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‘The first lady is a beautiful person inside and out’
Makeup artist Carl Ray assists Michelle Obama with her public face

‘Working with her is a great experience, the honor of a lifetime,’ says Carl Ray, who works as first lady Michelle Obama’s makeup artist. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
As a child, he first began applying makeup to the visage of the most important woman in his life. An aptitude for art and affinity for beauty would eventually lead to doing the same for the first lady of the United States.
At age 14, now long prominent and locally pioneering D.C.-based makeup artist Carl Ray casually commented to his mother while she was seated at her vanity mirror, “I don’t think you’re doing that right.” His keen painterly instinct and developing eye for facial enhancement so impressed her that she insisted on his assistance each morning, even waking him up at times to work his magic. Recently divorced from his father, Ray wanted to get her out on dates and happily re-married. He succeeded.
A quick study at honing a fascination for fashion and the styles of the day, Ray was drawn to immersing himself in red-carpet looks and celebrity runway appearances through the pages of magazines.
An only child, born at Andrews Air Force Base in Prince Georges County, Navy brat Ray would spend his early years growing up in Italy, Morocco and Puerto Rico. He returned to the U.S. with his parents to attend junior high school in Virginia Beach.
Accustomed to living near water, the athletic Ray excelled as a high school swimmer, winning state and AAU competitions. Up early every morning to hit the pool, he was known for his breaststroke prowess and also as an avid and accomplished surfer. The popular athlete often hung out with the girls in his classes and dated cheerleaders.
“I did the whole girlfriend thing,” the 49-year-old Ray says, noting he had “never met a gay person and didn’t know what that meant. I just thought I was a weirdo for being attracted to men. But I knew it was something people disapproved of being.”
Also a member of the baseball team, Ray played first base and was a pitcher. “I still am,” he says with a hearty laugh. He came out to his friends shortly before graduation.
He would next earn an associate degree in business while studying commercial art. Ray discovered that painting helped him overcome dyslexia through concentration on activities focusing the right side of his brain. Impressionism was his early love, later developing a more abstract style on the canvas. A painter’s brushes and an artist’s color blending captivated his attention, later fueling a self-taught career.
“I became a fiend for art, painting and photography,” Ray says.
Moving to D.C. in 1991, Ray said the city reminded him of his youth in Europe. His childhood experiences drew him to “a lively city with an abundance of culture,” even if D.C. was more conservative in tone and texture. He soon landed a job at a trendsetting high-end cosmetics and luxury beauty product retailer on Connecticut Avenue near Dupont Circle. He quickly developed relationships with visiting brand representatives, who recognized his interest in makeup and skin care when introducing new products to staff.
“It was a very organic path to a career,” Ray says. “I established a niche for myself as the first resident makeup artist.” He assisted customers in selecting products and training them on how to use and apply them. “I understood that I had a talent and an ability to make women look and feel beautiful.”
Customers began requesting appointments with Ray, hoping he would help them determine what skin care regimens, makeup products and colors, and application techniques would work best for them. He had created his dream job.
“D.C. was playing catch-up in the field and the time was right,” he says. “The opportunity to evolve our services allowed me to pioneer an in-house position that existed in only a few cities then and is more available in D.C. now.”
Ray, who is single, describes himself as a “bridal guru.” He refers to weddings as the closest thing to a “runway event” in local lifestyles. As he developed a client roster, Ray welcomed a bride’s makeup request for a high-profile Georgetown wedding, a service that has since grown to become a specialty.
It was that wedding engagement as an on-site makeup artist that propelled Ray to seek an advance in his then-nascent career in 1999. With only a magazine tear sheet of the nuptial event coverage highlighting his bridal makeup artistry, he walked into the premier salon in D.C. hoping to interest management in bringing him on as their first makeup specialist. He was hired, both for his craft and his chutzpah, and has been the exclusive Artistic Talent at the George Salon at the Four Seasons Hotel ever since.
Recalling his early days at the salon being like “a fish out of water,” Ray would float through the space “bravely” offering to apply lipstick on salon patrons, providing suggestions regarding new shades and discussing additional products that might be of interest. “Clients would see me working or be recommended by others,” he remembers, but “I had to learn how to approach people.” It was a task that proved easily compatible with Ray’s affable manner and winsome personality.
