Arts & Entertainment
Still hitting us with their best shot
Neil ‘Spyder’ Giraldo on his long musical partnership with wife Pat Benatar

Pat Benatar and longtime musical collaborator and husband Neil Giraldo. (Photo courtesy the couple)
Cher with Pat Benatar and Neil Giraldo
“D2K Tour”
Friday
8 p.m.
Verizon Center
601 F St. N.W.
Pat Benatar and Neil “Spyder” Giraldo share a rock ‘n roll fairy tale that isn’t the norm in the music world. She sings, he plays guitar and Giraldo also serves as producer and arranger. Together, the couple has written Top 40 hits such as “Love is a Battlefield,” “Hit Me with Your Best Shot,” “Heartbreaker,” “Promises In The Dark” and “We Belong.”
More impressively, they have been happily married for more than three decades.
“When we first started playing together, we were each other’s muse and there was no relationship involved and we started a partnership, entrusting our musical abilities in each other,” Giraldo says. “Our being around together so long and so much, we became romantically involved and that became our priority. Now, when we get off stage, we are just Mr. and Mrs. Giraldo.”
When the couple plays the Verizon Center tonight, it will be a celebration of 35 years together — both as partners on the stage and off. Not that their fairytale love doesn’t have the usual kinks every couple faces. Giraldo says they experience the same arguments that any married couple has — they’ve just learned to put them aside when it’s time to perform.
“Even if we have an argument beforehand, when we hit the stage, we are just Pat and Neil, those people you have always known and loved,” Giraldo says. “The endorphins kick in and that’s helpful and your attitude changes and by the time you come off, we forget what we were arguing about. It’s a gift from God to get us through the day.”
The pair will share the bill at Verizon with Cher and later this summer will co-headline a tour with fellow ’80s legend Rick Springfield.
“I’ve known both of them forever and this is the first time that we will be going out on tour together, so it’s something I am looking forward to as well,” Springfield says. “Not a lot of people know this, but Spyder played guitar on ‘Jessie’s Girl’ (and also co-produced it), so he plays an important part of my history.”
Playing with fellow musical icons is nothing new for Benatar and Giraldo; in fact, over the years they have played with a who’s who of ’80s rock, including Journey, Loverboy, REO Speedwagon, the Bangles, Blondie and Cheap Trick.
“Let’s face it, not everyone wants to spend money to see a concert, but when you combine a couple of favorites in one show, it’s just a win-win for everyone,” Giraldo says. “Fans like it and shows like this should have been done more back in the early days, but I think egos probably got in the way a lot more back then.”
For the Verizon concert, Giraldo says to expect plenty of hits as well as some new stuff and “the best of the bunch of the rest. There will be some surprises and we’ll make you tired as hell by the time we’re done.”
Although Benatar prefers to let her music do the talking, the man they call Spyder is always happy to be front and center with interviews as he says his personality is much better suited for it. Still, he shares that his lovely wife still enjoys being on stage as much as he does and they are both always so touched to see so many fans.
“Sometimes I look out at the crowd and go, ‘Wow, lots of these people are really old. Wait, I’m really old!’ But they are in their T-shirts and singing along and we go back in time,” he says. “Then you see those kids whose parents grew up with our music and so they listened to it, and that’s great to see.”
And don’t expect the lovebirds to stop touring anytime soon. Giraldo says there’s no slowing down in them.
“From the very beginning our chemistry was undeniable. This is the driving force behind everything we do,” Giraldo says. “After 35 years of playing together, we’re looking forward to the summer tour and the future, which will surely be adventurous.”
Out & About
Blade Foundation to host fundraiser in Rehoboth on Sept. 12
Mayor-elect Stewart, state Rep. Snyder-Hall to give remarks
The Washington Blade Foundation will host a fundraiser on Saturday, Sept. 12 in Rehoboth Beach featuring remarks from Rehoboth’s Mayor-elect Susan Stewart and Delaware state Rep. Claire Snyder-Hall.
The Foundation funds fellowships for aspiring queer journalists and enterprise journalism projects.
The event will be held at a private home in Rehoboth. Tickets are $100 and include open bar from Diego’s, catered appetizers from the Blue Moon, entertainment, guest speakers, and an auction. Tickets are available here.
Books
New book examines fashionista Audrey Smaltz’s fabulous life
‘Every Inch a Lady’ reveals finding true love with another woman
‘Every Inch a Lady’
By Audrey Smaltz with Alina Mitchell
c.2026, Amistad
$27.99/256 pages
Snaps, zippers, buttons, ties.
Toss that garment on, pull it up, wrap it around, you know what you like and how to wear it. The color is perfect for your skin tone, the fabric enhances your form. Yep, you always look your best and, as in the new book “Every Inch a Lady” by Audrey Smaltz (with Alina Mitchell), that best is fabulous.

”Born, bred, toasted, buttered, jellied, and honeyed in Harlem” in 1937, Audrey Smaltz was a force to be reckoned with almost from the time she could walk. Her parents imbued confidence in her, they nurtured her creativity and sent her to charm school, but they never allowed her to create a stir.
“That,” says Smaltz, “is not what ladies did.”
By the time she was a teenager, Smaltz was modeling for New York City designers. Shortly thereafter, she started working for a married man with whom she had an affair, and whom she loved very much. She broke up with him, attended college, worked a series of jobs that taught her about fashion and jobs that didn’t seem to fit her. An ill-fated marriage took her to Chicago where she ultimately landed a position that sent her to work in Ebony magazine’s New York office.
