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To my queer community: You are failing your Jewish members

Our struggle is your struggle, so stand with us, or stand down

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A scene from Tel Aviv Pride 2023. (Photo by RnDmS/Bigstock)

In the landscape of identity and activism, there comes a moment when peoples’ true intentions and unabashed biases are unveiled, revealing the stark incongruities within our own communities. As a Jewish gay man, I can say this moment is now, and the battlefield is none other than the war-torn narratives surrounding Israel and the Hamas terrorist organization, which has been the de facto governing body in the Gaza Strip since 2007 when it ousted the Palestinian Authority from power (this is after Israel completely withdrew from Gaza in 2005).

Let’s cut through the noise: In the grand theater of activism, where the LGBTQ community has long demanded education, patience, and understanding on queer issues, it seems these courtesies vanish when the topic switches to Middle Eastern politics. “Apartheid!” they scream, from the comfort of their free societies, neglecting the fact that in parts of the Middle East, being queer isn’t just taboo, it’s a crime.

The stark parallels here are maddening. As queer individuals, we’ve spent lifetimes imploring others to look beyond black-or-white narratives. “Educate yourselves,” we’ve pleaded, “understand the spectrum, the stories, the struggles behind each letter of LGBTQIA+.” Yet, when it comes to Israel, a land teeming with stories as diverse as our own community, the rainbow lens suddenly flips to monochrome.

This isn’t just hypocrisy; it’s a betrayal of the very principles of social justice. It’s a slap to those of us who sit at the intersection of being queer and Jewish, fighting on two fronts for recognition and understanding. We have not demanded that others walk on eggshells, only that they walk in knowledge before they talk. 

Let’s address a big elephant in the room: the claim of “pinkwashing” by Israel. Critics, quick to label, fail to grasp the genuine strides Israel has made in LGBTQ rights, which are not a facade but a reality for countless people who live, love, and thrive there. The accusation of pinkwashing is not only reductive, but it negates the lived experiences of an estimated 25% of Tel Aviv’s residents alone who identify as LGBTQ, and the undeniable fact that Israel has become a sanctuary for LGBTQ Palestinians seeking asylum. These are not hollow gestures meant for international optics; they are tangible freedoms, hard-won by local activists and safeguarded by an independent judiciary. 

The blunt truth? Our queer spaces, once sanctuaries, have now turned into forums where Jewish voices are drowned out, where our history and pain are oversimplified into soundbites. The irony is biting—our community, which fiercely demands inclusivity, has become selectively deaf to our cries against anti-Semitic propaganda.

I have never felt more embraced for my queerness than in my Jewish circles, yet I am watching in dismay as parts of the queer community dismiss the perils we face. When a popular LGBTQ platform with more than a million followers on Instagram alone labels Hamas, a brutal terrorist organization, as a mere “resistance movement,” it’s a sobering wake-up call fraught with unspeakable danger.

Israel stands as a haven for LGBTQ rights in a region where such freedoms are scarce. From the legal milestones achieved in the 1960s to Tel Aviv’s renowned Pride parade, Israel has been at the forefront of LGBTQ advocacy. The path isn’t perfect—same-sex marriage isn’t legal, but Israel recognizes same-sex unions from abroad and grants comprehensive rights domestically. The Israeli Supreme Court’s decisions to uphold LGBTQ rights are beacons of hope, shining examples of progress that have come from the demands of its citizens, not from the desire to distract.

Yet, here we are, witnessing a disturbing paradox. While Israel fosters LGBTQ rights, in the territories under Hamas, an internationally recognized terrorist organization, being queer can mean imprisonment, and yes, death. This dichotomy is conveniently ignored by too many self-proclaimed progressives. Their silence on this is deafening and damning.

It’s time for the larger queer community to wake up. Our struggle for rights doesn’t stop at our doorstep; it stretches across the globe. To my queer “social justice warriors” who soak in the sun at Tel Aviv Pride but cast shadows on Israel, or for that matter don’t speak up at all, your hypocrisy and silence are noted. Your selective advocacy is not only noticeable; it’s a betrayal.

To the queer activists who have let anti-Semitism taint their advocacy: Your narrative is not complete until it includes us. We demand a seat at the table. We demand to be heard. And to those who stand with us, know this: our fight is united, our cause is just, and our spirit is indomitable. We will not retreat into the shadows. 

Before you raise your banners, remember the diligence you asked of others to understand your queerness. Apply that same rigor to unravel the narratives you consume and the stances you adopt. Recognize that this isn’t a game of ‘pick a side and shout the loudest.’ Lives, histories, and truths are woven into this complex narrative, and they deserve more than a cursory glance and a hasty hashtag. To be truly progressive, the queer community must embrace complexity, reject hypocrisy, and fight for every member’s right to be seen and heard. We are a part of this community, and we will hold it accountable. Our struggle is your struggle. Stand with us, or stand down.

