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DIK Bar cements its status as LGBTQ institution, prepares to expand

Dupont Cantina coming soon to the former Malbec space

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Michael Askarinam and his brother Tony opened Dupont Italian Kitchen nearly 40 years ago. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Two immigrant brothers who could not return home, Michael and Tony Askarinam, turned instead to making a community space of their own. Nearly 40 years after debuting their casual, gay-friendly restaurant, the (straight) owners of Dupont Italian Kitchen are expanding, reinforcing their status as a center of gay life on 17th Street. By early fall, they plan to debut a casual Mexican restaurant, complete with a spacious patio, tons of tacos, and big margarita energy that will please outdoor diners and karaoke singers upstairs alike.

DIK Bar, as it is affectionately known, still serves fan-favorite lasagna and eggplant parmesan, though no longer for a cool $4.25 from its opening menu. Michael, who moved to the U.S. from Iran to study in 1974, graduated in 1980 ā€“ less than a year after the Iranian revolution. Part of a Jewish family, he felt unsafe going back to his homeland with the new regime, and has never returned. Instead, he and his brother, who also fled, opened a restaurant that still sits on the same corner as the day it opened. Though he is not Italian, Michael had plenty of relevant experience: He had worked in Italian restaurants during summers while studying, and another brother owned the now-closed restaurant Spaghetti Garden (where Pitchers stands today). The menu, he admits, pulled heavily from his family influence.

Dupont Italian Kitchen (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Opening on 17th Street in the mid-ā€˜80s, the brothers knew the community vibe. Annieā€™s, just a block away, was already well known as an LGBTQ-friendly institution. At the time, he says, the street was a bit grittier ā€” not the well-manicured lane it is today. Still, they decidedĀ to open a restaurant and Italian Kitchen was born. His brother at Spaghetti Garden suggested adding ā€œDupontā€ in front to help ground the location, and DIK came into being. ā€œAt the beginning I admit I was a little uncomfortable with the name, having young kids. But it grew on me,ā€ he says. Leaning in, heā€™s embraced the name.

A few years later, the restaurant expanded vertically: taking over the apartments upstairs to turn it into a bar; a new chef came in who introduced DIK Barā€™s popular brunch. But he and his brother never really relinquished the cozy space that he had envisioned. Each pushing 80 years old, they come in nearly daily: cooking, bartending, even washing dishes.

DIK has evolved, but only slightly. Eggplant and chicken parm, lasagna, pizza, pasta, and a $1 garden salad: the opening menu from the ā€˜80s reads like a genuine old-school Italian joint. Today, you will still find classic gems, though now they are nestled alongside Brussels sprouts and arugula salads.

As longtime patrons know, the restaurant is more than the sum of its pasta parts. ā€œItā€™s an atmosphere where everybody is welcome. I got that from my mother,ā€ he added, noting that she had experienced discrimination as part of the Jewish minority in Iran. Given this background, it was logical for them to build a space where ā€œyou have a place to be who you are and feel comfortable.ā€

In 2020, as the restaurantā€™s lease was expiring, he had the opportunity to buy the building, which included adjacent Argentine restaurant Malbec. ā€œThe landlord let us know that they felt we deserve to own the building after being here for so long,ā€ says Michael.

It was a blessing; to him, it meant the sustainability of Dupont Italian Kitchen. Earlier this year, when Malbecā€™s lease expired, they decided against finding another tenant and instead they would make it their own. The two eateries already shared one storage basement, where the Malbec kitchen was located. Saving costs by sharing procurement, staff, and utilities (as well as liquor), they took the leap. ā€œPlus, we can be our own great tenant,ā€ he said with a smile.

The new Dupont Cantina is coming soon. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

The refurbishment thus far has included a new HVAC system and a new bar. The new restaurant allows them access to a more spacious kitchen that can cook up sizzling Mexican favorites with speed and in volume. Customers at upstairs DIK Bar have always requested more bar-style finger food, he says, and tacos are better suited to a drinking atmosphere than fettuccine alfredo or creamy Cajun sausage pasta. Mexican food is also well suited to the patio. He also has a family tie to Mexico: relatives own Johnny Pistolas in Adams Morgan. The rest of the menu is being developed, including shareable small plates and ā€œMexican pizza.ā€ Drinks will feature tequila, mezcal, and margaritas; and there is a happy hour in the works. ā€œIā€™m hoping this expansion can help cement our future,ā€ he says.

