Opinions
Pulse survivor on why Northam is best for Va. governor
Sensible reforms will help rein in gun violence

Virginia Lieutenant Gov. Ralph Northam speaks at a Pride Fund to End Gun Violence reception in D.C. on July 12. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
How do you know you’re safe? How do you know that when you leave your house and walk out into the world that you’ll be able to go home at the end of the day, talk with your family, and crawl into bed?
We just assume everything will turn out fine.
Seconds before it happened, we were all dancing to the pulse of the thundering music from the DJ. Eric and I had just left our friends, Drew and Juan, to go to the bathroom. That’s when we heard the first gunshots. In just a matter of minutes, a man filled with hate and armed with a military-style assault weapon stormed onto the dance floor and took the lives of 49 innocent souls in the early hours of June 12, 2016.
I lost two friends that night at Pulse Nightclub in Orlando. I will be forever haunted by that night, and this question: How do you ever really know you’re safe?
When I walked into Pulse on that night, I thought I was. For many in Orlando’s LGBTQ community, Pulse was one of the only places we knew we were safe — a haven where we were free of judgment and scrutiny.
Now our space stands as a memorial to the lives of 49 individuals who were murdered that night. My best friends were failed by our political system. It failed the families of the 49 people who were killed, the 53 people who were injured, it failed me and it’s currently failing all of us.
This June, America commemorated the one-year mark of the Pulse shooting where 49 souls were lost, including my friends Drew and Juan. The month before, we remembered the 32 lives that were lost at Virginia Tech 10 years prior. Members of Congress were fired upon on a baseball field with House Majority Whip Steve Scalise shot and seriously injured, requiring multiple surgeries and rehabilitation. And on Sunday night, the Las Vegas shooting rose to the top of the list as the deadliest mass shooting in modern United States history, with 58 dead and 527 innocent concertgoers injured.
These tragedies and the countless others that have taken place are now commonly known by shorthand: Columbine, Sandy Hook, Virginia Tech, and now Las Vegas.
We have come to memorize an encyclopedia of mass shootings because so many elected officials prioritize campaign checks from the gun lobby over the safety of their constituents. Gun safety and gun violence prevention are not the same thing as “gun control,” despite what outsized special interest groups like the NRA would have you believe. The NRA has spent years and millions of dollars pushing legislation onto our communities allowing unfettered access to guns and ammunition, weaponry designed for warfare and often easily purchased by people who wouldn’t pass a background check.
Virginia has an opportunity to bring some common sense to the conversation around gun safety this year without jeopardizing individual rights. Ralph Northam — Army veteran, doctor — grew up hunting on Virginia’s Eastern Shore and has been a reasoned voice on gun safety in the State Senate and as lieutenant governor. His record on gun safety is thoughtful, practical and based on what he’s seen in his career in the first Gulf War and what he’s heard from Virginia Tech survivors and their families. Universal background checks, a ban on assault weapons, and smaller magazines will help us save lives in Virginia, and if we elect him governor, Ralph will work to make those policies a reality.
There’s one thing I will always remember from that night at Pulse: 49 guns did not kill 49 people that night, just one did. Just one powerful, military-style assault rifle with ample ammunition tucked away. And on Sunday night, a man armed with 23 assault weapons he smuggled into a hotel, rained endless ammunition down from his 32nd-floor suite into a crowd of 22,000.
Several of us who survived Pulse helped form the Pride Fund to End Gun Violence, a nationwide organization working toward sensible gun laws because the LGBTQ community is a visible target of hate crimes, often involving firearms. Our mission is to turn tragedy into action through common sense gun reforms like enacting background checks, restricting access to assault weapons and high-capacity magazines, and preventing those convicted of hate crimes from purchasing guns. Pride Fund supports Ralph Northam for Virginia governor because that’s his platform too.
Elected officials, reluctant as they are to cross the NRA, can affect change. They can address the easy access to assault weapons, high-capacity magazines, and the purchase of guns through the gun-show loophole. They can address our safety, rather than focusing instead on the safety of their own seats, courtesy of NRA cash.
Virginians have a choice this November, one that directly impacts them, their families, and their community. We must take steps to rein in rampant gun violence, and we can do it without infringing on the rights put forth in the U.S. Constitution. Dr. Ralph Northam — standing up to make our streets safe for Virginians — is the right choice for Virginia.
Brandon Wolf is a survivor of the June 12, 2016 shooting at Pulse nightclub in Orlando and a member of the Board of Advisors, Pride Fund to End Gun Violence. Learn more at pridefund.org.
Botswana
The rule of law, not the rule of religion
Bonolo Selelo and Tsholofelo Kumile are challenging the Botswana Marriage Act
Botswana was in a whole frenzy as religious and traditional fundamentalists kept mixing religion and constitutional law as if it were harmless. It is not. One is a private matter of belief between you and God, while the other is the framework that protects and governs us all. When these two systems get fused, the result is rarely justice. It results in discrimination.