As Ray’s client list expanded, he also garnered gigs for editorial features, magazine covers, film and studio work, fashion events, celebrity and political appearances, TV interviews, foreign dignitary visits, photography shoots and advertising campaigns. His work began appearing in Vogue, the Wall Street Journal, the New Yorker, Glamour, Allure, Elle, Ebony, Town & Country, Bride & Groom, Bride, Lady’s Home Journal and other publications, as well as on television network news and entertainment programs.
Ray’s fashion credits include makeup work seen on the catwalk for Donna Karan, Escada, Gucci, Carolina Herrera, Dolce & Gabbana, Yeollee, and the Vera Wang Fashion Show. His wedding credits include the Reem Acra Bridal Show, Oscar de la Renta Bridal, Monique Lhuillier Bridal, Rivini Bridal and Marchesa Bridal.
Ray has been honored as the top makeup artist for 15 consecutive years by Washingtonian magazine. Freelance work often has him traveling to New York, Los Angeles and other cities.
As accolades and achievements grew as numerous as the brushes in his black canvas Zuca makeup case, Ray received a call nearly six years ago that he remembers well. He was invited to the White House to prepare first lady Michelle Obama for a public appearance, the first of several “audition” opportunities that would lead to joining her personal staff as exclusive makeup artist.
“The first lady is a beautiful person inside and out,” Ray says. “She is a special woman who is very strong, very passionate. Working with her is a great experience, the honor of a lifetime. She is the most ‘real’ individual I have ever met.”
“I love the canvas, she has a beautiful face,” Ray says of “one of the most photographed women in the world, who also has a fashion style recognized around the world.” He notes that his favorite portfolio piece is Obama’s Vogue magazine cover photographed by Annie Liebovitz. His favorite moment was her recent visit with Queen Elizabeth at Buckingham Palace.
Describing Michelle Obama as “very much an easygoing person,” Ray praises her down-to-earth personality. “She is very sweet,” he notes, “and so damn funny and hilarious. I feel privileged to be so close to her, and appreciate her being a big supporter of me professionally and personally. She is a great mentor to me and the rest of the world.”
During the 2012 campaign, Ray admits to sometimes not knowing what city he was in due to an often-whirlwind schedule. Accompanying FLOTUS, he points out, “feels like being on television’s ‘The Amazing Race.’” He hastens to emphasize that “we never discuss politics and I am tight-lipped about talking about her and her family. I respect her and respect her privacy.”
Ray continues to see clients on a regular schedule at the George Salon, balanced with his White House duties and other work. He is proud to provide services to a full complement of Washington women, and a number of men, some famous and most not.
His intrinsic skills, success in trailblazing a new-to-Washington career, and achieving distinction in his field excite Ray about future opportunities to “continue to be a part of the progression of the industry,” he says.
Ray’s response to the frequent letters he receives from young people from across the country asking for advice about becoming a makeup artist is emblematic of his path so far. “Follow your heart and your passion,” he offers in reply, “and you may get to do what you love — like I have.”

First lady Michelle Obama addressed the Democratic National Convention in 2012. (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
For more information, visit Carl Ray’s website at CarlRayMakeupArtist.com or CarlRayMakeupArtist on Instagram.
Mark Lee is a long-time entrepreneur and community business advocate. Follow him on Twitter: @MarkLeeDC or reach him at [email protected].
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What ‘Queer Eye for the Straight Guy’ can still teach us
Producer David Collins on lasting impact of hit series
It’s hard to imagine where LGBTQ+ television would be without “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy,” the trailblazing reality series that premiered in 2003.
Each episode of this Emmy-winning show saw a group of gays converge on a struggling man — the titular straight guy — and offer nonstop wit while organizing his endlessly messy life. This program about a group of homosexual helpers took the world by storm, furthering the love of gay television begun by shows like “Will and Grace” but bringing it into the growing medium of reality TV. Of course, it wasn’t perfect; “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” often cast its experts less as multi-faceted queer folks and more as sources of early 2000s gay jokes. But despite these pitfalls, it’s undeniable that the original program explored the realities of being gay in a way audiences had never seen before. It was a monumental piece of LGBTQ+ representation, and its success is largely owed to the man who fought to get this show made: producer David Collins.
