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Ex-boyfriend vanished as if UFO snatched him away

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(Editor’s note: This is the first of a two-part column. The next installment will be published in March.)

Lately, I’ve been thinking about aliens. 

Perhaps not aliens per se, but rather UFOs. In the last few years, Congressional hearings have confirmed the existence of what used to be science fiction—that for decades at least, our government has not only encountered UFOs but even recovered non-human biologics from UFO crash sites. 

This is fact, by the way. Look it up yourself. 

Still, my focus isn’t on the actual UFOs. Instead, I’m focused on the witnesses who claimed to have encountered them. These people were often written off as crazy—if they shared their truth at all, that is. Many kept their own encounters secret out of a founded fear of how others would perceive them. Some, we have come to learn, were coerced into silence at the command of our government. 

Have you seen any footage of witnesses interviewed today? Some are grown men who break down sobbing over the trauma. However, this trauma wasn’t because they encountered a UFO; the trauma was a result of the coverup. That is the fault of neither the witness nor the UFO, but rather those who dedicated precious time and resources to hiding the truth, alongside the society who judged them harshly for it. 

And to what end? The government appears just as confused about what’s happening as they did fifty years ago. I’d argue we would be closer to the truth today had the truth been told all along. 

Now that I’ve shared why aliens are on my mind, let’s dive into why. Alongside my next piece, I will tell a series of connected stories that are so eyebrow raising that people may attempt to write me off as crazy, just like the UFO witnesses. 

In October 2021, an interesting event occurred at the doorstep of my apartment. Half an hour earlier, a 24-year-old man I had dated briefly over the summer emailed me to ask if he could come over. When he arrived, I was immediately concerned. He appeared thin and deeply confused, carrying a shoebox of crumpled paper with writing on both the paper and the shoebox itself. While he couldn’t articulate what had happened, he made two clear requests: He did not want to return to his Navy Yard apartment, and he did not want to see his family. 

Initially I had pulled back dating him after initial signs of instability. For example, he apparently had an ex-boyfriend living with him in an expensive studio apartment, which I did not know until said ex-boyfriend walked in on us having sex. The ex-boyfriend exploded in anger. I, meanwhile, threw on my clothes and sped out of there. 

Months later, this 24-year-old appeared terrified of both his ex-boyfriend and his family. So, under the guidance of my therapist, I let him stay with me while I connected him to a psychiatrist. Meanwhile, I made his family and his ex-boyfriend aware of the situation to cover my bases. 

Over time, his mental health improved vastly, and I was happy to see him get healthier. Unfortunately, this was not enough for his ex or his family. 

A few weeks in, his mother flew into D.C. and, alongside his ex, stormed to my apartment. At my door they knocked incessantly, demanding I turn him over. However, he reiterated his desire for them to go away. Since I was not about to hand him over against his will, I made the next logical choice: I called the police. 

When the police arrived, it did not take them long to see the mother and ex-boyfriend were out of line, especially after this young man stated he did not feel safe with either. I was nice enough to allow the mother inside my apartment (perhaps too nice) to permit communication between them from a safe distance. Naturally, she said a few nasty things to me on the way out. Fortunately, the incident is documented and available for public record. 

My mind circled on what compelled people to behave like that. Why were they bent on taking him away? Why was he so defiant? Something was off, but the best I could do was support him in his decisions. 

Not long after this incident, my boss notified me of a letter sent to every member of our board. The document’s letterhead said Stop Domestic Violence, was signed “Group of Anonymous Six People,” and contained a contact email of [email protected]. The letter claimed “Jacob (Jake) Stewart abuses his significant others and takes advantage of the mentally ill. He is a threat to others and the greatest danger to those who are vulnerable.” It went on to claim that I was holding my friend hostage, and I should therefore be fired. 

Due to the allegation, my work had to understandably carry out an investigation. With a police report on my side, I knew I had nothing to be afraid of. Additionally, my friend’s progress in this time was my assurance—until Thanksgiving, anyway. 

Back then I spent every Thanksgiving in New Mexico, and while I felt guilty for leaving my friend in D.C., I also felt uncomfortable bringing him to my family’s dinner. This was primarily because I didn’t want him or anyone else to have the impression that he was my boyfriend. Morally, I felt he must be independent and healthy before a decision like that should be taken seriously. 

My next best alternative was to have him arrive later that evening, when I typically invited other friends for fun and games. But something odd happened: He missed his flight. After purchasing a new ticket, I arrived at the airport to find him in yet another manic state. 

It was a stark turnaround to how I had left him. What happened in those two days? Honestly, I may never know. 

After returning to D.C., his father—a high profile man himself—swooped in to take him away. My friend seemed okay with that, so I supported his decision. Oddly, the task of writing his resignation letter for his job fell on me. At the time he worked for a US senator—one of his father’s connections, no less—making it all the more odd that I had to draft it.  

Meanwhile, my friend was promptly moved back to his hometown of Kansas City. I visited him once. He visited me once. Then one day he told me they were moving him to Dallas. 

I haven’t seen or heard from him since. It’s been nearly three years. He vanished as if a UFO picked him up and snatched him away. 