The ongoing case brought by Bonolo Selelo and Tsholofelo Kumile challenging provisions of the Botswana Marriage Act has reignited a familiar debate in Botswana. Some commentators insist that marriage equality violates religious values and therefore should not be recognized by law. It is a predictable argument. It is also fundamentally incompatible with constitutional governance.
Botswana is not a Christian state. It is a constitutional democracy governed by the Constitution of Botswana. That distinction matters. In a constitutional democracy, laws are interpreted in accordance with constitutional principles such as equality, dignity, protection, inclusion and the rule of law, rather than the doctrinal beliefs of any particular religion.
Religion has no place in constitutional law and democracy
The central problem with religious arguments in constitutional disputes is simple in that they divide, they other, they contest equality and they are personal. Constitutional law by contrast, must apply equally to everyone.
Botswana’s Constitution guarantees fundamental rights and freedoms under Sections 3 and 15, including protection from discrimination and the right to equal protection of the law. These provisions are not conditional on religious approval. They exist precisely to protect minorities from the preferences or prejudices of the majority.
Legal experts, such as Anneke Meerkotter, in her policy brief in Defense of Constitutional Morality, point out that constitutional rights function as a safeguard against majoritarian morality. If rights depended on whether the majority approved of a minority’s identity or relationships, they would not be rights at all. They would merely be privileges.
This principle has already been affirmed in Botswana’s jurisprudence. In the landmark decision of Letsweletse Motshidiemang v Attorney General, the High Court held that criminalizing consensual same-sex relations violated constitutional protections of liberty, dignity, privacy, and equality. This judgment noted that constitutional interpretation must evolve with society and must be guided by human dignity and equality. The court emphasized that the Constitution protects all citizens, including those whose identities, expressions or relationships may be unpopular. That ruling was later upheld by the Court of Appeal of Botswana in 2021, reinforcing the principle that constitutional rights cannot be restricted on grounds of moral disapproval alone. These decisions were not theological pronouncements. They were legal determinations grounded in constitutional principles.
The danger of religious majoritarianism
When religion is used to justify legal restrictions, the result is what constitutional scholars call “majoritarian moralism.” It allows the dominant religious interpretation in society to dictate the rights of everyone else. That approach is fundamentally incompatible with constitutional democracy. Botswana is religiously diverse. While Christianity is the majority faith, there are also Muslims, Hindus, traditional spiritual communities, Sikh and people who practice no religion at all. If the law were to follow the doctrines of one religious group, which interpretation would it adopt? Christianity alone contains dozens of denominations with different views on love, equality, marriage, sexuality, and gender. The moment the state begins to legislate on the basis of religious doctrine, it implicitly privileges one belief system over others. That undermines both religious freedom and constitutional equality. Ironically, keeping religion separate from constitutional law is what protects religious freedom in the first place.
Judicial independence is the cornerstone of Botswana’s governance system
The current case involving Bonolo Selelo and Tsholofelo Kumile is before the judiciary, where it belongs. Courts exist to interpret the Constitution and determine whether legislation complies with constitutional rights. Political and religious lobbying, as well as public outrage, must not influence that process.
Judicial independence is the cornerstone of Botswana’s governance system. According to the International Commission of Jurists, judicial independence ensures that courts can make decisions based on law and evidence rather than political or social pressure.
When governments, political, religious, or traditional actors attempt to interfere in constitutional litigation, they weaken the rule of law. Botswana has historically prided itself on having one of the most stable constitutional systems in Africa. The judiciary has played a critical role in safeguarding rights and maintaining legal certainty. The decriminalization case demonstrated this. Despite strong public debate and political sensitivity, the courts assessed the law according to constitutional principles rather than moral panic. The same standard must apply in the current marriage equality case.
This article was first published in the Botswana Gazette, Midweek Sun, and Botswana Guardian newspapers and has been edited for the Washington Blade.
Bradley Fortuin is a consultant at the Southern Africa Litigation Center and a social justice activist.
My strawberry muumuu was about the ugliest thing I could have picked for our muumuu-themed movie night.
Really, it’s just an excuse to cross-dress while the sun’s still up; these themed movie nights are concocted by a teammate of mine on the Washington Scandals, D.C.’s LGBT and mens-plus rugby club.
The team is hosting an informational event on Saturday, March 21st, for those interested in testing the waters on inclusive rugby. We have a lot of fun with a lot of balls, and then we head out for a drink at Kiki.
Events like these Rugby “101s” are a blast because the joys of queer camaraderie are on full display – no experience is necessary. If you’re interested in learning more, check out our socials for more info in our bio. Back to the muumuu night, because someone will make a good point that bears repeating.
After settling in with some pizza and homemade cream puffs, I asked my friend and teammate, Theo, on my left, what it’s been like in a rugby club.
