Arts & Entertainment
Year in review: Books by the bounty
Several releases this year wrote eloquently of gay and trans themes
Drivel, dreck and what the heck?
That kind of sums up the books that were released this year. There were some good things, some downright awful things, and some things that, well, they werenāt bad but they werenāt the best books youāve ever read, either.
And then there were the gems.
I read about 270 books this year, and (fortunate me!) it was hard to pick favorites, but nonetheless, here they are.
Adult fiction
For me, the world totally ceased to exist while I was reading āThe Absolutistā by John Boyne. Set in the years after World War I, itās the story of a former soldier who decides to return some letters to the sister of the friend who wrote them. Years ago, he knew the womanās brother ā had a crush on him, in fact ā but the man is now dead, and when the sister asks what happened, the narrator tells her. What happens left me absolutely breathless.
If you plan on reading just one book this winter, this should be it. Really.
I have to admit: Iām not a major Eric Jerome Dickey reader. Some of his books leave me cold but āAn Accidental Affairā chilled me with the action and double-crossing that happens to the bookās narrator, who catches his beloved wife sleeping with another man. What he has to do to get her out of trouble ā and get himself out of danger ā will make you turn the pages so fast, youāll practically rip them.
Whatās that word again for fiction based on fact? In the case of āOctober Mourningā by LesleĆ Newman, the word is āpowerful.ā
Based on the Matthew Shepard murder, this book consists of a series of free-form poems from the POV of the things and creatures that witnessed his death: the fence, a doe that wandered by, the road, the truck. There are real quotes entwined amid the verses, which only serves to heighten the punch in the gut youāll feel with this book.
I listened to it in audio. I bawled til I could barely breathe.
And if youāre thinking about starting a family, āThe Paternity Testā by Michael Lowenthal may be one of the better books youāll read about it.
Yes, this is fiction. Itās about a couple who have had a shaky relationship for years and then finally decide to settle down and have a baby through surrogacy. But itās not that easy and I canāt tell you anything else.Ā Just read it ā seriously.
Adult non-fiction
Hands-down, the LGBT memoir I loved most this year was āGypsy Boyā by Mikey Walsh. Walsh was born a Romany Gypsy and lived as a child in Europe in a series of camps and compounds. His father was determined to make Walsh the latest of a lineage of fierce fighters and, to that end, he beat his son every day, sometimes multiple times. But what the elder Walsh didnāt know was that his son was gay.
Walsh gives this book a laissez faire tone, but donāt let that fool you ā this book packs a wallop and canāt be missed.
Iām a sucker for a good scandal and āDropped Namesā by Frank Langella had its share. LangellaĀ seemed to always be in the proverbial right place at the right time. That kind of luck put him in proximity of a lot of Hollywood stars and it started his career. This is a light-reading book with dozens of tiny chapters and big names. For any fan of movies, Broadway, or television, particularly from decades past, this is a great book.
As I started reading āFrom the Closet to the Altarā by Michael J. Klarman, I was afraid I was in for something dry. Not so much, as it turns out: this book isnāt just about gay marriage, itās also about the history of gay rights and coming proudly out. Turns out that this book is a little like a good martini: a little dry, a little bitter and an interesting taste that leaves you wanting more.
And finally, I donāt think Iāll ever forget āA Queer and Pleasant Dangerā by Kate Bornstein. Itās the story of a man who becomes a woman, a religion that almost derails that process and the aftermath of getting out of something very scary.
Bornstein is funny and self-depreciating, snarky and kind. Youāll find a lot of bravado in this book but read it ā and read between the lines.
And there you have it: eight books on which you can use your gift certificate. Eight books to help you get through the winter. Books you just canāt miss.
The Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington performed “The Holiday Show” at Lincoln Theatre on Saturday. Future performances of the show are scheduled for Dec. 14-15. For tickets and showtimes, visit gmcw.org.
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Books
Mother wages fight for trans daughter in new book
āBeautiful Womanā seethes with resentment, rattles bars of injustice
āOne Day I’ll Grow Up and Be a Beautiful Womanā
By Abi Maxwell
c.2024, Knopf
$28/307 pages
“How many times have I told you that…?”
How many times have you heard that? Probably so often that, well, you stopped listening. From your mother, when you were very small. From your teachers in school. From your supervisor, significant other, or best friend. As in the new memoir “One Day I’ll Grow Up and Be a Beautiful Woman” by Abi Maxwell, it came from a daughter.
When she was pregnant, Abi Maxwell took long walks in the New Hampshire woods near her home, rubbing her belly and talking to her unborn baby. She was sure she was going to have a girl but when the sonogram technician said otherwise, that was OK. Maxwell and her husband would have a son.
But almost from birth, their child was angry, fierce, and unhappy. Just getting dressed each morning was a trial. Going outside was often impossible. Autism was a possible diagnosis but more importantly, Maxwell wasn’t listening, and she admits it with some shame.
Her child had been saying, in so many ways, that she was a girl.
Once Maxwell realized it and acted accordingly, her daughter changed almost overnight, from an angry child to a calm one ā though she still, understandably, had outbursts from the bullying behavior of her peers and some adults at school. Nearly every day, Greta (her new name) said she was teased, called by her former name, and told that she was a boy.
Maxwell had fought for special education for Greta, once autism was confirmed. Now she fought for Greta’s rights at school, and sometimes within her own family. The ACLU got involved. State laws were broken. Maxwell reminded anyone who’d listen that the suicide rate for trans kids was frighteningly high. Few in her town seemed to care.
Throughout her life, Maxwell had been in many other states and lived in other cities. New Hampshire used to feel as comforting as a warm blanket but suddenly, she knew they had to get away from it. Her “town that would not protect us.”
When you hold “One Day I’ll Grow Up and Be a Beautiful Woman,” you’ve got more than a memoir in your hands. You’ve also got a white-hot story that seethes with anger and rightful resentment, that wails for a hurt child, and rattles the bars of injustice. And yet, it coos over love of place, but in a confused manner, as if these things don’t belong together.
Author Abi Maxwell is honest with readers, taking full responsibility for not listening to what her preschooler was saying-not-saying, and she lets you see her emotions and her worst points. In the midst of her community-wide fight, she reveals how the discrimination Greta endured affected Maxwell’s marriage and her health ā all of which give a reader the sense that they’re not being sold a tall tale. Read this book, and outrage becomes familiar enough that it’s yours, too. Read “One Day I’ll Grow Up and Be a Beautiful Woman,” and share it. This is a book you’ll tell others about.
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Come unleash your inner artist at the DC Center
Watercolor painting class held on Thursday
āWatercolor Painting with Center Agingā will be on Thursday, Dec. 12 at 12 p.m. at the DC Center for the LGBT Community.
In this winter-themed painting class for seniors led by local artist Laya Monarez, guests will learn about watercoloring techniques, be given a demonstration, and allowed to create their own watercolor pieces. There will also be a break for lunch and plenty of snacks throughout. For more details, visit the DC Centerās website.
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