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Two couples find unexpected interest in their YouTube adventures
In a world of stereotypes, two couples want to show gay relationships are normal by putting their own on YouTube for the world to see.
Will Shepherd, 24, and R.J. Aguiar, 25, have been daily vlogging their relationship on their YouTube channel āshep689ā since January 2012. It started as a month-long experiment to video every day of their lives together. Since then, their channel has expanded to more than 100,000 subscribers and almost two years worth of daily videos.
āDaily vlogging happened by accident,ā Aguiar says. āWe decided to try it for a month and thought it would fail completely, but instead it took off. We tried it for another month and it took off even more than the first.ā
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Shepherd started the channel as a hobby to respond to funny videos his friend posted. It grew into posting self-help advice and book reviews and eventually included āday in the lifeā videos after he met Aguiar. Occasionally the two would record themselves on vacation and at the request of subscribers, they decided to try vlogging every day. From there, the channelās focus became Shepherd and Aguiarās everyday lives together.
āI wanted to portray gay life as it should be,ā Shepherd says. āWe wanted to show that there are very little differences between the daily life of a heterosexual couple and a homosexual couple.ā
Shepherd, who works in advertising, and Aguiar, who works in marketing, have documented large parts of their lives like their move from their home state of Florida to Los Angeles and getting a dog. Theyāve also recorded little moments such as going to Chipotle, being stuck in traffic and getting locked out of the house. Their channel led to the launch of their website, notadamandsteve.com, a mix of everything from advice and reviews to recipes and personal stories.
Kaelyn Petras, 25, and Lucy Sutcliffe, 21, started their YouTube channel āKaelyn and Lucyā to stay connected in their long-distance relationship, which began online. Sutcliffe had been following Petrasās Taylor Swift Tumblr and saw that Petras posted she was ready to come out to her family.
āI’d spent the springtime obsessively watching all six seasons of āThe L Wordā and had sort of just begun accepting myself as a gay woman,ā Sutcliffe says. āSo I decided to send Kaelyn a quick email, just letting her know that she wasn’t alone and that I was here if she ever wanted to talk. A few hours later she responded and we just havenāt stopped talking.ā
Sutcliffe, who resides in England, had planned a road trip in the United States and decided to fly to visit Petras, who was in veterinary school in Saint Kitts (an island in the West Indies), at the end of her trip. Sutcliffe, a student filmmaker, filmed the trip and uploaded it to YouTube, mainly as a memento for the couple. Instead, it gained unexpected popularity.
āA few months passed and then literally overnight the video had gained several thousand views,ā Sutcliffe says. āPeople had started commenting, āThis video saved my life,ā āYou girls have showed me that I donāt have to be ashamed of my sexuality,ā and āOur daughter has just come out to us and we didn’t know how to react. We’ve just stumbled upon your video and you’ve showed us that our daughter needs nothing from us but support and acceptance.āā
Now, their channel has reached more than 100,000 subscribers. They record videos of their visits together both in England and the United States and have expanded into separate vlog posts of their lives when theyāre apart. They film themselves watching television shows on their laptops and going to get sushi while also filming the emotional turmoil they face when they have to leave each other. Theyāre the sort of situations any couple can relate to.
āThe main goal of the channel is to normalize lesbian/gay relationships and that itās OK to embrace who you are and be proud of it,ā Sutcliffe says.
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Exposing your life to thousands of people does have its downside. Shepherd and Sutcliffe, who edit their videos, both are careful not to reveal too much personal information. However, Shepherd says some viewers have been able to piece together where he and Aguiar live and have spread the information on the Internet. Sutcliffe admits that it can also be difficult for people to comment and question her and Petrasā relationship.
Yet both couples plan to continue sharing their lives on YouTube.
Shepherd and Aguiar recently got engaged; both of their proposal videos to each other are on their channel. They expect to continue vlogging at least until their wedding set for 2015. They want to let subscribers share in that day as well with plans to have it professionally filmed or vlogged by friends.
āSince we embarked on this as an experiment, itās kind of difficult to know how itās going to end,ā Aguiar says. āIt has to be organic the same way that it started.ā
Petras and Sutcliffe plan to move in together this summer. They still want to continue making videos even though they recognize their videos will change as their long distance situation changes. They hope to continue to show a gay relationship is like any other relationship.
āNothing we do or say is scripted or fake. It’s just us being our normal, sometimes boring, selves,ā Sutcliffe says. āWe love having people countdown with us, cheer us on when we’re together and cry with us when we leave. It sounds cheesy, but it’s like having loads and loads of supportive friends, really.ā
Helping young people struggling with coming out who are searching for solace on YouTube is something Shepard and Aguiar hope they can ultimately accomplish.
āWhen I was coming out,ā Shepherd says, āI thought I had to change who I was and be a magical quip machine or a āQueer as Folkā-type gay. The point of our videos is to show that you donāt have to change who you are.ā
In need of a little cheer? Fortunately, thereās a fix. The DMV boasts a wealth of holiday-themed theater, music, and dance guaranteed to lift spirits and warm hearts. Hereās a sliver of whatās out there.
Arena Stage invites audiences āto step back into the holiday spirit with the joyful return of āStep Afrika!’s Magical Musical Holiday Step Showā (Dec. 13-22) where the rich tradition of African-American stepping blends with the magic of the season.ā DJ Nutcracker and his Arctic friends promise to amplify the festive atmosphere. Arenastage.orgĀ
Looking for a new way to experience a Christmas favorite? With the Kennedy Centerās āElf in Concert: Film with Live Orchestraā (through Dec. 1), you can relive the endearing comedy on a giant screen as every note of John Debneyās wonderful score is played live by the National Symphony Orchestra.
