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BENT party bids farewell with Halloween bash

DJ Lemz reflects on hosting quarterly event at 9:30 Club

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A scene from the first BENT party six years ago. (Blade file photo by Tom Hausman)

When Town Danceboutique closed its doors more than six years ago, D.C.’s LGBTQ community lost its largest dance venue. In response, DJ and event organizer Steve Lemmerman launched BENT, a quarterly queer dance party at the 9:30 Club. Its immediate success underscored the need for LGBTQ events like it, following the closures of Town and other establishments.

Now, more than a dozen BENTs later, Lemmerman is gearing up for the party’s final edition this Saturday. BENT is ending –– but it’s a joyful conclusion, as new venues such as Crush Bar and Kiki have emerged to expand the landscape of queer spaces in D.C. in recent years.

“The city has done its job,” Lemmerman, who also goes by his stage name, DJ Lemz, explained. “The city has filled the need for somewhere to commune as a whole. There are all these different gay bars and queer spaces now, and we don’t need to fill that void anymore.” 

BENT’s last hurrah will be a spirited send-off. Its annual Halloween extravaganza, “HellBENT,” will feature a handpicked lineup of acts that have graced the party’s stage over the years.

“This is like a perfect ending. HellBENT is the one that we always look forward to the most every year, and we can just go out on a high note being our spooky, weird selves.”

Among those returning for the grand finale is Ana Latour, a drag performer who left a memorable mark at last year’s HellBENT by having blood dumped on her in a recreation of the “Carrie” character. Latour is coming out of retirement just to perform again on Saturday. 

The art group Haus of Bambi, drag artist Pussy Noir, and go-go dancer Samson are also making a comeback, and party goers can expect a hefty dose of spooky tracks in Lemmerman’s DJ set, including songs from Kim Petras’s “Turn Off the Light” album.

“It is just a love letter to everything we’ve done. It’s going to be a really fun night of just showing off our favorite parts of this party,” Lemmerman said. 

From its inception in 2019, BENT was created to bridge different facets of D.C.’s queer nightlife scene. Lemmerman wanted to “put people together that normally wouldn’t interact, both in the crowd and on stage.” The party has always featured a diverse lineup, with go-go dancers, drag performers, pole dancers, burlesque performers, and DJs all sharing the spotlight. 

Rather than catering the event to a particular group, Lemmerman’s vision was to make BENT a “special melting pot” for the entire queer community. It seemed to strike a chord with people, as the first edition in January 2019 sold out. 

“I think it was something fresh and new,” Lemmerman reflected. “It was a lot of reaching across the different facets of nightlife and putting everyone together. I think that just really resonated with people that they get to see like a highlight reel of what’s going on in the city.”

The iconic 9:30 Club, home to many LGBTQ staff members, proved to be the ideal venue for an event dedicated to celebrating inclusivity and self-expression. 

“There’s just so much that they do that really just shows how much they actually care about our community and our safety,” Lemmerman said. “It’s a place where I’ve always felt safe to just be myself.”

Audrey Fix Schaefer, communications director for 9:30 Club, said part of the fun of BENT is seeing the excitement before the event even begins.

“I’m really happy just standing in the lobby and watching people come in. It’s just so much fun when nobody’s got to worry about what they’re wearing, but they’re really there to show off,” she said. 

Organizing BENT hasn’t been without its challenges. During the COVID-19 pandemic, the party had to transition online. Lemmerman would prerecord performers at an empty 9:30 Club and splice the footage together with his DJ sets, which he would then live stream on Twitch. 

But his fondest memories are from the moments he shared with performers on stage, like the time he surprised his friend, go-go dancer Ricky Rosé, by sneaking their favorite song into the set. 

“I watched him just turn around, jaw dropped, like, ‘No, you did not.’ And it was just like, such a happy moment that we still look back on every once in a while, this nudge of ‘I got you,’” he said. 