Collins spoke with the Blade from his Los Angeles home, where he’s spent the past few years living with his husband and his two daughters. David spoke fondly of his many years in the industry, detailing how it feels to be such a huge part of LGBTQ+ history. He explained, however, that he didn’t initially set out to alter how queer people were seen on television. “I never went out to make gay television,” said the producer. “I went out to tell great stories.”
“I’m a hillbilly from Ohio, and I thought I was going to be an editor,” David laughed, looking back on his career. “I interned at the Cincinnati Film Office, and I showed up to work my very first day, and the film commissioner was like, ‘Get to the airport right now and pick [someone] up. Don’t talk to them.’ Well, I ended up picking up Jodie Foster.” Collins raved about this car ride that changed his life, with the pair becoming friends and Foster pushing him to become a producer who puts their own media out into the world. Eventually, he did just that, and after learning about the wild new genre that was reality TV, he pitched a series to Bravo: “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.”
“I was obsessed with Esquire magazine, and they had five categories: fashion, grooming, interior design, culture, food, and wine. So I gave them each a gay, and the Fab Five were born!” Collins said, describing how viewers quickly fell in love with the concept and earned the program four seasons and an Emmy for Outstanding Reality Program. He spoke about how proud he felt creating a show that centered real gay people, not characters in a story, remembering, “To stand in the middle of Times Square and look up and see this massive billboard with the original Queer Eye guys…it wasn’t even a dream come true, because it wasn’t a dream I had even fathomed.”
With his series, people were watching actual gay men and learning the realities of a queer culture that had always been portrayed as a danger to society. Collins tearfully recounted hearing about queer people using the show as a way to connect with their family, saying, “What I’m most proud of that’s come out of Queer Eye [are] the conversations that that series has allowed to have people around their kitchen tables with little boys in Ohio like me who were scared to death that they were going to burn in hell because their pastor was telling them that they were a sinner.”
Now, for all of its trailblazing, the program wasn’t wholly positive; the show’s focus on the central ‘straight guy’ meant it rarely delved into the lives of its Fab Five. Collins regretted that lack of depth but understood that earlier audiences weren’t accustomed to such a nuanced look into queerness — that would have to wait for the reboot.
When “Queer Eye” came out in 2018, audiences were introduced to not only a new Fab Five, but a whole new format (that didn’t rely on a straight person). Now, the series would assist queer folks and allies alike, spotlighting these individuals as well as the queer experts helping them improve their lives. The show has been applauded for its amazing makeovers, but where it truly stands out is its representation, offering a look into individuals across the country and the struggles — along with the immense joys — of being queer in America today.
Fans were disappointed to hear that “Queer Eye” would be ending after its 10th season, but David stressed that they wouldn’t have to be sad for long. “What I will say to you is this: hang tight,” he teased. “There’s yet another version of ‘Queer Eye’ to come, and we’re working on that now.” In the meantime, Collins is continuing his work with new shows like the “House of Stassi,” a series centered on “Vanderpump Rules’”prolific waitress. He’s excited about these new projects, but emphasized that his heart will always belong to “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” and all that it continues to do for viewers 19 years after its finale.
“It’s not about your new outfit or your new couch or your new whatever. It’s about your humanity,” said Collins, speaking about the core lesson he hopes people take away from the Queer Eye franchise. “It’s about seeing yourself. It’s about dignity. It’s about how confidence breeds success.”
A valuable message that queer folks can benefit from even more now than they did in 2003. And, while it’s unclear just what lies ahead for this franchise, one thing is for sure: “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” helped people everywhere understand the power that exists within our queerness. It’s a truth that has impacted countless pieces of LGBTQ+ television today, and it’s one that Collins promises to keep alive through whatever hit show he creates next.
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Jason DePuy on coping with homophobia in ‘Big Brother’ house
First drag queen contestant on CBS show fought to stay positive
One week after Jason DePuy (known as Salina EsTitties on “RuPaul’s Drag Race”) was bullied and eventually evicted from CBS’s “Big Brother” house, the queer drag performer is still emotionally processing his feelings.
During his 24 days in the reality TV competition, DePuy often had a rough time, with fellow cast member Kamuela “Kamu” Kirk making homophobic comments and feeling isolated.
In a conversation with Head of Household Rick Devens, Kirk left viewers upset when he said, “Bro, miss me with the drag stuff. Miss me. I’m still an MMA guy, and I have an image to uphold.”
