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Will D.C. gays contribute to Maryland same-sex marriage campaign?
Potential donors in D.C. say Marylanders for Marriage Equality has yet to approach them

Josh Levin speaks at Baltimore fundraiser for Marylanders for Marriage Equality (Blade photo by Michael K. Lavers)
Will D.C. gays support efforts to defend neighboring Maryland’s same-sex marriage law?
Some observers are asking just that after Freedom to Marry hosted a fundraiser in the nation’s capital for the group seeking to secure marriage rights for same-sex couples in Maine. Baltimore native Ken Mehlman, who is the gay former chair of the Republican National Committee, Winnie Stachelberg of the Center for American Progress, Ken Crerar and Joel Kopperud of the Council of Insurance Agents and Brokers and Kirk Fordham of the Gill Action Fund are among those who were on the host committee for the Mainers United for Marriage fundraiser at Robert Raben’s Northeast Washington home on July 11.
Matt McTighe, campaign director for Mainers United for Marriage, told the Blade that he personally asked former colleagues and friends in D.C. to join the fundraiser’s host committee. He said it raised slightly more than $20,000 as of deadline.
“We’re doing fundraisers all over the country,” said McTighe, who noted Mainers United for Marriage has held events in 15 states. “We’re going to continue to do more wherever we can do them.”
Stachelberg, who hired McTighe when she was at the Human Rights Campaign, stressed that CAP has worked extensively to defend Maryland’s same-sex marriage law. These efforts include what she described as conversations with LGBT lawmakers in Annapolis and strengthening support for marriage rights for gays and lesbians among religious Marylanders. Maryland Attorney General Doug Gansler predicted during a CAP forum last fall that state lawmakers would pass a same-sex marriage bill this year — Gov. Martin O’Malley signed the measure into law in March.
“We at CAP have done a lot in terms of content and work probably more in Maryland than other state initiatives,” said Stachelberg. “I certainly helped with strategic in kind help over the last year and a half as have a number of other people at CAP. The Maryland effort hasn’t asked me and I’m sure when they do I’ll figure out how to help.”
Crerar and his partner Peter Garrett, who attended Bowdoin College, have owned a house in Maine since 1992. The couple hosted a fundraiser at their D.C. home in support of the campaign that ultimately failed to defend the Pine Tree State’s same-sex marriage law during a 2009 referendum. Crerar told the Blade that he and Garrett decided to co-host the July 11 fundraiser after Mainers United for Marriage asked them.
“From spending time up there, we know that the atmosphere is very different, and positive so we are glad to help,” said Crerar. “Regarding Maryland, the simple answer is that no one has asked.”
Gay Democratic lobbyist Steve Elmendorf said that McTighe also asked him to join the fundraiser’s host committee. He, like Crerar, said that Marylanders for Marriage Equality has yet to approach him to help the campaign raise money. Elmendorf stressed, however, that he plans to attend an upcoming Marylanders for Marriage Equality fundraiser in Bethesda.
“As long as there is a winning campaign — and I think Maryland has a winning campaign as does Maine, we’re going to help,” he said.
Marylanders for Marriage Equality has faced increased scrutiny in recent weeks from those who feel the campaign has not raised enough money to effectively defend the state’s same-sex marriage law.
The campaign last week unveiled a web ad that features black Marylanders who support nuptials for gays and lesbians. Marylanders for Marriage Equality also launched a new web site a day after state election officials certified a petition to prompt a November referendum on the issue. O’Malley, House Speaker Michael Busch (D-Anne Arundel County,) Baltimore Mayor Stephanie Rawlings-Blake, Howard County Executive Ken Ulman and HRC President Chad Griffin are among those who have either co-hosted or attended campaign fundraisers in recent months.
Josh Levin, campaign director of Marylanders for Marriage Equality, told the Blade during a June 13 fundraiser in Baltimore that he remains confident that he can run what he described as a “winning campaign” with between $5 and $7 million. A former Equality Maryland fundraiser said last month that he feels the campaign needs to raise at least $10 million. Other LGBT activists who asked the Blade to remain anonymous have stressed that Marylanders for Marriage Equality will need up to $12 million to defend the law.
