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White House responds to passage of N.Y. marriage bill

‘States should determine for themselves how best to uphold the rights of their own citizens’

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A White House spokesperson late Friday reiterated President Obama’s belief that the marriage issue should be left to the states in response to the passage of same-sex marriage legislation in New York.

Shin Inouye, a White House spokesperson, said the president believes gay couples should receive “the same rights and legal protections” as opposite-sex couples, but wants states to determine the best approach to offer these protections.

“The president has long believed that gay and lesbian couples deserve the same rights and legal protections as straight couples,” Inouye said. “That’s why he has called for repeal of the so-called ‘Defense of Marriage Act’ and determined that his administration would no longer defend the constitutionality of DOMA in the courts. The states should determine for themselves how best to uphold the rights of their own citizens. The process in New York worked just as it should.”

Inouye issued the statement via e-mail in response to an inquiry from the Washington Blade. The statement recalls the speech Obama gave Thursday during an LGBT fundraiser in which he mentioned the then-pending marriage legislation in New York, but took no position on the bill. Obama said the New York was “doing exactly what democracies are supposed to do” by engaging in debate on the bill.

During his presidential campaign, Obama said he believes marriage is between one man and one woman, backed civil unions for gay couples. Since October, Obama has suggested he could evolve on the marriage issue, but he has yet to endorse gay nuptials. LGBT rights supporters have been pushing him to complete this evolution to back marriage equality.

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  1. brian

    June 25, 2011 at 6:19 am

    This carefully crafted doublespeak only makes the president look foolish. The leader of the Democratic Party cowers in the shadows of conservative Republicans like Ted Olson and Dick Cheney regarding this most fundamental issue? Just not credible. How does “President Cuomo” sound?

  2. Yitzchak

    June 25, 2011 at 8:24 am

    Brian: So, vote for the Republicans in 2012. Meanwhile, the more astute of us will bide our time (not easily, mind you, because he has pissed us off) until his second term, when I suspect we’ll see more of the Obama who campaigned and who we voted for. You can have that (even though he’s disappointed a lot of us, myself included), or you can have whatever P.O.S. the Republicans send down the pipe, someone who most definitely won’t even try to be a friend to our community. What’s it gonna be?

    • buckeyepete

      June 25, 2011 at 11:06 am

      So thats your response to a valid comment? That Obama is the best we can hope for, take it or leave it? Sorry, I, for one, am not buying into “its the only choice we have” attitude that apologist Obama supporters have adopted. He is wrong about this issue but he is also wrong about alot of other issues. Unfortunately Obama’s main concern right now is to be “liked” and to be thought of as a “reasonable” guy. So the people who supported him in 2008 can jump in a lake and the people who hate get the cake.

  3. hank kelly

    June 25, 2011 at 10:08 am

    Sometimes, I think too many gays don’t know a rat’s toenail about politics. Sure, Obama could say he is for gay marriage. What is that going to accomplish? It won’t pass Congress with the Republicans in charge of the Senate. Obama is biding his time. Would you really prefer to have the homphobe of a Bachmann in the WH?

  4. Kirk Childress

    June 25, 2011 at 10:16 am

    Cuomo for President!

  5. brian

    June 25, 2011 at 10:17 am

    Yitzchak, pls don’t miss my point for my GOP examples…

    Specifically, why is the president falling so far behind the ‘progressive curve’ this cycle? National polls show a rapid shift among Dems and independents for marriage equality.

    Of course, your argument isn’t a new one (nor a necessarily “astute” one) either. It is there nearly every election, esp for incumbents. But it is the ultra-safe/ cynical/ where else are ‘they’ going to go(?) argument. ‘They’ (e.g., 2008’s highly motivated Obama voters) don’t have to go anywhere politically. They can stay home, have dinner out, see a movie, etc.– i.e., do all the things one’s unmotivated political base(s) do. Oh, my!

    Voters of all ages are pretty bright. They generally recognize a PR snow job when they hear it. The WH risks insulting/ ticking-off their supporters with such dishonesty, too. Add growing dissatisfaction with their snow job on Afghanistan– well, IMHO, they’re assuming a lot.

  6. B

    June 25, 2011 at 11:26 am

    Remember, Obama was the candidate the gay community was dying to elect along with his gay marriage disapproving vice president Biden. Well, they got both of them.

