Arts & Entertainment
Still hitting us with their best shot
Neil ‘Spyder’ Giraldo on his long musical partnership with wife Pat Benatar

Pat Benatar and longtime musical collaborator and husband Neil Giraldo. (Photo courtesy the couple)
Cher with Pat Benatar and Neil Giraldo
“D2K Tour”
Friday
8 p.m.
Verizon Center
601 F St. N.W.
Pat Benatar and Neil “Spyder” Giraldo share a rock ‘n roll fairy tale that isn’t the norm in the music world. She sings, he plays guitar and Giraldo also serves as producer and arranger. Together, the couple has written Top 40 hits such as “Love is a Battlefield,” “Hit Me with Your Best Shot,” “Heartbreaker,” “Promises In The Dark” and “We Belong.”
More impressively, they have been happily married for more than three decades.
“When we first started playing together, we were each other’s muse and there was no relationship involved and we started a partnership, entrusting our musical abilities in each other,” Giraldo says. “Our being around together so long and so much, we became romantically involved and that became our priority. Now, when we get off stage, we are just Mr. and Mrs. Giraldo.”
When the couple plays the Verizon Center tonight, it will be a celebration of 35 years together — both as partners on the stage and off. Not that their fairytale love doesn’t have the usual kinks every couple faces. Giraldo says they experience the same arguments that any married couple has — they’ve just learned to put them aside when it’s time to perform.
“Even if we have an argument beforehand, when we hit the stage, we are just Pat and Neil, those people you have always known and loved,” Giraldo says. “The endorphins kick in and that’s helpful and your attitude changes and by the time you come off, we forget what we were arguing about. It’s a gift from God to get us through the day.”
The pair will share the bill at Verizon with Cher and later this summer will co-headline a tour with fellow ’80s legend Rick Springfield.
“I’ve known both of them forever and this is the first time that we will be going out on tour together, so it’s something I am looking forward to as well,” Springfield says. “Not a lot of people know this, but Spyder played guitar on ‘Jessie’s Girl’ (and also co-produced it), so he plays an important part of my history.”
Playing with fellow musical icons is nothing new for Benatar and Giraldo; in fact, over the years they have played with a who’s who of ’80s rock, including Journey, Loverboy, REO Speedwagon, the Bangles, Blondie and Cheap Trick.
“Let’s face it, not everyone wants to spend money to see a concert, but when you combine a couple of favorites in one show, it’s just a win-win for everyone,” Giraldo says. “Fans like it and shows like this should have been done more back in the early days, but I think egos probably got in the way a lot more back then.”
For the Verizon concert, Giraldo says to expect plenty of hits as well as some new stuff and “the best of the bunch of the rest. There will be some surprises and we’ll make you tired as hell by the time we’re done.”
Although Benatar prefers to let her music do the talking, the man they call Spyder is always happy to be front and center with interviews as he says his personality is much better suited for it. Still, he shares that his lovely wife still enjoys being on stage as much as he does and they are both always so touched to see so many fans.
“Sometimes I look out at the crowd and go, ‘Wow, lots of these people are really old. Wait, I’m really old!’ But they are in their T-shirts and singing along and we go back in time,” he says. “Then you see those kids whose parents grew up with our music and so they listened to it, and that’s great to see.”
And don’t expect the lovebirds to stop touring anytime soon. Giraldo says there’s no slowing down in them.
“From the very beginning our chemistry was undeniable. This is the driving force behind everything we do,” Giraldo says. “After 35 years of playing together, we’re looking forward to the summer tour and the future, which will surely be adventurous.”
Theater
Out dancer on Alvin Ailey’s stint at Warner Theatre
10-day production marks kickoff of national tour
Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater
Through Feb. 8
Warner Theatre
513 12th St., N.W.
Tickets start at $75
ailey.org
The legendary Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater is coming to Washington’s Warner Theatre, and one of its principal veterans couldn’t be more pleased. Out dancer Renaldo Maurice is eager to be a part of the company’s 10-day stint, the kickoff of a national tour that extends through early May.
“I love the respectful D.C. crowd and they love us,” says Maurice, a member of esteemed modern dance company for 15 years. The traveling tour is made of two programs and different casting with Ailey’s masterwork “Revelations” in both programs.
Recently, we caught up with Maurice via phone. He called from one of the quiet rooms in his New York City gym where he’s getting his body ready for the long Ailey tour.
Based in North Newark, N.J., where he recently bought a house, Maurice looks forward to being on the road: “I enjoy the rigorous performance schedule, classes, shows, gym, and travel. It’s all part of carving out a lane for myself and my future and what that looks like.”
Raised by a single mother of three in Gary, Ind., Maurice, 33, first saw Alvin Ailey as a young kid in the Auditorium Theatre in downtown Chicago, the same venue where he’s performed with the company as a professional dancer.
He credits his mother with his success: “She’s a real dance mom. I would not be the man or artist I am today if it weren’t for the grooming and discipline of my mom. Support and encouragement. It’s impacted my artistry and my adulthood.”
