Opinions
Obama fails to protect gay Saudi diplomat
Gulf States immune to criticism from this administration


US Secretary of State John Kerry met with the King of Saudi Arabia, Abdullah bin Abdulaziz Al Saud. (Photo public domain)
By ALI AL-AHMAD & MATTHEW MAINEN
The United States must demonstrate that when Secretary of State John Kerry spoke of Americaās commitment to defending the rights of āour LGBT brothers and sisters around the world,ā he was serious. No stronger message can be sent by granting asylum to former Saudi diplomat Ali Asseri, who has been unable to return to Saudi Arabia since being outed by colleagues at the Los Angeles consulate in 2010.
Protecting the rights of foreigners under the jurisdiction of their respective states is a daunting task, but when those foreigners find themselves in the United States, protection is relatively straightforward and imperative. Those from the Gulf States, however, often find that foreign policy considerations can dangerously encroach upon domestic decisions.
The United States rarely takes steps against the Gulfās status quo, which includes refusing the presence of those perceived as disrupting or otherwise failing to conform to the regimes archaic social orders. This is perhaps best evidenced by the cases of three of Bahrainās most prominent civil rights activists: Hassan Mushama, Abdul-Hadi Khawaja and Abdul-Jalil al-Signace. The former two were outright stripped of their U.S. visas while the latterās visa was not renewed. All three now sit in jail with life sentences and have fallen victim to torture.
Whereas some allies, such as Israel, can expect prominent and harsh public criticism, the Gulf States are virtually immune. Substantial criticism is almost exclusively buried in ponderous and largely ignored State Department publications.
This is intentional. For too long, Washington has operated under a flawed belief that pushing for modest social reform in friendly despotic regimes will lead to a rupture in relations. Even if this line of reasoning had a modicum of credibility in the past, the Gulf States now find themselves so dependent on the United States in balancing Iran that they cannot afford retaliation.
Just as successive administrations have comfortably applied pressure on Israel regarding matters related to its internal affairs, so too can the Obama administration apply this strategy elsewhere in the region.Ā Making clear to Saudi Arabia that sustaining a threatening environment for LGBT people will not bring about an unfriendly coup.
In fact, an argument could be made that the rise of the Muslim Brotherhood in Egypt can partially be attributed to a lack of Western support for organizations espousing liberal values. Granting Asseri asylum would demonstrate to Saudi Arabia that it can no longer expect most favored nation status in avoiding censure.
Rather than doing this, however, the United States has gone out of its way to deport Asseri, the first Arab and Muslim diplomat to come out as gay. At his mid-February hearing in Los Angeles, the U.S. government attorney insisted on deporting Asseri to Saudi Arabia and promised that she will appeal any decision by the judge to grant him asylum, a rare act in such cases.
When the judge was about to begin the hearing, the government attorney claimed that she was not ready as she was allegedly missing some relevant documents. This appears to have been a deliberate attempt to delay the case at least one more year. The court date was set more than two years ago, enough time for the U.S. government to be more than ready.
The United States simply does not want to make a move that would embarrass the Saudi monarchy, especially at a time when relations are tense due to Obamaās decision to pursue negotiations with Iran in addition to failing to attack Syria.
It is no secret that consecutive American administrations have been ignoring the various human rights violations by the Saudi monarchy, but to ignore American laws to please an autocratic monarchy that kills gay people is beyond reprehensible.
Asseriās case does not bode well for Americans if their government places a greater importance on pleasing a foreign power than upholding domestic values. This case has been a failure for Obamaās personal credibility on gay rights issues and human rights in general.
Ali al-Ahmad is director of the Institute for Gulf Affairs. Matthew Mainen is a policy analyst at the Institute for Gulf Affairs.

President Felon has decided the presidency is too much for him to handle, and has in essence turned it over to Elon Musk. He will instead chair the Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts, Board of Trustees, and work to destroy that institution. I wonder if Trump even knows the history of the Kennedy Center, or its mission.