Neither Levin nor other campaign representatives have publicly disclosed the amount of money that Marylanders for Marriage Equality has raised.
Kevin Nix, spokesperson for Marylanders for Marriage Equality, downplayed speculation that the Mainers United for Marriage fundraiser is in any way indicative of gay Washingtonians’ unwillingness to support the campaign to defend Maryland’s same-sex marriage law. “D.C. is one of the go-to places to hold a fundraiser—happens every day for every issue and candidate under the sun, no matter the state,” he said. “Par for the course.”
Evan Wolfson, executive director of Freedom to Marry, told the Blade in an earlier interview that Marylanders for Marriage Equality will need “10 million plus” to defend the state’s same-sex marriage law in the referendum. The organization has contributed thousands of dollars to the campaigns to defend nuptials for gays and lesbians in Minnesota and Washington, in addition to Maine, through its Win More States Fund.
“We are deeply involved in several of the campaigns, while others are taking the lead elsewhere, including Maryland,” said Wolfson. “We encourage everyone to step up and work hard in all of these campaigns, just as we are doing where we can. Each of these campaigns requires millions of dollars, most raised in state, some raised by national efforts. We are working hard to do our parts and invite others to invest strategically through the Win More States Fund.”
District of Columbia
D.C. Pride flag raising ceremony set for June 1
Mayor, council members to participate
D.C. Mayor Muriel Bowser’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs is inviting the LGBTQ community and friends to attend the city’s annual Pride flag raising ceremony scheduled for 4 p.m. Monday, June 1, outside the John Wilson Building that serves as the D.C. City Hall.
Like in prior years, members of the D.C. Council and officials with the Office of LGBTQ Affairs were expected to join Bowser in delivering remarks on the front entrance steps at the Wilson Building before raising the Pride flag atop one of the tall flagpoles next to the building’s entrance.
Gaby Vincent, a spokesperson for the LGBTQ Affairs Office, said attendees of the flag raising ceremony will be invited to attend a reception immediately following the ceremony in the main lobby of the Wilson Building, which is located on Pennsylvania Avenue at 14th Street, N.W.
She said the reception will feature a DJ, dancing, and refreshments provided by the D.C. LGBTQ bar and café Spark Social House.
Vincent said the flag raising event will also mark the 20th anniversary of the opening of the D.C. Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs.
In its official announcement of the flag raising event the LGBTQ Affairs Office also announced it is hosting the 7th annual District of Pride Showcase event to be held Friday, June 17, at 7 p.m. at the Lincoln Theater.
The announcement says LGBTQ community members, families, and allies are also invited to walk with Bowser in the Capital Pride Parade scheduled for Saturday, June 20. It says the mayor’s parade contingent will assemble at 2 p.m. at the parade’s starting location at 14th and U Streets, N.W.
“As we also celebrate the 20th anniversary of the Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs, we invite residents, community members, families and allies to join us throughout June for moments of pride, connection, visibility, and joy,” the announcement says.
District of Columbia
‘Queer Love’ campaign launched to address domestic violence
D.C. event set for LGBTQ+ Domestic Violence Awareness Day on May 28
The D.C.-based Wanda Alston Foundation, which provides housing and support services for homeless LGBTQ youth, announced earlier this month that it has joined partner organizations to launch a Queer Love Shouldn’t Hurt campaign aimed at addressing domestic violence within the LGBTQ community.
In a May 18 statement, the Alston Foundation said the campaign involves a public awareness initiative leading up to LGBTQ+ Domestic Violence Awareness Day scheduled for May 28.
“Domestic and family violence in LGBTQ+ communities is real and too often invisible,” Cesar Toledo, the Alston Foundation’s executive director, said in the statement. “As a community, we do not talk about it enough, and that silence can leave survivors feeling isolated and alone,” he said. “We must break that silence.”
He added that culturally competent care for those impacted by domestic violence is available through a newly launched website, queerlove.org, “where people can safely access vital resources, educational toolkits, and support networks they need on their healing journey.”
The website announces one of the project’s first events, a Queer Love Community Social, was scheduled for Thursday, May 28, from 6-8 p.m. at the D.C. LGBTQ+ Community Center at 1827 Wiltberger St., N.W.