  7. Mike

    June 25, 2011 at 12:41 pm

    And leaving it to the states addresses issues with federal employees, the military and immigration – how? Why weren’t issues of racial or gender equality left to the states?

  8. Stevg

    June 25, 2011 at 1:03 pm

    To Brian and Yitzchak and all of you people of who forgot or never learned LGBT history. The position of that states have propriety rights on same sex marriage actually originated within the LGBT community.

    HRC hosted the first mainstream presidential candidate forum debate at the Reagan building and one of the questions asked of course was same sex marriage. Vt. Gov. Howard Dean said he signed the first equality bill – he didn’t get much of an applause. . Rev Al Sharpton wowed the crowed with his unequivocal support for full equality. The then Senator from Illinois Carol Mosley Braun was actually the one who first raised the position that it ought to be up to the individual states to legalize same sex marriage. When the Washington Post published a story the next day about the forum and quoted HRC’s director Elizabeth Burch as saying that in her opinion, Braun has the best position of all. Naturally, her comment was interpreted as an endorsement. The unintended result was that the conservatives ran with it and as a result, a majority of states now ban same sex marriage.

    Now before you start your habitual slinging of mud in a yet another direction, be mindful that at the time, there was considerable reluctance within the LGBT community to use the courts as a pathway because it was widely believed with considerable justification, that judges were hostile to gays. Thats why we’re where we are. As someone who remembers a time when gays were jailed, there was no employment protections of any kind, can you do us all a favor? SHUT UP and DO something about it.

  9. skrekk

    June 26, 2011 at 2:45 pm

    Does Obama think mixed-race marriage should also be left to the states?

  10. John Bonavita

    June 26, 2011 at 6:55 pm

    Cuomo for President!
    Barack….a wiener!!!!!

  11. Matt

    June 26, 2011 at 8:06 pm

    Lackluster and insulting. He really needs to grow up on this issue.

  12. Tim

    June 27, 2011 at 7:34 am

    Obama is once again behind the times and has missed his chance to support same-sex marriage. He has never been the “Fierce advocate” that he promised to be, and quite frankly he is a political coward who has allowed himself to be bullied by the Republicans and Blue Dog Democrat traitors throughout his presidency. He has failed the LGBT community, immigrants, unions, environmentalists, and Progressives in general. I only wish we had another option in a Democratic Primary to replace Obama with someone like Andrew Cuomo. If it comes down to Obama or a Republican, of course I will vote for the spineless Obama, but I will do it reluctantly believe me.

  13. Sean

    June 27, 2011 at 2:33 pm

    What if Alabama still restricted access to some drinking fountains, stores, and restaurants and Vermont and NY did not?

    It is definitely a different situation, but that is the same sort of approach the president is defending here.

    I think Obama is good on a lot of issues, but he needs to move forward on this one.

  14. brian

    June 27, 2011 at 4:32 pm

    Good points, all– esp. given the importance of a president’s leadership upon potential legislative branch advancements. Specifically, Obama’s simple endorsement of Senator Feinstein’s bill to repeal the federal DOMA would be helpful.

    In addition, there is a significant possibility that both the federal and state DOMAs will be struck down by SCOTUS– even that marriage equality itself will be ruled a constitutional right by various federal courts (in addition to Judge Walker’s ruling on Prop 8). So a president’s public position can be just as important and given due weight, in judicial branch deliberations, too.

    “The states should determine for themselves how best to uphold the rights of their own citizens. The process in New York worked just as it should.”

    That sentence by the WH’s Shin Inouye appears to have the White House washing its hands of federal government responsibility for the constitutional rights arguments, being made in the courts against CA’s Prop 8 and the federal DOMA. It implies federal courts have no role– or worse, that their are NO constitutional rights for gay couples worthy of federal court scrutiny. At the very least, it fails to pay due respect to the FEDERAL courts on both coasts that are hearing the cases of gay plaintiffs CURRENTLY.

    The president’s political people will serve the president and justice better by not making White House political statements that can be used and cited against marriage equality advocates in those current federal cases.

    Sean’s analogy is pretty good too (and as others have alluded). The whole “states rights” line from the WH of late is too reminiscent of the argument used by some bigots against enactment of civil rights and voting rights laws in the 1960s.

    It’s really a mistaken strategy (probably f/ Plouffe/ Axelrod) on a number of levels.