Maurice is also part of the New York Ballroom scene, an African-American and Latin underground LGBTQ+ subculture where ball attendees “walk” in a variety of categories (like “realness,” “fashion,” and “sex siren”) for big prizes. He’s known as the Legendary Overall Father of the Haus of Alpha Omega.
WASHINGTON BLADE: Like many gay men of his era, Ailey lived a largely closeted public life before his death from AIDS-related complications in 1989.
RENALDO MAURICE Not unusual for a Black gay man born during the Depression in Rogers, Texas, who’s striving to break out in the industry to be a creative. You want to be respected and heard. Black man, and Black man who dances, and you may be same-sex gender loving too. It was a lot, especially at that time.
BLADE: Ailey has been described as intellectual, humble, and graceful. He possessed strength. He knew who he was and what stories he wanted to tell.
MAURICE: Definitely, he wanted to concentrate on sharing and telling stories. What kept him going was his art. Ailey wanted dancers to live their lives and express that experience on stage. That way people in the audience could connect with them. It’s incredibly powerful that you can touch people by moving your body.
That’s partly what’s so special about “Revelations,” his longest running ballet and a fan favorite that’s part of the upcoming tour. Choreographed by Alvin Ailey in 1960, it’s a modern dance work that honors African-American cultural heritage through themes of grief, joy, and faith.
BLADE: Is “Revelation” a meaningful piece for you?
MAURICE: It’s my favorite piece. I saw it as a kid and now perform it as a professional dance artist. I’ve grown into the role since I was 20 years old.
BLADE: How can a dancer in a prestigious company also be a ballroom house father?
MAURICE: I’ve made it work. I learned how to navigate and separate. I’m a principal dancer with Ailey. And I take that seriously. But I’m also a house father and I take that seriously as well.
I’m about positivity, unity, and hard work. In ballroom you compete and if you’re not good, you can get chopped. You got to work on your craft and come back harder. It’s the same with dance.
BLADE: Any message for queer audiences?
MAURICE: I know my queer brothers and sisters love to leave with something good. If you come to any Ailey performance you’ll be touched, your spirit will be uplifted. There’s laughter, thoughtful and tender moments. And it’s all delivered by artists who are passionate about what they do.
BLADE: Alvin Ailey has been a huge part of your life. Thoughts on that?
MAURICE: I’m a believer in it takes a village. Hard work and discipline. I take it seriously and I love what I do. Ailey has provided me with a lot: world travel, a livelihood, and working with talented people here and internationally. Alvin Ailey has been a huge part of my life from boyhood to now. It’s been great.
Catfish Comedy will host “2026 Queer Kickoff Show” on Thursday, Feb. 5 at A League of Her Own (2319 18th Street, N.W.). This show features D.C.’s funniest LGBTQ and femme comedians. The lineup features performers who regularly take the stage at top clubs like DC Improv and Comedy Loft, with comics who tour nationally.
Tickets are $17.85 and can be purchased on Eventbrite.
Arts & Entertainment
Catherine O’Hara, ‘Schitt’s Creek’ star and celebrated queer ally, dies at 71
Actress remembered for memorable comedic roles in ‘Beetlejuice’ and ‘Home Alone’
Catherine O’Hara, the varied comedic actor known for memorable roles in “Beetlejuice,” “Schitt’s Creek,” and “Home Alone,” has died at 71 on Friday, according to multiple reports. No further details about her death were revealed.
O’Hara’s death comes as a shock to Hollywood, as the Emmy award-winning actor has been recently active, with roles in both “The Studio” and “The Last of Us.” For her work in those two shows, she received Emmy nominations for outstanding supporting actress in a comedy series and outstanding guest actress in a drama series.
In 2020, O’Hara won the Outstanding Lead Actress in a comedy series award for her work in the celebrated sixth and final season of “Schitt’s Creek.” She was also known as a queer ally and icon for her theatrical and often campy performances over multiple decades. In “Schitt’s Creek,” she played Moira Rose, the wig-loving mother of David Rose (played by series creator Dan Levy). David is pansexual, but the characters around him simply accept him for who he is; the show was embraced by the LGBTQ community with how naturally David’s sexuality was written and portrayed. That show ran from 2015 to 2020 and helped bring O’Hara and her co-stars into a new phase of their careers.
In a 2019 interview with the Gay Times, O’Hara explained why the show got LGBTQ representation right: “Daniel has created a world that he wants to live in, that I want to live in. It’s ridiculous that we live in a world where we don’t know how to respect each other and let each other be. It’s crazy. Other shows should follow suit and present the world and present humans as the best that we can be. It doesn’t mean you can’t laugh, that you can’t be funny in light ways and dark ways. It’s all still possible when you respect and love each other.”
Additional credits include “SCTV Network” (for which O’Hara won a writing Emmy), “Beetlejuice Beetlejuice,” “Curb Your Enthusiasm,” “Six Feet Under,” “Best in Show,” “Home Alone 2: Lost in New York,” and “Dick Tracy.” O’Hara also lent her voice to “The Nightmare Before Christmas,” “Chicken Little,” “Monster House,” and “Elemental.” O’Hara was expected to return for Season 2 of “The Studio,” which started filming earlier this month.