Another Kennedy Center holiday treat is āFinnā (through Dec. 22). From Chris Nee, the out creator of TVās āDoc McStuffinsā and āVampirina,ā āFinnā is filled with vibrant sea creatures and catchy tunes. Hilarious and heartening, this world premiere musical chronicles the coming-of-age journey of a young shark following his dreams. Kennedy-center.orgĀ
For those in search of yuletide camaraderie and keyboards, thereās the National Cathedral Christmas Day Organ Recital (Dec. 25), a tradition featuring festive music performed (at the Cathedral) by Cathedral organist Thomas Sheehan, and organ scholar Ariana Corbin. Tickets not required. Livestream available.Ā Nationalcathedral.org
At Baltimore Center Stage, ArtsCentricās production of āBlack Nativityā (Nov. 30-December 22) uses a fusion of blues, soul, jazz, spirituals, dance, and the powerful words of gay poet Langston Hughes, to tell the Christmas story through a wide-ranging African-American lens. Centerstage.org
For one night only, the Music Center at Strathmore in North Bethesda presents āA Swinginā Little Christmas!ā (Dec. 4), a nostalgic, Christmas kitsch cabaret featuring out TV star Jane Lynch (āGlee,ā āThe Marvelous Mrs. Maisel”), alongside Kate Flannery (āThe Officeā), Tim Davis (āGleeās” vocal arranger), and The Tony Guerrero Quintet.
The following night, Dave Koz and Friends celebrate the 27th anniversary edition of the longest running jazz-based Christmas tour at Strathmore on Dec. 5. Koz, a longtime out musician (primarily sax), has released eight holiday albums, including his most recent, āChristmas Ballads.ā Strathmore.org
Round House Theatre presents the world premiere of āA Hannukah Carolā (through Dec. 29). The family-friendly musical comedy tells the story of millennial influencer Chava Kanipshin who in pursuit of more followers, shuns family, friends, and holiday traditions. But on the first night of Hanukkah, Chava is visited by the ghost of deceased social media star Mimi Marley and other spirits who warn her to change her ways ā or live to regret it. Roundhousetheatre.org.Ā
Historic Fordās Theatre again presents āA Christmas Carolā (through Dec. 31), a popular Washington tradition for decades. Conceived by Michael Baron, this dynamically staged take on the Dickensā classic features Craig Wallace as the miserly Scrooge who after a night of ghostly visits, rediscovers Christmas joy. In case you havenāt seen it, do. Fords.orgĀ
At Olney Theatre, award-winning out actor Michael Russotto is stepping into the shoes of Paul Morella to star in this year’s edition of Morella’s celebrated solo adaptation of āA Christmas Carol: A Ghost Story of Christmasā (Dec. 29). Russotto portrays more than 50 characters, from the miserly Scrooge to the haunting spirits, to the entire Cratchit family, including, of course, Tiny Tim. Olneytheatre.org
The adage that music can transport you to another time with just a couple of notes proves true at the Folger Library where Folger Consort, the estimable early music ensemble-in-residence, marvelously upholds a glorious Washington holiday tradition with āA Mass for Christmas Eve: Baroque Music for the Seasonā (Dec. 6-15). Folger.eduĀ
In Falls Church, Creative Cauldron presents āMadelineās Christmasā (Dec. 6-22), a charming show based on the classic book by author and illustrator Ludwig Bemelmans. Itās Christmas Eve and taking care of 11 flu infected little girls and Miss Clavel isnāt easy, but when Madeline finds help from a magical rug merchant, all thatās miserable is brushed away, and the girls embark on an unforgettable Christmas journey. Matt Conner directs. Creativecauldron.org
The Washington Balletās āThe Nutcrackerā at the glittering, gilded Warner Theatre (through Dec. 30). Featuring Tchaikovskyās instantly familiar music and splendid choreography by Septime Weber, this Georgetown circa 1882-set production features historical figures ranging from George Washington to King George III, along with the usual suspects like children, rats, fairies, and a mysterious godfather. Washingtonballet.org
The Gay Menās Chorus of Washington is back with its annual holiday extravaganza āThe Holiday Showā (Dec. 4, 14, and 15) at Lincoln Theatre. This yearās uplifting lineup includes eclectic songs with exciting rhythms and beautiful harmonies, and features the high-kicking, bedazzled 17th Street Dance as well as small ensembles and the GenOUT Youth Chorus! Songs include āSee Amid the Winterās Snow,ā āFeliz Navidad,ā āLove is Christmas,ā and āSilent Night.ā Gmcw.org
Capital Pride/World Pride will host Rainbow Masquerade at Hook Hall, a New Yearās Eve party featuring drag shows, silk aerial acts, private lounges and the venueās Hot Tub Cabana. According to Brandon Bayton, Capital Pride executive producer, “Step into the Fabric of Freedom and toast World Pride 2025 in styleāwhere every moment sparkles, every performance dazzles and every toast makes a difference. It’s going to be an amazing night!”
The party is Tuesday, Dec. 31, 10 p.m.-2 a.m. at Hook Hall, 3400 Georgia Ave., N.W. Proceeds benefit Capital Pride D.C. and tickets are available on Eventbrite.
Charlemagne Chateau will host āChateau Drag Brunchā on Sunday, Dec. 1 at 12:00p.m. at Chicatana.Ā Enjoy fabulous Mexican food and cocktails while being entertained by a rotating cast of the DMVās best drag performers.
Tickets cost $10 and can be purchased on Eventbrite.
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