Schaefer praised Lemmerman’s work, reflecting on how he grew BENT into a must-attend event and how proud the 9:30 Club staff was to be part of something so special.

“It’s been thrilling to watch Steve grow with this and the sense of pride that our employees have about being a place that welcomes everybody and has fun while doing it,” she said. 

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D.C. Pride flag raising ceremony set for June 1

Mayor, council members to participate

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D.C. Mayor Muriel Bowser at the flag-raising of the Progress Pride flag at the Wilson Building in D.C. on June 1, 2023. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

D.C. Mayor Muriel Bowser’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs is inviting the LGBTQ community and friends to attend the city’s annual Pride flag raising ceremony scheduled for 4 p.m. Monday, June 1, outside the John Wilson Building that serves as the D.C. City Hall.

Like in prior years, members of the D.C. Council and officials with the Office of LGBTQ Affairs were expected to join Bowser in delivering remarks on the front entrance steps at the Wilson Building before raising the Pride flag atop one of the tall flagpoles next to the building’s entrance.

Gaby Vincent, a spokesperson for the LGBTQ Affairs Office, said attendees of the flag raising ceremony will be invited to attend a reception immediately following the ceremony in the main lobby of the Wilson Building, which is located on Pennsylvania Avenue at 14th Street, N.W.

She said the reception will feature a DJ, dancing, and refreshments provided by the D.C. LGBTQ bar and café Spark Social House.  

Vincent said the flag raising event will also mark the 20th anniversary of the opening of the D.C. Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs.

In its official announcement of the flag raising event the LGBTQ Affairs Office also announced it is hosting the 7th annual District of Pride Showcase event to be held Friday, June 17, at 7 p.m. at the Lincoln Theater.

The announcement says LGBTQ community members, families, and allies are also invited to walk with Bowser in the Capital Pride Parade scheduled for Saturday, June 20. It says the mayor’s parade contingent will assemble at 2 p.m. at the parade’s starting location at 14th and U Streets, N.W.

“As we also celebrate the 20th anniversary of the Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs, we invite residents, community members, families and allies to join us throughout June for moments of pride, connection, visibility, and joy,” the announcement says.  

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‘Queer Love’ campaign launched to address domestic violence

D.C. event set for LGBTQ+ Domestic Violence Awareness Day on May 28

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‘Domestic and family violence in LGBTQ+ communities is real and too often invisible,’ said Cesar Toledo, the Alston Foundation’s executive director. (Photo courtesy of Toledo)

The D.C.-based Wanda Alston Foundation, which provides housing and support services for homeless LGBTQ youth, announced earlier this month that it has joined partner organizations to launch a Queer Love Shouldn’t Hurt campaign aimed at addressing domestic violence within the LGBTQ community.

 In a May 18 statement, the Alston Foundation said the campaign involves a public awareness initiative leading up to LGBTQ+ Domestic Violence Awareness Day scheduled for May 28. 

“Domestic and family violence in LGBTQ+ communities is real and too often invisible,” Cesar Toledo, the Alston Foundation’s executive director, said in the statement. “As a community, we do not talk about it enough, and that silence can leave survivors feeling isolated and alone,” he said. “We must break that silence.”

He added that culturally competent care for those impacted by domestic violence is available through a newly launched website, queerlove.org, “where people can safely access vital resources, educational toolkits, and support networks they need on their healing journey.”

The website announces one of the project’s first events, a Queer Love Community Social, was scheduled for Thursday, May 28,  from 6-8 p.m. at the D.C. LGBTQ+ Community Center at 1827 Wiltberger St., N.W.

“Join us this LGBT+ Domestic Violence Awareness Day for a community social dedicated to visibility and survivor resilience,” the website statement says. “Let’s gather to strengthen our bonds, honor the path to healing, and share free resources,” it says of the May 28 event. 