  15. Steven LOWE

    June 27, 2011 at 7:46 pm

    “The states should determine for themselves how best to uphold the rights of their own citizens.”
    A Republican could have said this ! Is this also true for racial civil rights? women’s rights? Humph. !

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U.S. Conference on HIV/AIDS to be held virtually Dec. 2-3

Fauci, Levine, Pelosi to speak at opening session

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Dr. Rachel Levine, the U.S. Assistant Secretary of Health, is among speakers at this week’s U.S. Conference on HIV/AIDS. (Blade photo by Michael Key)

Dr. Anthony Fauci, director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases; and Dr. Rachel Levine, the U.S. Assistant Secretary of Health who became the nation’s highest-ranking transgender public official earlier this year, are among dozens of experts scheduled to participate in the 25th Annual U.S. Conference on HIV/AIDS scheduled to take place virtually Dec. 2-3.

Fauci and Levine were scheduled to join Harold Phillips, director of the White House Office of National AIDS Policy; and Rep. Nancy Pelosi (D-Calif.), speaker of the U.S. House of Representatives, as speakers at the conference’s opening plenary session at noon on Thursday, Dec. 2. 

Phillips and Levine were expected to provide information about President Joe Biden’s plans for updating the National HIV/AIDS Strategy, which Biden was scheduled to announce on Dec. 1 at a White House World AIDS Day event.

Members of the U.S. People Living With HIV Caucus were also expected to discuss the federal policy agenda on HIV/AIDS at the opening plenary session. 

In addition to the opening plenary and three other plenary sessions, one more on Thursday, Dec. 2, and two on Friday, Dec. 3, the conference was scheduled to include 140 workshop sessions on a wide variety of HIV/AIDS related topics.

The annual United States Conference on HIV/AIDS is organized by the D.C.-based national HIV/AIDS advocacy organization NMAC, which was formerly known as the National Minority AIDS Council before it changed its name to that of its widely known initials NMAC. 

“NMAC leads with race to urgently fight for health equity and racial justice to end the HIV epidemic in America,” the organization states on its website. “Health equity with communities of color is everyone’s challenge.”

Several of the workshop sessions cover the topic of expanding the local, state, and national efforts of using pre-exposure prophylaxis drugs known as PrEP as a means of preventing HIV infection. 

Other workshop sessions include: HIV CURE – Hot Topics in HIV Cure Research; A Town Hall on Aging and HIV; COVID, HIV, and Racism – How Providers Can Make a Difference; Expanding the Pleasure and HIV Prevention Toolkit: Kink As Harm Reduction; It’s About Time – HIV Research Just For Transgender Women; and Impact of COVID-19 on HIV Prevention Services Among U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention-Funded Community Based Organizations.

The conference’s fourth and closing plenary session, Foundation Stones to Building the EHE Effort in Indian County, “will highlight the work of those addressing HIV and COVID in Indian Country, rural states and among Alaska Natives with limited infrastructure,” according to a conference agenda statement. 

“This plenary addresses these challenges and provides innovative solutions by the Indian Country – making the case to support Native HIV care by providing essential building blocks,” the agenda statement says. 

Paul Kawata, NMAC’s executive director, says in a statement in the conference’s agenda booklet that he and his NMAC team are disappointed that the 2021 conference is being held virtually for the second year in a row.

“But we felt the issue of safety was simply too critical to ignore,” Kawata said in his statement. “I’ve been very concerned about our loved ones over 50 living with HIV through the whole COVID pandemic,” he said, noting that people in that category were dealing with isolation as well as a higher risk for COVID.

“I hope this conference, even though it is virtual, will help alleviate some of that isolation,” Kawata said. “We’ve worked very hard to make this conference not just an opportunity for training and education, but a chance to connect with others, reinforce those strands in your support net, and hopefully, establish some new connections.”

More information about the U.S. Conference on HIV/AIDS and instructions on registering to attend can be obtained at nmac.org.

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N.C. lieutenant governor compares gays to cow feces, maggots

“If homosexuality is of God, what purpose does it serve? What does it make? What does it create? It creates nothing,” Robinson said

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North Carolina Lt. Governor Mark Robinson (Blade file photo)

WINSTON-SALEM – Speaking to parishioners at the Berean Baptist Church in Winston-Salem last Sunday, November 14, North Carolina Lt. Governor Mark Robinson attacked the LGBTQ+ community in remarks caught on the church’s livestreaming video on YouTube.