This alone is quite a story, but the mystery doesn’t end here. So, this 2-part adventure will be unveiled soon. It may reveal a conspiracy as big as our encounters with UFOs. But don’t worry, this will not be a story about alien abductions. 

It will, however, be a documented series about veritable abductions of mankind.

Jake Stewart is a D.C.-based writer and barback.

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Corporate LGBTQ Pride 2026 on life support

A rainbow washout as marketing dollars disappear

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Terrified of becoming targets of right wing media and activists, businesses and brands are fleeing Pride support in 2026. The fear of boycotts and retribution have seen Pride sponsorships plummet to previously unseen levels. Further, there is now a complete corporate reevaluation of marketing and advertising activities in the LGBTQ consumer sector writ large. 

No more rainbow washing. For the past 30 years, corporations have literally wrapped their brands in rainbow colored monikers during the month of June. This practice, know as “rainbow washing,” sought to ingratiate companies with the over $1 trillion LGBTQ consumer segment. From rainbow filled Oreos to rainbow wrapped Burger King Whoppers, brands actively engaged in developing relationships with this coveted consumer. Now, it’s considered taboo. 

No more multi-million dollar beer sponsorships in the aftermath of the Bud Light disaster. For the first time since the over 100 Pride festivals accepted marketing opportunities, major brands including Bud Light, Miller and Corona have decided that reputational risk, boycotts and the like are more dangerous than the commercial reward. Their non-participation and the significance of this loss cannot be overstated. 

When right-wing bloviators co-opted the meaning of the word woke, they turned a positive definition into a pejorative. Now, corporations and brands are petrified of being labeled as woke, and in turn, are curtailing marketing outreach to niche consumer segments, LGBTQ included.

Anti-woke legislation has now appeared in a multitude of states, primarily around transgender issues. Bathroom bills, as they are known, are ubiquitous. Boys playing in girls sports,is portrayed as a national emergency.  These issues are a constant presence on social media as well as at every level of government, and have had a major impact on LGBTQ-related corporate activities.

But perhaps most devastating, is the federal government effort to enact elements of the right-wing’s Project 2025 agenda, seeking to eradicate DEI at every level. Companies, universities, and nearly all institutions that previously championed diversity, equity, and inclusion, have rapidly and radically disbanded and defunded all DEI efforts and activities within their organizations. Discontinuing supplier diversity initiatives, defunding support for internal ERG’s (employee resource groups), and decamping from participation in HRC’s (Human Rights Campaign) Equality Index. Importantly, this index is considered  the gold standard for corporate DEI evaluation, and its repudiation is having a profound effect on corporate behavior.  

DEI is now in the ICU on life support, with little chance of resuscitation. Companies that once embraced DEI have retreated in fear, in spite of critical positive facts. In 2023, McKinsey and Company, no bastion of liberalism stated, “that for five years, our research has shown a positive, statistically significant correlation between company financial outperformance and diversity, on the dimensions of both gender and ethnicity.”

What happens next is unknown. We have entered uncharted territory where the confluence of so many factors is having negative effects. June 2026 has seen many companies severely curtail or fully exit partnerships with Pride organizations and LGBTQ marketing programs in general, citing among other things, economic concerns. However, no company can honestly deny that overall fear and the increasingly hostile climate for DEI and LGBTQ issues have prompted brands to rethink their overall support and initiatives. This, despite pressure from stakeholders and shareholders, and vital employee recruitment and retention efforts. 

Political winds have outcomes. It would be naïve to think that there might be an immediate rethinking should the Congress or presidency change parties. Business cycles, though more agile than government, take longer to work through. Years, not months. So just as quickly as “rainbow washing” has come to a precipitous end, so too is the arrival and reckoning with the blistering Rainbow Washout.


Andrew A. Isen is the founder and president of WinMark Concepts, a D.C.-based marketing and communications firm. For 35 years, WinMark has been advising companies and brands on defining and developing effective LGBTQ business strategies. 

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Cowardly corporations abandon LGBTQ America

Execs are hiding in the closet this Pride season. Should we ever welcome them back?

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I had a thought provoking conversation with Billy Porter over Memorial Day weekend. The talented and opinionated star asked me how things were going at the Blade and in D.C. given the current administration in the White House.

It was a loaded question. The short answer is that things in D.C. are pretty terrible these days — the economy is down, inflation and gas prices are up; small businesses and non-profits are struggling amid widespread government funding cuts; and, yes, media outlets large and small are also feeling the pinch. Even the aesthetics of our once beautiful city are suffering (see the White House lawn).

For queer-identified businesses, the news is worse, as major corporations across the country have reduced or eliminated support for anything deemed “DEI,” which includes LGBTQ causes and support for Pride celebrations. 

When I explained all of this to Porter, he replied with a quick and definitive comment that has left me thinking for weeks: “And when the pendulum swings back, don’t let those companies back in. Ever.”

There are certainly some big companies that continue to live their values and stand by the LGBTQ community — Absolut, Marriott, Walmart, Coca-Cola. But so many others have abandoned us at a challenging time — Target, Bud Light (and most beer brands), PepsiCo, Accenture, among a long list.