The opening timeline is early fall.

Looking back on almost 40 years and looking forward with the expansion, he mused that the restaurant still maintains its authenticity and its central role in LGBTQ life in D.C. ā€œIā€™m really proud of the fact that it caters to this community. We are an institution, we want to continue to be part of this place.ā€

Michael Askarinam at DIK Bar. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
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Jussie Smollett asserts innocence while promoting new film

ā€˜I know what happened and soon you all will tooā€™

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Jussie Smollettā€™s case remains on appeal. His new film is out later this month. (Photo by Starfrenzy/Bigstock)

Jussie Smollett, the actor and musician who was convicted of lying to the police about being the victim of a homophobic and racist hate crime that he staged in 2019, attended a screening of his latest film ā€œThe Lost Hollidayā€ in a packed auditorium of the Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial Library on Aug. 28. 

In an interview with the Washington Blade that took place before the screening, he continued to assert his innocence and responded to concerns within the LGBTQ community that his case has discouraged real victims from reporting hate crimes.Ā 

The former ā€œEmpireā€ star wrote, produced, and directed ā€œThe Lost Holliday,ā€ his second feature film to direct following 2021ā€™s ā€œB-Boy Blues.ā€ Produced through Smollettā€™s company, SuperMassive Movies, he stars in the film alongside Vivica A. Fox, who also served as a producer and attended the library screening with other cast members.

In the film, Smollett plays Jason Holliday, a man grappling with the sudden death of his husband Damien (Jabari Redd). Things are complicated when Damienā€™s estranged mother, Cassandra Marshall (Fox), arrives in Los Angeles from Detroit for the funeral, unaware of Damienā€™s marriage to Jason or of their adopted daughter. Initially, Jason and Cassandra clash ā€” Cassandraā€™s subtle homophobia and Jasonā€™s lingering resentment over her treatment of Damien fuel their tension ā€“ā€“ but they begin to bond as they navigate their grief together. 

Smollett, Fox, Redd, and Brittany S. Hall, who plays Jasonā€™s sister Cheyenne, discussed the film in an interview with the Washington Blade. Highlighting the wide representation of queer identities in the film and among the cast, they stressed that the story is fundamentally about family and love.

ā€œWhat we really want people to get from this movie is love,ā€ Smollett said. ā€œIt’s beneficial for people to see other people that are not like themselves, living the life that they can identify with. Because somehow, what it does is that it opens up the world a little bit.ā€

Smollett drew from personal experiences with familial estrangement and grief during the making of the film, which delves into themes of parenthood, reconciliation, and the complexities of family relationships.

ā€œI grew up with a father who was not necessarily the most accepting of gay people, and I grew up with a mother who was rather the opposite. I had a safe space in my home to go to, but I also had a not-so-safe space in my home, which was my father,ā€ he said.

ā€œThe moment that he actually heard the words that his son was gay, as disconnected and estranged as we were, he instantly changed. He called me, after not speaking to him for years, and apologized for how difficult it must have been all of those years of me growing up. And then a couple years later, he passed away.ā€

Smollett began working on ā€œThe Lost Hollidayā€ eight years ago, with Fox in mind for the role of Cassandra from the outset. He said that he had started collaborating on the project with one of the biggest producers in Hollywood when ā€œā€˜2019ā€™ happened.ā€

In January 2019, Smollett told Chicago police that he had been physically attacked in a homophobic and racist hate crime. He initially received an outpouring of support, in particular from the LGBTQ and Black communities. However, police soon charged him with filing a false police report, alleging that he had staged the attack. 

After prosecutors controversially dismissed the initial charges in exchange for community service and the forfeiture of his $10,000 bond, Smollett was recharged with the same offenses in 2020. Meanwhile, his character in ā€œEmpireā€ was written out of the show. 

In 2021, a Cook County jury found him guilty on five of the six charges of disorderly conduct for lying to police, and he was sentenced to 150 days in jail and 30 months of probation, along with a $120,000 restitution payment to the city of Chicago for the overtime costs incurred by police investigating his initial hate crime claim.

LGBTQ people are nine times more likely than non-LGBTQ people to be victims of violent hate crimes, according to a study by the Williams Institute at UCLA School of Law. Upon Smollettā€™s conviction, some in the LGBTQ community felt that the case would discredit victims of hate crimes and make it more difficult to report future such crimes. 