Former “Big Brother” contestant Frankie Grande called his words ‘homophobic’ and ‘gross.’ Another comment, where Kirk said he wanted to end DePuy’s career, also received strong backlash online.
Now that he is out of the house, DePuy has been shocked and deeply touched by the love from “Big Brother” fans and former contestants. We chatted with DePuy for this Blade exclusive.
“To know that my community was rallying for me outside the house was the most wonderful thing. Seeing how much people were just wanting to shower me with love was incredible. Even my friends, I went to say hi and give them a hug, and they’re like, ‘Uh, uh, come here.’ They had to hold me and let me know America was feeling for me in a way that I had no idea.”
He added: “To see that reality was just overwhelming, and I couldn’t ask for more.”
Known as a messy player in the house, DePuy often had to fight to stay positive and stand up for himself.
“No one was coming to my rescue. In real life, it’s easy to block people, but in the house, I didn’t have that luxury, so I had to find it within myself to learn how to speak up for myself in a way that wasn’t nasty or biting. I didn’t attack anyone personally, which is what I was the most proud of.”
DePuy acknowledged he has had a history of putting his foot in his mouth when it came to certain “Drag Race”moments, being in the public eye, and making a fool of himself. “I’ve learned my lessons; to see how I handled myself in the ‘Big Brother’ house was amazing.”
While DePuy has been sober for 14 and a half years and has a strong spiritual foundation, in the Big Brother house, he often felt like he couldn’t communicate what he was feeling.
“As a queer person, a person of color, a drag queen, I have to be very careful about how I move. I don’t have the luxury or privilege to just act a certain way or say a certain thing. I have to be very careful; I’m representing me. But who I am is a Latino, a person of recovery, a drag queen, a queer person in the community. I know that there’s a lot of pressure that comes with that. I felt it was safer for me to sit there and just breathe than try to do anything crazy.”
He continued: “I couldn’t speak to the personal attack that was happening in the house, because in my mind I was like, ‘no, this is a game, and I have to play it, put that aside.’”
Not only can viewers watch the episodes, but they can also watch the live feeds of what’s happening. Seeing the fans’ social media posts from people who had watched the episodes and the live feeds also contributed to DePuy realizing that his feelings of discomfort were valid.
“To know that I wasn’t delusional in those moments, that others could see what was happening, has been a lot to take in. Fans and friends let me know the comments made went beyond the game…I’m like, ‘Oh, so my instincts were correct.”
One of the most poignant moments on the live feeds occurred when DePuy was crying, alone in his room, and said how he missed his gay community.
“I really missed my friends. I missed my queer community. We’re so colorful. We’re so loud. We’re so vibrant. We speak off the cuff, and we’re very truthful and honest with how we speak, and it’s fun. We have fun lingo.”
DePuy had to censor his expressions in the house. “Because I can say one thing, but it can mean something different to straight people than it does with my queer brothers and sisters. So, there was a sense of code-switching that I had to do. I had to even put aside some of my queerness in a way sometimes to fit in.”
DePuy was thrilled to be the very first drag queen to ever be cast on the show.
“I’m honored to have been chosen. There’s a million drag queens out there, and to know that I was a contender to come in the house and not even be in drag was like a wow for me. I’m over here in Hollywood, running around these streets with a wig and heels just to make a dollar to survive, and I have to rely on drag to do that. And then to be offered this opportunity and be given the privilege to say, ‘hey, you don’t have to put on the wig for you to be valuable here,’ is just insane to me.”
Prior to his shows, DePuy has been hustling for 15 years, flipping burgers and doing drag at night.
“That has been my life these past since I was 17. So it’s been a long journey; the opportunity to do this out of drag is a very big blessing. I’m honored and grateful to be the representation of my community.”
If you missed Jason on “Big Brother: Unlocked,” the episode can be seen on CBS.com. He will be back on the show for the finale.
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Rainbows in Revolt on a mission to make LGBTQ artists’ voices heard
Rainbows in Revolt on a mission to make LGBTQ artists’ voices heard
Last month’s Pride celebration in D.C. was so fun. Walking around my first Capital Pride with a $15 lemonade I was loving the madness and the color. Artists and small businesses battling banks you’ve never heard of collecting your personal information so you can spin a wheel to snag free merch. Great music blaring, people actually smiling and enjoying themselves, the “Great” American State Fair could never!
