Financial
LGBT community needs long-term care
By MICHAEL GLASSMAN
Special to the Blade
There is a huge need for long-term care insurance in the LGBT community simply because most members of the LGBT community do not have children to look after them in their older age. An article that appeared on Businesswire.com states:
“Having choices and protecting retirement assets and personal savings from long-term care costs should be important to everyone, however, it may be especially significant for the LGBT community. The reality is the LGBT community lacks the traditional support that married heterosexuals enjoy and as a result face a greater need for long-term care insurance.”
What unique considerations do gay and lesbian couples need to take into account when buying Long Term Care Insurance? Mainly, insurance companies have specific requirements for recognizing gay and lesbian partnerships. However, many blue-chip Long Term Care Insurance carriers offer the married, partner or spousal discount to gay and lesbian couples provided they have been in a committed relationship for at least one to three years (this varies from company to company). The married, partner, or spousal discount is significant with companies like Massachusetts Mutual Life Insurance Company (MassMutual) offering a 30 percent premium discount. Typically, discounts apply to each policy when both people meet the criteria for the covered partner discount. Generally, both partners must be approved and both must maintain coverage beyond the free look period. To be eligible for a covered partner discount, certain criteria must be met. Discounts are subject to state approval and may not be available in all states
You have likely seen the statistics that talk about the risk of needing long-term care as you age. And like most, you’ve told yourself “It will never happen to me.” You may very well be right. But what if you’re not? Rather than focus on the risk of an event happening to you, take a moment to consider the consequences that providing care over an extended period of years would have on the emotional, physical and financial well-being of those you have promised to take care of.
Many people believe that Medicare, Medicaid or the VA if they are veterans will pay for their care. These programs primarily cover medical procedures or rehabilitative care.
Long-term care requires custodial care. This is defined as the assistance or supervision that a person who is physically or cognitively impaired needs to get through the day. With few exceptions, no federal or state program will pay for custodial assistance over an extended period of years. Therefore, the family has to pay out of pocket.
No one can guarantee that you won’t need care. But you can create a plan that will protect your partner and family.
The plan should preserve your family’s emotional and physical well being by allowing them to hire professionals to provide care:
The plan should allow you to preserve your retirement portfolio.
Once this plan is in place, long-term care insurance can be an effective solution.
Implemented correctly it provides a stream of income that pays for professionals to help keep you at home and/or residential alternatives such as assisted living facilities or nursing homes.
This allows the following:
• Your family to supervise rather than provide your care, helping to protect their emotional and physical wellbeing.
• Your retirement income to keep funding your lifestyle, therefore allowing you to keep your financial promises
• Helps you preserve the financial viability of your surviving partner or children who may need an inheritance.
Long-term care describes the care you need if you become incapacitated, either physically or cognitively, due to a degenerative disease or incident such as Parkinson’s, stroke, diabetes, or Alzheimer’s.
These conditions severely compromise your ability to get through the most basic of daily routines. In reality, the need for long-term care is a safety issue that requires 24 hour a day attention.
Since you are no longer safe, those you love are forced to reorient their lives to make sure that you are. This change can have a devastating impact on their emotional and physical well-being.
There are unique tax advantages that long-term care insurance offers business owners and/or their employees.
If you have a C-Corp you have the following benefits:
• 100 percent of the premium is deductible as an ordinary business expense for all employees regardless of percentage of ownership. IRC 162(a).
• The company can also deduct 100 percent for the employee’s spouse (check with your CPA) and the couple’s tax dependants, whether or not they are considered employees. IRC 162(1),162(1)(2), 213(d)
• The premium is excluded from the employee’s income and therefore not subject to federal income tax withholding, social security, Medicare and federal unemployment taxes. IRC106(a), 105(b)
• The company is not subject to anti-discrimination rules; it can discriminate by class, offering long-term care to some employee classes but not to others. Treasury regulation 1.105-5, 1.106-1
If you have a Subchapter S-Corp:
• Your company can pay and deduct the actual long-term care premium IRC 162(a)
• The premium is considered income to the insured so a W-2 and 1120S is issued. Revenue ruling 91-26
• The shareholder/insured includes the W-2 amount on the 1040 and pays self-employed taxes. He than can deduct the eligible premium and pays taxes on the balance. IRC 162(1), 213(s)(1)(D), 213(d)((10)
• The company is not subject to anti-discrimination rules; it can discriminate by class, offering long-term care to some employee classes but not to others. Treasury regulation 1.105-5, 1.106-1
If you have a Partnership:
• The partnership can pay the actual premium and deduct it as a normal business expense. A K-1 for the amount is issued to the partner who includes it on form 1040 for self employment taxation. IRC 162(a), 707(c)
After paying self-employment tax, the insured deducts the eligible premium based on age. The balance is subject to taxation. IRC731(a)(1)
Partnerships can discriminate by class, offering long-term car insurance to some employee classes but not to others because group long-term care insurance plans are not subject to nondiscrimination rules like other plans. Treasury regulation 1.105-5, 1.106-1
Self-Employed Individuals/Sole Proprietors:
• Your company can pay the long-term care insurance premium and fully deduct it. IRC 162(1)
• The actual premium is reported on your 1040 and subject to self employment tax. IRC 162(1)(2)(c), 213(d)
• After paying self employment tax you deduct the eligible premium based on your age; the balance, if any, is considered income.