Jason Feldman is principal of JMF Communications and a member of the Atlanta Mayor’s LGBTQ Advisory Board.

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My trans daughter thrived in Chicago public schools

Washington wants to make that impossible

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(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

I am a Chicagoan whose daughter is transgender. But that is not the most important fact about her. My daughter loves fashion, sings in choir, is active at church, and is, by every measure, your classic American teenager. 

Yet it is her gender identity that politicians in Washington have once again decided to make their business.

She’s had the benefit of attending school in a district that affirms her, with educators who have added protections for students like her to a contract, in a city that benefits from and believes in diversity.

If the Republican-led Congress that is subpoenaeing the CEO of Chicago Public Schools truly was interested in “inappropriate content” and its impact on students, they would start with the anti-trans state legislation that increases youth suicide attempts by 72%, not the school districts making them feel safe and welcomed. Protecting these kids in school is not a culture war talking point. It is suicide prevention.

But that is not what they are doing. Instead, they are calling to question the head of a school district where Chicago’s values have made our schools safer places for students of every gender, race, and nationality.

The same administration that has yet to investigate the Epstein files but is moving the FCC to put warning labels on television shows that portray inclusive families and characters of different sexualities, is telling on itself in what they think is permissible and what they think is harmful for school-age youth. They say this is about parental rights and children’s well-being, but the parental right I care most about is the right for my daughter and all children to walk into a school building and feel safe and affirmed instead of scared and threatened.

My daughter spent 13 years in Chicago public schools. Her teachers used her chosen name. Her classmates accepted her for who she is. She wore a formal dress at choir concerts, landed a female lead in the school musical, and used the women’s bathroom without anyone batting an eye. When she went to a school dance, her teachers celebrated her like any other student, gushing over her dress, cheering her on. Nobody treated her like a problem to be managed.

That is not luck. That is Chicago. It’s the result of educators who fought hard for these protections. While MAGA has moved other states to bar teachers from even acknowledging LGBTQ+ students, the Chicago Teachers Union ratified a contract that does the opposite. It puts gender support coordinators in every network, codifies protections for chosen names and pronouns, and incorporates CPS guidelines for transgender students into the collective bargaining agreement itself. 

Those are not bureaucratic details. They are what stands between a child like mine and the bully who, without them, could decide she does not deserve dignity and hurt her without consequence.

Chicago believes every student, including LGBTQ+ children, belongs in school and deserves to feel safe there. Our city has grit and resolve and a deep sense of pride in the diversity that makes it what it is. I believe that is exactly why this administration has put us in its crosshairs. This is a city that shuts down its streets for the Pride parade, Puerto Rican Day Parade, St. Patrick’s Day, and the Bud Billiken Parade. This is the Chicago I am raising my daughter in. The Republicans in Congress have decided that belief is the problem.

They have already passed a bill to pull federal funding from any school that affirms a transgender student’s identity without first notifying parents. They’re attempting to withhold funds from Chicago and other districts for programs that reverse generations of discrimination and disinvestment. They want to dismantle the Department of Education and have already passed a law to fund private religious schools with public dollars. Putting our school district under the lights of their circus is just one tactic in their political agenda.

I wanted my daughter to read, to do math, to graduate ready for whatever comes next, and find her place in the world. Every parent I know wants that. My daughter recently graduated. She got there because she had good teachers, she applied herself, and she never had to walk into school ashamed of who she was or afraid of what might happen. 

It matters to me that my daughter was in a district intentionally seeing to her safety, immigrant students’ sanctuary, and Black students’ success. What they see as a violation is really our city’s commitment to the dignity of all students

What they are running is not a parental rights agenda. It is a defunding agenda against parents, students, and educators who don’t subscribe to their beliefs, and Chicago is just the beginning.

Washington can hold all the hearings it wants, but they’ll never be able to erase children like my daughter. And I pray that our schools will never make children like her think twice before walking through those doors for the most formative years of their lives. Whether they attend a school district that supports them in holding their heads high or one that bends the knee to make them fearful instead is what this fight is actually all about. 


Mary Kay Devine is a Chicago resident.

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Congratulations to Lewis George and all winners in D.C.’s primary

New mayor will have to navigate a hostile president

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(Washington Blade file image by Aram Varitan)

The primary is just about over and we are about to have a new mayor in D.C.