“Flooded with love,” he told me, him wearing a thin-striped but soft cotton muumuu. Theo often prioritizes comfort in clothing, always dressed for the weather. Eyes as soft and fuzzy as a warm bunny, he recounted his journey here to LGBT rugby as the life of the party shifted from food to entertainment.
Theo and I both prefer the quiet to the crowd, which is odd, given our shared passion for rugby — famously loud, infamously tough on the body.
The details are irrelevant, here; it’s Theo’s passion that caught my eye. Passion, I thought; it wasn’t particularly familiar to me, especially in sport. Profession, yes, but social pursuits? Passion seemed so foreign to me there.
That’s because it’s nurtured through culture, not inherited as a personality trait. This is a familiar place for much of D.C.’s LGBT culture and community; ‘chosen’ or ‘found’ family is the common phrase, but this is too simplistic, is it not? It makes it sound like you washed ashore and stumbled effortlessly into family. It’s not like that, not in real life.
It’s work and work requires passion to keep showing up.
Adult friendships are hard, Mary. It’s not light and airy, like when we were kids. It’s hard enough in adulthood, and to carve a space out for men’s-plus LGBT rugby in a city literally built on compromise is an act of defiance in itself.
Taking a chance on LGBT rugby is not for the casual observer – it’s a tough sport (but safer than football) with some big personalities. But as Theo pointed out, when I asked him about the magnetic draw between the LGBT community and rugby, that all body types are welcome in the sport; anyone can imagine themselves wearing a jersey and still fit in.
If you are to take anything from this, dear reader, it’s that when you show up for rugby, you belong.
The team’s hosting an informational Rugby 101 on Saturday, March 21, at Harry Thomas Rec Center, at 2 p.m. Our home match the next Saturday, March 28, is also at Harry Thomas, at 1 p.m.
Opinions
Protecting D.C.’s promise: why Kenyan McDuffie deserves our support
Former Council member is longtime ally
For generations, LGBTQ+ people have come to DC searching for something simple: the freedom to love who they love. I was one of them.
Washington, D.C., is the gayest city in the world. This didn’t happen by accident; It’s the result of generations of organizing, advocacy, and leadership from elected officials who championed the movement for equality, a movement that drew people like me to this city in search of safety and acceptance.
Now, as we approach the June 16 mayoral primary, the LGBTQ+ community will play a decisive role in shaping the city’s future. I believe the candidate our community should rally behind is Kenyan McDuffie, a longtime ally with a proven track record.
Kenyan’s relationship with the LGBTQ+ community began long before it was politically fashionable. In 2012, when he ran for the Ward 5 D.C. Council seat, he sought and earned the support of the Gertrude Stein Democratic Club, the city’s largest LGBTQ+ political organization. At a time before marriage equality was the law of the land, Kenyan stood with us and went on to support the banning of conversion therapy.
But what has always stood out to me about Kenyan’s leadership is his willingness to tackle issues head-on that deeply impact queer families and young people.
As someone who was recently engaged and is currently navigating pathways to parenthood, I was moved by Kenyan’s leadership to modernize D.C.’s outdated surrogacy laws. For more than two decades, the District criminalized surrogacy agreements, threatening families with fines of up to $10,000 and even jail time. Kenyan helped lead the effort to repeal that law, opening a legal pathway for LGBTQ+ couples and others to build families through surrogacy. Thanks to advances in medicine and policy changes like this one, more LGBTQ+ families are now able to pursue parenthood.
Kenyan has also been a champion for some of the most vulnerable members of our community: LGBTQ+ young people experiencing homelessness. In DC, LGBTQ+ youth represent nearly 40 percent of the city’s homeless youth population. Early in his time on the Council, Kenyan worked with fellow members to dedicate housing beds for LGBTQ+ youth and to strengthen the capacity of the Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ+ Affairs to support community programs. Those investments helped ensure that young people facing rejection or instability had a safer place to turn.
Leadership like this matters, especially as our city faces unprecedented challenges. In addition to being a champion for our community, the next mayor will need to navigate threats from the federal government, a massive reduction of the federal workforce of over 20,000 jobs, an unprecedented wave of restaurant closures, and year-after-year billion-dollar budget shortfalls.
Today, our city needs a leader whose values never waver and who has delivered real results for all our neighbors. Kenyan McDuffie has shown that kind of leadership throughout his public service career.
D.C. has always been a safe haven for the queer and trans community seeking opportunity, safety, and belonging. That promise is worth protecting and ensuring the next generation can find the same refuge and opportunity we have.
As voters prepare to make an important choice about the city’s future, I believe Kenyan McDuffie is the leader best prepared to carry that promise forward.
That’s why I’m proud to join him and countless others in launching the Out for Kenyan coalition this Thursday, March 26, at Number Nine.
Cesar Toledo is a first-generation queer Latino and an Out Magazine Out100 honoree who has spent over a decade advancing LGBTQ+ equality, equity, and social justice.
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