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QUEERY: Rheadrea Monet (aka PoetRaeMonet)
The local poet answers 20 queer questions

Rheadrea Monet (aka PoetRaeMonet) is one of the rare folks who has pretty much built a career out of her passion — poetry.
She remembers discovering it in school around sixth grade.
“All it took was one assignment to get me hooked,” says the native Washingtonian (she grew up in Ward 8). “I’m a self starter so by the time I was in high school, I had written over 100 poems.”
Monet describes herself as “an erotic poet” and uses her poems to “open the discussion about sex and sexual education,” a topic she says is often “shunned and overlooked.”
“It’s so massively important to me because I suffered sexual trauma as a child,” she says. “So now, I can use my experiences to help others.”
Monet is this year’s poet laureate for “The Ask Rayceen Show,” which has its season premiere on Wednesday, March 4 at 7 p.m. (reception/happy hour at 6) at HRC (1640 Rhode Island Ave., N.W.). It’s free. KIDe, Ganja Kitty, Kent Black, DJ Mim, Monet and Krylios are this month’s guests. The show continues the first Wednesday of each month through November. Details at askrayceen.com.
Monet was smitten with Rayceen the first time she met her as a show volunteer.
“I jumped right in helping to stuff the goodie bags,” she recalls. “When Rayceen came gliding in, welcoming us and thanking us all for our time, she came over and gave me a hug and a smile and that was it — I knew I needed to be a part of whatever she was doing.”
Monet has published four books of her poetry, an erotic fiction novel and is working on a workbook called “Expose Your Inner DIVA.” Find out more about her at whichrae.wordpress.com.
Monet is single (“and not looking”) and lives in Clinton, Md. She works full time “building her brand” and on the side as a Big Bus D.C. tour guide. She’s a mom to daughter Brookelyn Rayven. She enjoys performing, writing, TV, creating art and catching up on sleep in her free time.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I didn’t really tell anyone. One day I just showed up with a girlfriend.
Who’s your LGBTQ hero?
Probably RuPaul. When I was growing up, I didn’t really have access to the lifestyle. So seeing him in “To Wong Foo” and “But I’m A Cheerleader” were game changers. Ellen is another big one. Watching her come out on her show was incredible. It just gave me the warmest feeling. I remember being so excited I literally screamed and jumped around the room!
What LGBTQ stereotype most annoys you?
I don’t know if I’d call it a stereotype, but the whole “you’re going to hell” thing is pretty whack.
What’s your proudest professional achievement?
My proudest achievement is the publishing of my first book, “The Birds, the Bees and the Boudoir.” I have done some truly awesome things as a result of following my dream and I would not be where I am if I never took that first step.
What terrifies you?
Spiders and mold! Gross!
What’s something trashy or vapid you love?
4Loko! Ha! It’s terrible, I know, but it’s effective.
What’s your greatest domestic skill?
Cooking, I guess. But only if I’m in a good mood. Good mood equals good food. Bad mood — you don’t want that food.
What’s your favorite LGBTQ movie or show?
“But I’m A Cheerleader”
What’s your social media pet peeve?
Spelling and grammar! Yes, I’m one of those people! It irks me the most when it’s a “professional” person posting these mangled messages that take forever to decipher. They lose credibility, in my mind.
What would the end of the LGBTQ movement look like to you?
World peace. Because by that point, everyone will have learned to mind their business and their tongue.
What’s the most overrated social custom?
Sending thank you notes. I’ve thanked you in person, via text and twice at the door already. Do you really need it written down as well?
What was your religion, if any, as a child and what is it today?
I grew up Baptist. I’d say I still am at heart, but it’s 2020 and I’m more spiritual than I’ve ever been. I pray more. I try to tap into the universe more. I think I’m evolving above just religion. It’s about the whole universe working toward good.
What’s D.C.’s best hidden gem?
The Lounge of III on U Street! It’s tiny, but they have amazing drinks and awesome DJs who spin from the golden era of hip hop.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Justin Timberlake “revealing” Janet Jackson at the Super Bowl.
