Books
Sassy and sad in Iraq
Gay soldier on hiding to be accepted during deployment


āThe Last Deploymentā By Bronson Lemer University of Wisconsin Press $24.95/223 pages. (Cover courtesy University of Wisconsin Press)
Theyāve become as familiar to you as your own living room: auditoriums filled with uniformed, spine-straight soldiers on their way to deployment, or smiling men and women, arms full of family, on their way home.
And no matter what auditorium theyāre in, no matter which small town or big city, you can bet that the first group is wondering what the second group has seen.
They may never know, though, because much is buried and more is classified. But military secrets arenāt the only ones kept in times of war. In the new book āThe Last Deploymentā by Bronson Lemer, youāll learn one of them.
Bronson Lemer was āprobably the last person anyone expected to join the military.ā But, as the oldest of six children, he wanted to get away from North Dakota and āthe army ⦠happened to be at the right place at the right time.ā
Lemer was still in high school when he joined the National Guard.
Five years later, on Jan. 20, 2003, his cell phone rang. Though he was months away from getting out of his Guard obligation and was ātired of it,ā Lemer learned that he was being deployed. His āhorrible decisionā to join the National Guard was turning into something he never thought heād have to worry about: Lemer was a gay soldier serving under āDonāt Ask, Donāt Tell.ā
But in going to Iraq, he knew he had to learn to rely on his fellow soldiers, and vice versa. So he tried to relax as he traveled with them to Colorado and, later that spring, to Kosovo, then to Iraq. Lemer went along with the jokes, the girlfriend talk, and the āadolescentā behavior. He participated in anything that banished the boredom of guard duty, building, cleaning duty and outhouse duty. He e-mailed a former love, and longed for home.
As a few monthsā tour of duty stretched into a year, Lemer began to notice something: deployment was taking its toll on everybody. The men and women who left the States were not the same people who came home from Iraq.
And neither was Lemer.
Over the past decade, youāve undoubtedly seen lots of TV and read many words about the war in Iraq. But just wait until you get your hands on āThe Last Deployment.ā
Lemerās memoir of being a gay man in the military is half sass and half sad with a few heart-pounding moments but no blood-and-guts. His story moves between idyllic memories of his growing-up and warm feelings for his bunkmates and co-soldiers, while readers are also placed in the center of the boredom of waiting, the frustration of not knowing and the dismay of hiding in order to be accepted. Lemerās is a wonderfully descriptive, wryly humorous, heart-crushing story, and I couldnāt put it down.
With the repeal this month of āDonāt Ask Donāt Tell,ā this is timely and definitely worth a read. If you love a soldier, your country, or both, āThe Last Deploymentā is a book youāll want to tell everybody about.
Books
New book goes behind the scenes of āA League of Their Ownā
āNo Crying in Baseballā offers tears, laughs, and more

āNo Crying in Baseball: The Inside Story of āA League of Their Ownā
By Erin Carlson
c.2023, Hachette Books
$29/320 pages
You donāt usually think of Madonna as complaining of being ādirty all dayā from playing baseball. But thatās what the legendary diva did during the shooting of āA League of Their Own,ā the 1992 movie, beloved by queers.
āNo Crying in Baseball,ā the fascinating story behind āA League of Their Own,ā has arrived in time for the World Series. Nothing could be more welcome after Amazon has cancelled season 2 of its reboot (with the same name) of this classic film.

