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A friend’s death serves as reminder that we all have something to live for

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This is the time of year to make resolutions, right?  Well, yes, but resolutions based on a date and time of year tend to be tenuous at best.

Making a decision to alter a behavior, take an action or stop procrastinating over a particular task cannot be accomplished based on a date on the calendar. Yes, changes involve action, but more importantly change involves perspective and a state-of-mind and daily habits.

So this week I am not providing you with resolution tips — you’re on your own there. But what I do want to share is how grateful I am to be alive and healthy.

Today, I learned that a friend lost his battle with cancer. Peter was taken far too soon and the world has lost a great soul. Last week, I attended a funeral for a friend’s Mom. Anyone of us or someone dear to us could die tomorrow or now. Too melodramatic? I think not, and while I may be sounding morose the point I am trying to make is that we all have something to live for. We all, despite our circumstances can find something to be grateful for, if only for being alive.

I am generally a daily journal writer and I sometimes write a gratitude list, particularly when I am feeling like my life does not amount to anything and that I have nothing going for me. Yes, it is rather reactive and my resolution (remember, I am not writing about resolutions this week) this year is to be more proactive and less reactive, better preparing me for living life on life’s terms. When I write the gratitude list I always feel better — it sounds like an oversimplified exercise with useless merit — but it works for me and always lifts my spirit.

I know for me I am lifted when I acknowledge I am grateful for having my life and not someone else’s. Essentially, my perspective is that my cards have been dealt and while I may be able to shuffle the cards, I can’t change the deck. And my life is my own to live it how I choose.

This may all sound very esoteric but isn’t there enough complaining in this world and can’t we all benefit from a regular dose of gratitude? And can’t we all create an experience that allows us to thrive and prevail despite what life throws at us?

I have no hair, my computer sucks, I don’t have a boyfriend and the convenience store clerk is not paying me enough attention. I can find just about anything big or small to complain about – it’s really easy for me, too easy perhaps. My challenge is remembering the good in my life, again big or small. And I believe that gratitude should coincide with compassion, love and understanding.

I learned the Serenity prayer at a young age from my Mom who recited it regularly as a reprieve from living with an alcoholic, my Dad. It may have seemed to have gone in one ear and out the other back then, but it resonates quite a bit with me today.  And whether you believe in God or not its message is non-denominational and you don’t have to be in recovery or a 12-step program to embrace it.

For those unfamiliar — it goes, “Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” I can recall countless situations where I recited this prayer over and over again in my head to help me through a difficult situation.

So if I have caught your attention and you have read this far, I am giving you a daily assignment. I will keep it very simple for you — your job, should you choose to accept it, is two-fold. First, write down three things you are grateful for. Keep it simple and remember the basics like I have food and shelter today. Also, add to this list as often as possible so you see there are more than just three things in your life to be grateful for. Second, tell at least one person each day that you are grateful for having them in your life and why.

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UNAIDS to commemorate Zero Discrimination Day’s 10th anniversary

UN agency urges global action to protect human rights

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A UNAIDS anti-discrimination exhibit at Tocumen International Airport in Panama in 2018. (Washington Blade photo by Michael K. Lavers)

As the world marks the 10th anniversary of Zero Discrimination Day; UNAIDS is sounding the alarm on the increasing threats to human rights, calling for renewed efforts to protect the rights of all individuals as a fundamental step towards ensuring health for everyone.

Established by UNAIDS a decade ago, Zero Discrimination Day aims to promote equality and fairness regardless of gender, age, sexuality, ethnicity or HIV status. The progress achieved over the past years is now in jeopardy, however, due to rising attacks on the rights of women, LGBTQ people and other marginalized communities.

UNAIDS Executive Director Winnie Byanyima emphasized the critical link between protecting human rights and safeguarding public health. 

“The attacks on rights are a threat to freedom and democracy and are harmful to health,” she said in a press release. “Stigma and discrimination obstruct HIV prevention, testing, treatment and care and hold back progress towards ending AIDS by 2030. It is only by protecting everyone’s rights that we can protect everyone’s health.”

Despite challenges, there has been notable progress. 

At the onset of the AIDS pandemic more than 40 years ago, two-thirds of countries criminalized consensual same-sex sexual relations. They are now decriminalized in two-thirds of countries. An additional 38 countries around the world have pledged to end HIV-related stigma and discrimination, contributing to positive changes that include 50 million more girls attending school compared to 2015.