Robinson said in his sermon that he questioned the “purpose” of being gay; said heterosexual couples are “superior” to gay couples; and that he didn’t want to explain to his grandchildren why two men are kissing if they see that on television the Charlotte Observer reported.

The state’s Republican Lt. Governor then went on to compare being gay to “what the cows leave behind” as well as maggots and flies, who he said all serve a purpose in God’s creation. “If homosexuality is of God, what purpose does it serve? What does it make? What does it create? It creates nothing,” Robinson said.

Democratic lawmakers expressed their outrage on Twitter:

According to the Observer, “The video was distributed Friday by a pastor at St. John’s Metropolitan Community Church in Raleigh, the day before the Transgender Day of Remembrance. A protest rally was held Friday in front of Robinson’s office, but organizers also read the names of transgender people who have been killed.

This man’s theology and religious practices are not only flawed and a perversion of the Christian tenets; he places countless people at risk of violent attacks and even murder every time he opens his mouth,” said Vance Haywood, senior pastor at St. John’s, in a statement.

Robinson is expected to run for the governor’s chair in 2024. In another video of the sermon captured the Lt. Governor ranting in transphobic terms his opinion of the Trans community:

North Carolina Lt. Gov. Mark Robinson (Twitter Video)

Video of remarks made by North Carolina Lt. Gov. Mark Robinson courtesy of the Charlotte Observer.

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LGBTQ elder care facilities open nationwide, but discrimination persists

Advocates say seniors face challenges despite groundbreaking advances

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The Ariadne Getty Foundation Senior Housing facility opened this week in Los Angeles. (Blade file photo)

Marsha Wetzel, an out lesbian, shared her life with her partner of 30 years, Judith Kahn, at the couple’s home in Illinois until Kahn died in 2013 of colon cancer.

As is the case with some same-sex couples who never married, Kahn’s family took legal possession of the couple’s home several years later, forcing Wetzel, who suffered from severe arthritis, to move into the Glen St. Andrew Living Community, a retirement and assisted living facility in Niles, Ill.

According to a lawsuit filed on her behalf in 2016 by the LGBTQ litigation group Lambda Legal, when word got out that Wetzel was a lesbian after she disclosed her sexual orientation to a fellow resident, she was called homophobic slurs, spat on, and assaulted on several occasions by other residents of the facility. The lawsuit, which later resulted in a court ruling in Wetzel’s favor, charged that officials at the Glen St. Andrew facility illegally failed to take action to prevent Wetzel from being subjected to abuse and threats by fellow residents and retaliated against her when she complained.

Lambda Legal announced one year ago, on Nov. 20, 2020, that Wetzel passed away at the age of 73 of natural causes after a landmark 2018 appeals court ruling in her favor affirmed that residential facilities such as the one in which she lived are legally responsible for the safety of tenant residents.

“Marsha spent the rest of her days in a senior living community where she was out and affirmed,” said Lambda Legal attorney Karen Loewy, who represented Wetzel in the lawsuit.

Advocates for LGBTQ seniors were hopeful that the 2018 U.S. Court of Appeals for the Seventh Circuit ruling in the Wetzel case would speed up the gradual but steady advances in the rights of LGBTQ elders in long-term care facilities and in society in general.

A short time later, the New York City-based national LGBTQ elder advocacy group SAGE expanded its programs providing cultural competency training for the nation’s long-term care residential facilities. And in some cities, including New York, Los Angeles, and San Francisco, LGBTQ specific retirement and long-term care facilities began to open to provide LGBTQ elders with a wide range of “wrap around” services in addition to a safe place to live.

But LGBTQ elder advocates were taken aback in October of this year when news surfaced that transgender U.S. Army veteran Lisa Oakley, 68, was denied placement in more than two-dozen long-term care facilities in Colorado in 2020 and earlier this year.

“When they found out I was transgender, a lot of the facilities didn’t want me,” Oakley told USA Today. “A lot of transgender people, I’m sure, face the same thing,” she said. “We’re humans, just like everybody else.” 

Oakley told other media outlets her ordeal in trying to gain admission to a residential care facility began in October 2020, when she became unable to care for herself due to complications from diabetes. Her first choice was a facility in her hometown in rural Craig, Colo., where she had lived for the previous 25 years. She believes that facility turned her down because of her gender identity.