Smollett seemed to acknowledge these concerns, but denied that he staged the attack. 

ā€œI know what happened and soon you all will too,ā€ he told the Blade. ā€œIf someone reported a crime and it wasnā€™t the truth, that would actually make it more difficult [to report future crimes], but I didnā€™t. Any belief that they have about the person that Iā€™ve been played out to be, sure, but that person is not me, never has been,ā€ he said. ā€œSo I stand with my community. I love my community and I protect and defend my community until Iā€™m bloody in my fist.ā€ 

ā€œAnd for all the people who, in fact, have been assaulted or attacked and then have been lied upon and made it to seem like they made it up, I’m sorry that you have to constantly prove your trauma, and I wish that it wasn’t that way, and I completely identify with you,ā€ he added.

An Illinois Appellate Court upheld his guilty verdict last year, but Smollett has since appealed to the Illinois Supreme Court, which in March agreed to hear the case. He has served six days in jail so far, as his sentence has been put on hold pending the results of his appeals. 

The screening at the MLK Jr. Library concluded with a conversation between Smollett, Fox, and David J. Johns, CEO and executive director of the National Black Justice Coalition. Smollett discussed his current mindset and his plans for the future, revealing he is working on a third movie and will be releasing new music soon. 

ā€œIā€™m in a space where life is being kind,ā€ he said. 

ā€œThe Lost Hollidayā€ recently secured a distribution deal for a limited release with AMC Theatres and will be out in theaters on Sept. 27. 

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Corcoran Street Group: LGBTQ lobbyists fighting for our rights

ā€˜The most pro-LGBTQ+ thing you can do this election is to vote Democratā€™

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Brad Howard is founder and president of the Corcoran Street Group

We often hear the term lobbyist associated with negative connotations. Think oil and gas initiatives that often seek to curtail environmental protections to further their industries. Consider ā€œbig pharma,ā€ which is often vilified for keeping healthcare costs high. However, there are lobbyists fighting for our rights ā€“ not just LGBTQ rights, but human rights as well. Brad Howard, founder and president of the Corcoran Street Group (CSG) is one such out, gay lobbyist advocating for equality and equity. 

To start, Howard shares his definition of a lobbyist, which transcends the stereotype that the term originates with politicos literally waiting in D.C. hotel lobbies hoping to hobnob with politicians to foster their interests, often with cash in hand.

ā€œUnderstanding how government works can be incredibly difficult, even to those on the inside,ā€ he shared. ā€œLobbying is a constitutionally protected right explicitly guaranteed in the First Amendment ā€“ the right to petition our government. At its most basic level, lobbying is essentially contacting a public official to express your opinion or ask them to take a certain action. So, if you have ever emailed or called your city council rep or Member of Congress ā€“ or even tagged them on social media ā€“ you lobbied.ā€

Howard, who came to Washington from a conservative background in Arkansas, had a journey from working with Republican leaders and causes to being more libertarian before eventually joining with the Blue Dog Democrats. This is quite a change for a young man who founded a teenage GOP group in high school, chaired the college Republicans group at Hendrix University, and became vice chair of Arkansas College Republicans. 

So, how did a nice conservative Christian Republican whose parents voted for Ross Perot instead of Bill Clinton from the Bible Belt end up as a gay lobbyist? 

ā€œI was subconsciously rejecting any attempt to live my life the way someone told me to ā€¦ a Libertarian streak if you will,ā€ Howard said. ā€œI was always pro-choice and pro-marriage equality as I didnā€™t want the government anywhere near me. Throughout all of this, I was starting to understand that I was gay and what that meant for my future in politics, it was bleak. Then the Bush-Cheney campaign in 2004 started pushing constitutional amendments banning gay marriage in states across the country to drive evangelical turnout. That ran counter to my politics ā€“ to the basic principle of promoting individual liberty. So I left the party then and graduated college as an independent in 2006 with the goal of moving to Washington as quickly as possible.ā€

By 2007 he was living in Washington, D.C., interning for Simon Rosenbergā€™s New Democrat Network, and pursuing a masterā€™s from American University. Coming out for Howard happened on the first day he entered college, quite a ā€œdaunting and scaryā€ task summed up by him as: ā€œI have blue eyes. I love playing cards. Iā€™m a terrible, but very confident karaoke singer. Oh, by the way, Iā€™m gay.ā€

The ā€œitā€™s part of me, but not my whole identity,ā€ is often expressed by those on the ā€“ shall we say ā€“ cusp of coming out. He cites a Foundry United Methodist pastorā€™s message as impetus for coming out as a defining part of his identity. 

