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Rejected by family, trans soccer player finds support from teammates

Reeves Gift overcomes homelessness, heads to USC to study filmmaking

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Reeves Gift found himself homeless after coming out as trans to his parents. Now, heā€™s headed to film school at USC. (Washington Blade photo by Kevin Majoros)

Last fall, Reeves Gift was living a double life.

He was making great strides in his high school classes and on the soccer field at Chesapeake Math and IT Academy. At the same time, he was invaded by fear at the prospect of going home.

The girls on his soccer team knew he was transgender, but he had never talked to his parents about it. To make matters worse, he was named homecoming king at his schoolā€™s dance.

ā€œI left for the dance in a pre-approved outfit and then changed into my homecoming king outfit,ā€ says Gift. ā€œI had a blast that night, but I was terrified that I would be caught. There would be consequences if my parents found out.ā€

Everything came to a head for Gift when he finally told his parents at the end of the year. The reaction was not good, and he did not feel safe in what he describes as an abusive situation. On Jan. 2, he left home and a case worker came and picked him up. He bounced around the DMV area until he found a place to stay so he could finish high school.

Through all of his struggles, he experienced acceptance and release through his sport of soccer. His teammates and coaches found out he was homeless and stepped forward with emotional support.

ā€œI was surprised by the love that they showed me. Itā€™s hard for me to process good things without being suspicious,ā€ Gift says. ā€œI was feeling deep emotions and deep worry. That all falls away when I am playing soccer. Itā€™s important for me to be with people who want to work as a team.ā€

Gift played varsity soccer as a goalkeeper through all four years of high school. At his school, the boysā€™ and girlsā€™ soccer teams ran the same practices and did drills together. Even though he wasnā€™t able to play on the boysā€™ team, it was a good experience to practice with them.

ā€œIt made me feel good to know that I was on par with the boysā€™ goalkeeper,ā€ says Gift. ā€œBoth teams knew I was trans and I felt like one of the guys.ā€

His situation at home that once felt like a ā€œdark cloud of terrorā€ evolved through his final semester of high school. He turned 18, emancipated himself and obtained a protective order against his parents. While living on couches, he earned his high school diploma along with an associate degree through an early college program.

ā€œI have my teammates, friends and case manager to thank for all of this,ā€ Gift says. ā€œIt was really hard dedicating the time to school and soccer with everything going on and I was afraid I wouldnā€™t graduate.ā€

Coming up for Gift is one final summer in the D.C. area. He will play soccer as a goalie with the LGBT-based Summer of Freedom Soccer League, which is hosted by the Federal Triangles Soccer Club.

This fall, Gift will enter the University of Southern California School of Cinematic Arts. With no money coming from his family, he had to get creative to come up with the funds for college.

He is using a combination of Pell Grants, gift aid, work study and a financial aid scholarship from USC. Locally, he received a Team DC sports scholarship and a Youth Leadership Award from SMYAL.

ā€œIt took a lot of reaching out to people, marketing myself and relying on the LGBT community,ā€ says Gift. ā€œI am hoping my journey gives me the tools and resources to help other kids in my situation. I picked film school because I want to influence the world and change the way the world thinks.ā€

He says that this summer he wants to focus on healing, getting to know himself and finding closure before he heads off to college. Leaving that feeling of terror behind is important for him to move forward. Sports at USC will be on his own terms and he hopes it includes rugby.

ā€œI want to learn, be curious and explore while being in a safe space,ā€ Gift says. ā€œI want to temper that with compassion even if it is impossible. Everyoneā€™s path is different, and it is my time to rise up.ā€

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Bisexual former umpire sues Major League Baseball for sexual harassment

Brandon Cooper claims female colleague sexually harassed him

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Arizona Complex League game in 2023. (YouTube screenshot)

A fired former umpire is suing Major League Baseball, claiming he was sexually harassed by a female umpire and discriminated against because of his gender and his sexual orientation. 

Brandon Cooper worked in the minor league Arizona Complex League last year, and according to the lawsuit he filed Wednesday in federal court in Manhattan, he identifies as bisexual. 

ā€œI wanted my umpiring and ability to speak for itself and not to be labeled as ā€˜Brandon Cooper the bisexual umpire,ā€™ā€ he told Outsports. ā€œI didnā€™t want to be labeled as something. It has been a passion of mine to simply make it to the Major Leagues.ā€

But that didnā€™t happen. Instead of being promoted, he was fired. His suit names MLB and an affiliated entity, PDL Blue, Inc., and alleges he had endured a hostile work environment and wrongful termination and/or retaliation because of gender and sexual orientation under New York State and New York City law.

ā€œHistorically the MLB has had a homogenous roster of umpires working in both the minor and major leagues,ā€ Cooper claims in his suit. ā€œSpecifically, to date there has never been a woman who has worked in a (regular) season game played in the majors, and most umpires are still Caucasian men. To try to fix its gender and racial diversity issue, defendants have implemented an illegal diversity quota requiring that women be promoted regardless of merit.ā€

Cooper claims former umpire Ed Rapuano, now an umpire evaluator, and Darren Spagnardi, an umpire development supervisor, told him in January 2023 that MLB had a hiring quota, requiring that at least two women be among 10 new hires.

