Sports
Couples that play together, stay together
Meet locals who mix love and sport


Brigid Beech and Sharifa Love met while playing for the Furies. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
There are a lot of clichƩs about relationships that people either embrace or avoid.
Love is blind. Opposites attract. It was love at first sight.
What about ācouples who play together, stay togetherā?
Meet two LGBT sports couples from D.C. who are carving their own path together by including sports in their relationships.
When Sharifa Love was attending Yale, her roommates were all rugby players and they repeatedly asked her to join their team. Love was busy with other sports and just brushed it aside. It wasnāt until the end of her senior year that they convinced her to come to a rugby practice because they were short a player for an upcoming tournament.
āDuring a tackle at that first practice, the other girl ended up bleeding and crying,ā says Love. āI turned to my new teammates and said, āThis is the best, Iāll be back.āā
Growing up in Rockville, Love played soccer all the way through high school along with running track. While attending Yale, she ran track for two years and then turned her focus on intramural sports such as squash and ice hockey.
The rugby experience stayed with her after the first tournament and when she returned to the D.C. area after graduation, she looked up adult rugby and joined the DC Furies in 2009.
āI love the physicality and the strategic aspect of the game. Most of my improvement has come from becoming more familiar with tactics,ā Love says. āPlus, I just like hitting people; itās a great outlet.ā
Love, who is the development and communications coordinator at SMYAL, is enjoying her life as a rugger. She loves the community aspect and has played all over the country as part of the Womenās Premier League. This November her team will travel to nationals in Phoenix, Ariz.
In 2013, she began dating one of her teammates, Brigid Beech. They had been playing together for the Furies for four years.
Beech arrived in D.C. in 2005 for a job with IBM, consulting with federal clients. It was her first job out of college and as the years passed, she found herself in a rut.
āMy life was terrible and I was hating everything,ā says Beech. āIt finally hit me that I hadnāt played sports in three years, so in 2009 I joined the Furies.ā
Born in Ireland, Beech was raised in West Newbury, Mass., and in her first year of high school, she played soccer, basketball and softball. She transferred to a boarding school and changed things up by switching to cross country, ice hockey and lacrosse.
āI really enjoy the culture of team sports,ā Beech says. āI have always been the āclass clownā and that sense of belonging is important.ā
Beech took a gap year and played soccer with a team in Germany while being a part of the Congress-Bundestag Youth Exchange. During her four years at Bates College, she played rugby and captained in her senior year.
Just one year after she started dating Love, Beech would leave the Furies and return to ice hockey playing for the Washington Wolves.
āThe level of play and amount of dedication required is very high in rugby,ā says Beech. āPicking ice hockey back up is vital to my ability to remember that everything is not about work. I need a healthy outlet and a support system.ā
Both women are now playing together again with Rogue Darts while they also maintain their separate sports.
Love said, āWe had been friends all along on the Furies, and when we became a couple there was some awkwardness with the team at practices and scrimmages. We didnāt want to show up at practice and be āthatā couple.ā
Beech replied, āI had dated other players on the team and there is a risk in introducing another layer into a safe space. It becomes high stakes. ā¦ It felt super competitive at the beginning. She is so fast and once I caught a piece of her jersey and tackled her out of bounds after the whistle blew. It wasnāt one of my finer moments. She was so pleased that she had gotten me riled up.ā
While he was attending Pacific Lutheran University, Ken Kriese was interested in rowing but just couldnāt pull the trigger. He had a physical education requirement and ended up choosing aerobics instead of rowing. Kriese was a military brat growing up and none of the sports he tried, such as soccer and bowling, clicked with him. Born in Tehran, he grew up all over the place but considers Seattle home.
āI spent my junior year of college abroad in England and finally connected with rowing,ā says Kriese. āI rowed at Pacific Lutheran for my senior year along with two years while completing my masterās at University of Minnesota.ā
Following his doctorate work at the University of California, Davis and a short stint in Memphis, Kriese came to D.C. in 2007 where he works in migratory bird conservation for the U.S. Fish & Wildlife Service. He joined the DC Strokes Rowing Club shortly after arriving.
