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Transgender climber completes 5th of 7 highest summits
Erin Parisi is the first out trans mountain climber to reach such heights. Next up she’ll make a second attempt to conquer Mount Denali.
SANTIAGO, Chile – Erin Parisi just returned from the bottom of the world, but already the out transgender woman has set her sights on her next challenge in her mission to conquer the highest summits of each of the seven continents.
āI have been trying to train and get to the tops of the highest mountain on every continent: Seven Peaks, seven summits, seven continents,ā she said. āI just finished Antarctica, which is an extraordinarily difficult climb as far as logistics, as far as dealing with the weather and the environment, a mountain that’s only been climbed 2,000 times before.ā
It was New Yearās Day when she spoke by phone to the Los Angeles Blade, from a hotel room in Santiago, Chile, where itās summertime. Five summits down, two more to go.
āIn order, the first five are Mount Kosciusko in Australia. Then I did Kilimanjaro a second time ā I climbed it once manifesting as a dude, and I decided that I wanted to do them all post-transition,ā said Parisi. āNext, I did Mount Elbrus in Russia and then I did Aconcagua in South America, not too far from where I’m sitting right now.ā
Parisi, 45, reflected on both her climb 16,050 feet to the summit of Vinson Massif in Antarctica, and her plans to return later this year to the tallest spot in North America: Mount Denali, 20,310 feet above sea level. Not the highest of the seven summits but considered by many experienced climbers to be the hardest.
āLast year, we got flattened by wind,ā said Parisi, who was disappointed that neither she nor anyone on her team were able to reach the summit due to those conditions and injuries. āI want to go back and have a little chat with Denali.ā
It certainly was challenging for Parisi, who hurt her hand so badly in last summerās attempt, during Pride Month, that she requires surgery. She posted on Instagram back then, that she thought she had dislocated a finger in a rush to set up camp as they ascended to 14K feet, and it set off doubts that made her question continuing. Alone for two days, stranded for a total of six days in subzero temperatures by a vicious wind storm with gusts up to 60 mph, Parisi wrote that she ārested, journaled, meditated, shed a few tears,ā and decided āClimbing isnāt about holding on, itās about letting go.ā
Good thing she did; It turns out Parisi did more than dislocate a finger.
āThere are a series of tendons that come down your pointer finger and around the base of your palm, called the volar plate, and that tendon got stuck in some climbing gear,ā she said. āIt looks like a dislocation. When it happened, I relocated it pretty quickly, but the pain was kind of unbearable for the next week or two. So, I finally went to the doctor last fall and they looked at it and they said, āIt’s not going to get better. You tore up the ligaments and broken the volar plate.ā So, I have to have that reconstructed.ā
That means she lived with that injury for four months and even climbed Vinson Massif without the benefit of her dominant right hand. Parisi credits her wife with finally convincing her to get it looked at.
āI just figured I was getting old, and it was sore, but she talked me into going to the doctor eventually,ā said Parisi, uttering the words every spouse loves to see in print. āYeah, she was right, like usual!ā
Next up, Parisi said she will make a second attempt to conquer Mount Denali in Alaska. āThat’s going to be next, sometime in summer of 2022.ā And then next year: Mount Everest, the last of the seven summits, and at 29,050 feet, the tallest.
ā2023 is the 70th anniversary of Sir Edmund Hillary and Tenzing Norgayās expedition, and we want to be up there for the 70th anniversary,ā she said. āI think it’s a little-known fact that Edmund Hillary and Tenzing Norgay had a trans member on their team. And we want to tell her story.ā That would be the story of Jan Morris, a journalist for The Times of London, who died in 2020.
Given her location, Parisi has been out of touch with news of the world as well as whatās been happening with her wife and their nine-year-old child in Colorado. She also missed both Christmas and New Yearās as well as her birthday. Well, almost missed, thanks to a surprise celebration organized by her fellow climbers and organizers back home, which she shared on Instagram.
āMy team and the @climbingsevensummits team surprised me by serving dessert bubbles š„ and cheesecake, and leading the entire camp in 2 rounds of āHappy Birthday.ā I was completely embarrassed, but my mind was set at ease and I warmed to the idea that I might just fit with this crew climbing through New Year.ā
Parisi really needed that boost; She was having doubts again. āImposter syndrome is real, and after missing the Denali summit last May, I was confident I didnāt belong here,ā she wrote on Instagram. That feeling stemmed from feeling as if she was āthe only trans personā on the continent, not just last month, but ever.
When she returned to civilization, the Los Angeles Blade caught her up on the latest controversies dogging the transgender population: hate directed at both UPenn swimmer Lia Thomas and Jeopardy! champion Amy Schneider, simply because theyāre winning their respective competitions.