According to the suit, Cooper was assigned to spring training last year and was notified by the senior manager of umpire administration, Dusty Dellinger, that even though he received a high rating in June from former big league umpire Jim Reynolds, now an umpire supervisor, that women and minority candidates had to be hired first.Ā 

Cooper claims that upon learning Cooper was bisexual, fellow umpire Gina Quartararo insulted him and fellow umpire Kevin Bruno by using homophobic slurs and crude remarks. At that time, Quartararo and Cooper worked on the same umpiring crew and being evaluated for possible promotion to the big leagues.

This season, Quartararo is working as an umpire in the Florida State League, one of nine women who are working as minor league umpires.

Cooper said he notified Dellinger, but instead of taking action against Quartararo, he said MLB ordered Cooper to undergo sensitivity training. According to his lawsuit, he was also accused of violating the minor league anti-discrimination and harassment policy.

Cooperā€™s suit says he met with MLB Senior Vice President of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Billy Bean ā€” who the Los Angeles BladeĀ reported in DecemberĀ is battling cancer.Ā 

The lawsuit says at that meeting, Bean told the umpire that Quartararo claimed she was the victim, as the only female umpire in the ACL. Cooper said he told Bean Quartararo regularly used homophobic slurs and at one point physically shoved him. He also claims that he has video evidence, texts and emails to prove his claim. 

But he said his complaints to Major League Baseball officials were ignored. His lawsuit said MLB passed him over for the playoffs and fired him in October. He said of the 26 umpires hired with Cooper, he was the only one let go.

Through a spokesperson, MLB declined to comment on pending litigation. Quartararo has also not publicly commented on the lawsuit.

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Brittney Griner, wife expecting first child

WNBA star released from Russian gulag in December 2022

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Cherelle and Brittney Griner are expecting their first child in July. The couple shared the news on Instagram. (Photo courtesy of Brittney Griner's Instagram page)

One year after returning to the WNBA after her release from a Russian gulag and declaring, ā€œIā€™m never playing overseas again,ā€ Phoenix Mercury star Brittney Griner and her wife announced they have something even bigger coming up this summer. 

Cherelle, 31, and Brittney, 33, are expecting their first child in July. The couple shared the news with their 715,000 followers on Instagram

ā€œCanā€™t believe weā€™re less than three months away from meeting our favorite human being,ā€ the caption read, with the hashtag, #BabyGrinerComingSoon and #July2024.

Griner returned to the U.S. in December 2022 in a prisoner swap, more than nine months after being arrested in Moscow for possession of vape cartridges containing prescription cannabis.

In April 2023, at her first news conference following her release, the two-time Olympic gold medalist made only one exception to her vow to never play overseas again: To return to the Summer Olympic Games, which will be played in Paris starting in July, the same month ā€œBaby Grinerā€ is due. ā€œThe only time I would want to would be to represent the USA,ā€ she said last year. 

Given that the unrestricted free agent is on the roster of both Team USA and her WNBA team, itā€™s not immediately clear where Griner will be when their first child arrives. 

The Griners purchased their ā€œforever homeā€ in Phoenix just last year.

ā€œPhoenix is home,ā€ Griner said at the Mercuryā€™s end-of-season media day, according toĀ ESPN. ā€œMe and my wife literally just got a place. This is it.ā€

As the Los Angeles Blade reported last December, Griner is working with Good Morning America anchor Robin Roberts ā€” like Griner, a married lesbian ā€” on an ESPN television documentary as well as a television series for ABC about her life story. Cherelle is executive producer of these projects. 

Next month, Grinerā€™s tell-all memoir of her Russian incarceration will be published by Penguin Random House. Itā€™s titled “Coming Home” and the hardcover hits bookstores on May 7.

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Applause and criticism for Staley’s trans-inclusive stance

South Carolina Gamecocks womenā€™s coach made comments on Sunday

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South Carolina Gamecocks women's basketball head coach Dawn Staley. (NBC News Today YouTube screenshot)

If not for a conservative transphobic blogger, this moment should be a celebration of NCAA womenā€™s basketball coach Dawn Staley and the women of the South Carolina Gamecocks.

On Sunday, they concluded their undefeated season with a decisive win and a championship title. But when Staley faced reporters before that big game, Outkickā€™s Dan Zakheske asked her an irrelevant, clickbait question about transgender women in sports, referring to them as ā€œbiological males.ā€ 

Staley could have ignored the question, or stated she had no opinion, but instead the legendary coach offered a crystal clear endorsement of trans women competing in womenā€™s sports, something outlawed in her home state of South Carolina for girls in kindergarten through college. 

ā€œIā€™m of the opinion,ā€ said Staley, ā€œIf youā€™re a woman, you should play. If you consider yourself a woman and you want to play sports or vice versa, you should be able to play. Thatā€™s my opinion.ā€

Zakheske clearly wasnā€™t satisfied with that declaration of allyship and Staley swiftly cut him off. 