The Monument Stage was on Pennsylvania Avenue, directly in front of the National Gallery of Art and I can’t think of a better venue to see live music. How does someone get on the lineup for Pride? How do we accelerate the visibility of the most talented voices in our community to perform in places like this?
There is certainly not a talent gap, but there is a visibility gap. Chappell Roan went from playing for two people in a parking lot to owning the main stage at Coachella in one year. Whether it is shadowbanning or bias in AI, algorithms have been shown to suppress queer artists. In a digital age, how can queer people break through and show the world how talented they are?
Allison and Matt of Rainbows in Revolt are on a mission to make openly LGBTQ+ artists’ voices heard. Their goal is to find “musicians whose queerness is central to their identity as an artist,” and accelerate them to a place where they can actually reach fans.
The only time queer events seem to be in the spotlight is June, but this should be year round, according to Allison and Matt. Rainbows in Revolt wants to act as a “nucleus” for different sub-communities, finding common ground in the universal language of music.
Matt and Allison founded Rainbows as a way to make cheaper, higher quality merchandise for queer artists. While Rainbows has already pledged 20% of their profits to the LGBTQ+ community, with 10% to Whitman-Walker Health and 10% to LGBTQ+ organizations in need, this is just the beginning of the work that they do.
Rainbows “does the dirty work” that artists normally struggle to do on their own with limited resources. Interviews, artist profiles, social promotion, playlist discovery, radio outreach, and merch-funded support. This work is normally expensive, time consuming, and requires lots of different skills. Musicians don’t want to be editing clips to post online. Standup comedians don’t want to make graphics for their tour dates. They want to write more. They want to focus on their craft.
In addition to helping artists find their audience, Rainbows has built other digital tools to help queer people connect, including an interactive Safe Space Map for most major cities. It is hard to know which places are truly safe and supportive just from a simple Google search. Attitudes and actions change, and there should be a simple way for queer people to find other places that align with them. The Safe Spaces Maps are all up to date, and are tagged and filterable. Instead of relying on forums and word of mouth, Rainbows has created a centralized way to find authentic community quickly.
I had a chance to talk with Allison and Matt at Pride where Lily Erin, one of their signature artists, was performing on the Monument stage. Lily Erin is a folk singer who is familiar and forging her own path. Her bittersweet sound echoes through Acadia, and her garb mirrors the New England athletes I grew up with. Gorp Core meets streetwear. A graphic tee, hiking shorts, and creamsicle Jordans.
Her debut single, “Bus Stop,” tells a sad story about unconditional love, and the conditions that still seem to come with it. Graduating into lockdown, Erin needed a new way to connect with herself and others. Lily made “Bus Stop” without an intention to share it, but doing so was a liberation. People have been responding to her honesty around queer-ness, family, and the “ghosts which haunt us” even in the daytime.
Rainbows in Revolt has helped Lily Erin go from bars and backyards to The Monument Stage at Pride. This is a meteoric rise, and a testament to both Erin’s talent and the work of Rainbows to promote her. “A little encouragement goes a long way with early artists,” and by “planting a seed” Rainbows is already seeing their artist garden grow. Community is power, and Erin is a perfect example of how effective simple modern techniques of promotion can be.
A next step for Rainbows is putting on shows themselves. On Oct. 3, Rainbows in Revolt will host an Evening with Ray Boltz at the National City Christian Church. Boltz grew up in the Catholic Church and for many years was the soundtrack to many services, youth camps, and church groups. He was celebrated by millions until he came out in 2008. Allison remembers her community “never playing his music again.”
Rainbows in Revolt is helping him to return to the church, and proving that identity does not need to be exclusive. We live in a complicated world with complicated lines being drawn. Boltz proves that these lines don’t exist, and will be breaking down barriers to bring together communities. To Allison, “a trans woman standing next to a straight white man in church is a powerful teacher.”
The Safe Space maps bridge all types of spaces, and one of the unlikely ones is, perhaps, churches. Matt said that “BYU has only nine safe spaces around their campus and seven of them are churches.” Not all churches are anti-gay, and many times they are the only place for people to find community.
Rainbows in Revolt is just getting started bridging gaps and building community.
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