Arts & Entertainment

Stunted emotions

‘Beginners’ finds father and son stumbling in life and love

Published

14 years ago

June 23, 2011

“Beginners” will stir your emotions.

Told in flashback, the script for the recently released film is loosely based on the story of the relationship between writer/director Mike Mills and his parents. In his sophomore directorial effort in feature films, Mills weaves the tale of Oliver (Ewan McGregor) and his new love Anna (Mélanie Laurent) with the tale of his father Hal (Christopher Plummer) coming out during his twilight years.

Christopher Plummer and Ewan McGregor in ‘Beginners.’ (Still courtesy of Focus Features)

It’s obvious from the start that this is a personal and real story. Mills does an extremely effective job in telling an emotional tale without treating the audience as if they are unable to relate. The result is a wonderful film about the complexity of life and interpersonal relationships.

After 44 years of marriage, Hal’s wife dies and he is diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. After sharing the recent diagnosis with his son Oliver, Hal also announces that he will be living the remainder of his life fully out as a gay man. The result is a balancing of perspectives between father and son. We soon witness Hal enjoying his “gayness,” as opposed to what he describes as living “theoretically gay.” Hal places a personal ad and enjoys house music for the first time. He loves to shop and host theme parties with his growing circle of friends. He is indeed relishing in his new-found freedom and joy away from the coldness and sadness of an unemotional marriage.

Not yet sharing the wisdom of his father, it seems Oliver will need to catch up.

The story drives home how much our own personal relationships can be affected by the dynamics and connections that we have with our parents. As a young child, Oliver’s mother struggles with an emotionless marriage and encourages her son to confront frustration by going into his room and screaming out loud in order to bring about “catharsis.” While some may argue the power of a good yell, the scene is an effective way of illustrating what can result in a relationship based on secrets and poor communication. Her approach to managing her marriage was a sign of the times, yes, but the actions obviously carried on into her own son’s relationship.

Hal imparts periodic dating and personal advice to his son. The advice seems to fall on pessimistic ears. It’s clear Oliver never witnessed any sign of true love between his parents. The ensuing personal struggle for Oliver to embrace his own happiness is the story that makes up the majority of the film. Oliver is having a hard time being social and is focused on sadness as a concept.

Oliver meets a girl named Anna and we witness them both struggle through the start of the relationship. Whether we like it or not, the model that our parent’s provided is one that we so often draw from when managing our own relationships. In two particularly moving scenes, Anna and Oliver struggle with communicating and find themselves coping with the awkwardness through non-traditional means. The couple write on a pad due to a case of laryngitis and role-play over the phone while in the same hotel room.

They want to connect on a deeper level than their respective parents ever could.

Oliver narrates the story for us and moves the movie along at a nice pace. Drawing on historical references in gay America, the story’s poignancy is driven home as the audience is reminded at how far the gay movement has progressed in the last 50 years. Interestingly, there is a brief sequence where The Mattachine Society, an early gay rights group, is referenced. The Washington Chapter of the Society was instrumental in starting the Blade.

While the historical references are interesting and provide context for Hal’s unabashed excitement with his life out of the closet, the real power of this movies lies with the characters. The movie’s script is creative in bringing about character development and the audience experiences understanding and a closeness with each of the characters as the movie progresses.

Through the flashbacks, we continue to see Hal enjoying his final days. Perhaps fueled by the knowledge that his time is limited, Hal even pursues love with as equal abandon as shopping for the latest fashions in neckwear. He continues to surprise his son’s preconceived notions of his father by dating and eventually falling in love with a much younger man. Hal continues to demonstrate to his son how much he embraces and loves himself in his gayness. A heartwarming scene shows an exchange between Hal and his hospice nurse. After complementing the male nurse on his hair, the nurse brings out his mousse and helps Hal to do his hair in the same way, providing the movie with one of its most poignant scenes.

Despite all of the angst, there are sprinkles of comic relief. Oliver eventually adopts his father’s dog, Arthur. Challenging the audience’s ability to suspend its disbelief while enjoying the film, Mills gives the audience the ability to read the Arthur the dog’s thoughts through the use of subtitles. The audience sees Arthur telepathically communicate to Oliver in an effort to encourage him to progress in the relationship with Anna: “Tell her the darkness is about to drown us unless something drastic happens soon.”

“Beginners” is about new life and new love. It’s about embracing life no matter what stage you are in. The emotions can be daunting, but the thrill is in the process, not an end result.

“Beginners” is playing at Landmarks E Street Cinema and Bethesda Row Cinema.