In this era, people donāt agree on much. Yet, āA League of Their Ownā is loved by everyone from eight-year-old kids to 80-year-old grandparents.
The movie has strikes, home runs and outs for sports fans; period ambience for history buffs; and tears, laughs and a washed-up, drunk, but lovable coach for dramady fans.
The same is true for āNo Crying in Baseball.ā This āmaking ofā story will appeal to history, sports and Hollywood aficionados. Like āAll About Eveā and āThe Rocky Horror Picture Show,ā āA League of Their Ownā is Holy queer Writ.
Carlson, a culture and entertainment journalist who lives in San Francisco, is skilled at distilling Hollywood history into an informative, compelling narrative. As with her previous books, āIāll Have What Sheās Having: How Nora Ephronās three Iconic Films Saved the Romantic Comedyā and āQueen Meryl: The Iconic Roles, Heroic Deeds, and Legendary Life of Meryl Streep,ā āNo Crying in Baseball,ā isnāt too āeducational.ā Itās filled with gossip to enliven coffee dates and cocktail parties.
āA League of Their Ownā is based on the true story of the All-American Girls Professional Baseball League (AAGPBL). From 1943 to 1954, more than 600 women played in the league in the Midwest. The leagueās players were all white because the racism of the time prohibited Black women from playing. In the film, the characters are fictional. But the team the main characters play for ā the Rockford Peaches ā was real.
While many male Major and Minor League Baseball players were fighting in World War II, chewing gum magnate Philip K. Wrigley, who owned the Chicago Cubs, founded the league. He started the AAGPBL, āTo keep spectators in the bleachers,ā Carlson reports, āand a storied American sportāmore important: his business afloat.ā
In 1943, the Office of War Information warned that the baseball season could be āscrappedā ādue to a lack of men,ā Carlson adds.
āA League of Their Ownā was an ensemble of womenās performances (including Rosie OāDonnell as Doris, Megan Cavanagh as Marla, Madonna as Mae, Lori Petty as Kit and Geena Davis as Dottie) that would become legendary.
Girls and women still dress up as Rockford Peaches on Halloween.
Tom Hanksās indelible portrayal of coach Jimmy Dugan, Gary Marshallās depiction of (fictional) league owner Walter Harvey and Jon Lovitzās portrayal of Ernie have also become part of film history.
Filming āA League of Their Own,ā Carlson vividly makes clear, was a gargantuan effort. There were āactresses who canāt play baseballā and ābaseball players who canāt act,ā Penny Marshall said.
The stadium in Evansville, Ind., was rebuilt to look like it was in the 1940s āwhen the players and extras were in costume,ā Carlson writes, āit was easy to lose track of what year it was.ā
āNo Crying in Baseballā isnāt written for a queer audience. But, Carlson doesnāt pull any punches.
Many of the real-life AAGPBL players who OāDonnell met had same-sex partners, OāDonnell told Carlson.
āWhen Penny, angling for a broad box-office hit chose to ignore the AAGPGLās queer history,ā Carlson writes, āshe perpetuated a cycle of silence that muzzled athletes and actresses alike from coming out on the wider stage.ā
āIt was, as they say, a different time,ā she adds.
Fortunately, Carlsonās book isnāt preachy. Marshall nicknames OāDonnell and Madonna (who become buddies) āRoā and āMo.ā Kodak is so grateful for the one million feet of film that Marshall shot that it brings in a high school marching band. Along with a lobster lunch. One day, an assistant director āstreaked the set to lighten the mood,ā Carlson writes.
āNo Crying in Baseball,ā is slow-going at first. Marshall, who died in 2018, became famous as Laverne in āLaverne & Shirley.ā Itās interesting to read about her. But Carlson devotes so much time to Marshallās bio that you wonder when sheāll get to āA League of Their Own.ā
Thankfully, after a couple of innings, the intriguing story of one of the best movies ever is told.
Youāll turn the pages of āNo Crying in Baseballā even if you donāt know a center fielder from a short stop.
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Shorter days, cooler temps, and longer nights can send you skittering inside, right? Donāt forget to bring one of these great books with you when you settle in for the fall.
Releasing in September, look for āBetween the Head and the Handsā by James Chaarani, a novel about a young Muslim man whose family turns him away for being gay, and the teacher who takes him in (ECW Press, Sept. 10). Also reach for āCleat Cute: A Novel,ā by Meryl Wilsner (St. Martinās Griffin, Sept. 19), a fun YA novel of soccer, competition, and playing hard (to get).
You may want something light and fun for now, so find āThe Out Side: Trans and Nonbinary Comics,ā compiled by The Kao, Min Christiansen, and Daniel Daneman (Andrews McMeel Publishing). Itās a collection of comics by nonbinary and trans artists, and you can find it Sept. 26.
The serious romantic will want to find āDaddies of a Different Kind: Sex and Romance Between Older and Younger Gay Menā by Tony Silva (NYU Press), a book about new possibilities in love; itās available Sept. 12. Historians will want āGlitter and Concrete: A Cultural History of Drag in New York Cityā by Elyssa Maxx Goodman (Hanover Square Press, Sept. 12); and āQueer Blues: The Hidden Figures of Early Blues Musicā by Darryl W. Bullock (Omnibus Press, Sept. 14).
In October, youāll want to find āBlackouts: A Novelā by Justin Torres (Farrar, Straus & Giroux), a somewhat-fantasy novel about a dying man who passes a powerful book on to his caretaker. Look for it Oct. 10. Also on Oct. 10, grab āLove at 350Āŗā by Lisa Peers (Dial Press Trade Paperback), a novel about love at a chance meeting at a baking-show contest and āThe Christmas Swap: A Novelā by Talia Samuels (Alcove Press), a holiday rom-com.
Youāre just warming up for the fall. Look for āIris Kelly Doesnāt Dateā by Ashley Herring Blake (Berkley, Oct. 24) and āLet Me Out,ā a queer horror novel by Emmett Nahil and George Williams (Oni Press, Oct. 3).
Nonfiction lovers will want to find āDis… Miss Gender?ā by Anne Bray (MIT Press, Oct. 24), a wide, long look at gender and fluidity; āFriends of Dorothy: A Celebration of LGBTQ+ Iconsā by Anthony Uzarowski and Alejandro Mogollo Diez (Imagine, Oct. 10); and ā300,000 Kisses: Tales of Queer Love from the Ancient Worldā by Sean Hewitt and Luke Edward Hall (Clarkson Potter, Oct. 10).
For November, look for āUnderburn: A Novelā by Bill Gaythwaite (Delphinium), a layered novel about Hollywood, family, and second chances. It comes out Nov. 14. For something you can really sink your teeth into, find āThe Bars are Ours: Histories and Cultures of Gay Bars in America, 1960 and Afterā by Lucas Hilderbrand (Duke University Press, Nov 21). Itās a huge look at the spaces that played strong roles in LGBTQ history.
And if youāre looking for yourself or for a special gift in December, check out āTrans Hirstory in 99 Objectsā by David Evans Frantz, Christina Linden, and Chris E. Vargas. Itās an arty coffee table book from Hirmer Publishers of Munich. You can find it Dec. 20. Also look for āSecond Chances in New Port Stephen: A Novelā by T.J. Alexander (Atria / Emily Bestler, Dec. 5) and if all else fails, ask for or give a gift certificate.
Seasonās readings!
Books
Intriguing historical novel based on the true story of 1800s lesbian couple
āLearned by Heartā by Emma Donoghue a moving read