You can deduct the premiums paid for employees from business income. IRC 162(a)(1)
The Sole Proprietor can discriminate by class offering long-term care insurance to some employee classes but not to others. Treasury Regulation 1.105-5, 1.106-1
Non-self employed individuals:
• The eligible premium is based on your age.
• You must file an itemized return and list the eligible premium as a medical expense.
• The first 7.5 percent of your adjusted gross income must be subtracted from the total medical expenses listed on your return. The balance, if any, is deducted from your gross income. IRC 213(d)(10)
• The eligible premium can be paid from a Health Saving Account or a Health Reimbursement Account without itemizing and without being reduced by the adjusted Gross Income exclusion. IRC 223(d)(2)(A), IRC Notice 2002-45 for HSA
Your employer can pay the actual premium for your long-term care insurance policy with pre-tax dollars and the premiums are excluded from are excluded from income. Benefits are also tax free.
The value of long-term care insurance
It is the ability to protect the emotional, physical and financial wellbeing of your family should you ever become frail and need care over a period of years.
It does so by providing a stream of income that pays for that assistance, allowing those you love to supervise rather than provide physical care—a great relief during a truly difficult time.
Talk to anyone who has had the experience with long-term care and he or she will tell you that providing direct care can be very emotionally and physically stressful.
Since care is now paid for, there is no need to reallocate your income, so it remains in place to pay for the financial commitments you have taken into retirement. Just as important, your investment portfolio remains intact allowing your tax plan to execute properly and preserves the estate for your surviving partner children or others.
(The information provided is not written or intended as specific tax or legal advice and may not be relied on for purposes of avoiding any Federal tax penalties. Individuals are encouraged to seek advice from their own tax or legal counsel. Special thanks to the Corporation for Long Term Care Certification CRN 201404-159476)
Real Estate
Under-the-radar Delaware beach towns smart buyers are targeting
There are other options if Rehoboth prices are scaring you off
Look, we love Rehoboth. We will always love Rehoboth. Queer folks have been flocking there since the 1940s, and with scores of LGBTQ-owned businesses and a Pride calendar packed tighter than the boardwalk in July, “Rehomo” earned its crown fair and square.
But let’s be honest with each other: trying to buy property there right now feels a lot like trying to get a reservation at the one good restaurant in town on a Saturday in August. Everyone wants in, inventory is tighter than your swim trunks after Labor Day brunch, and the prices have officially entered “are you kidding me” territory.
So here’s a thought: What if you didn’t fight the crowd? What if, instead, you let Rehoboth keep doing its glorious, chaotic, glitter-bomb thing and you quietly built your beach life 15 minutes away for considerably less drama and considerably more square footage? Here are four towns ready for their close-up.
Lewes: The Charming Overachiever
Lewes is what happens when a beach town actually has its life together. Historic charm, walkability, proximity to Cape Henlopen State Park, less crowding, and a strong year-round community. Unlike towns that turn into ghost towns after Labor Day, Lewes maintains a real community all year long, which is more than we can say for some situationships.
And right now, the market is practically begging you to make a move. It’s one of the most desirable and stable markets in the county — built for buyers thinking long-term, not flippers, and Sussex County overall has flipped into genuine buyer’s market territory for the first time in years. Translation: you finally get to be the one with leverage.
Bethany Beach: My Personal Pick
Full disclosure: I own in Bethany. So consider this section a little biased — and also the most honest thing I’ll tell you in this whole article.
When I drive down from D.C., I’m not looking for more of D.C. I love this city, but I also love leaving it — and yes, some of the people in it too (you know who you are, and so do I). Bethany gives me that full exhale. It’s quiet in the way that actually means something: fewer crowds, slower mornings, a soundtrack that’s mostly waves instead of nightlife. It leans hard into its “quiet resort” reputation, with low property taxes and a limited geographic footprint, and it is not the least bit sorry about it.
But quiet doesn’t mean isolated. I’ve got a genuinely excellent food scene nearby, real shopping, and a string of charming neighboring beach towns — and when I do want a taste of Rehoboth’s energy, it’s a short, easy drive away. I get to choose my dose of chaos instead of living inside it.
