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Former Redskin talks coming out, working with LGBT youth
Wade Davis says former colleagues applaud his decision
Wade Davis (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Former NFL player Wade Davis spoke about his decision to come out, his work with LGBT youth and his support of President Obama’s re-election campaign during an interview at the Capital Pride Festival on Sunday.
The Shreveport, La., native spoke to the Blade less than a week after he publicly discussed his sexual orientation for the first time during an interview with the LGBT sports website Outsports.com. He said that he has been out to family members and close friends since he was 26.
“At the time I didn’t have the support structure around me with enough family or friends that I really thought would support my choice of being out,” he added when asked about why he did not publicly discuss his homosexuality with his teammates and others sooner. “Also just individually I wasn’t strong enough. I didn’t know who I was enough.”
Davis, 34, played preseason football for the Tennessee Titans, Seattle Seahawks and the Washington Redskins before an injury forced him to retire from the National Football League in 2004. He also played for the Berlin Thunder and the Barcelona Dragons in the NFL Europe league.
He told Outsports.com that he had begun to date a man for the first time while playing in the German capital, but he discussed his boyfriend with his teammates as though he were a woman. Davis also cited rumors he said he heard in the Titans locker room about a player whom his potential teammates thought was bisexual. He said at least one of them suggested that he avoid him to further bolster his chances of making the team.
“It increased my level of posturing,” stressed Davis. “I went from being probably a guy that was trying to be normal to maybe adding a couple extra layers on that to prove my masculinity, to prove that I was just one of the guys. I would say it deepened my closeting for lack of a better word.”
Davis is among a handful of athletes that include former NFL player Esera Tuaolo and former National Basketball Association center John Amaechi who have publicly discussed being gay since their retirement from professional sports.
Former Titans defensive end Jevon Kearse told Outsports.com after Davis came out that his sexual orientation would not have mattered in the locker room — Davis did concede, however, that most of his former teammates were upset that he hadn’t disclosed his homosexuality with them sooner. “I’ve gotten tweets, texts, e-mails, phone calls from guys I haven’t spoken to in years,” he noted. “It’s been just a windfall of love.”
Davis said the majority of his family has also been “very supportive.”
“My parents, who are very religious, are evolving very similar to the president,” he said, referring to Obama’s announcement during an ABC News interview last month that he supports marriage rights for same-sex couples. “They’re having to understand, OK, my son is… now gay so let me now re-evaluate what my true views are on what being gay is and what that would mean for me as a parent.”
Davis added that he has also received positive feedback from black gay men across the country since he came out. “The biggest thing is that they’re happy that I’m finally living in my truth,” he said. “They’re also happy that I’m not only living in my truth, but I’m making sure that others can follow in my footsteps.”
Nearly a decade after leaving the NFL, Davis now advocates on behalf of LGBT youth as a staff member of the Hetrick-Martin Institute in New York City.
“My goal is to teach youth how to thrive, survive and realize that they have potential to make it in the world, no matter what challenges have been placed in front of them,” he said. “My biggest goal is to help make sure our youth have a voice and they understand the power they have inside of them is strong enough to make it through anything.”
Davis, who has been with HMI since February 2011, further described the young people with whom he works as personal heroes who inspire him. “Even though I was an athlete — people think it’s something great, but I wasn’t able to live in my truth until I was 26, 27,” he said. “They live in their truth every day.”
In addition to his work with LGBT youth, Davis continues to support the president’s re-election campaign. He spoke to the Blade while volunteering for Obama for America at a Capital Pride Festival booth.
“I believe in just [about] everything our president represents from his stance on marriage equality to what he wants to do not just for black Americans or white Americans but for every American,” he said, further pointing out that Obama offers LGBT voters with what he described as a clear choice in November. “People will understand that voting for [former Massachusetts Gov.] Mitt Romney is a step back and voting for President Obama is a gigantic step forward in making sure that the values in our community are aligned with equality and non-bigotry.”
Davis conceded he had never considered himself a role model; but he said he has come to embrace his status within the context of his work with the Obama campaign, LGBT youth and as an out gay man.
“I take my role, very, very seriously so I’m going to do everything I can,” he said.
CONTENT WARNING: The following story discusses suicide ideation.
Her first few weeks behind bars in a Russian prison took a terrible toll on Brittney Griner, the lesbian WNBA star who is breaking her silence on the 10 months she was held on drug-related charges.
