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R.J. Aguiar, left, and Will Shepherd, a gay vlogging couple. (Photo courtesy Shepherd)

In a world of stereotypes, two couples want to show gay relationships are normal by putting their own on YouTube for the world to see.

Will Shepherd, 24, and R.J. Aguiar, 25, have been daily vlogging their relationship on their YouTube channel ā€œshep689ā€ since January 2012. It started as a month-long experiment to video every day of their lives together. Since then, their channel has expanded to more than 100,000 subscribers and almost two years worth of daily videos.

ā€œDaily vlogging happened by accident,ā€ Aguiar says. ā€œWe decided to try it for a month and thought it would fail completely, but instead it took off. We tried it for another month and it took off even more than the first.ā€

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Shepherd started the channel as a hobby to respond to funny videos his friend posted. It grew into posting self-help advice and book reviews and eventually included ā€œday in the lifeā€ videos after he met Aguiar. Occasionally the two would record themselves on vacation and at the request of subscribers, they decided to try vlogging every day. From there, the channelā€™s focus became Shepherd and Aguiarā€™s everyday lives together.

ā€œI wanted to portray gay life as it should be,ā€ Shepherd says. ā€œWe wanted to show that there are very little differences between the daily life of a heterosexual couple and a homosexual couple.ā€

Shepherd, who works in advertising, and Aguiar, who works in marketing, have documented large parts of their lives like their move from their home state of Florida to Los Angeles and getting a dog. Theyā€™ve also recorded little moments such as going to Chipotle, being stuck in traffic and getting locked out of the house. Their channel led to the launch of their website, notadamandsteve.com, a mix of everything from advice and reviews to recipes and personal stories.

Kaelyn Petras, 25, and Lucy Sutcliffe, 21, started their YouTube channel ā€œKaelyn and Lucyā€ to stay connected in their long-distance relationship, which began online. Sutcliffe had been following Petrasā€™s Taylor Swift Tumblr and saw that Petras posted she was ready to come out to her family.

Lucy Sutcliffe, left, and Kaelyn Petras vlogged their long-distance relationship. (Photo courtesy Sutcliffe)

Lucy Sutcliffe, left, and Kaelyn Petras vlogged their long-distance relationship. (Photo courtesy Sutcliffe)

ā€œI’d spent the springtime obsessively watching all six seasons of ā€˜The L Wordā€™ and had sort of just begun accepting myself as a gay woman,ā€ Sutcliffe says. ā€œSo I decided to send Kaelyn a quick email, just letting her know that she wasn’t alone and that I was here if she ever wanted to talk. A few hours later she responded and we just havenā€™t stopped talking.ā€

Sutcliffe, who resides in England, had planned a road trip in the United States and decided to fly to visit Petras, who was in veterinary school in Saint Kitts (an island in the West Indies), at the end of her trip. Sutcliffe, a student filmmaker, filmed the trip and uploaded it to YouTube, mainly as a memento for the couple. Instead, it gained unexpected popularity.

ā€œA few months passed and then literally overnight the video had gained several thousand views,ā€ Sutcliffe says. ā€œPeople had started commenting, ā€˜This video saved my life,ā€™ ā€˜You girls have showed me that I donā€™t have to be ashamed of my sexuality,ā€™ and ā€˜Our daughter has just come out to us and we didn’t know how to react. We’ve just stumbled upon your video and you’ve showed us that our daughter needs nothing from us but support and acceptance.ā€™ā€

Now, their channel has reached more than 100,000 subscribers. They record videos of their visits together both in England and the United States and have expanded into separate vlog posts of their lives when theyā€™re apart. They film themselves watching television shows on their laptops and going to get sushi while also filming the emotional turmoil they face when they have to leave each other. Theyā€™re the sort of situations any couple can relate to.

ā€œThe main goal of the channel is to normalize lesbian/gay relationships and that itā€™s OK to embrace who you are and be proud of it,ā€ Sutcliffe says.

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Exposing your life to thousands of people does have its downside. Shepherd and Sutcliffe, who edit their videos, both are careful not to reveal too much personal information. However, Shepherd says some viewers have been able to piece together where he and Aguiar live and have spread the information on the Internet. Sutcliffe admits that it can also be difficult for people to comment and question her and Petrasā€™ relationship.

Yet both couples plan to continue sharing their lives on YouTube.