“Join us this LGBT+ Domestic Violence Awareness Day for a community social dedicated to visibility and survivor resilience,” the website statement says. “Let’s gather to strengthen our bonds, honor the path to healing, and share free resources,” it says of the May 28 event.
The website also announces a June 1 workshop called Empowering Survivors of LGBTQ+ Intimate Partner Violence, which it says will be presented by Jesse Wedell, an official with the D.C. LGBT+ Counseling Collaborative. The website provides an online form to register for the workshop upon which its location would be disclosed.
It identifies the partner organizations working with the Alston Foundation on the Queer Love Public Awareness Campaign as the LGBT+ Counseling Collaborative, Whitman-Walker Health, the D.C. LGBTQ+ Community Center, and Equality Chamber.
The resources and information provided by the project can be accessed at www.queerlove.org.
District of Columbia
Man accused of threatening to shoot D.C. bar employee after making anti-gay slurs
May 24 incident took place near Black Pride events on U Street
D.C. police on Sunday, May 24, at around 4:20 p.m. arrested a Maryland man for allegedly threatening to shoot an employee while using anti-gay slurs at Ben’s Next Door restaurant and bar at 1211 U St., N.W.
According to a statement released by police and a police incident report, the arrested man, identified as Delonte Fraley, 32, of Accokeek, Md., made the threats after the employee told a bartender not to serve the man alcohol.
“The suspect overheard the employee and threatened to shoot the employee and used homophobic slurs against the employee,” the police statement says. “When the employee left the restaurant for the day, the suspect was standing near the employee’s vehicle,” it says.
“The employee returned to the restaurant and called the police,” the statement continues. “The suspect was apprehended by responding officers,” it says.
The police statement says the arresting officers charged Fraley with Felony Threats (Hate/Bias).
D.C. Superior Court records show prosecutors with the Office of the U.S. Attorney for D.C., which prosecutes D.C. criminal cases, escalated the charge to Threatening to Injure or Kidnap a Person (Bias-Related Hate Crime).
The incident occurred during Memorial Day weekend when thousands of visitors and D.C. area LGBTQ advocates and supporters were attending D.C. Black Pride events held in locations across the city, including Black Pride parties hosted by LGBTQ bars in the U Street entertainment area near Ben’s Next Door.
Among the nearby LGBTQ bars hosting D.C. Black Pride events were Nellie’s Sports Bar and Thurst Lounge. Ben’s Next Door is located next to the popular longtime U Street eatery Ben’s Chili Bowl.
Court records show that Judge Robert R. Rigsby at a May 25 presentment hearing released Fraley on personal recognizance with a stay-away order — the details of which were not publicly disclosed pending a June 4 preliminary hearing.
A more detailed arrest affidavit filed in court by D.C. police says Fraley allegedly confronted the employee at Ben’s Next Door with anti-gay slurs on the day prior to his arrest.
“The complainant told the defendant that because he used homophobic slurs towards himself previously on May 23, 2026, and his hostess, as well as making threats to the complainant and calling him a faggot, he was unable to stay in the establishment,” the affidavit states.
It adds, “The defendant became irate stating, ‘I know where your Tesla is at. See me outside faggot, I will slap your ass’ and ‘I will shoot your ass.’” The affidavit says the complainant confirmed to police the Tesla referred to by Fraley was his vehicle. It says as the victim walked toward his car after getting off work, he saw Fraley standing directly in front of the car.
“The complainant stated he felt unsafe while the defendant was standing in front of his vehicle because he felt the defendant was capable of carrying out those threats,” says the affidavit. It says the victim then decided to return to the restaurant and call police without the defendant having seen him.
“The defendant was placed under arrest for Felony Threats Hate/Bias and was transported to the Third District Station for processing,” the affidavit concludes.
It couldn’t immediately be determined whether the victim identifies as LGBTQ or whether any of the Ben’s Next Door patrons had been involved with D.C. Black Pride.
“Established in 2008, Ben’s Next Door is a family-owned and operated restaurant and bar on U Street, Northwest in Washington, D.C.,” a statement on its website says. “As a Black-owned establishment, it’s our goal to deliver a warm, welcoming, familiar, and communal vibe to all guests,” the statement says.
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