He could easily find out if he looked at its website. āIn 1958, a Republican president, Dwight D. Eisenhower, signed bipartisan legislation creating a National Cultural Center in the nationās capital.Ā In November of 1962, President and Mrs. Kennedy launched a $30 million fundraising campaign for the Centerās construction. Former President Eisenhower and his wife Mamie participated in the event, which demonstrated the bipartisan support for a world-class center for the performing arts in D.C.Ā In 1963, President Kennedy signed legislation to extend the fundraising deadline for the Center.Ā Two months after President Kennedyās assassination, by an Act of Congress signed into law by President Lyndon B. Johnson on Jan. 23, 1964, the nationās National Cultural Center was designated as a living memorial to President John F. Kennedy. By this Act, President Kennedyās devotion to the advancement of the performing arts in the United States was recognized.āĀ
The mission of the Center is also there. āThe Centerās mission is established in its authorizing statute: present classical and contemporary music, opera, drama, dance, and other performing arts from the United States and other countries; promote and maintain the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts as the National Center for the Performing Arts; strive to ensure that the education and outreach programs and policies of the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts meet the highest level of excellence and reflect the cultural diversity of the United States; provide facilities for other civic activities at the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts; and provide within the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts a suitable memorial in honor of the late President.ā To fulfill the mission as the nationās cultural center, the Kennedy Center presents world-class art by the artists that define our culture today, delivers powerful arts education opportunities nationwide, and embodies the ideals of President Kennedy in all the Centerās activities provided throughout the living memorial.
Clearly, with the federal government, and the world in chaos, much of that due to his recent decisions, Trump seems to have determined ending drag shows at the Kennedy Center will be his number one priority. Iāve been thinking maybe he wants to go down in history in the same way as Nero, āwho fiddled while Rome burned.ā
It is perplexing, at the advanced age of 78, Donald Trump has decided to become the nationās culture czar. The man who has likely never sat through an entire play, or concert, and who knows less than nothing, about the arts. On the other hand, this is no more ludicrous than his being president for a second term with still no real knowledge of what the various federal agencies, he has now given control of to Musk, actually do. Why is the free press, those that still exist, not asking him, or even his Press Secretary Karoline Leavitt specific questions about this. Asking them if they know what USAID actually does. Can they name the programs, do they know how much money Iowa farmers will lose if USAID closes. Then ask if they know what the Department of Education does, what percentage of the money spent nationally on education comes through them? What role does the Department play in the education of children with disabilities, and those who are poor, and qualify for title one funding? What role do they play in the lives of the countless of millions of people with disabilities through the Rehabilitation Services Administration, which is in the Department of Education. Do they know the history of that being moved from what was HEW in 1980 when the Department was set up by Congress? Do they know or care about the Civil Rights work of the Department of Education? We know as a racist, and homophobe, Trump likely doesnāt care about that.
I keep imagining Trump and Musk standing together in front of a mirror. One sees himself reflected back as Hitler, the other as Mussolini. Maybe, in his new role as chair of the Board of Trustees of the Kennedy Center, Trump can commission a new play on this. A possible title could be āMusk and his mistress, an American tragedy.ā
Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist.
Opinions
Romance and sobriety can mix with the right steps
Seek guidance, engage in community, focus on positivity

With Valentineās Day upon us, there can be pressure to do something nice for that special person. The day offers profound joy and significant challenges for those who take it to heart. While many participate and celebrate in their own way, countless others may avoid it at all costs.
For individuals in recovery from substance use and addiction, dating, and relationships can carry an added layer of complexity as sobriety and personal growth intersect with the emotional demands of intimacy. Fortunately, there are practical tips for sober dating and community resources in Washington, D.C., for those recovering from substance use.Ā
There are challenges in romantic relationships because of the inherently unpredictable nature of romance. Anyone going through anything challenging in their life knows this to be true when romance enters their life at a difficult time, such as recovery from a substance use disorder. Unfortunately, for those in recovery, engaging in social situations like dating that might involve alcohol or drugs, often a feature of modern dating, can be triggering.