For the first time D.C. has ranked choice voting. Because of this, we don’t have a final winner for every race on election night. It will take a few days to declare some winners. I opposed ranked choice, and would rather see a run-off between the top two candidates, but the voters of D.C. spoke, so we have ranked choice.

Let me congratulate Janeese Lewis George, the apparent winner of the primary for mayor. Now it will be on to the general election where we can be close to 100% certain she will be the next mayor. I campaigned against her for a variety of reasons, and those reasons still hold. But she will have my support, and I congratulate her on her win. It is my hope she will become a good mayor for all the people of the District. That she will be a mayor we can all trust, and work with. That she will always speak up for the LGBTQ community, and speak out against anyone who wants to discriminate against us. Just as I hope she will actively fight antisemitism, Islamophobia, sexism, and racism. That she will fight for economic equality. So, again, I give her my full support at this time, trusting she will do all those things, because we all want only the best for all the people of the District. So, Janeese Lewis George, I salute you on your win, and wish you success.

In addition to a new mayor, we will have a new delegate to Congress, Robert White. I wish him well, and hope he will work to form the coalitions we will need if we are ever to get statehood. But also hope his first goal as we fight for that, will be to get us legislative and budget autonomy. Then we reelected Brian Schwalb as Attorney General, Phil Mendelson as Council Chair, and Zachary Parker as Council member for Ward 5. I hope they all continue the good work they have been doing. Then congratulations to Oye Owolewa for his win as Democratic Council member- at-Large. Then in the special election for Independent Council member-at-Large, Elissa Silverman reclaimed her seat. I hope those who endorsed her will fare better than I did when I previously endorsed her. I was nominated by the mayor for a seat on a board, and Ms. Silverman said she couldn’t participate in my committee review, or vote for me, as it would look bad for her as I had endorsed her. Figure that one out. Thankfully, the other 12 members of the Council had no problem confirming me. 

I hope the people in Ward 1 will get fair and equal representation, from former Metro DC Democratic Socialists of America chair, Aparna Raj, who apparently won that election. Congratulations also to Matthew Frumin, reelected in Ward 3, and Charles Allen, reelected in Ward 6. Then congratulations to my friend Phil Pannell, and all the others elected to Democratic Party posts. 

With the new members of the Council, and the new mayor, we can definitely anticipate some changes in how our government is run, and which issues will be a priority. I just hope considering the frustration we all feel with the felon in the White House, they will be able to hold in check some of their thoughts, understanding he can inflict pain, and has shown a willingness to do so, on the people of D.C., if he is challenged too fiercely, and too directly, especially true when the challenge comes from the mayor. He can, and will, react negatively, and we have seen that. The new mayor must know how to walk a tight rope, because it’s a skill she will need when dealing with the lying, racist, sexist, homophobic felon in the Oval Office. Disgusting or not, he will be around for the first two years of the new mayor’s term. I would rather see him in jail, but so be it. 

The new mayor and the Council will be working on some of the same issues that have been around for a number of years, and some new ones. They will still be fighting the rat problem, and I mean the animals, and then we look forward to the new RFK stadium, and the Commanders return to D.C. The team made certain promises, and it is up to the government to hold them accountable, including working with the community, building affordable housing, a new supermarket, and a host of other commitments. They must monitor hiring to ensure residents of D.C. are given all the opportunities possible, for jobs at every level on the various projects. 

Again, congratulations to all the winners. 


Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist. 

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Primary Day is not the end of election season in D.C.

Ultra-local positions on November ballot; city’s future at stake

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The Stead Recreation Center polling place on June 16, 2026. (Washington Blade photo by Michael K. Lavers)

Fellow citizens and voters in the District of Columbia!

Primary Day has passed. By now there should be some idea whom our new Congressional representative, mayor and members of the City Council may be. Hopefully Mr. Trump’s chest beating threats to take over the District resulted in more voters than ever sending a crystal-clear message to the White House.

Election Day, Tuesday, Nov. 3, delivers the final decisions and requires every registered vote to cast final votes on the aforementioned positions. WAIT! There are other elected positions to fill.

The DC Board of Education will have candidates in Wards 1,3, 5, and 6. Finally, there are the ultra-local positions: all those running for the entire Advisory Neighbor Commissions in all eight wards. There are 345 Single Member Districts around the city representing around 2,000 neighbors.

Love your city and want to have a say in your area? Then consider running for the ANC. To learn more, check out www.oanc.dc.gov. 

Of course, also check out the DC Board of Elections at www.dcboe.org.

There might also be some initiatives/referenda to be decided on the November ballots. 

Do let the LGBTQ+ Victory Fund/Institute know if you are running either for the Board of Education or your local ANC at www.victoryfund.org.

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