There’s a lot of cynicism about so-called “rainbow capitalism,” or the practice of companies profiting off of the LGBTQ community especially during Pride month. We’ve seen all sorts of silly pandering in recent years — rainbow Oreos and Doritos come to mind.

But corporate America has frequently been called upon to play an important role in advancing equality. From implementing inclusive and affirming hiring and workplace practices (especially in places lacking legal protections) to using their influence to advance public policy, our corporate allies have helped us in myriad ways. To suggest we don’t need them ignores the many accomplishments corporate leaders have made on our behalf. They stepped up to fight bathroom bills in North Carolina and they successfully blunted Mike Pence’s notorious “license to discriminate” law in Indiana.

That was then. Fast forward to 2026 and under pressure from the corrupt Trump administration, our former corporate allies have run for cover. They are cowards. Their cynical abandonment of the LGBTQ community has grave consequences. New York City Pride ran $800,000 short last year after major sponsors like Mastercard and Nissan pulled out, according to a recent report in the Wall Street Journal. San Francisco Pride fell $300,000 in debt last year when Anheuser-Busch and others pulled out, the Journal noted. Phoenix Pride has filed for bankruptcy. There will be many other casualties. 

The topic of how to respond if and when the pendulum swings back is a popular one right now in the LGBTQ movement. Do we replace corporate sponsorship dollars with grants and individual donations? That’s easier said than done. Do we take their money and forgive these transgressions? Or do we follow Porter’s advice and tell them to fuck off? 

Nonprofits, Pride organizations, and queer media outlets like the Blade have some thinking to do about this. No one is in business to turn away sponsors and ad dollars. But we have a responsibility to our customers, readers, and community to operate ethically. An ad in the Blade carries a lot more subtext and meaning than an ad in the Washington Post. 

To those companies and executives hiding in the closet this Pride season: Shame on you. To the companies standing with us: Our sincere gratitude. Our community’s memory is long and we will not forget those who resisted Trump’s anti-DEI crusade to stand on the right side of history.


Kevin Naff is editor of the Washington Blade. Reach him at [email protected].

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Confronting homophobia at school

Queer students should feel comfortable and safe in the classroom

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A couple weeks ago, I was walking into my school’s cafeteria, about to get lunch. As I navigated around groups of students, I heard a student shouting “ fa**ot!” over and over again at one of his friends, as some kind of joke or playful insult. How do I know it was a joke? Because I’ve seen countless amounts of people at my school call each other this slur, or other homophobic language while bantering with their friends. The prevalence of homophobia in my school, even if it’s not directed at queer people, is troubling.

As an openly queer student, I’ve experienced homophobia in school since middle school. During middle school, I was teased, bullied, and ostracized just because I tried to live as my authentic self. My classmates knowingly asked me uncomfortable and invasive questions about my sexuality, and I was called all types of dehumanizing names. The bullying was so bad that I would frequently isolate myself during school, just so I could get a break from all of the harassment I went through. I felt like I was an outcast, so I’d constantly hide myself behind books or my computer. I started to develop depressive and suicidal thoughts, and every day I had to go to school was a nightmare for me. 

When I eventually graduated middle school and started high school, I was elated to discover that there were many more queer students at my school, some of whom I’d eventually get to know and become friends with. However, the homophobia I faced did not go away, but instead took a new form. Instead of hearing homophobic slurs directed at me, they’re now used as if they were another insult, like “stupid” or “idiot,” despite the fact that they carry much more weight. I still have to face the effects of the normalization of homophobia and homophobic language in schools, and it isn’t just my school that has this problem.

According to the District of Columbia Public Schools Panorama Survey, only 45 percent of gay and lesbian students, 37 percent of bisexual students, and 39 percent of transgender or nonbinary students in DCPS schools say that students in their school show them respect. Across the entire district, over half of LGBTQ students feel as if they are not respected in school which is both heartbreaking, yet not surprising to see as a queer student myself. And this is a consistent trend across all of America. According to Glisten’s 2025 National School Climate Survey, which polls LGBTQ youth about their school climate, two-thirds of LGBTQ students said they felt unsafe at school due to their sexual orientation or gender identity. In addition, 63 percent of students reported hearing homophobic remarks from peers, and 62 percent and 68 percent of participants experienced harassment or assault based on sexual orientation or gender identity respectively. 

School should be a place where queer students should feel comfortable and safe, a place where they can learn and prosper. Instead, so many are mistreated and abused, and feel as if they’re an outsider in their own community. Teachers and administrators should be striving to create a LGBTQ+ friendly space where all kinds of students can work toward their goals in an environment where they feel accepted and loved. 

(This work is part of a partnership between the Washington Blade Foundation and Youthcast Media Group, funded through the FY26 Community Development Grant from the Office of D.C. Mayor Muriel Bowser. Quinn McPherson is a rising sophomore at Benjamin Banneker Academic High School, one of Youthcast Media Group’s journalism class partners. YMG founder, former USA Today health policy reporter Jayne O’Donnell, contributed to this report.)

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