āI don’t understand it, with the Jeopardy! champion, either, because, there’s no way to say she has any advantage, or that it’s unfair to anyone, or that she’s taken something from anyone else. I mean, there’s just no argument to disparage her by,ā said Parisi. āIt blows my mind how stubborn people are just recognizing somebody’s right to exist. Live and let live. And I’m hoping that 2022 somehow will be a better year.ā
Parisi is active in promoting transgender rights, and the flag she carries on every expedition incorporates the trans pride flag designed by Monica Helms. āWe really take pride in putting the pink, blue and white up there,ā she said. āI climb these summits just to kind of remind myself and remind the world that you can be yourself and you can enjoy the things you enjoy. You don’t have to make a choice.ā
Other than her lifelong love of mountain climbing, which she told TripAdvisor last summer began when she was climbing trees at age 6, Parisi said she finds joy in every part of living her authentic life.
āI find joy in the outdoors. I find joy in breathing the fresh air. I find joy in my nine-year-old child. I convinced myself I was unlovable, and now I have probably, not even probably, hands down, the most loving relationship that I’ve ever had in my life, post-transition. I find great joy in being loved and loving. I love cooking and just everything about life is better, when you’re yourself.ā
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Follow Parisiās adventures on Instagram at @transending7 and learn more about her mission and how to support her nonprofit organization at transending7.org
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Former UMD basketball player Abby Meyers discusses lesbians in sports, March Madness
Potomac native signed with the London Lions last August
Star basketball player Abby Meyers signed with the London Lions last August, but she called Maryland home before calling the shots in London.
Meyers, a lesbian shooting guard, grew up in Potomac and graduated from Walt Whitman High School in 2017. She played for Princeton in her undergraduate years and played for the University of Maryland during graduate school.
She began playing basketball in elementary school, and she was already showing an abundance of potential by the time she was in high school.
In her freshman year of high school, the schoolās basketball coach sat down with Meyers and her family and showed them a list of universities with Division I basketball teams. Meyers circled the names of the schools that she was interested in attending. From there, the doors leading to a collegiate basketball career began to open. She began working towards her dream and ended up playing for Princeton.
āIt was kind of like a mutual understanding between the two of us, me and basketball,ā Meyers told the Washington Blade. āI took more individual lessons, and I just realized that the potential was sky high.ā
She came back to her home state to attend the University of Maryland not only for its business program but also for its celebrated basketball team.
āI grew up watching Alyssa Thomas, Shatori Walker-Kimbrough and so many other legends that passed through that program,ā Meyers said. āSo for me, I knew that basketball-wise, it was the best decision I could make. ā¦ They definitely had all of the qualities to make me the best player I could be.ā
Before shipping off to London, Meyers briefly played in the WNBA for the Washington Mystics in the summer of 2023. In fact, the aforementioned UMD alum Shatori Walker-Kimbrough was one of her teammates.
She described her time with the WNBA and in London so far as a ālearning experience.ā
āI got to relearn what it meant to be a rookie again,ā Meyers said. āAll of a sudden you enter a new team, a new level and you’re at the bottom, and you just have to let your actions speak louder than your words.ā
Meyers publicly came out around 2019, and since then she has been a role model for many other lesbian women in sports.
āBy coming out I’m actually being my authentic self, but I was scared that people were going to judge me and look at me differently when in fact, I was met with open arms, love, and appreciation,ā Meyers said.
Meyers believes the journey one takes to coming out is an individual process that looks different for everyone.
āAt the end of the day, it’s your own race; run it at your own pace,ā Meyers said. āNever be apologetic for who you are. When you have to start compromising yourself and your values for other people like though thatās not the community you want to be a part of.ā
She has not experienced much anti-LGBTQ stigma since coming out, but that does not mean that it does not exist in other sports communities. However, in this modern social climate, Meyers pointed out, people are much more accepting of gay women in sports.
Nina Hazra, a University of Maryland medical student, grew up playing basketball with Meyers. The two were on the same team in middle school, but they went to different high schools and would often play against each other.
Hazra did not play much past high school, but she remained close friends with her former teammate and rival to this day. She went to most of the home games during Meyersā stint at UMD.
Though Hazra does not identify with the LGBTQ community, she noticed a tension in the sports world that affects all women, regardless of sexuality. However, with todayās shifting climate, it has become easier for female athletes to express their identities
āWomen who express strong emotions in sports are often treated differently than men who do the exact same thing,ā Hazra said in an interview. āI feel like as we’ve gotten older, there’s been a lot more celebration of womanhood in whatever form in sports, and I think that’s one of the places where you can then kind of go outside those societal norms.ā
But Hazra still noticed the impact Meyers had on younger generations in sports who may be struggling with their identities.