What celebrity death hit you hardest?
Aaliyah. That one hurt. I cried for days.
If you could redo one moment from your past, what would it be?
Nope. No regrets. No do-overs. I love who I am and any change might drastically alter everything that I am. I have to take the good with the bad and I have to accept me for all of my flaws.
What are your obsessions?
I’m only obsessed with two things right now: my daughter and my brand. Building and shaping those two is all that matters to me.
Finish this sentence — It’s about damn time:
… all of this hard work pays off.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
I wish I knew that I didn’t have to wait to become an “adult” to start following my dreams.
Why Washington?
D.C. is home. It’s that electrical feeling you get when you hit the streets downtown. It’s power. The humming of traffic. Everyone is busy. Moving with a purpose. I have a tattoo of the D.C. flag on my back. The flag is inside of a heart that has been broken, bruised, bandaged and stitched. It’s because this city will always be a part of me. It IS me. Imperfect, but resilient as hell.
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Summer in D.C. brings sports, Restaurant Week, festivals, and more
Summer in D.C. just hits different. Congress is out, school is out, the sun is out, thighs are out. With the skies clearing from Canadian smoke, here are a few ways to stay entertained.
Dining
Summer restaurant week: The Restaurant Association of Metropolitan Washington (RAMW) is once again hosting Summer Restaurant Week, Aug. 18-24. This weeklong dining experience showcases the dynamic dining scene of the DMV, including 2026 RAMMY Award-winning favorites (the annual D.C. food awards show that took place June 29). Participating restaurants will offer three-course brunch and lunch selections for $25 or $35 per person, and three-course dinners for $40, $55 and $65 per person.
New Restaurants: A handful of new spots have opened, so the summer is a great time to check them out:
- Oribu: A new Mediterranean-Japanese restaurant in the Grand Hyatt hotel, which just underwent a remodeling effort. The sleek restaurant brings upscale charm, with dishes like Wagyu beef tartare with potato pavé and caviar.
- The Oak Room: A snazzy old-school American grill has just opened in Georgetown, alongside its sister upstairs supper club (Bernadette’s) restaurant, in the old El Centro space.
- Uchi: This showy Japanese sushi-forward chain has landed in Dupont with a chef’s tasting menu of favorites like fatty tuna.
- Kathmandu: Recalling the capital of Nepal, this warm, buzzy subterranean restaurant right in the heart of U Street brings spice, flair, and rare ingredients to its dishes (see: buffalo burgers) and drinks.
Sports
- Washington Spirit Pride Night OUT: On Sunday, Aug. 23, head to Audi Field for a massive, high-energy game following the exciting month of World Cup. The designated Pride Night OUT game promises boisterous crowds plus pre- and post-game community engagements.
- Washington Tennis Open – Now called the Mubadala DC Open, this annual tournament is only combined mens’ and womens’ 500-level tennis tournament in the world. The open is one of D.C.’s longest-standing sports traditions, and will take place at the Rock Creek Park Tennis Center July 25-Aug. 2. Naomi Osaka, Venus Williams, Ben Shelton, Frances Tiafoe, and others are expected to play.
Festivals
- Afro Plus Fest: This huge, three-day Afro-Caribbean Hip-Hop Festival brings together headliners Davido, Alkaline, and Wizkid, plus Tems and Ayra Starr. The event moves from RFK to the Northwest Stadium Complex for three days, Sept. 4-6.
- Capital Fringe Festival: Running from July 11-21, this massive celebration features dozens of live theater, comedy, dance, and boundary-pushing nighttime performances across multiple DC neighborhoods.
- The National Book Festival returns, with headliners like Cynthia Erivo, and Martin Scorsese. The one-day festival, Saturday, Aug. 22, brings together bookworms and word nerds under the theme “America 250: It’s Your Story.” There are talks, workshops, musical sessions and more.