āLearned by Heartā
By Emma Donoghue
C. 2023, Little Brown
$28/324 pages
English landowner, diarist and businesswoman Anne Lister (1791-1840) married her last partner Ann Walker in a marriage ceremony at Holy Trinity Church in Goodramgate, York. This is considered by many to be the first lesbian marriage in England, and likely, the world.
Lister, born in a landowning family at Shibden in Calderdale, West Riding of Yorkshire, whoās been called āthe first modern lesbian,ā is having a moment. In two seasons in 2019 and 2022, āGentleman Jack,ā a riveting series, based on Listerās diaries, co-produced by the BBC and HBO (streaming on Max), dramatized Listerās relationship with Walker.
āLearned by Heart,ā an intriguing historical novel by Emma Donoghue is based on the true story of the queer relationship of Lister and Eliza Raine. Raine is believed to have been Listerās first lover.

Much of the novel takes place in 1805-1806, when, at age 14 and 15, Lister and Raine were students at Miss Hargraveās Manor School, a boarding school for girls in York.
Raine was born in Madras (now Chennai) in India. Her father, who was English, was a surgeon with the East India Company. He and an Indian woman, whom he did not legally marry, had Raine.
In an authorās note, Donoghue writes of a letter of Raineās that refers to her as having āsprung from an illicit connection.ā Another letter calls Raine a ālady of colour.ā
Raine is sent to England at age 6. After her father and mother die, sheās left an orphan with a small inheritance.
Through āGentleman Jackā and her diaries (which are being digitalized), Lister, with her brilliance and charismatic personality, has become a queer culture icon.
Raine is comparatively unknown. Perhaps, for this reason, āLearned by Handā focuses on Raineās point of view.
Raine arrives at the Manor School before Lister. Prior to Listerās arrival, Raine is mousy, rule abiding.
Because Raineās from India, she sleeps alone in a small room. Aware of unspoken racial bias (against people who are part Indian and part English), she wants to blend in ā to stay out of trouble in this school with its many rules. āSheās trained herself to wake at seven,ā Donoghue writes, ājust before the bell.ā
When Lister arrives at the school, Raineās world and personality are transformed. Lister, known even at this young age for being too smart for her own good, is assigned to room with Raine ā isolated from the other girls ā in the tiny room they call āthe Slope.ā Donoghue skillfully illuminates how the girlsā friendship becomes sexual, passionate first love.
One day, Lister and Raine, who call each other by their last names, alone in a church, conduct a marriage ceremony for themselves.
āLearned by Heartā is heartbreaking because its chapters are intertwined with letters that Raine writes to Lister in 1815.
Itās clear from this correspondence that Lister has (and will have) other lovers than Raine. And, that, sadly, Raine is writing from what is then called an āinsane asylum.ā
As is evident from āThe Pull of The Stars,ā and her other historical novels, Donoghue has an unerring talent for creating fascinating tales out of true stories.
Unfortunately, as so often happens, Lister, the bad, outrageous girl, is far more interesting than Raine. Raine frequently comes across as loyal, passionate, but too needy and clingy. As Listerās Barbara Stanwyck to Raineās June Cleaver.
āThereās nothing noble about Anne Listerā¦,ā Donoghue wrote of Lister in āThe Guardian.ā
Lister had the sexual ethics of a bonobo, Donoghue continued, ālying to every lover as a matter of policy.ā
Yet, Lister is Donoghueās hero. āBecause she looked into her heart and wrote about what she found there with unflinching precision,ā Donoghue wrote in her āGuardianā essay.
āI love and only love the fairer sex and thus beloved by them in turn, my heart revolts from any love but theirs,ā Lister wrote in a coded entry in her diary on Oct. 29, 1820. (Lister wrote one-sixth of her diaries in code to hide from homophobic eyes.)
āLearned by Heartā is a moving, entertaining read. Raineās story along with Listerās should be told. Even the clingy can be unsung heroes.
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