āIt doesn’t matter your sexuality, your gender identity, all that stuff. That doesn’t matter when you’re playing a sport,ā Hazra said. āA lot of us didn’t have role models in those years growing up and just to get to see her being that for so many girls is so amazing.ā
Elisa Pinzan, also a former Terrapin, is good friends with Meyers.
Originally from Italy, Pinzan played for the University of South Florida for four years before entering the transfer portal and landing at UMD. She now plays for Keflavik IF in Iceland.
Pinzan and Meyers formed a strong bond while playing for the Terrapins together.
āShe was the first person I got close to; she is very open, smiley and friendly, and I felt comfortable around her from the first day,ā Pinzan described. āI am glad to have met someone like Abby, with such a kind soul.ā
Pinzan thought that fans should keep their eyes peeled for the Terrapins this upcoming March Madness season.
āThey are a very young team with energy, enthusiasm and grit on the floor, and I think they are a lot better than the record they have,ā Pinzan wrote about the Terrapins in an interview. āDespite being young though, they are learning a lot every game and I am sure they will be able to transfer these lessons for the best time of the year coming up.ā
Meyers agreed that there is a lot to look forward to this March Madness. She said that with Coach Brenda Freseās game plans and strong assistant staff, the Terrapins have a strong chance of advancing throughout the competition.
According to Meyers, March Madness will be different for womenās basketball this year, pointing out that itās more popular right now than menās games, as womenās basketball is selling out arenas.
āI only think it’s gonna get better and it’s going to grow even more,ā Meyers said. āJust the marketing, the social media, the overall awareness of the women’s game. Fans are growing by the number.ā
Meyers believes that female basketball players have to rely more on their skill than their athleticism, which she believes makes womenās games just as ā if not more ā exciting than menās games. She said that over the past few years, there has been a strong shift in womenās viewership that has shrunk the gap between menās and womenās basketball, including from a technical standpoint, given that men and women play with the same level of equipment.
Regardless of where UMD ends up this March Madness, Meyers will be cheering the Terrapins on from across the pond ā especially the women.
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Banned trans golfer Hailey Davidson: āHate and bigotry will never win’
NXXT mandates players must be ābiological female at birthā
Transgender pro golfer Hailey Davidson is pushing back against a policy change announced Friday by the Florida-based mini-tour, NXXT. From now on, competitors must be āa biological female at birthā in order to participate.
āEffective immediately, I have been removed (banned) from the next three NXXT tournaments that I had already signed up for and been approved to play,ā said Davidson in a post on Instagram. āThey changed their policy mid season, after signing me up already and being 2nd in the Player of the Year race.āĀ
The three-time winner from Scotland has played nine times on the tour this season.
According to a statement by the tourās CEO, Stuart McKinnon, the change underscores the organizationās commitment to āmaintaining the integrity of womenās professional golf and ensuring fair competition.ā NXXT Golf issued that statement on International Womenās Day.
āAs we navigate through the evolving landscape of sports, it is crucial to uphold the competitive integrity that is the cornerstone of womenās sports,ā said McKinnon in the statement. āOur revised policy is a reflection of our unwavering commitment to celebrating and protecting the achievements and opportunities of female athletes. Protected categories are a fundamental aspect of sports at all levels and it is essential for our Tour to uphold these categories for biological females, ensuring a level playing field.ā
Davidson said the policy change in her social media post was discrimination, adding that the decision denigrates cisgender female athletes as well as trans athletes.
āYou know what really bugs me is that people think I win just by showing up,ā she wrote. āThis is such a slap in the face to ALL female athletes being told that any male can transition and beat them regardless of the life of hard work those women put in.
āYou think youāre attacking me, but youāre actually attacking and putting down ALL other female athletes.ā
She concluded with a vow: āYou can scream at me, threaten me, throw insults at me, and even ban me BUT I will ALWAYS get back up and keep fighting to the very end. Hate and bigotry will never win.ā
Davidson also posted a message for the women she had planned to compete against: āI hope those NXXT players who are now in the top five are still able to earn those Epson Tour exemptions they were promised and continue to be reminded of in the previous couple of tournaments.ā
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Gay figure skater Colin Grafton shares his story and his dream
Boston native is contestant on British televisionās ‘Dancing On Ice’
For a second year, Boston native and professional figure skater Colin Grafton is carving up the ice on British televisionās āDancing On Ice,ā and now heās doing it as his authentic self.