āRowing is a natural fit for me because I like the team aspect. You row as a team, you race as a team, and you win as a team,ā Kriese says. āDC Strokes has become my circle of friends and family. Because of what I do for a living, it is also appealing to me to be out on the water.ā
While he was serving as president of the Strokes in 2015, Kriese met Jeffrey Gonzalez who was serving as the coordinator of the DC Front Runners. The Strokes volunteered at Pride Run 5K and the Front Runners volunteered at Stonewall Regatta. Numbers were exchanged.
Gonzalez moved to the area in 2007 and saw the Front Runners at the Capital Pride parade. He joined the group and has since completed 19 marathons in locations around the world.
His father was in the military and after being born in Colorado, Gonzalez grew up in Fayetteville, N.C., where he didnāt play any sports.
āI was an overweight kid and I started running in the 9th grade and lost a bunch of weight,ā says Gonzalez. āI stuck with running on my own, and ran my first marathon in my senior year of high school.ā
After earning degrees at University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and University of Michigan, Gonzalez works as a division chief at the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics and wrapped up his Ph.D. at the University of Maryland.
āI didnāt know anyone when I moved here and it has been great being a part of the Front Runners family,ā Gonzalez says.
Kriese had completed a marathon before they met and together they have run marathons across the country. Kriese rowed at the USRowing Masters Nationals last week and both will be running at the Dopey Challenge at Walt Disney World in a few months.
āOne of our first dates was a White House tour and we were in the Red Room when the same-sex marriage ruling came through,ā said Gonzalez. āI decided to keep dating him even though he was wearing pleated pants.ā Gonzalez added, āI am more of a solitary competitive person. He is very competitive. Sometimes I think we are just going out for a casual run, and then he goes balls out. Itās nice to have someone to get you out the door to train though I find myself being mad at him for both sides of that.ā
Kriese replied, āYes, I am a competitive person but I am competing against myself, not him. I have been told not to run faster than him, but I have. If one of us is feeling good, he can take off.ā

FIFA has announced Saudi Arabia will host the 2034 World Cup, despite concerns over its human rights record that includes the death penalty for homosexuality.
The Associated Press reported FIFA confirmed the decision on Dec. 18. The AP noted Saudi Arabia is the only country that bid to host the 2034 World Cup.
āThis is a historic moment for Saudi Arabia and a dream come true for all our 32 million people who simply love the game,ā said Sport Minister Prince Abdulaziz bin Turki Al- Faisal, who is also president of the Saudi Olympic and Paralympic Committee, in a statement the Saudi Press Agency posted to its website.
Saudi Arabia is among the handful of countries in which consensual same-sex sexual relations remain punishable by death.
A U.S. intelligence report concluded Saudi Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salman ālikely approvedā the murder of Jamal Khashoggi, a Washington Post columnist, inside the Saudi Consulate in Istanbul in 2018. A federal judge in 2022 dismissed a lawsuit against Prince Mohammed after the Biden-Harris administration said he was immune to the lawsuit because he is the countryās prime minister.
Human rights activists have also criticized the Saudi government over the treatment of women, migrant workers, and other groups in the country.
“No one should be surprised by this,ā Cyd Zeigler, Jr., co-founder of Outsports.com, an LGBTQ sports website, told the Washington Blade in an email after FIFA confirmed Saudi Arabia will host the 2034 World Cup. āFIFA, the International Olympic Committee, and many other world governing bodies routinely turn to authoritarian countries with terrible human-rights records to host major sporting events. There are simply few other countries willing to spend the billions of dollars it takes to build the needed infrastructure.ā
Peter Tatchell, a long-time LGBTQ activist from the U.K. who is director of the Peter Tatchell Foundation, in a statement described FIFAās decision as āa betrayal of the values that football should stand for: Inclusivity, fairness, and respect for human rights.ā
āThis is not about football; itās about sportswashing,ā said Tatchell. āThe Saudi regime is using the World Cup to launder its international image and distract from its brutal abuses. By granting them this platform, FIFA is complicit in whitewashing their crimes.ā
Qatar, which borders Saudi Arabia, hosted the 2022 World Cup.