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Impulse Group DC to host fundraiser

Giving Tuesday and Happy Hour held at Thurst Lounge

Published

21 hours ago

November 28, 2025

Tinashe Chingarande

Thurst Lounge (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Impulse Group DC, a local advocacy organization, will host “Giving Tuesday and Happy Hour” on Tuesday, Dec. 2 at 6 p.m. at Thurst Lounge.

This event is a special happy hour fundraiser filled with good vibes, great food, and community connection. DJ Obie will be on deck keeping the energy high while you enjoy tacos, cocktails, and the kind of atmosphere only Thurst can deliver.

A portion of every signature cocktail sold goes directly toward supporting Impulse Group D.C.’s work in sexual health, mental health, harm reduction, and social justice for the D.C. community.

Admission is free and more details are available on Eventbrite.

Calendar

Calendar: November 28-December 4

LGBTQ events in the days to come

Published

21 hours ago

November 28, 2025

Tinashe Chingarande

Friday, November 28

“Center Aging Friday Tea Time” will be at 12 p.m. in person at the DC Center for the LGBT Community’s new location at 1827 Wiltberger St., N.W. To RSVP, visit the DC Center’s website or email [email protected].

Go Gay DC will host “LGBTQ+ Community Happy Hour” at 7 p.m. at Dupont Italian Kitchen Bar. This event is ideal for making new friends, professional networking, idea-sharing, and community building. This event is free and more details are available on Eventbrite.

Saturday, November 29

Go Gay DC will host “LGBTQ+ Community Brunch” at 12 p.m. at Freddie’s Beach Bar & Restaurant. This fun weekly event brings the DMV area LGBTQ+ community, including allies, together for delicious food and conversation. Attendance is free and more details are available on Eventbrite.

Sunday, November 30

Go Gay DC will host “LGBTQ+ Coffee and Conversation” at 12 p.m. at As You Are. Guests are encouraged to come and enjoy stimulating conversation. For more details, visit Eventbrite.

Monday, December 1

“Center Aging: Monday Coffee Klatch” will be at 10 a.m. on Zoom. This is a social hour for older LGBTQ adults. Guests are encouraged to bring a beverage of choice. For more information, contact Adam ([email protected]).

“Soulfully Queer: LGBTQ+ Emotional Health and Spirituality Drop-In” will be at 3 p.m. at the DC Center for the LGBT Community. This group will meet weekly for eight weeks, providing a series of drop-in sessions designed to offer a safe, welcoming space for open and respectful conversation. Each session invites participants to explore themes of spirituality, identity, and belonging at their own pace, whether they attend regularly or drop in occasionally. For more details visit the DC Center’s website.

Tuesday, December 2

Universal Pride Meeting will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This group seeks to support, educate, empower, and create change for people with disabilities. Email [email protected] with any questions.

Friends of Dorothy Cafe will host “Choose Our Blend” at 6 p.m. at Stardust Vintage & Gift. Guests are encouraged to come sip, sample, and vote on a lineup of custom coffee blends from Rustic Route Coffee Co., a DMV-based queer-owned roaster. Guests’ votes will help Rustic Route choose the café’s official signature roast. Event organizers will take donations, and more details are available on Eventbrite.

Wednesday, December 3

Job Club will be at 6 p.m. on Zoom. This is a weekly job support program to help job entrants and seekers, including the long-term unemployed, improve self-confidence, motivation, resilience and productivity for effective job searches and networking — allowing participants to move away from being merely “applicants” toward being “candidates.” For more information, email [email protected] or visit www.thedccenter.org/careers.

Center Aging Women’s Social Discussion Group will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This group is a place where older LGBTQ women can meet and socialize with one another. There will be discussion, activities, and a chance for guests to share what they want future events to include. For more details, email [email protected].

Thursday, December 4

The DC Center’s Fresh Produce Program will be held all day at the DC Center for the LGBT Community. People will be informed on Wednesday at 5 p.m. if they are picked to receive a produce box. No proof of residency or income is required. For more information, email [email protected] or call 202-682-2245.

Virtual Yoga Class will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This is a free weekly class focusing on yoga, breathwork, and meditation. For more details, visit the DC Center for the LGBT Community’s website.

API Queer Support Group will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This is a support group for the Asian and Pacific Islander Queer Community. For more details, email [email protected].

Theater

D.C. theater scene has something for everyone this holiday season

‘Nutcracker,’ ‘A Christmas Carol,’ and much more

Published

3 days ago

November 26, 2025

Patrick Folliard

Michael Russotto in ‘A Christmas Carol: A Ghost Story of Christmas’ at Olney Theatre Center. (Photo by Teresa Castracane Photography)

With its familiar music, yuletide imagery, and storytelling, theater can be a big part of the holidays. Add to that making memories and theater tickets wrapped as presents under the tree, and it’s a seasonal no brainer.