ā€œThat seed of shame you feel for being gay ā€“ that was not planted there by God; it was planted there by the church, and Iā€™m sorry,ā€ here heā€™s referring to a sermon by Pastor Ginger Gaines-Cerelli. ā€œI canā€™t describe what it [felt] like to be 33 years old and have your world completely upended like that. It wasnā€™t just the statement, which answered a question that had long haunted me; it was also the apology. I didnā€™t even know that I needed an apology, but I did, and it worked.ā€ 

Before starting CSG, he worked at a bipartisan lobbyist group and was mentored by former Chief of Senate Staff Bob Van Heuvelen. Howard describes his mentorā€™s approach to lobbying as guided by a strong moral compass, and seeing people as people, not transactions. 

The way it should be: Since corporations are not people.

Howard also sits on the board of directors for Q Street, as treasurer. Q Street is an LGBTQ lobbyist organization. Yesenia Henninger, the out queer president of Q Street since January of this year ā€“ and board member for five years ā€“ explains in further detail what her group does to foster queer rights. 

ā€œQ Street is the nonprofit, nonpartisan, professional association of LGBTQ lobbyists and public policy advocates. Q Street was formed to be the bridge between LGBTQ advocacy organizations, LGBTQ+ lobbyists on K Street,ā€ District lingo for queer lobbyists, ā€œand our colleagues and allies on Capitol Hill. Q Street has more than 3,000 recipients of our monthly newsletter, hundreds of attendees at our receptions, and our monthly luncheons have featured speakers such as Members of Congress, campaign managers, activists, plaintiffs in the most important LGBTQ+ Supreme Court cases of our time, and the Secretary of the Army. Q Street hosts nearly 25 receptions, lunches, and professional development events every year. Our goal is to provide the best networking opportunities and professional development trainings so our members continue to grow within the ranks of their field.ā€

According to Henninger there has been a growing population of queer lobbyists since the Obama years. Marriage equality, an impetus for Howard to perhaps ā€œcome out politicallyā€ equally spurred their growth. After Obama, this presence fought to maintain rights gained. This is amazing growth considering at one time people working for our equity did so in an almost secretive fashion. 

An aside here, Sean Strub the founder of POZ Magazine, wrote a powerful book in 2014 called ā€œBody Counts: A Memoir of Politics, Sex, AIDS and Survival,ā€ which chronicles advocacy in D.C. in the years after Stonewall.

The majority of these K Street lobbyists are in their 30s and 40s. Although Henninger shares there are more junior and more senior-ranking lobbyists in terms of age or career. 

What do they do? Is it office-to-event, sleep, repeat? Henninger explained that a queer lobbyist’s lifestyle varies depending on the issue area they focus on. Her organization has lobbyists working in policy as well as members who focus on energy and transportation issues, and topics all across the spectrum.

ā€œThe lobbyists and advocates whose roles require them to engage in political activity may also have different lifestyles than those that do not. They likely have fundraisers (sometimes one, sometimes multiple) that they attend after work with Members of Congress or other politicians. However, we also have many public policy advocate members who spend their day talking to Members of Congress, or administration officials, trying to achieve their policy goals that do not have any fundraiser-related obligations. Q Street hopes to provide a great space for our members to network with one another and unite their social and professional experiences in the district.ā€

We are all aware what is at stake in the upcoming presidential election in what can only sadly be described as a deeply divided nation. What role will LGBTQ lobbyists play, I asked Brad Howard.  

ā€œIf you vote third party, if you leave the race blank, or if you stay home, you are helping to elect Donald Trump,ā€ he said. ā€œYou are not punishing Joe Biden, you are punishing the millions of Americans, the millions of aspiring Americans who face deportation, millions of women who depend on access to reproductive health, and so many transgender young people who need protection ā€“ all of these people will be punished in a Trump presidency. And, Joe Biden is going to need a Democratic Congress ā€“ or weā€™ll need a Democratic Congress to stop Donald Trump. So to me, the most pro-LGBTQ+ thing you can do this election is to vote Democratā€¦because the choices have never been clearer.ā€

Visit Corcoran Street Group and Q Street to learn more about their work.