According to the National Survey on Drug Use and Health, 22.96% of Washington, D.C. adults 18 and older used illicit drugs in the past month. Drug Abuse Statistics also indicate that 22.5% of D.C. adults over 18 binge drink at least once per month.Ā
Within the LGBTQ community, these issues are often amplified because of strained family relationships and individuals struggling with sobriety and romantic relationships. According to SAMHSA, sexual minority adults were more likely than straight adults to have had a substance use disorder in the past year. About one-third of bisexual males, bisexual females, and gay males had a substance use disorder in the past year, along with one-fourth of lesbian females.
Romance and sobriety can mix with the proper steps and do not have to be avoided. For example, prioritize your recovery and make sobriety the non-negotiable foundation of your life. Before entering into a relationship, have confidence in your ability to maintain your recovery.
Most importantly, be honest with those you are beginning a relationship with, whether in recovery or not. Transparency about your recovery journey can set the tone for a healthy relationship. Discuss your boundaries and triggers early to avoid misunderstandings.
Building trust requires open and honest communication about past struggles and current goals. Clear expectations about triggers and personal needs can create a safe environment for both partners.
When you are dating, choose sober-friendly activities. Choose dates that donāt center around alcohol or drugs. Hiking, art classes, coffee meet-ups, playing sports, going for walks, casual lunches, or visiting museums can provide fun, sober alternatives. Be creative, and search locally for things to do. Exploring activities and creating routines that support a sober lifestyle can deepen the bond and reduce risks.
Finally, lean on your support network. Stay connected with sponsors, therapists, or support groups to process emotions that arise during dating and relationships. According to the D.C. Department of Health, 10.7% of District of Columbia adults identified as either lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. LGBT adults were more likely than their non-LGBT counterparts to report 15-30 days of mental health not being good, which includes stress, depression, and problems with emotions.
Some support resources in the area include the DC LGBTQ+ Community Center, which serves as a vital resource for the LGBTQ community, supporting health and wellness. In addition, there are resources through the D.C. Office of Human Rights LGBTQIA+ resource portal. Finally, there is the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, which can be reached anytime to talk to a trained crisis counselor who can help if you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, substance use, mental health crises, or emotional distress.
If Valentine’s Day and the pursuit of romance create obstacles, seek guidance, engage in community, and focus on positivity.
Romantic relationships in recovery require a balance of vulnerability, self-awareness, and unwavering commitment to sobriety. By addressing challenges head-on and embracing the growth opportunities, individuals in recovery can experience fulfilling and meaningful connections.
Marie Garceau has been working in the field of substance use and addiction recovery for over a decade. She works at DRS and primarily focuses on reaching out to the community and spreading awareness.
Opinions
Trump’s anti-immigration policies inspire similar efforts around the world
Individual rights, dignity, diversity now under threat in US

My personal experience with the American migration system is quite peculiar.
I left Russia, where I was a refugee, in 2018 after I had a serious problem with immigration authorities because of my LGBT activism. I left Russia for Israel because the tourist agency told me that Tel Aviv is the best place for me to get an American visa. My wife and I had an invitation to speak at an American disability rights conference about intersectionality, but we were secretly planning to ask for asylum in the U.S.
The U.S. denied our request for American visas. This led to a situation when we were stuck in Israel without our belongings, money, any right to work, or a proper status. Finally, four months later we had to move to the UK to ask for asylum. Iāve never had a chance to come to the U.S.
I have dreamed of living in the U.S since elementary school, but now Iām extremely glad that Iām not there.
I have been a queer refugee in three different countries, including the UK, where Iām living right now. So anti-immigration steps taken by the Trump administration have felt very disturbing and personal to me; not just because the U.S. is de facto the country of immigrants that became great because of them, but also because of the potential influence that the U.S.ās anti-immigration politics could have on the UK and Europe.
Nigel Farage’s Reform UK is taking the lead in a recent British voting intention poll, and one of the reasons is the outstanding support that billionaire Elon Musk shows to the party. Despite the fact that Musk has quite a complicated relationship with Farage, financial and propaganda support from Musk is able to change the British political climate.