Consensual same-sex sexual relations remain criminalized in Qatar.
āSaudi Arabia was the only country to bid for the 2034 FIFA World Cup,ā said Zeigler. āSo, until FIFA, the IOC (International Olympic Committee) and other governing bodies ban major human-rights violators from hosting, we’ll continue to see events like this in SaudiĀ Arabia, China, Qatar, and other countries with terrible LGBTQ rights issues.”
The Blade has reached out to FIFA and the Saudi government for comment.
Sports
Controversy grows over member of Calif. universityās womenās volleyball team
Coach suspended, NCAA sued, more rivals forfeit

San Jose State Universityās women volleyball team has collected yet another W by forfeit ā its seventh so far this season ā as controversy swirls around one player on its roster. Sheās one of the seniors, and she has been dragged in the media by her own co-captain, who outed her as transgender.
The Washington Blade is not naming this student athlete since neither she nor the school have confirmed or even commented on her gender identity.
SJSU visited San Diego last weekend for a match before the Aztecsā biggest home crowd of the season ā including protesters waving āSave Womenās Sportsā banners and booing one player on the Spartans team in particular: The woman who is reported to be trans.
Security was tight, with metal detectors and extra guards and police officers present. Video posted to YouTube by a right-wing sports media site ā which names the player ā shows an angry fan arguing with security about his First Amendment rights.
Video recorded during Nov. 9ās game shows a player for San Diego was injured following a spike by the player rumored to be trans, and had to be helped off the court. However, the video clearly shows that player was injured by landing poorly on one foot, not as a result of the spike.
The Aztecs defeated the Spartans 3-1, but San Jose has still punched its ticket to the conference finals, thanks to its record number of forfeits.
Wyoming was set to visit SJSU Thursday, but for the second time is joining other universities that have forfeited games against the Spartans, all without providing a reason. Boise State announced it will forfeit an upcoming match set for Nov. 21, its second forfeit against SJSU.
In September, the Spartansā co-captain, senior Brooke Slusser, outed her own teammate, the player at the center of this controversy, in joining a federal lawsuit against the NCAA spearheaded by anti-trans inclusion activist and former college athlete Riley Gaines.
Slusser said in the lawsuit and in subsequent interviews that the player in question shouldnāt be on her team. The suit claims the NCAAās policy on trans athletes violates Title IX by allowing āmenā to compete in women’s sports and use women’s locker rooms where they display āfull male genitalia.ā
The NCAA policy for trans athletes participating in womenās volleyball aligns with that of USA Volleyball, which requires trans female athletes to suppress their testosterone below 10 nmol/L for a period of one year before competition. That is also how the NCAA determines eligibility. SJSU has stated repeatedly that all its players are eligible.
The lawsuit also asks the NCAA to revoke any titles or records won by trans female athletes in women’s competitions, which seems to be specifically aimed at stripping out trans NCAA champions Lia Thomas and CeCĆ© Telfer of their titles in swimming and track and field, respectively.Ā
Prior to this season, the player rumored to be trans did not attract any attention other than being a successful starter, like Slusser. But now that she is in the media spotlight, Slusser has come forward to tell right wing media, including Megyn Kelly, why she feels another woman two inches taller than she is poses a danger.Ā
“I don’t feel safe,” Slusser said on “The Megyn Kelly Show” last month. “I’ve gone to my coaches and said I refuse to play against [her] ā¦ It’s not safe.”
In the video, both Kelly and Slusser refer to the player as āhimā and a āman,ā and name her.