Shepherd and Aguiar recently got engaged; both of their proposal videos to each other are on their channel. They expect to continue vlogging at least until their wedding set for 2015. They want to let subscribers share in that day as well with plans to have it professionally filmed or vlogged by friends.

ā€œSince we embarked on this as an experiment, itā€™s kind of difficult to know how itā€™s going to end,ā€ Aguiar says. ā€œIt has to be organic the same way that it started.ā€

Petras and Sutcliffe plan to move in together this summer. They still want to continue making videos even though they recognize their videos will change as their long distance situation changes. They hope to continue to show a gay relationship is like any other relationship.

ā€œNothing we do or say is scripted or fake. It’s just us being our normal, sometimes boring, selves,ā€ Sutcliffe says. ā€œWe love having people countdown with us, cheer us on when we’re together and cry with us when we leave. It sounds cheesy, but it’s like having loads and loads of supportive friends, really.ā€

Helping young people struggling with coming out who are searching for solace on YouTube is something Shepard and Aguiar hope they can ultimately accomplish.

ā€œWhen I was coming out,ā€ Shepherd says, ā€œI thought I had to change who I was and be a magical quip machine or a ā€˜Queer as Folkā€™-type gay. The point of our videos is to show that you donā€™t have to change who you are.ā€

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D.C. holiday theater preview 2024

Need a little cheer? Weā€™ve got you covered

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The company of Step Afrika!'s ā€˜Magical Musical Holiday Step Showā€™ at Arena Stage. (Photo by Jati Lindsay)

In need of a little cheer? Fortunately, thereā€™s a fix. The DMV boasts a wealth of holiday-themed theater, music, and dance guaranteed to lift spirits and warm hearts. Hereā€™s a sliver of whatā€™s out there. 

Arena Stage invites audiences ā€œto step back into the holiday spirit with the joyful return of ā€˜Step Afrika!’s Magical Musical Holiday Step Showā€™ (Dec. 13-22) where the rich tradition of African-American stepping blends with the magic of the season.ā€ DJ Nutcracker and his Arctic friends promise to amplify the festive atmosphere. Arenastage.orgĀ 

Looking for a new way to experience a Christmas favorite? With the Kennedy Centerā€™s ā€œElf in Concert: Film with Live Orchestraā€ (through Dec. 1), you can relive the endearing comedy on a giant screen as every note of John Debneyā€™s wonderful score is played live by the National Symphony Orchestra. 

Another Kennedy Center holiday treat is ā€œFinnā€ (through Dec. 22). From Chris Nee, the out creator of TVā€™s ā€œDoc McStuffinsā€ and ā€œVampirina,ā€ ā€œFinnā€ is filled with vibrant sea creatures and catchy tunes. Hilarious and heartening, this world premiere musical chronicles the coming-of-age journey of a young shark following his dreams. Kennedy-center.orgĀ 

For those in search of yuletide camaraderie and keyboards, thereā€™s the National Cathedral Christmas Day Organ Recital (Dec. 25), a tradition featuring festive music performed (at the Cathedral) by Cathedral organist Thomas Sheehan, and organ scholar Ariana Corbin. Tickets not required. Livestream available.Ā  Nationalcathedral.org

At Baltimore Center Stage, ArtsCentricā€™s production of ā€œBlack Nativityā€ (Nov. 30-December 22) uses a fusion of blues, soul, jazz, spirituals, dance, and the powerful words of gay poet Langston Hughes, to tell the Christmas story through a wide-ranging African-American lens. Centerstage.org

For one night only, the Music Center at Strathmore in North Bethesda presents ā€œA Swinginā€™ Little Christmas!ā€ (Dec. 4), a nostalgic, Christmas kitsch cabaret featuring out TV star Jane Lynch (ā€œGlee,ā€ ā€œThe Marvelous Mrs. Maisel”), alongside Kate Flannery (ā€œThe Officeā€), Tim Davis (ā€œGleeā€™s” vocal arranger), and The Tony Guerrero Quintet. 