To sustain and enhance these advancements; UNAIDS urges global support for women’s rights movements, LGBTQ rights, racial justice, economic justice, climate justice and peace initiatives. By standing with communities advocating for their rights, the U.N. aims to reinforce the collective effort towards a more inclusive and equitable world.

Zero Discrimination Day is observed on March 1.

Events and activities that will take place around the world throughout the month will serve as reminders of the essential lesson and call to action: Protecting everyone’s health is synonymous with protecting everyone’s rights.

“Through upholding rights for all, we will be able to achieve the Sustainable Development Goals and secure a safer, fairer, kinder and happier world — for everyone,” said Byanyima.

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New CDC report finds transgender women at higher risk for HIV

More than 1,600 people in seven cities surveyed

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The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta (Photo courtesy of the CDC)

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention issued a new study report this week that revealed that restricted by employment and housing discrimination and lack of access to needed gender-affirming healthcare for transgender women increasing the risk of contracting HIV. 

Researchers reviewed data from a 2019-2020 survey, the National HIV Behavioral Surveillance Among Transgender Women, which found that the demographics of HIV/AIDS have been disproportionally high, especially among Black and Latina trans women, who had experienced employment and housing discrimination coupled with lack of access to gender-affirming healthcare.

The Jan. 25 Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report was based on data studies of more than 1,600 trans women in seven major urban locales. Participants from Atlanta, Los Angeles, New Orleans, New York, Philadelphia, San Francisco and Seattle were chosen by referrals from people and community-based organizations who knew or were part of the local population of trans women.

The study’s researchers noted: “Employment discrimination occurs at the overlapping nexus of poverty, homelessness, incarceration, health insurance, disability, food insecurity and survival sex work. These issues are interconnected.”

The study stated that trans women’s inability to access quality healthcare, including gender-affirming treatment or access to PrEP, and can expose them to potential incarceration as many turn to “survival sex work” and violence, which increases the risk of contracting HIV. 

The study’s author’s pointed out: “When economically marginalized transgender women are refused employment, this refusal cyclically contributes to economic hardships. This analysis …demonstrates the importance of transgender women working and living with dignity and without fear of unfair treatment.”

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A Whole New Perspective on Well-Being

The Mather’s team recognizes that everyone’s wellness journey is completely unique to their life experiences and influences.

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The Mather is incorporating biophilic design—a design approach to facilitate access to nature or things that replicate natural patterns.

It’s easy to spot the distinctive, elegant silhouette of The Mather, a Life Plan Community for those 62+ opening this spring in Tysons, Virginia. What is not apparent to the naked eye is The Mather’s unique wellness philosophy, which is literally built into the community. 

The Mather’s team recognizes that everyone’s wellness journey is completely unique to their life experiences and influences.

Nature is one of the important factors that contribute to well-being. So The Mather is incorporating biophilic design—a design approach to facilitate access to nature or things that replicate natural patterns. This can include interior spaces with sightlines to a garden, choosing natural wood and stone as interior materials, or incorporating fragrant flowers and plants indoors to spark memories and provide tactile opportunities such as gardening. 

Residents of The Mather will be able to select from plentiful amenities, programs, and other offerings to target their personal wellness goals and preferences.

“Providing biophilic design within interior settings connects residents to the natural world,” says Mary Leary, CEO and President of Mather, the organization behind The Mather. “Research shows that a connection to nature provides positive benefits to mental states and overall well-being. At The Mather, biophilic design is the intersection of buildings and programs with nature in an urban setting.”

“The Mather is attracting a diverse group of older adults,” says Mary. “As a result, we aim to incorporate wellness practices from around the world, including Wyda movement theory of the Celtic Druids, which helps people achieve harmony with nature and contentment through mindfulness.” This holistic regenerative approach is similar to Qi Gong and yoga, while born in a different part of the world. Mather Institute has a special focus on mindfulness to support older adults’ practice of present moment awareness, which can lead to increased overall well-being, compassion, and joy.

A very different example of a wellness offering at The Mather is the Gharieni Welnamis spa wave bed, which uses computer-controlled vibrational therapy and audio frequencies to train the brain to relax. “The bed increases mindfulness, concentration, and creativity—all of which support our mission of creating Ways to Age Well,SM” says Mary.

These and other personalized ways to wellness will ensure that residents of The Mather can choose from seemingly countless ways to focus on their well-being. In other words, the sky’s the limit!

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