Folger Theatre presents “Resplendent Joy: Christmas Traditions from Spain and Portugal” (Dec. 5-14); the marvelous Folger Consort will perform early Spanish Christmas carols and traditional holiday music from early modern Spain and Portugal: folger.edu/resplendent

At Round House Theatre, playwright Sam Holcroft’s “Rules for Living” (Dec. 3-Jan. 4) makes its U.S. premiere. The darkly funny holiday comedy was a hit in London and is now hoping to repeat that success with a version tailored for the states. The seven-person cast includes versatile actors Naomi Jacobson and real-life spouse John Lescault. Ryan Rillette directs. roundhousetheatre.org

Theatre J presents “Chanukah in the Dark” (Dec. 6-21), an hour-long play ideal for ages five and up. “When the lights go out during Chanukah, Max and family begin sharing songs, stories, and traditions — only to discover the lights they needed and the miracles they searched for were in their midst all along.” edcjcc.org

The Cathedral Choral Society’s “Joy of Christmas” (Dec. 13-14) presents a wonderful program of carols and beloved holiday favorites at the festively decorated National Cathedral. The program features Seraph Brass, organist Edward Hewes, Carillonneur Edward M. Nassor, percussionist Mary La Blanc of “The President’s Own” U.S. Marine Band, and the Eastern Concert Choir from Eastern Senior High School. Cathedralchoralsociety.org

With “The Holiday Show,” (Dec. 13, 14, and 20), the Gay Men’s Chorus returns to entertain audiences with its annual and most popular show.

This year the holiday extravaganza is bigger than ever at historic Lincoln Theatre with new, soulful arrangements of favorite holiday carols: “The reindeer will be high-kicking and the snowflakes will sparkle. Songs include “O Holy Night,” “Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer,” “Let It Snow,” “We Wish You the Merriest,” and “Go Tell It on the Mountain.’” gmcw.org

At Olney’s intimate Mulitz-Gudelsky Theatre Lab, out actor Michael Russotto is back for the holiday season in his solo show “Christmas Carol: A Ghost Story of Christmas” (through Dec. 28). The talented Russotto portrays nearly 50 different characters from the Charles Dickens classic, that proves “funnier and far more relevant than you might imagine.” Olneytheatre.org

Also on holiday offer in the DMV are a jolly bunch of musical chestnuts as well as reliable Christmas crowd-pleasers.

Included on the roster is Olney Theatre’s production of Jerry Herman’s “Hello, Dolly!” (through Jan. 4) starring the mega-talented Nova Y. Payton. Based on the play “The Matchmaker” by famed gay playwright Thornton Wilder, the musical has proved a vehicle for many a diva including Carol Channing, Pearl Bailey, Bette Midler, and Barbra Streisand. Now Payton dons the mantle and the buzz is good.

Another beloved musical is “Fiddler on the Roof” (through Jan. 25), the story of Tevye, a poor Jewish milkman, his family and their tight-knit community who honor tradition while contending with pogroms in Czarist Russia. Currently being performed intimately in the round at Signature Theatre in Arlington and directed by Joe Calarco, the large cast features actors Douglas Sills, Chrisopher Bloch, and terrific out actor Jake Loewenthal as the poor tailor Motel Kamzoil, all singing Broadway favorites like “Sunrise, Sunset” “If I Were a Rich Man” and “Matchmaker.” sigtheatre.org

At Shakespeare Theatre Company’s Harman Hall is Frank Loesser’s “Guys and Dolls” (through Jan. 4). Based on tales from famed American journalist Damon Runyon, the show focuses on two overlapping love stories set in Depression-era Times Square. The terrific score includes songs like “Luck Be a Lady,” “Sit Down, You’re Rockin’ the Boat,” “A Bushel and a Peck,” and more songs you’ll know. Directed by Francesca Zambello and choreographed by Joshua Bergasse.

The cast includes Julie Benko, Lamont Brown, and Holly Twyford as General Matilda B. Cartwright, which is reason enough to buy a ticket. shakespearetheatre.org

And for hardcore traditionalists there’s the Washington Ballet’s “The Nutcracker” (through Dec. 29) with its balletic magic at the charming gilded Warner Theatre. The beloved production of Tchaikovsky’s ballet, here set in 1882 Georgetown, features a retinue of agile partiers, children, soldiers, rats, and notable figures from American history. washingtonballet.org

And last but hardly least, historic Ford’s Theatre presents “A Christmas Carol” (through Dec. 31), an enduring Washington tradition since I was youngish. Conceived by Michael Baron, this charming Dickens’ moneymaker again spotlights Craig Wallace as miserly Ebenezer Scrooge who after a night of ghostly visits, rediscovers Christmas joy. Fords.org