The following night, Dave Koz and Friends celebrate the 27th anniversary edition of the longest running jazz-based Christmas tour at Strathmore on Dec. 5. Koz, a longtime out musician (primarily sax), has released eight holiday albums, including his most recent, ā€œChristmas Ballads.ā€ Strathmore.org

Round House Theatre presents the world premiere of ā€œA Hannukah Carolā€ (through Dec. 29). The family-friendly musical comedy tells the story of millennial influencer Chava Kanipshin who in pursuit of more followers, shuns family, friends, and holiday traditions. But on the first night of Hanukkah, Chava is visited by the ghost of deceased social media star Mimi Marley and other spirits who warn her to change her ways ā€” or live to regret it. Roundhousetheatre.org.Ā 

Historic Fordā€™s Theatre again presents ā€œA Christmas Carolā€ (through Dec. 31), a popular Washington tradition for decades. Conceived by Michael Baron, this dynamically staged take on the Dickensā€™ classic features Craig Wallace as the miserly Scrooge who after a night of ghostly visits, rediscovers Christmas joy. In case you havenā€™t seen it, do. Fords.orgĀ 

At Olney Theatre, award-winning out actor Michael Russotto is stepping into the shoes of Paul Morella to star in this year’s edition of Morella’s celebrated solo adaptation of ā€œA Christmas Carol: A Ghost Story of Christmasā€ (Dec. 29). Russotto portrays more than 50 characters, from the miserly Scrooge to the haunting spirits, to the entire Cratchit family, including, of course, Tiny Tim. Olneytheatre.org

The adage that music can transport you to another time with just a couple of notes proves true at the Folger Library where Folger Consort, the estimable early music ensemble-in-residence, marvelously upholds a glorious Washington holiday tradition with ā€œA Mass for Christmas Eve: Baroque Music for the Seasonā€ (Dec. 6-15). Folger.eduĀ 

In Falls Church, Creative Cauldron presents ā€œMadelineā€™s Christmasā€ (Dec. 6-22), a charming show based on the classic book by author and illustrator Ludwig Bemelmans. Itā€™s Christmas Eve and taking care of 11 flu infected little girls and Miss Clavel isnā€™t easy, but when Madeline finds help from a magical rug merchant, all thatā€™s miserable is brushed away, and the girls embark on an unforgettable Christmas journey. Matt Conner directs. Creativecauldron.org

The Washington Balletā€™s ā€œThe Nutcrackerā€ at the glittering, gilded Warner Theatre (through Dec. 30). Featuring Tchaikovskyā€™s instantly familiar music and splendid choreography by Septime Weber, this Georgetown circa 1882-set production features historical figures ranging from George Washington to King George III, along with the usual suspects like children, rats, fairies, and a mysterious godfather. Washingtonballet.org

The Gay Menā€™s Chorus of Washington is back with its annual holiday extravaganza ā€œThe Holiday Showā€ (Dec. 4, 14, and 15) at Lincoln Theatre. This yearā€™s uplifting lineup includes eclectic songs with exciting rhythms and beautiful harmonies, and features the high-kicking, bedazzled 17th Street Dance as well as small ensembles and the GenOUT Youth Chorus! Songs include ā€œSee Amid the Winterā€™s Snow,ā€ ā€œFeliz Navidad,ā€ ā€œLove is Christmas,ā€ and ā€œSilent Night.ā€ Gmcw.org

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Ring in 2025 with a World Pride party

Rainbow Masquerade to be held at Hook Hall

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Capital Pride/World Pride will host Rainbow Masquerade at Hook Hall,  a New Yearā€™s Eve party featuring drag shows, silk aerial acts, private lounges and the venueā€™s Hot Tub Cabana. According to Brandon Bayton, Capital Pride executive producer, “Step into the Fabric of Freedom and toast World Pride 2025 in styleā€”where every moment sparkles, every performance dazzles and every toast makes a difference. It’s going to be an amazing night!”

The party is Tuesday, Dec. 31, 10 p.m.-2 a.m. at Hook Hall, 3400 Georgia Ave., N.W. Proceeds benefit Capital Pride D.C. and tickets are available on Eventbrite.

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Celebrate Thanksgiving weekend with drag

Charlemagne Chateau hosts brunch on Sunday

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Charlemagne Chateau will host ā€œChateau Drag Brunchā€ on Sunday, Dec. 1 at 12:00p.m. at Chicatana.Ā  Enjoy fabulous Mexican food and cocktails while being entertained by a rotating cast of the DMVā€™s best drag performers.

Tickets cost $10 and can be purchased on Eventbrite.

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