ā€œYou want me to go deeper?ā€ she asked. 

ā€œDo you think transgender women should be able to participate,ā€ he started to say, when the coach stole the ball and took it downtown on a fastbreak. ā€œThatā€™s the question you want to ask? Iā€™ll give you that. Yes. Yes. So, now the barnstormer people are going to flood my timeline and be a distraction to me on one of the biggest days of our game, and Iā€™m okay with that. I really am.ā€ 

Staley is herself a Hall of Fame player a leading voice for diversity. 

Reaction to her comments were swift, from LGBTQ rights organizations, athletes and inclusion opponents.Ā 

ā€œCoach Staley simply spoke the truth that trans women are women and should play if they want,ā€ said Sarah Kate Ellis, president and CEO of GLAAD, in a post on Instagram. ā€œAll of us can take a page from Coach Staleyā€™s playbook as a sports leader and as a person of high integrity guided by faith, compassion and common sense.ā€ 

A White House pool reporter revealed President Joe Biden called Staley Sunday evening to congratulate her and the Gamecocks on their championship win. But itā€™s not clear if she and the president, an outspoken supporter of trans rights, discussed her remarks on trans athletes.Ā 

A number of Black leaders in the LGBTQ movement applauded Staley for taking a stand.Ā 

ā€œCoach Staley has always been a trailblazer, but sheā€™s also shown that true leadership is about advancing justice and equality for everyone,ā€ said Human Rights Campaign President Kelley Robinson. ā€œBy expressing her full-throated support for transgender athletesā€™ inclusion in sports, sheā€™s sending an important message ā€” our shared humanity matters. 

ā€œCoach Staley showed courage and vulnerability, in choosing to answer the question and make a powerful statement of support for trans people on one of the biggest days and biggest stages in sports history,ā€ said Kierra Johnson, executive director of the National LGBTQ Task Force, in a statement. ā€œNot only does that make her a leader we can all aspire to like, it makes her a class act. She has etched her legacy in the history books with her play, her coaching, her heart and her smarts.ā€

In congratulating Staley on her championship title victory, Dr. David J. Johns, the CEO and executive director of the National Black Justice Coalition, also commended her for ā€œher unwavering advocacy and support for transgender people in sports.ā€ 

ā€œIn a time when transgender athetes face unjust scrutiny, discrimination and exclusion from the National Association of Intercollegiate Athletics, her courage to speak truth to power and in support of inclusion and fairness sets a powerful example for us all, and is a testament to her integrity and compassion.ā€

The NBJC leader was referring to Mondayā€™s announcement by the NAIA, the governing body of athletic programs at small colleges nationwide, voting 20-0 to essentially ban trans women from competing with other women beginning Aug. 1, as ESPN reported.

ā€œIt is a shocking and devastating development that the NAIA, an organization that has done so much to open doors, is now slamming those doors shut on transgender athletes,ā€ said Sasha Buchert, Lambda Legalā€™s senior attorney and director of the organizationā€™s nonbinary and trans rights project.Ā 

ā€œInstead of standing up in support of transgender young people, the NAIA has simply turned its back on them ā€” permanently depriving them of the benefits of competition. Would that they had the courage of victorious University of South Carolina womenā€™s basketball coach Dawn Staley, who didnā€™t miss a beat in clarifying that transgender women should be able to play.ā€ 

However, praise for Staleyā€™s stance was not universal. 

Riley Gaines, failed former college swimmer and paid shill for the anti-inclusion organization, Independent Womenā€™s Forum, called Staley ā€œentirely incompetent or a sell-outā€ on Fox News. ā€œPersonally, I donā€™t think she believes what she said.ā€ 

Gaines has turned her fifth-place tie with out trans NCAA champion Lia Thomas into a career as a crusader against inclusion and a former advisor to the presidential campaign of Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis.

Val Whiting, a former Stanford University and professional womenā€™s basketball player, tweeted her strong disagreement with Staley. ā€œA lot of my basketball sisters feel differently but trans women do not belong in womenā€™s sports. Itā€™s not fair nor safe for biological women. There has to be another solution for trans women to be able to compete athletically besides having them compete against biological women.ā€ 

Zaksheskeā€™s Outkick colleague, anti-trans pundit David Hookstead, also went all-in with a transphobic post. 

ā€œDawn Staley says she supports men who identify as women competing against real women in sports. Her view could literally destroy womenā€™s basketball forever. Why wonā€™t more people stand up for women?ā€

Hookstead then boasted that Staley blocked his account. 

Republican South Carolina Congresswoman Nancy Mace retweeted Zaksheskeā€™s account of his interaction with Staley, calling her support of trans athletes ā€œabsolute lunacy.ā€ That in turn won praise from Caitlyn Jenner, who retweeted Whiting and posted her thanks to Mace, along with this comment: ā€œThere is nothing complicated about this issue!ā€Ā 

What is complicated is that Jenner has never explained why she has competed with cisgender women in golf ever since her transition almost a decade ago. 

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