Now comes another twist: San Jose State University suspended associate head coach Melissa Batie-Smoose with pay, indefinitely, after she filed a Title IX complaint against SJSU. She claims the player Slusser identified as trans conspired with an opponent to help the team lose a match and injure Slusser. Batie-Smoose named the player in question in her complaint and on Sept. 23, joined the same lawsuit that Slusser is now a part of.
“Safety is being taken away from women,” Batie-Smoose told Fox News. “Fair play is taken away from women. We need more and more people to do this and fight this fight because womenās sports, as we know it right now will be forever changed.”
Media reporting on the suspension, including Fox News, continue to name the athlete in question, with some also reporting what they say is the athleteās birth name.
San Jose State released a statement following the suspension of Batie-Smoose: “The associate head coach of the San Jose State University womenās volleyball team is not with the team at this time, and we will not provide further information on this matter,” the team said.
SJSU Coach Todd Kress told ESPN that reports saying that any member of the Spartans colluded with their opponent are ālittered with lies.ā
The Spartans are currently among the top six finishers in the Mountain West Conference that will qualify to compete in the conference tournament scheduled for Nov. 27-30.
Sports
University of Nevada forfeits game rather than play possible trans athlete
Womenās volleyball team cites ānot enough players to competeā

For the fifth time, a womenās volleyball team has chosen to forfeit instead of play against San Jose State University, because of rumors that one of its players is a transgender woman.
The University of Nevada, Reno, officially announced on Friday that it would forfeit Saturdayās game against the SJSU Spartans. This followed an announcement by Wolf Pack players who said they “refuse to participate in any match that advances injustice against female athletes,” without providing further details.
Originally, Nevada’s athletic department had said the program would not back out from the match, citing state equality laws, but also said that no players would be disciplined if they chose to not participate.
āThe vast majority of our team decided this is something we wanted to take a stand on,ā Nevada team captain Sia Liilii told Fox News. āWe didnāt want to play against a male player.”
āIn all of our team meetings it just kept coming back to the fact that men do not belong in womenās sports. If youāre born a biological male, you donāt belong in womenās sports. Itās not even about this individual athlete. Itās about fair competition and safety for everyone.ā
Outsports and several conservative and right-wing websites have identified the player who is rumored to be trans, but the Washington Blade has opted to not do so since she herself has not come forward to either acknowledge or deny she is trans.Ā
As ESPN reported, Nevada follows Southern Utah, Boise State, Wyoming, and Utah State in canceling games against the Spartans. Boise State, Wyoming, Utah State, and Nevada are all members of the Mountain West Conference, so those contests are considered forfeits and count as valuable wins in the league standings for San Jose State.
Riley Gaines, the anti-trans inclusion activist for the Independent Womenās Forum has joined the chorus in claiming the Spartansā roster includes a trans woman.
If you're wondering why teams are forfeiting against @SJSU, here's the reason.
Last night another woman was smashed in the face by a kill from a man posing as a woman.
It's unfair, unsafe, and regressive, yet our "leaders" remain silent. pic.twitter.com/OS15AFxQsp
— Riley Gaines (@Riley_Gaines_) October 18, 2024
Despite this, neither San Jose State nor any of the other forfeiting teams have said the universityās women’s volleyball team has a trans player. SJSU issued a statement defending its roster.
āOur athletes all comply with NCAA and Mountain West Conference policies and they are eligible to play under the rules of those organizations. We will continue to take measures to prioritize the health and safety of our students while they pursue their earned opportunities to compete,ā the statement read.
The governors of Idaho, Nevada, Utah, and Wyoming ā all of whom are members of the Republican Party ā have issued public statements supporting the cancellations, claiming itās in the interest of fairness in women’s sports. This week, Donald Trump, the GOP presidential nominee and former president, spoke at a Fox News televised town hall when asked about trans athletes in women’s sports.
āWeāre not going to let it happen,ā Trump said. āWe stop it, we stop it, we absolutely stop it. We canāt have it. You just ban it. The president bans it. You donāt let it happen. Itās not a big deal.ā
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