“I wanted to take my life more than once in the first weeks,” Griner told ABC’s Robin Roberts in a primetime interview Wednesday. “I felt like leaving here so badly.”
The two-time Olympic gold medalist and nine-time WNBA All-Star, who plays for the Phoenix Mercury, said she ultimately decided against suicide, partly because she feared Russian authorities would not release her body to her wife, Cherelle Griner.
Griner, 33, was arrested on Feb. 17, 2022, at Sheremetyevo International Airport in Khimki, a suburb of Moscow. Authorities said they found vape cartridges in her luggage containing cannabis oil, which is illegal in the country.
Griner told Roberts that was the result of a “mental lapse” on her part — packing the cannabis oil cartridges in her luggage, Griner said that she had overslept on the morning she was leaving for Russia to play during the WNBA’s off-season, which is how many of the league’s vastly underpaid players earn a living, compared to NBA players.
So, she packed while she was “in panic mode,” Griner said.
“My packing at that moment was just throwing all my stuff in there and zipping it up and saying, ‘OK, I’m ready,’” she told Roberts.
After landing in Russia, Griner realized that she had those two cannabis oil cartridges in her luggage as Russian security officers inspected her bag at the airport. She recalled the moment as a sinking feeling.
“I’m just like, ‘Oh, my God.’ Like, ‘How did I — how did I make this mistake?’” Griner said. “I could just visualize everything I worked so hard for just crumbling and going away.”
Russian authorities immediately arrested Griner, but her trial would not take place for five months. She described the horrible conditions of her imprisonment during that delay, saying that she didn’t always have toilet paper and that the toothpaste they gave her had expired about 15 years ago.
“That toothpaste was expired,” she said. “We used to put it on the black mold to kill the mold on the walls.”
“The mattress had a huge blood stain on it, and they give you these thin two sheets,” she added. “So you’re basically laying on bars.”
On July 7, 2022, Griner pleaded guilty at her trial to drug charges, admitting that she had the vape cartridges containing cannabis oil but stating she put them in her luggage unintentionally. She testified that she had packed the cartridges by accident, and had “no intention” to break Russian law.
Roberts pressed Griner on this point: “You know there are those who say, ‘Come on. How did you not know that you had cartridges in your luggage?’”
“It’s just so easy to have a mental lapse,” Griner replied. “Granted, my mental lapse was on a more grand scale. But it doesn’t take away from how that can happen,” she explained.
Griner was sentenced to nine years in prison on Aug. 4, 2022, and in October 2022, a judge denied the appeal filed by Griner’s attorneys.
The sentence landed Griner in a penal colony in the Russian region of Mordovia.
“It’s a work camp. You go there to work,” said Griner. “There’s no rest.” Her job was cutting fabric for Russian military uniforms.
“What were the conditions like there?” Roberts asked.
“Really cold,” Griner said. So cold that her health was impacted and she decided to chop off her long dreadlocks.
“What was that like losing that part of you, too?” Roberts asked Griner.
“Honestly, it just had to happen. We had spiders above my bed — making nests,” she said. “My dreads started to freeze,” she added. “They would just stay wet and cold and I was getting sick. You’ve gotta do what you’ve gotta do to survive.”
Her arrest came around the same time as Russia’s invasion of Ukraine, further increasing tensions between Russia and the U.S. But as the Los Angeles Blade reported on Dec, 8, 2022, Russia agreed to release Griner in exchange for Russian arms dealer Viktor Bout.
However, before winning her freedom, Griner revealed authorities forced her to write a letter to Russian President Vladimir Putin.
“They made me write this letter. It was in Russian,” she said. “I had to ask for forgiveness and thanks from their so-called great leader. I didn’t want to do it, but at the same time I wanted to come home.”
Griner said her heart sank upon boarding the plane to freedom and finding that Paul Whelan, another American the White House said was “wrongfully detained,” wasn’t leaving Russia with her.
“I walked on and didn’t see him, maybe he’s next. Maybe they will bring him next,” she said. “They closed the door, and I was like, are you serious? You’re not going to let this man come home now.”
Griner recounts on the experience in “Coming Home,” a memoir set to be released on May 7.
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Bisexual former umpire sues Major League Baseball for sexual harassment
Brandon Cooper claims female colleague sexually harassed him
A fired former umpire is suing Major League Baseball, claiming he was sexually harassed by a female umpire and discriminated against because of his gender and his sexual orientation.
Brandon Cooper worked in the minor league Arizona Complex League last year, and according to the lawsuit he filed Wednesday in federal court in Manhattan, he identifies as bisexual.