- All Things Go: A three-day festival Sept. 25-27 at Merriweather Post Pavilion featuring Mitski, Hayley Williams, Brandi Carlile, MUNA, Zara Larsson, Ethel Cain, and many, many more artists. There are single-day and three-day tickets. Featuring and highlighting female artists, the festival has turned into a must-see for many LGBTQ audience members.
- Fuchsia Fest: The inaugural Fuchsia Fest is a new multi-day celebration created to celebrate LGBTQ community and expression, bringing together a mix of community gatherings, entertainment, and nightlife. The event takes place Sept. 18-20 and is hosted by Capital Pride.
Art and Music
- United We Dance: A high-energy rave with house, techno, bass, and festival music, on Aug. 1 at the 9:30 Club.
- The Fray. On Aug. 14, this American rock band famous for How To Save A Life is at Merriweather Post Pavilion.
- Kesha: Kesha’s high-energy The Freedom Tour comes to the D.C. area on Aug. 14 at Jiffy Lube Live.
- ALOK: On Sept. 3 at Lincoln Theater, ALOK (they/them) performs. The poet, comedian, and actor is putting on a new comedy show.
- 2charm, the emerging Australian electronic club-pop duo popular with the queer community, which blends hyperpop and dance music, comes to the Atlantis.
- Sapphic Dance Party: a vibrant, inclusive nightlife and social event designed specifically for queer women, lesbians, bisexuals, trans individuals, and nonbinary folks, at Atlantis on Aug. 21.
- Jazz in the Garden: The most quintessential of D.C. activities returns Friday evenings through Aug. 14. This season’s theme, “American Sounds,” is a nod to the nation’s 250th anniversary. Tunes themes range from Appalachian and Americana to Creole jazz, Hill Country blues, contemporary jazz, and more. Tickets are available through a lottery system a week before each event.
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Tickets on sale for chef Patrick O’Connell’s book launch event
Sept. 18 kickoff to feature José Andrés, Tom Sietsema
Acclaimed chef Patrick O’Connell is preparing to publish his new memoir, “Main, Middle & Gay” in September and he’s launching the book with an event on Sept. 18 at 6 p.m. at Lisner Auditorium featuring Chef José Andrés and former Washington Post food critic Tom Sietsema.
Tickets for the event go on sale Tuesday, July 21 at Ticketmaster; prices start at $55.
O’Connell, who’s gay, is the pioneering Michelin-starred chef and longtime proprietor of the Inn at Little Washington. He spoke with the Blade about the September event and the launch of his first memoir.
“I’ve known [Andrés and Sietsema] for more than 25 years and I have great respect for them,” O’Connell said. “I felt that it would allow us to add a different dimension rather than just have an interviewer. The chemistry will be fun and lively and unpredictable and exciting. I think we’re all different personalities and we’ll compliment each other.”
O’Connell has published cookbooks but this is his first memoir. The event will feature a short film that will highlight his work and the Inn.
“What I hope to do with the event is bring the book to life visually,” he said. “So we’re producing a short film that will be part of it. Most of the audience will not have read the book so it’ll give them a visual flavor of the book. It parallels the evolution of American cuisine over 50 years. It’s a rare perspective to be in the trenches for that long.”
The book’s title refers to the location of the garage on the corner of Main, Middle, and Gay streets in Washington, Va., where he launched his restaurant that became an international culinary destination.
The Blade will publish the rest of its wide-ranging interview with O’Connell in September in conjunction with the book’s release.
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The queer Asian comics building collective joy in D.C.
Spotlighting chaotic ways family, romance, identity take shape in their lives
Kevin Chen’s family tombstone has room for four: him, his parents and his boyfriend. The arrangement might prove to be a little awkward.
“My boyfriend is 100% white, and my parents are 100% disappointed,” Chen confessed.
Jokes about family traditions and the untraditional ways they’re practiced earned a burst of laughs at the bar where Chen was opening for the Pride Comedy Special. The D.C. stand-up event, produced by Comedy Bonfyre last month, spotlighted queer Asian comics who shared the chaotic ways family, romance and identity take shape in their lives.