The website also announces a June 1 workshop called Empowering Survivors of LGBTQ+ Intimate Partner Violence, which it says will be presented by Jesse Wedell, an official with the D.C. LGBT+ Counseling Collaborative. The website provides an online form to register for the workshop upon which its location would be disclosed.        

It identifies the partner organizations working with the Alston Foundation on the Queer Love Public Awareness Campaign as the LGBT+ Counseling Collaborative, Whitman-Walker Health, the D.C. LGBTQ+ Community Center, and Equality Chamber.

 The resources and information provided by the project can be accessed at www.queerlove.org.

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Man accused of threatening to shoot D.C. bar employee after making anti-gay slurs

May 24 incident took place near Black Pride events on U Street

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D.C. police on Sunday, May 24, at around 4:20 p.m. arrested a Maryland man for allegedly threatening to shoot an employee while using anti-gay slurs at Ben’s Next Door restaurant and bar at 1211 U St., N.W.

According to a statement released by police and a police incident report, the arrested man, identified as Delonte Fraley, 32, of Accokeek, Md., made the threats after the employee told a bartender not to serve the man alcohol.

“The suspect overheard the employee and threatened to shoot the employee and used homophobic slurs against the employee,” the police statement says. “When the employee left the restaurant for the day, the suspect was standing near the employee’s vehicle,” it says.

“The employee returned to the restaurant and called the police,” the statement continues. “The suspect was apprehended by responding officers,” it says.

The police statement says the arresting officers charged Fraley with Felony Threats (Hate/Bias).

D.C. Superior Court records show prosecutors with the Office of the U.S. Attorney for D.C., which prosecutes D.C. criminal cases, escalated the charge to Threatening to Injure or Kidnap a Person (Bias-Related Hate Crime).

The incident occurred during Memorial Day weekend when thousands of visitors and D.C. area LGBTQ advocates and supporters were attending D.C. Black Pride events held in locations across the city, including Black Pride parties hosted by LGBTQ bars in the U Street entertainment area near Ben’s Next Door.

Among the nearby LGBTQ bars hosting D.C. Black Pride events were Nellie’s Sports Bar and Thurst Lounge. Ben’s Next Door is located next to the popular longtime U Street eatery Ben’s Chili Bowl.

Court records show that Judge Robert R. Rigsby at a May 25 presentment hearing released Fraley on personal recognizance with a stay-away order — the details of which were not publicly disclosed pending a June 4 preliminary hearing.   

A more detailed arrest affidavit filed in court by D.C. police says Fraley allegedly confronted the employee at Ben’s Next Door with anti-gay slurs on the day prior to his arrest.

“The complainant told the defendant that because he used homophobic slurs towards himself previously on May 23, 2026, and his hostess, as well as making threats to the complainant and calling him a faggot, he was unable to stay in the establishment,” the affidavit states.

It adds, “The defendant became irate stating, ‘I know where your Tesla is at. See me outside faggot, I will slap your ass’ and ‘I will shoot your ass.’” The affidavit says the complainant confirmed to police the Tesla referred to by Fraley was his vehicle. It says as the victim walked toward his car after getting off work, he saw Fraley standing directly in front of the car.

“The complainant stated he felt unsafe while the defendant was standing in front of his vehicle because he felt the defendant was capable of carrying out those threats,” says the affidavit. It says the victim then decided to return to the restaurant and call police without the defendant having seen him.  

“The defendant was placed under arrest for Felony Threats Hate/Bias and was transported to the Third District Station for processing,” the affidavit concludes.

It couldn’t immediately be determined whether the victim identifies as LGBTQ or whether any of the Ben’s Next Door patrons had been involved with D.C. Black Pride.

“Established in 2008, Ben’s Next Door is a family-owned and operated restaurant and bar on U Street, Northwest in Washington, D.C.,” a statement on its website says. “As a Black-owned establishment, it’s our goal to deliver a warm, welcoming, familiar, and communal vibe to all guests,” the statement says.    

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