And here’s the part that matters most for this article: the price. If you’ve looked at Rehoboth listings and quietly closed the tab in despair, I need you to hear this — you can absolutely afford a beach house. It just doesn’t have to be in Rehoboth. Bethany’s average home value sits around $848,592, which is still real money, no question — but it buys you more house, more land, and more peace than the same budget gets you closer to the boardwalk. Bethany is welcoming too, just without Rehoboth’s decades of built-in queer institutional history — and for plenty of us, that trade-off is more than worth it.
Fenwick Island: Small Town, Big Flex
Fenwick rarely gets mentioned and, frankly, it should be insulted. It’s tiny, it’s quiet, and it has beach access without the carnival energy. The market data tends to lump it in with Bethany, where single-family oceanfront homes clear $1 million while entry-level condos start in the $600s — proof that “under-the-radar” doesn’t mean “bargain bin,” it means “fewer people fighting you for it.”
South Bethany: For the Boat Gays
Some of us want sand between our toes. Others want a private dock and a boat named something deeply unserious. South Bethany’s canal communities are built for the latter — water access on both sides, fewer crowds, and a lifestyle that says, “I have a captain’s hat and I am not afraid to wear it.”
The Math Works in Your Favor Now
Here’s the part that should really get your attention: Sussex County’s median sold price has dropped to $440,000, down 3.3% year-over-year, and buyers are routinely closing around 88 cents on the dollar compared to asking price. That’s a far cry from the unhinged bidding wars of 2021 and 2022, when overpaying was basically a competitive sport. Inventory across the county sits at nearly 2,500 active listings — the most of any county in Delaware, meaning you actually get to be picky for once. Revolutionary, we know.
And no, choosing one of these towns doesn’t mean leaving your people behind. Sussex Pride serves the entire county, not just Rehoboth proper, and CAMP Rehoboth’s resources extend well beyond town limits too. You’re not exiling yourself to the suburbs of queerness — you’re just getting a bigger kitchen, a quieter porch, and a much shorter line for the bathroom.
Add in the fact that Delaware has no estate tax and some of the lowest property taxes around, savings that genuinely add up over a retirement horizon, and the case writes itself. Rehoboth will always be the beating, sequined heart of queer beach culture in Delaware. But if you’ve been telling yourself a beach house isn’t in the cards — I’m here to tell you it absolutely is. It just might be 15 minutes south, with your own quiet porch, your own salt air, and considerably more room to breathe.
Have a real estate question or Rehoboth market tip? Reach out to [email protected] for LGBTQ-friendly real estate resources in the Rehoboth area.
Justin Noble is a Realtor licensed in D.C., Maryland, and Delaware with Monument Sotheby’s International Realty. Reach him at [email protected] or 302-897-7499.
Real Estate
‘Culture eats strategy for breakfast’
Real estate agents must adapt, learn how to manage from within
“Culture Eats Strategy for Breakfast” was a phrase often repeated in many of my management courses from the University of Illinois. The concept was discussed at length – how the best laid plans can sometimes be supported or derailed by the culture of the people involved in whichever project to be implemented. Whether it be a project to implement new software, roll out a new product or service, or just reaching a sales target, the way the team involved works together can indeed affect the outcome.
Perhaps this is just another way to say, “teamwork makes the dream work!” Most teams usually have someone who is designated as a leader. The leader can try to lead through authority and control or can alternatively try to lead through influence and encouraging a more collective framework for solving problems.
Why does this matter when picking the right real estate agent or team to work with? Besides having a job as a salesperson for the brokerage, the real estate agent is contractually bound to act on their client’s behalf. The buyer broker agreement is in place so that the agent and the client can work together as a team in communications regarding offer strategy, during negotiations, implementing marketing plans, as well as selecting which renovations or upgrades to choose before selling a property. After the property goes under contract, the job isn’t “done”. There is still work to do.
At this point, the agents then turn into a project manager of sorts – coordinating communications between the lending team, the title attorneys, the other client’s agents, any governmental agencies that could be involved in down payment assistance or helping to clear a property for a sale, and often times groups like a condo board, a home inspector, or contractors when arranging repairs and estimates before a final walk through.
In short, the agent takes on somewhat of a “leadership role” in the transaction and ensures that all the ducks stay in a row until the project is complete. That agent will hopefully be very fluid and forthcoming with their information, copying the required parties on all communications and creating a “paper trail” of who said what or didn’t offer to fix A, B, or C, so that all the minutiae of the contract can be addressed and fulfilled before the settlement date. The agent often must wear many hats and quickly learn the communication styles of an entire new set of people in a short period. One person may not return calls for a week after being contacted. Another person may go on vacation at the beginning of the process and not return emails for two weeks. Another person may wish to have daily updates of the progress of the process.
In this way – an agent quickly learns in each transaction that “culture can eat strategy for breakfast.” Because the agent must adapt to a wide variety of communication styles, learn how to “manage from within”, build support for closing the project by the due date, and somehow keep all the interested parties invested, engaged, and responsive.
