.
- 2charm, the emerging Australian electronic club-pop duo popular with the queer community, which blends hyperpop and dance music, comes to the Atlantis.
- Sapphic Dance Party: a vibrant, inclusive nightlife and social event designed specifically for queer women, lesbians, bisexuals, trans individuals, and nonbinary folks, at Atlantis on Aug. 21.
- Jazz in the Garden: The most quintessential of D.C. activities returns Friday evenings through Aug. 14. This season’s theme, “American Sounds,” is a nod to the nation’s 250th anniversary. Tunes themes range from Appalachian and Americana to Creole jazz, Hill Country blues, contemporary jazz, and more. Tickets are available through a lottery system a week before each event.
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Tickets on sale for chef Patrick O’Connell’s book launch event
Sept. 18 kickoff to feature José Andrés, Tom Sietsema
Acclaimed chef Patrick O’Connell is preparing to publish his new memoir, “Main, Middle & Gay” in September and he’s launching the book with an event on Sept. 18 at 6 p.m. at Lisner Auditorium featuring Chef José Andrés and former Washington Post food critic Tom Sietsema.
Tickets for the event go on sale Tuesday, July 21 at Ticketmaster; prices start at $55.
O’Connell, who’s gay, is the pioneering Michelin-starred chef and longtime proprietor of the Inn at Little Washington. He spoke with the Blade about the September event and the launch of his first memoir.
“I’ve known [Andrés and Sietsema] for more than 25 years and I have great respect for them,” O’Connell said. “I felt that it would allow us to add a different dimension rather than just have an interviewer. The chemistry will be fun and lively and unpredictable and exciting. I think we’re all different personalities and we’ll compliment each other.”
O’Connell has published cookbooks but this is his first memoir. The event will feature a short film that will highlight his work and the Inn.
“What I hope to do with the event is bring the book to life visually,” he said. “So we’re producing a short film that will be part of it. Most of the audience will not have read the book so it’ll give them a visual flavor of the book. It parallels the evolution of American cuisine over 50 years. It’s a rare perspective to be in the trenches for that long.”
The book’s title refers to the location of the garage on the corner of Main, Middle, and Gay streets in Washington, Va., where he launched his restaurant that became an international culinary destination.
The Blade will publish the rest of its wide-ranging interview with O’Connell in September in conjunction with the book’s release.
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The queer Asian comics building collective joy in D.C.
Spotlighting chaotic ways family, romance, identity take shape in their lives
Kevin Chen’s family tombstone has room for four: him, his parents and his boyfriend. The arrangement might prove to be a little awkward.
“My boyfriend is 100% white, and my parents are 100% disappointed,” Chen confessed.
Jokes about family traditions and the untraditional ways they’re practiced earned a burst of laughs at the bar where Chen was opening for the Pride Comedy Special. The D.C. stand-up event, produced by Comedy Bonfyre last month, spotlighted queer Asian comics who shared the chaotic ways family, romance and identity take shape in their lives.
From candid oral sex takes to top surgery hypotheticals like “Where do the boobs go?”, the night highlighted the loud camaraderie of the queer Asian experience — one that sounds like a cacophony of snorts, cackles and belly laughs. While the comics say they are not quite a community, there’s more than enough shared material to bring them together.
“It was such a magical experience. I loved performing in a queer API lineup. It feels so validating,” Chen said after the show. “I’m wondering, ‘Is this how white men feel all the time?’”
Each performance evoked queer Asian joy through a medium that could use more of its presence.
According to Chen, who is based in D.C., it’s hard to say whether there is a true queer Asian comedy presence in his city. There are only a scattered “handful” of Asian comics, and people of color are underrepresented in queer comic circles, he said.
When Tarunika Anand, a nonbinary lesbian comic, first entered the mainstream D.C. comedy scene, they mostly encountered straight white men, describing the experience as “a culture shock.”
“I feel like sometimes a lot of queer spaces are really white, and then a lot of Asian spaces are really straight,” Anand said. “I don’t feel like I fit into either.”
But feeling marginalized didn’t stop these comics from honing their craft and creating spaces for others like them. Alex Kim, who headlined the special and is based in Brooklyn, runs the queer Asian comedy group Boba Gays, which began on WhatsApp and has since made its way to Lincoln Center.
Every Wednesday, Anand co-produces a free comedy show called Funny Side Up. The queer-led group focuses on inclusivity and showcasing new talent.
“It’s really beautiful to speak about your experience and your existence in a way that’s uplifting,” Anand said.
Family is a major throughline of their comedic repertoires.
Chen, for instance, shared that he identifies with jokes about having Asian immigrant parents and the expectations they pass down.
“You see me, you know this part about me, you know this experience intimately, and I can see the truth that you’re trying to wrap a joke around,” he said. “That hits even harder because that’s my truth too. I think that’s what makes good comedy.”
Anand had the audience at the special howling when they explained that their parents’ be-more-like-them comparisons didn’t end when they came out. Instead, the expectations took on a new form.
“Now, my parents want me to be the best gay,” Anand said. “They’re like, ‘Do you know Ellen DeGeneres?’”
Kim said he’s been trying to unlearn things from his Christian Korean mom. Yet he described a moment when he was getting ready for the club and realized he looked just like his mother getting ready for church.
“I’ve been finding it hard to escape her,” Kim said.
Mutual recognition also radiates through the different ways queer love can take shape. From singlehood to death-do-us-part commitments, the comics cover just about every corner.
Anand is holding out hope for settling down with “a nice, pretty, Indian girl.” They recently went through a breakup and said they felt they dodged a bullet.
“As a person of color, I just don’t think I should be with a Swiftie,” they said.
Chen, touching on what it’s like to be in a queer interracial relationship, said that meeting his white boyfriend’s baby nephew for the first time felt like he was forced to participate in a diversity, equity and inclusion training.
“The dad was like, ‘Please welcome Kevin. Be curious about his culture, his history, his foods,’” Chen joked.
Laughter is not the only reward for the comics.
To Anand, comedy is a space where they can say whatever they want. “It gives me a voice,” they said.
Nik Narain, a North Carolina-based trans and nonbinary South Asian comic who performed at the special, said meeting older trans comedians and taking the stage helped him feel reassured in his identity during his transition.
“Stand-up was a really cool way to process that onstage,” he said. “[It] became a way for me to repackage my thoughts.”
Queer Asians are still figuring out their place in the greater D.C. comedy scene. The group is small in numbers and many are still working toward a full-time comedy career. But Narain feels he’s already made it.
Narain is reluctant to pin it all on one moment. He feels that success is already peeking through in milestones — opening for celebrities, traveling to performances and self-producing shows.
“As long as I can keep doing this, I’m super happy,” he said.
This story was produced as part of the AAJA VOICES fellowship program, a student journalism project of the Asian American Journalists Association (AAJA).
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