A social worker who assisted in Oakley’s applications for long-term care facilities said the facility in Craig said Oakley would have to be placed in a private room, which was at the time unavailable, “because she still has her ‘boy parts’ and cannot be placed with a woman” in a shared room. 

Many other Colorado facilities to which Oakley applied for admission, according to social worker Cori Martin-Crawford, cited the COVID pandemic as the reason for not accepting new residents. But as COVID related restrictions began to subside, other facilities continued to deny Oakley admission.

With Martin-Crawford’s help, Oakley finally found a facility that is LGBTQ supportive in Grand Junction, Colo., which is nearly three hours away from her hometown of Craig, where she had hoped to remain.

LGBTQ activists expressed concern that the discrimination that Oakley faced took place in the state of Colorado, which has a state law that bans discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Experts familiar with long-term care facilities for older adults have said many private elder care facilities can get around state LGBTQ nondiscrimination laws by claiming other reasons for turning down an LGBTQ person.

Michael Adams, the CEO of SAGE, told the Blade that the wide range of programs and initiatives put in place by SAGE and other groups advocating for LGBTQ elders in recent years have resulted in significant changes in support of LGBTQ seniors.

“It is the case now that in almost all states there are one or more elder care facilities that have been trained through our SAGECare program,” Adams said. “But it’s nowhere near what it needs to be,” he said. “It needs to be that there are welcoming elder care facilities in every single community in this country” for LGBTQ elders.

Adams was referring to the SAGE program started recently called SAGECare that arranges for employees and other officials at elder care facilities throughout the country to receive LGBTQ competency training. The facilities that participate in the program are designated “SAGECare credentialed,” and are included in SAGE database lists available to LGBTQ elders looking for a safe facility in which to reside.

SAGE spokesperson Christina Da Costa provided the Blade with data showing there have been 136,975 professionals trained at a total of 617 SAGECare credentialed organizations nationwide. Out of 617 organizations, 172 are residential communities. Also, out of the total of 617 are 167 Area Agencies on Aging, Aging and Disability Resource Centers, Senior Centers, and senior Ombudsman offices.

Da Costa said 278 of the credentialed entities that have received the SAGECare training throughout the country are “other aging focused nonprofit and for-profit businesses.”

According to SAGE, there are 12 SAGECare credentialed elder care facilities or service providers operating in the D.C. metropolitan area, with two located in D.C. One of the D.C. facilities is Ingleside at Rock Creek, located in Northwest D.C., which is a residential facility. The other is Options for Senior America, a company that provides in-home care services for seniors, including seniors living in D.C.

A SAGE list of the D.C.-area SAGECare credentialed facilities shows that three are in Rockville, Md.; two are in Gaithersburg, Md.; and one each are in Bethesda, Md.; Arlington, Va.; and Alexandria, Va. The list shows that one of them that provides services to elders in the D.C. area is based in North Carolina.

SAGE has a separate list of the 15 elder care residential facilities in the U.S. created specifically to serve LGBTQ residents. 

None are in D.C., Maryland, or Virginia. However, SAGE says it has been working in cooperation with Mary’s House for Older Adults, a D.C.-based LGBTQ organization that advocates for LGBTQ seniors and is in the process of opening LGBTQ elder residential facilities in D.C. and others in the surrounding suburbs.

Mary’s House founder and CEO Dr. Imani Woody couldn’t immediately be reached to determine when the organization expects to open its first residential facility. 

While a residential LGBTQ elder facility has yet to open in the D.C. area, activists note that in addition to Mary’s House, services and amenities for LGBTQ elders in the area are currently being provided by the D.C. Center for the LGBT Community and Whitman-Walker Health, the LGBTQ supportive health center, which also has a legal services branch.

Adams of SAGE said the Los Angeles LGBTQ Center opened the nation’s first LGBTQ elder residential facility over eight years ago called Triangle Square. He said the L.A. Center opened a second LGBTQ elder residential facility a short time later. And this week, the L.A. Center announced it has opened a third LGBTQ elder residential facility in Hollywood that is part of a larger “intergenerational campus” that will bring together LGBTQ seniors and LGBTQ youth. 

SAGE, meanwhile, operates two LGBTQ elder long-term care residential facilities in New York City, one in Brooklyn called the Stonewall House and one in the Bronx called Pride House. 