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Rehobothā€™s Purple Parrot still soaring after 25 years

Owners Hugh Fuller and Troy Roberts reflect on keys to their success

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Longtime Purple Parrot employee Chris Chandler. (Washington Blade photo by Daniel Truitt)

Two buildings, one romance, and 25 years later, the Purple Parrot is busy as ever. 

If the tropical purple paint covering the outside with rainbow flags and walls covered with love notes, affirmations, and drunk wishes scribbled on dollar bills don’t indicate it already, the Purple Parrot is an institution in Rehoboth. The gay-owned and operated fixture is celebrating its 25th anniversary this year.Ā 

The Blade sat down with owners Hugh Fuller and Troy Roberts of the Rehoboth establishment to discuss the past 25 years and plans for the future.Ā 

Fuller and Roberts, both gay, have been working together since before the Parrot was even an idea. Fuller was a co-owner of the Iguana, another restaurant and bar in the town. Ā 

ā€œI was in the Iguana first with another business partner,ā€ Fuller said. ā€œI was going to get out and move up to Pennsylvania with him [Roberts]. He decided that he was going to come down and said, ā€˜Well, what if I go in with you at the Iguana and we do it together?ā€™ And I was like, ā€˜Alright,ā€™ so we did, and it just snowballed from there. We were always in the restaurant business together from the beginning.ā€Ā 

ā€œYeah, that was really luck, too,ā€ Roberts began. ā€œBecause-ā€ 

ā€œBecause Grindr wasnā€™t around then!ā€ Fuller interjected, laughing as Roberts began to roll his eyes and smile.Ā 

ā€œI had a small place up in York,ā€ Roberts continued. ā€œSelling that kind of gave us some money to buy the other guy out. We just had friends supporting us and helping us along the way and it just kind of worked.ā€Ā 

ā€œKind of workedā€ would be an understatement. The pair moved on from the Iguana and opened the Parrot. Then, after opening the Parrot, they decided to shift locations to a larger location down the street to accommodate the growing demand. Then in 2010, the Parrot expanded again, adding the land behind the Rehoboth Avenue location, which provided an additional 950 square feet as well as giving patrons access to Wilmington Avenue. 

The bar and restaurant, which serves American cuisine with a beach flair, has always focused on being a welcoming space to all regardless of sexuality, gender, race, nationality, or identity. This, the duo explains, is one of the reasons why the restaurant has had such a lasting impact on the Rehoboth restaurant and gay communities.Ā 

The Purple Parrot (Washington Blade photo by Daniel Truitt)

ā€œBack in the ā€˜90s when we first opened up, the amount of straight crossdressers that would come were like, ā€˜Oh, are we allowed to come in? Are we welcomed into a place like that?ā€™ And we were like ā€˜Everybody that walks on this planet is welcome here!ā€™ā€ Fuller said. ā€œThose are the kinds of things, you know, where people just felt comfortable. They would get stared at out on the street, but inside they would walk around and feel like they were in their own skin. It was just really cool to see.ā€

The feeling of acceptance has been a crucial part of the Parrotā€™s success.

ā€œI got an email a couple of days ago ā€” probably two weeks ago about a woman bringing her daughter down,ā€ Roberts said. ā€œShe’s 16 and was bullied through school ā€” hard times, depression, tried to harm herself a couple of times. It was just really sweet that she reached out and she’s like, ā€˜My daughter was a completely different person when I brought her into your bar. Everybody treated her nice ā€” the bartenders, the waitstaff, I mean, everybody was friendly. She just doesn’t experience that often being an out 16-year-old lesbian. We just can’t even thank you enough.ā€™ It’s those kinds of things that we get often.ā€

ā€œ[The mother] mainly wrote it because we put the Pride flag on the Parrotā€™s Facebook wall,ā€ Fuller added. 

The colorful lights, disco balls, and staggering number of dollar bills stapled to the walls highlight that the Rehoboth community has embraced the Parrot. Itā€™s not uncommon to see a group of gay patrons sitting at the bar in bathing suits sipping on orange crushes and talking about their day at Poodle Beach while a bachelorette party belts out Lady Gaga on karaoke night in the room next door. That is the vibe Fuller and Roberts have curated ā€” a fun and friendly tropical oasis in the middle of Rehoboth Avenue.  