āI told my closest friends. I told the people around me and I eventually told my parents,ā Grafton, 32, recalled in an interview with PinkNews, in which he discussed coming out as gay. āI was maybe 24 when all that happened. I know thereās a lot of curiosity about my sexual orientation and my love life, but I never actually came out to the public,ā said ITV personality.
āI guess this is me announcing it to you guys.ā
Grafton, who has been skating since he was 7, reflected on how watching Tara Lipinski win an Olympic gold medal at the 1998 Winter Games inspired him to pursue this career. But being a male figure skater was āreally toughā in the 1990s and 2000s, he told PinkNewsUK.
āI remember feeling so nervous at various points in my childhood,ā said Grafton. āIād be skating and the hockey players would come and bang on the side of the rink and shout words. That was something all male skaters had to deal with back then. It wasnāt easy but all of it made me stronger because I took it and focused everything on my sport.ā
Graftonās focus catapulted him to competing for Team USA, winning a bronze medal at the Junior U.S. championships in 2012, with his former partner Kylie Duarte. The memory of those who taunted him only fueled him to work harder.
āWhen somebody tells you, you canāt do something, or somebody makes fun of you, just prove them wrong.ā
Grafton ended his competitive career in 2013 and transitioned to professional skating, leading several European tours, and even becoming a coach. Then came the COVID-19 pandemic.
āI feel very fortunate about the fact that Iāve been able to kind of dabble in so many different areas in the professional world, but tour life is quite hard, all the travel and being away for so long,ā he said. āSo, when āDancing on Iceā came up, I jumped on it.ā That was in 2023.
The program is broadcast Sunday nights on ITVās Channel 3 from studios in Bovingdon, a village in Hertfordshire about an hour northwest of London. During that first season, Grafton made history being paired with āRuPaul Drag Raceā star The Vivienne, the first drag performer on the show and the first time āDancing On Iceā featured a same-sex team. They made it all the way to the finals, finishing in third place.
āBeing a part of that representation, being a part of that team, it was just wonderful,ā he said. āThe support we got from everyone was just fantastic. If Iām honest, I didnāt really understand the impact that it would make in the end.ā
And at the conclusion of last season, Grafton finally found time to read the many messages of encouragement from fans, as well as from viewers who wrote, āSeeing us helped them and gave them the courage to either come out or be themselves,ā he said. āIt was truly something.ā
And now, as a regular on the showās 16th season, Grafton has decided he wants everyone to know who he really is, and in doing so, show others they are not alone.
āIf Iām honest, I never really felt the need to announce it before, but the reason I am saying this now, is because I want to show that there is representation in any way I canā, the TV personality explains.
Along the way to self-acceptance, Grafton revealed he had a lot of āsmall steps and small triumphsā leading him to finally feel comfortable being himself in the public eye. āIt was on my own terms,ā he said, and feels āblessedā to have found support among friends.
āItās been a long journey but now I am proud of myself and Iām proud of my sexual orientation and I want to let other people know that they should be proud of every part of themselves too,ā said Grafton, acknowledging he had concerns about coming out publicly. āI was really nervous of doing that to myself. It was like, āOK, if I come out as gay then people are going to think Iām this or that,ā when in reality the human sexuality spectrum is so vast and itās just one small part of the person you are.ā
But appearing in primetime on such a popular TV show means that Grafton is the target of speculation about his personal life. He admits to having ālived and breathed skatingā until finally getting in a relationship at age 24, around the same time he decided to come out to friends and family.
While that lasted two and a half years, Graftonās frequent travel commitments and work on the ice left him no other chance for love. āI just didnāt really have an opportunity,ā he said. āYou might meet someone while youāre on a contract for six months and after that, youāre both off in different directions, so, I wasnāt really able to hold down a relationship because of that.ā
But now that London is his home, Grafton told PinkNewsUK he feels ready to settle down. His perfect match? Someone local and appreciative of his business obligations.
āWe live really crazy fast-paced lives as skaters,ā he said. āPersonally, I want to meet someone who is also fast-paced and able to keep up with that, but they donāt have to be a fellow skater. I just want someone who supports me and I can support them, too.ā
āAt the end of the day, weāre all just humans doing our thing on this planet and trying to find love.ā
Until he does, Grafton said he is excited to keep skating on television.
āI absolutely love āDancing on Ice.ā Every season that Iām asked to do it, I feel like Iām blessed and I feel very lucky to be able to keep doing the show. I would love to continue doing it while I can or while my body allows me to as well,ā he said. And when it doesnāt? Grafton imagines he might try his hand at acting.
āI think thatās what life is all about,ā he said. āLearning new things and pushing yourself to do other things.ā
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