From candid oral sex takes to top surgery hypotheticals like “Where do the boobs go?”, the night highlighted the loud camaraderie of the queer Asian experience — one that sounds like a cacophony of snorts, cackles and belly laughs. While the comics say they are not quite a community, there’s more than enough shared material to bring them together.
“It was such a magical experience. I loved performing in a queer API lineup. It feels so validating,” Chen said after the show. “I’m wondering, ‘Is this how white men feel all the time?’”
Each performance evoked queer Asian joy through a medium that could use more of its presence.
According to Chen, who is based in D.C., it’s hard to say whether there is a true queer Asian comedy presence in his city. There are only a scattered “handful” of Asian comics, and people of color are underrepresented in queer comic circles, he said.
When Tarunika Anand, a nonbinary lesbian comic, first entered the mainstream D.C. comedy scene, they mostly encountered straight white men, describing the experience as “a culture shock.”
“I feel like sometimes a lot of queer spaces are really white, and then a lot of Asian spaces are really straight,” Anand said. “I don’t feel like I fit into either.”
But feeling marginalized didn’t stop these comics from honing their craft and creating spaces for others like them. Alex Kim, who headlined the special and is based in Brooklyn, runs the queer Asian comedy group Boba Gays, which began on WhatsApp and has since made its way to Lincoln Center.
Every Wednesday, Anand co-produces a free comedy show called Funny Side Up. The queer-led group focuses on inclusivity and showcasing new talent.
“It’s really beautiful to speak about your experience and your existence in a way that’s uplifting,” Anand said.
Family is a major throughline of their comedic repertoires.
Chen, for instance, shared that he identifies with jokes about having Asian immigrant parents and the expectations they pass down.
“You see me, you know this part about me, you know this experience intimately, and I can see the truth that you’re trying to wrap a joke around,” he said. “That hits even harder because that’s my truth too. I think that’s what makes good comedy.”
Anand had the audience at the special howling when they explained that their parents’ be-more-like-them comparisons didn’t end when they came out. Instead, the expectations took on a new form.
“Now, my parents want me to be the best gay,” Anand said. “They’re like, ‘Do you know Ellen DeGeneres?’”
Kim said he’s been trying to unlearn things from his Christian Korean mom. Yet he described a moment when he was getting ready for the club and realized he looked just like his mother getting ready for church.
“I’ve been finding it hard to escape her,” Kim said.
Mutual recognition also radiates through the different ways queer love can take shape. From singlehood to death-do-us-part commitments, the comics cover just about every corner.
Anand is holding out hope for settling down with “a nice, pretty, Indian girl.” They recently went through a breakup and said they felt they dodged a bullet.
“As a person of color, I just don’t think I should be with a Swiftie,” they said.
Chen, touching on what it’s like to be in a queer interracial relationship, said that meeting his white boyfriend’s baby nephew for the first time felt like he was forced to participate in a diversity, equity and inclusion training.
“The dad was like, ‘Please welcome Kevin. Be curious about his culture, his history, his foods,’” Chen joked.
Laughter is not the only reward for the comics.
To Anand, comedy is a space where they can say whatever they want. “It gives me a voice,” they said.
Nik Narain, a North Carolina-based trans and nonbinary South Asian comic who performed at the special, said meeting older trans comedians and taking the stage helped him feel reassured in his identity during his transition.
“Stand-up was a really cool way to process that onstage,” he said. “[It] became a way for me to repackage my thoughts.”
Queer Asians are still figuring out their place in the greater D.C. comedy scene. The group is small in numbers and many are still working toward a full-time comedy career. But Narain feels he’s already made it.
Narain is reluctant to pin it all on one moment. He feels that success is already peeking through in milestones — opening for celebrities, traveling to performances and self-producing shows.
“As long as I can keep doing this, I’m super happy,” he said.
This story was produced as part of the AAJA VOICES fellowship program, a student journalism project of the Asian American Journalists Association (AAJA).
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