A crucial element of this curated vibe, the pair point out, is treating employees and guests with respect. When asked what they have learned that helped them be so successful over the past 25 years, Fuller and Roberts said the same thing.

ā€œPatience, organization, and treating people well,ā€ Roberts said.ā€ I think that’s probably one of the bigger of the three ā€” you treat them well and they treat you well. I think it’s just a mutual respect.ā€ 

 ā€œIt took me about 30 years to learn that it’s not just all about work,ā€ Fuller said. ā€œI used to bust my butt in there all the time and the focus was [on] the restaurant. I know [Roberts] said patience, I would say mine was being patient too because I learned going in that it’s easier to deal with your employees without shouting at them. It took me a little while to get through that.ā€ 

He added that compensating staff fairly was also one of their keys to success.Ā 

 ā€œBefore we take a nickel out of our business, we put $1 back into our employeesā€™ pockets,ā€ Fuller said. We want the business to survive and it has been incredible.ā€  

Fuller added that this sentiment, of having patience and treating everyone with respect, goes both ways ā€” it applies to the Parrotā€™s patrons as well. 

ā€œIf you leave the Parrot angry, it’s your own decision,ā€ Fuller explained. ā€œIf we don’t make you happy there, it’s because you’re choosing not to be happy. We will go out of our way to correct anything and everything that we can. So if you leave [unhappy], it’s not because we couldn’t do it. It’s because you didn’t want us to.ā€

The two discussed their history together ā€” anyone who has them interact can see their spirited energy and appreciation for each other. 

 ā€œTroy and I used to be a couple when we first opened, and we were together for about 10 years,ā€ Fuller said. ā€œAnd then we kind of went our separate ways, but the restaurant kept us in very close contact. Sometimes I think we’re probably closer than most couples are because of the way that the restaurant has us tied together.ā€ 

ā€œEven during the worst of it, we never stopped communicating on a daily basis,ā€ Roberts added. ā€œObviously, you can tell by his personality why that all went south,ā€ he said laughing. 

ā€œWell, you can tell by the way that he looks why it went south.ā€ Fuller jabbed back, also laughing.

ā€œHey!ā€ Roberts replied. 

ā€œI wasn’t gonna continue dating my grandfather!ā€ Fuller joked. 

Despite the end of their romantic relationship, there was still clear evidence of perpetual good energy between the business partners. The two then started to reminisce about the past 25 years and the struggles and successes they overcame to reach this milestone. 

The pair mentioned the two biggest struggles they have faced in the past quarter century. One was when Rehoboth Avenue was dug up for the Streetscape improvement project, and the second was the 2008 recession.Ā 

ā€œWe were refinancing our houses several times to keep it afloat there for a little while,ā€ Fuller said. 

ā€œBut hey, we got nice sidewalks now!ā€ Roberts added. ā€œSo that’s good.ā€

 Itā€™s not just the customers who grew up with the Parrot; so did the staff.

ā€œI mean one of the kids who bussed for us is now our dentist,ā€ Fuller said.

ā€œOne of the busboys from the Iguana days, he’s our dentist now,ā€ Roberts explained. ā€œThey actually started dating in high school while working together at the Iguana. One of them followed us to the Parrot and her daughter just worked for us two summers ago as a host. He’s our dentist, and they’re still local. We just sold him a house over in Lewes, because we’re both Realtors on the side. When you look back at that, you’re like, ā€˜Oh, my God, you were just a kid. And now you have a kid graduating college!ā€™ It goes fast.ā€Ā 

It seems that many of the staff have a soft spot for the Parrot, and for good reason. An important aspect of keeping their employees happy is supporting them. At first, it was trips to Disney World with some of the servers and renting out the local waterpark to give kids time to enjoy the summer. Then it became Christmas bonuses, which are not common in the food service industry.Ā 

The Parrot helped raise more than $10,000 for one of their employees dealing with fallout from the war in Ukraine.Ā 

ā€œOne of our bartenders being from Ukraine, when all that went down, amazingly, how he was able to bring a lot of his family over,ā€ Roberts said. ā€œAnd until they actually got grounded, he had places for them to stay all lined up.ā€