“I wanted my umpiring and ability to speak for itself and not to be labeled as ‘Brandon Cooper the bisexual umpire,’” he told Outsports. “I didn’t want to be labeled as something. It has been a passion of mine to simply make it to the Major Leagues.”
But that didn’t happen. Instead of being promoted, he was fired. His suit names MLB and an affiliated entity, PDL Blue, Inc., and alleges he had endured a hostile work environment and wrongful termination and/or retaliation because of gender and sexual orientation under New York State and New York City law.
“Historically the MLB has had a homogenous roster of umpires working in both the minor and major leagues,” Cooper claims in his suit. “Specifically, to date there has never been a woman who has worked in a (regular) season game played in the majors, and most umpires are still Caucasian men. To try to fix its gender and racial diversity issue, defendants have implemented an illegal diversity quota requiring that women be promoted regardless of merit.”
Cooper claims former umpire Ed Rapuano, now an umpire evaluator, and Darren Spagnardi, an umpire development supervisor, told him in January 2023 that MLB had a hiring quota, requiring that at least two women be among 10 new hires.
According to the suit, Cooper was assigned to spring training last year and was notified by the senior manager of umpire administration, Dusty Dellinger, that even though he received a high rating in June from former big league umpire Jim Reynolds, now an umpire supervisor, that women and minority candidates had to be hired first.
Cooper claims that upon learning Cooper was bisexual, fellow umpire Gina Quartararo insulted him and fellow umpire Kevin Bruno by using homophobic slurs and crude remarks. At that time, Quartararo and Cooper worked on the same umpiring crew and being evaluated for possible promotion to the big leagues.
This season, Quartararo is working as an umpire in the Florida State League, one of nine women who are working as minor league umpires.
Cooper said he notified Dellinger, but instead of taking action against Quartararo, he said MLB ordered Cooper to undergo sensitivity training. According to his lawsuit, he was also accused of violating the minor league anti-discrimination and harassment policy.
Cooper’s suit says he met with MLB Senior Vice President of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Billy Bean — who the Los Angeles Blade reported in December is battling cancer.
The lawsuit says at that meeting, Bean told the umpire that Quartararo claimed she was the victim, as the only female umpire in the ACL. Cooper said he told Bean Quartararo regularly used homophobic slurs and at one point physically shoved him. He also claims that he has video evidence, texts and emails to prove his claim.
But he said his complaints to Major League Baseball officials were ignored. His lawsuit said MLB passed him over for the playoffs and fired him in October. He said of the 26 umpires hired with Cooper, he was the only one let go.
Through a spokesperson, MLB declined to comment on pending litigation. Quartararo has also not publicly commented on the lawsuit.
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Brittney Griner, wife expecting first child
WNBA star released from Russian gulag in December 2022
One year after returning to the WNBA after her release from a Russian gulag and declaring, “I’m never playing overseas again,” Phoenix Mercury star Brittney Griner and her wife announced they have something even bigger coming up this summer.
Cherelle, 31, and Brittney, 33, are expecting their first child in July. The couple shared the news with their 715,000 followers on Instagram.
“Can’t believe we’re less than three months away from meeting our favorite human being,” the caption read, with the hashtag, #BabyGrinerComingSoon and #July2024.
Griner returned to the U.S. in December 2022 in a prisoner swap, more than nine months after being arrested in Moscow for possession of vape cartridges containing prescription cannabis.
In April 2023, at her first news conference following her release, the two-time Olympic gold medalist made only one exception to her vow to never play overseas again: To return to the Summer Olympic Games, which will be played in Paris starting in July, the same month “Baby Griner” is due. “The only time I would want to would be to represent the USA,” she said last year.
Given that the unrestricted free agent is on the roster of both Team USA and her WNBA team, it’s not immediately clear where Griner will be when their first child arrives.
The Griners purchased their “forever home” in Phoenix just last year.
“Phoenix is home,” Griner said at the Mercury’s end-of-season media day, according to ESPN. “Me and my wife literally just got a place. This is it.”
As the Los Angeles Blade reported last December, Griner is working with Good Morning America anchor Robin Roberts — like Griner, a married lesbian — on an ESPN television documentary as well as a television series for ABC about her life story. Cherelle is executive producer of these projects.
Next month, Griner’s tell-all memoir of her Russian incarceration will be published by Penguin Random House. It’s titled “Coming Home” and the hardcover hits bookstores on May 7.
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