Who you work with matters when picking the right person to represent you in your next transaction – so, just remember that “teamwork makes the dream work!”
Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with RLAH. Reach him at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].
Real Estate
Does Pride decor resemble Trump’s design aesthetic?
Glitter, gold, and rejecting the idea that a home should be understated
Interior design is often a balancing act between taste, personality, and restraint. Sometimes, however, restraint leaves the building entirely. Such is the case when the colorful exuberance of gay Pride-inspired decorating collides with the famously excessive decorating style associated with the current occupant of the White House. The result can be a fascinating study in maximalism, spectacle, and unapologetic visual overload.
Donald Trump’s personal decorating style has long been a subject of debate among designers and critics. Admirers see luxury and grandeur. Critics see something else: a dizzying display of gold leaf, marble, mirrors, crystal, and oversized furnishings that often crosses the line from elegant into what many designers would call tacky. More is rarely enough. If one chandelier sparkles, three are better. If a room has gold accents, why not make every available surface gold? (See Oval Office and ballroom rendition for details.)
In many ways, this excess shares common ground with certain Pride celebrations. Pride has never been about blending into the background. It celebrates visibility, self-expression, individuality, and joy. Rainbow colors, dramatic costumes, glitter, flamboyant artwork, and bold statements have long been part of Pride culture. Yet there is an important difference. Pride’s extravagance is often playful, self-aware, and rooted in personal expression, while Trump’s aesthetic has frequently been criticized for equating luxury with sheer quantity and visual intensity.
Combining these influences creates an interior that could best be described as “glamorous chaos.”
Imagine entering a living room in which gold-trimmed mirrors stretch from floor to ceiling. Crystal chandeliers hang above a bright rainbow velvet sectional. Marble floors gleam beneath metallic furniture that appears determined to reflect every available light source. Pride flags become framed artwork surrounded by ornate gold moldings. A room designed this way doesn’t whisper. It shouts.
Color is central to the concept. Pride-inspired interiors often embrace the full spectrum of colors. Trump’s style, meanwhile, traditionally favors cream, gold, black, and glossy finishes. Combining them means introducing vivid jewel tones against a backdrop of faux-palatial luxury. Emerald green chairs, ruby-red draperies, sapphire-blue accent walls, and gold-trimmed furniture can coexist in a way that feels deliberately theatrical.
The key word is theatrical.
Many professional designers spend years learning how to create visual balance. A Pride-meets-Trump interior intentionally ignores many of those rules. Pattern competes with pattern. Shine competes with shine. Artwork competes with furniture. The eye rarely gets a chance to rest. For some homeowners, that sounds exhausting. For others, it sounds like the perfect party.
Lighting offers another opportunity to embrace excess. Crystal chandeliers, mirrored lamps, illuminated shelves, and color-changing LED lighting can transform a room into something resembling a cross between a luxury hotel lobby and a Pride festival. The goal is not subtlety. The goal is spectacle.
A dining room inspired by this combination might feature a massive glass table, gold dining chairs, rainbow floral arrangements, mirrored walls, and enough crystal accessories to keep a polishing cloth busy year-round. Critics would call it gaudy. Fans would call it fabulous.
Artwork becomes particularly important. Pride-themed pieces featuring LGBTQ+ history, activism, and culture can provide meaning beneath the decorative excess. Without these personal and cultural elements, the room risks becoming little more than a collection of expensive looking, but not necessarily expensive, objects. Pride design can work best when it reflects identity and community rather than simply displaying color for color’s sake.
While normally a haven for restful sleep, bedrooms can take a similar approach. Plush velvet fabrics, oversized tufted headboards, metallic and mirrored finishes, colorful accent lighting, and dramatic artwork create a space that feels more like a boutique hotel suite than a traditional bedroom. Again, the challenge is avoiding the temptation to add one more decorative element to an already crowded visual landscape.
What makes this design combination interesting is that both aesthetics reject the idea that a home should be understated. Both embrace visibility. Both invite attention. Both encourage occupants to take up space unapologetically. Yet where Pride design often celebrates authenticity and self-expression, Trump’s decorating style is frequently criticized for prioritizing conspicuous luxury over cohesion and refinement.
The result is an interior style that many people would consider delightfully outrageous and others would consider a decorating nightmare. Either way, nobody is likely to forget it.
In the end, a Pride-inspired interpretation of Donald Trump’s famously over-the-top aesthetic would be colorful, glittering, excessive, and impossible to ignore. It would break nearly every rule of minimalist design while embracing the philosophy that if something is worth doing, it is worth overdoing. Whether one sees that as fabulous or tacky may depend entirely on how much gold leaf and rainbow velvet one can tolerate in a single room.
Valerie M. Blake is a licensed associate broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her at [email protected] or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.