The other U.S. cities with LGBTQ elder residential facilities include: Philadelphia, Minneapolis, Chicago, Cleveland, San Francisco (which has two such facilities), San Diego, Houston, Fort Lauderdale, and Islip, N.Y.

Adams said the LGBTQ elder residential facilities range in size, with the largest – New York’s Stonewall House – having 143 apartments that can accommodate 200 residents. He said others vary from 40 or 50 residential units to 120.

Advocates for LGBTQ elders point to what they consider another important breakthrough for LGBTQ elders this year in the release of a joint SAGE-Human Rights Campaign Long-Term Care Equality Index report for 2021. Adams said the report is the first of what could become an annual report and rating and scorecard for long-term care elder residential facilities and other elder facilities. 

The 2021 report includes a self-reporting assessment of elder care facilities that the facilities themselves completed through a questionnaire in which many disclosed they have LGBTQ nondiscrimination policies for elders around admission to the facility and for practices by staff for those residing in their facilities.

The report includes a chart showing that 158 elder care facilities in 31 states responded positively to the outreach to them by organizers of the Long-Term Care Equality Index.

“We are thrilled to be working with SAGE and to be working with the Human Rights Campaign who are developing the Long-Term Care Equality Index,” said Nii-Quartelai Quartey, who serves as senior adviser and LGBTQ liaison for the American Association of Retired Persons or AARP.

“There is a great deal of work that we’re doing in the area of LGBTQ older adults nationwide,” Quartey told the Blade. “And AARP has been engaged with the LGBTQ community nationwide for many years now,” he said.

“In recent years, we’ve turned up the volume in working more closely with organizations like SAGE and Lambda Legal and the Victory Fund Institute, the Center for Black Equity, the National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance, and the Hispanic Federation.”

According to Quartey, a recent AARP study of LGBTQ elders called Maintaining Dignity shows that longstanding concerns of discrimination remain despite the many advances in support for LGBTQ seniors in recent years.

He said a survey that was part of the study found that 67 percent of the LGBTQ elders who responded, “were concerned about neglect in a long-term care setting.” Over 60 percent feared verbal or physical harassment in a long-term care setting and over half “felt forced to hide or deny their identity” as an LGBTQ person, Quartey said.

Another recent survey of LGBTQ elders conducted by SAGE asking them how they feel about the use of the word “queer” in descriptions of LGBTQ people yielded findings that came as a surprise to some, according to Adams. A large majority of those surveyed from across the country said they are “comfortable at this point using that word and reclaiming that word, which is different from what we had heard historically,” Adams said.

He said in response to those findings SAGE will now as an organization gradually shift to using the term LGBTQ instead of its past practice of using LGBT.

Although Congress has yet to pass the Equality Act, last year under the Trump Administration, Congress acted in a rare bipartisan way to approve the required five-year reauthorization of the U.S. Older Americans Act with new language supportive of LGBTQ older adults. President Trump signed the legislation.

The language includes a mandate for outreach to and reporting about services provided to LGBTQ older adults in federally funded programs. It also opens the way for LGBTQ older adults to be designated in a category of “greatest social need.” Under that category, older adults receive a higher priority in the allocation of resources by the federal government.

“We’ve come a long way, but we still have a way to go to get over the finish line,” said the AARP’s Quartey. “And aside from passing legislation federally and on the state and local level, we absolutely need to continue the hard work of changing hearts and minds,” he said.

Longtime gay activist and writer Brian McNaught, whose latest book, “On Being Gay and Gray – Our Stories, Gifts, and the Meaning of Our Lives,” was just released, says his own very informal survey of LGBTQ elders found there is a need for intimacy that may be too controversial for the establishment LGBTQ elder groups.

“I’m a SAGE volunteer and the 81-year-old man with whom I was working after his husband of 47 years died, said after his grieving process, ‘I want to be hugged and kissed. Does that make me a bad person?’”

McNaught told the Blade he assured the man those feelings do not make him a bad person. McNaught said the man’s comment prompted him to conduct further research, in which he found that some gay male elders in the Fort Lauderdale, Fla., area who often need assisted living support would like to patronize gay bathhouses or seek the services of an escort agency. He said he determined that any LGBTQ elder group providing such services would trigger “a huge uproar of protests” and most likely a loss of funding.

“We don’t want to talk about sexuality and aging,” McNaught said.

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