Ordinary British people I have met and political analysts are asking themself whether it possible that MAGA is spreading anti-immigration and aggressive ideas to the UK, and if so, what it would mean for the UK sovereignty.
Reform party supporters were involved in anti-immigration pogroms that were happening in the UK in August 2024 and is also known for their anti-LGBT and especially anti-transgender policies.
Farage in June 2024 released a pre-election party manifesto in which he pledged to āban transgender ideologyā in schools, including stopping social transitioning for trans youth, insisting that ātransgender indoctrination is causing irreversible harm to children.ā Ageism and xenophobia are once again walking hand in hand with anti-LGBT policies.
Reform UK also promised to leave the European Convention on Human Rights and replace the Equality Act 2010, and those steps would definitely harm LGBT communities.
So, under the Reform Party, the ones who live at the intersection ā LGBT refugees, like me, and LGBT asylum seekers ā will be in particular danger, not just in Britain, but also in Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.
The far-right is gaining more and more power in the UK.
Thousands gathered in Central London on Feb. 1 to support British far-right influencer Tommy Robinson, who the British government has jailed. Robinson is also famous for his anti-immigration campaigns and transphobia and also gets political and financial support from Musk.
Some people in the demonstration were wearing āMake England Great Againā caps, an obvious reference to MAGA.
I, on the other hand, never in my life felt safe on a street before I came to the UK. It doesnāt matter who was in power ā Labour or the Tories ā in the country. I have never faced even one percent of the discrimination I experienced in Russia and Ukraine as an autistic person. When I came to the UK, it felt like time traveling to the future where diversity is accepted and celebrated. I can hardly imagine that if Reform comes to power, British society will suddenly change their attitude toward LGBT refugees. The law could become worse, but the ideas of universal human rights in the UK are too strong to be messed up so easily. At least I hope so.
Now LGBT rights activists in the UK are even thinking about welcoming trans* asylum seekers from the U.S. and helping them to get status and support in the UK. I spoke about this during a break with representatives of the Rainbow Migration group in London, soon after Donald Trump signed his transphobic executive orders.
Because American trans* people who work in the military and government are losing their jobs while the UK has the NHS ā a free medical healthcare system for everyone, including tourists and asylum seekers, free medical prescriptions for the poor ā and a lot of social support like free housing for asylum seekers, free solicitors, strong community support provided by charities, and so on, it is possible that some trans* people would now become refugees here.
The UK and European countries are, of course, not the most obvious choice, according to PinkNews. Some LGBT Americans are considering a more geographically close destination, such as Canada, as their possible destination.
I think it could sound surprising for some Americans, but most of the European Union countries are much less friendly toward refugees than the UK.
Musk’s attempts’ to promote MEGA, Make Europe Great Again, has even more chances to succeed in Germany, especially considering the level of support he shows to the Alternative to Germany party. AfD is also known for its support of Russia, which is using openly homophobic and transphobic rhetoric in justification of their war in Ukraine. Russian state propaganda says it is acceptable to kill civilians to stop the spread of an extremist LGBT ideology.
Muskās ideas that Germans should stop condemning the Holocaust together with AfD sympathy for Russia is an extremely dangerous situation for LGBT refugees. Even straight refugees in conservative-dominated Bavaria are wary of mentioning their support of LGBT people to local authorities.

All authoritarian regimes began their persecution by targeting the most vulnerable and marginalized people before they move to restrict freedoms for the entire population.
I learned about liberty, individual rights, dignity, and diversity as a child by watching American movies, but these values are now under threat in the U.S. And the American government is beginning to spread a completely opposite idea that is threatening universal human rights in Europe and beyond. It is now possible to stop the process, but it soon may become too late. I’m not so scared of Trump’s actions, but I am scared that not enough efforts have been made to oppose them in the U.S. and beyond.
Editorās note: The author uses trans* in order to be inclusive of nonbinary and gender queer people.
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