Working at Ebony was a career-changer, in a way. Smaltz was able to travel the world and learn more about fashion, but she didn’t exactly get along with her boss.
Finally, seizing an opportunity, Smaltz decided to launch her own company, Audrey Smaltz, Inc., a “fashion production business,” but she couldn’t get any designers to take a chance on her. Undaunted, she reorganized, re-branded, hit the streets, and knocked on doors until she finally found one client, which led to many others.
Through it all, her personal life was a whirlwind. She dated “more men than you can shake a book at,” settling down occasionally, briefly. Fashion had always been her first love, but she accidentally found real love, “the love of a woman,” at a leadership course.
There’s an old saying that writers need to add lots of “color” into their stories. Read a little of “Every Inch a Lady,” and you’ll notice immediately that author Audrey Smaltz (with Alina Mitchell) quite literally takes that to heart by mentioning nearly every color of the spectrum here. Hmm.
That oddity aside, Smaltz is a wonderfully lively storyteller, speaking with the energy of a woman much younger to the heart of anyone who loves fashion. That glee extends to collectors of vintage clothing, who will be delighted to read about the industry long ago and the way things worked then. Smaltz says she experienced racism, which is not unusual for pre-Civil Rights America, but doors were surprisingly closed for other reasons that will astound anyone who’s savvy about the fashion industry, even today.
There’s quite a bit of name-dropping in this book but most of it belongs in the anecdotes, so you likely won’t mind. If you’re a fashionista, too, find “Every Inch a Lady,” and snap it up.
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Theater
Actress takes on bisexual ‘Ma’ Rainey in new Round House production
Haskins relishes playing ‘impassioned Black woman who sticks to her guns’
‘Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom’
Sept. 9-Oct. 11
Round House Theatre
4545 East-West Highway
Bethesda, MD 20814
$50 and up
Roundhousetheatre.org
Among the Black blues women of the 1920s and 1930s, being “in the life” wasn’t uncommon. Self-supporting and often on the road, they followed the Great Northern Migration to places like Chicago and Harlem, where they lived independent lives, made music, enjoyed same-sex relationships, and partied with like-minded ladies.
Gertrude “Ma” Rainey, best known as the “mother of the blues,” fit the bill. A big star, Ma toured the country and sold hit records nationwide. She lived an openly bisexual life.
In 1925, hosting an “indecent” all-female party at a Chicago apartment, landed Ma in jail, but blues singer Bessie Smith, Ma’s protégée and erstwhile girlfriend, promptly bailed her out. Three years later, Ma released a popular track whose lyrics included “Went out last night with a crowd of my friends / They must’ve been women, ’cause I don’t like no men.”
She was also a woman who knew her value. Ma’s voice was a powerful passport.
Ma Rainey is the ultimate force of strength and resistance in August Wilson’s 1982 play, “Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom,” the first of the late playwright’s brilliant Century Cyle, a collection of mostly Pittsburgh-set plays that chronicle the 20th century African-American experience.
Poised to kick off a month-long run at Round House (Sept. 9-Oct. 11), the production (co-produced with Olney Theatre Center) is directed by Lili-Anne Brown and features out actor and powerhouse vocalist Nicole Michelle Haskins making her Round House debut as Ma Rainey.
Set in a Chicago recording studio in 1927, the drama follows Ma, her Black band members and white producers as they try to record a new album of her sons. Tensions over artistic control, racial exploitation, and personal ambitions come to the fore. Amid the difficulties and a fair bit of humor, arises a serious clash involving hotheaded young trumpet player Levee (Yao Dogbe) who wants to alter musical arrangements on the titular song.
Playing blues icon Ma Rainey wasn’t on Haskins’s radar. Because the bulk of her work is in musical theater, Haskins never foresaw being tapped to do a Wilson play.
“It’s kind of like Shakespeare. Not restrictive but respected; not everyone gets a ticket to the party. So, I figured that I just wouldn’t pursue that,” she says matter-of-factly.
However, fate would dictate differently. Haskins and director Brown are longtime friends and collaborators. They recently worked together on “The Color Purple” at Chicago’s prestigious Goodman Theatre where Haskins played Sofia, another powerful Black woman who, not unlike Ma, is navigating life in a patriarchal white world.
When the opportunity came up to play Ma at Round House, Brown encouraged Haskins to audition. She did and got the part. “I’m so grateful to be working with a wonderful director like Lili-Anne, especially during my introduction to Wilson’s work. He is a theater god, and I’m swept every day.”
And is it special to be queer and playing queer? “For me, it’s special to play any role where there is an impassioned Black woman who sticks to her guns and fights for the things she deserves. Her sexuality is the icing on the cake.”
The production adheres to Wilson’s text and the text describes a woman who is in a relationship with another woman. Though her sexuality is provocative, it’s not the only thing about her that’s compelling. She’s also portrayed as an artist, businesswoman, and a loving aunt.
Haskins, a New York-based actor who made her name on the Chicago theater scene, grew up in Detroit. At 12, she became involved with the Mosaic Youth Theatre of Detroit; after high school she went on to earn a BFA at Detroit’s Wayne State University. Detroit is also where Haskins learned storytelling: “It’s very natural for a Detroit native to greet people on the street. There’s an expectation to be open to someone else’s story and to share your own. I’ve done this many times.”
Queer characters are famously underrepresented in Wilson’s work. “I see that, but do we really know for sure? After the first day’s read through of the play, some of the actors, for different reasons, wondered if in addition to Ma, perhaps one or two of the other characters might be queer too. Now wouldn’t that be interesting? That’s something I’d like to see.”
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