ā€œThe reason that he was able to get them over is because we did a fundraiser at the restaurant and our customers raised over $10,000 to help sponsor his family and one of our other employees’ families,ā€ Fuller said. ā€œThey brought them all the way up through Mexico and into the country and now they’re here with citizenship cards and working for us. We got them houses and apartments too.ā€ 

ā€œWe don’t care what they are, whether they’re straight, Black, Chinese, Mexican. It’s like the Benetton of Rehoboth in here,ā€ Fuller added. ā€œIt’s the United Nations. We support everybody and we’re not afraid to show our support for everybody.ā€

In addition to reminiscing about some of the good things the restaurant has done for its employees, they both talked about notable guests of the Parrot. 

ā€œMy mind went right to the guys from Manhattan, who would always come down,ā€ Roberts said when asked if any guests have stuck out to him over the past 25 years. ā€œThey just happened to find us. They had never been to Rehoboth before. They walked into the original Parrot and had every single year after that until two of them passed away. It just became like a yearly week, then it turned into two weeks, and then it turned into two times a year. And it was all just because they came to one bar, and had so much fun. They would sit there all day, all night, go home take a nap, and come back for dinner. And it was just their place.ā€ 

They have faced some objections from those who were not as receptive to their tolerance of different people.

ā€œWe get the same hate that everybody else does ā€” the same hate that the city got when they put the rainbow crossings in and the flag up,ā€ Fuller said. ā€œI was just telling Troy about a conversation I had yesterday with a guy. The front of our business for Pride month has flags on it and says ā€˜Happy Pride.ā€™ And he said, ā€˜I was going to come in here but I see you’re supporting the gay community with your rainbow flags.ā€™ And I said ā€˜Yes.ā€™ And he goes, ā€˜Well, I don’t see why you don’t have flags for veterans.ā€™ And I said,ā€™ Well, as a veteran, I can tell you that we don’t serve to be recognized, we serve to protect and to give you guys your freedom. It’s not something that we want recognition for. But there is a flag, the American flag, that flies over the top of our business every day to represent the veterans of this country.ā€™ā€ 

Despite the opinions of some who are less than welcoming of the LGBTQ community, the Purple Parrot will always be a safe space to celebrate, the two affirmed. And celebrate they will.Ā 

The Parrot already hosted one party to celebrate the milestone of the bar early in the summer, but will throw an even bigger bash at the end of the season to commemorate the history and hard work that has gone into making the Parrot ā€˜fly.ā€™

ā€œOn May fifth we had a big party,ā€ Fuller said. ā€œWe’ll have another one at the end of the summer in September. We did one at the beginning and then we’re going to do a really big one at the end of the summer. The first celebration, that weekend, turned out to be a little rainy, and misty so it wasn’t as big as it could have been. It was packed inside but it wasn’t packed outside like it normally is. We usually do a full cookout barbecue, all that stuff and we’ll do that again at the end of the summer. We’ll have another one of those with DJs. I am not sure about a drag show, but we’ll probably have something because the girls are trying to get something together. We don’t want to spoil anything but there will be a surprise.ā€  

When asked to give their final thoughts on owning and running one of Rehobothā€™s most successful businesses as gay men, the two made it clear that it has to be a safe and welcoming space for all for it to succeed. 

ā€œI think you have to be all-inclusive,ā€ Roberts said. ā€œI don’t think in today’s world you can just really limit it to the gay community. You have to be gay-friendly, and accepting as well. And I think that helps because it gets non-gays in there and everybody just starts to get along. It becomes more accepted and then becomes the norm.ā€ 

Fuller agreed but emphasized being true to oneā€™s character in collaboration with being inclusive is the key to their success.

ā€œBeing gay isn’t who we are, you know, it’s what we are,ā€ Fuller said. ā€œYou can’t be afraid to be you. ā€¦ If you’re going to open up a business, you want to make sure you lean on the community, because the community is going to be your biggest support. And that’s how we definitely lean on the gay community.ā€

The Purple Parrot is located at 134 Rehoboth Ave. in Rehoboth Beach and is open Monday through Saturday from 11 a.m. to 1 a.m. and is open from 9 a.m. to 1 a.m. on Sundays. For more information, visit their website at ppgrill.com.

Purple Parrot (Washington Blade photo by Daniel Truitt)
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