National
Legacy of 9/11
10 years later, assessing impact of attacks on rights of same-sex couples


Mark Bingham, pictured here with partner Paul Holm, helped prevent United Flight 93 from reaching D.C. Those passengers are widely credited with saving the U.S. Capitol or White House on Sept. 11, 2001. (Blade file photo)
Ross Levi, executive director of New Yorkās LGBT advocacy group Empire State Pride Agenda, worked in the groupās lower Manhattan office in a different staff position at the time of the Sept. 11, 2001 terrorist attack on the World Trade Center.
In what he describes as the first horrifying hours following the crash of two hijacked jetliners into both World Trade Center towers, causing them to collapse, Levi said the ESPA staff joined other New Yorkers in helping survivors and victims any way they could.
āWe opened the doors to our offices, which were on 12th Street at the time, to people as they were fleeing the World Trade Center site and coming downtown,ā he said. āMany of them came right by our offices and so people were coming in just to use the bathroom and get some water and make phone calls,ā he said.
āAnd in that way we were just a member of the New York family that had to go through this horrible event,ā Levi said.
But Levi and other LGBT activists observing the Sept. 11 events as they unfolded said they quickly discovered within a week of the attacks that same-sex partners of those killed, injured or missing in the World Trade Center collapse faced additional hurdles in obtaining government and private sector assistance.
He said ESPA first became aware that same-sex partner survivors were being treated differently when the city and private relief agencies like the Red Cross set up an emergency station on a pier along New Yorkās Hudson River where people could go to find a family member missing and as yet unaccounted for in the World Trade Center carnage.
āLiterally [gay] people had to go there, turn around, go back home and get some paperwork that spouses didnāt have to get to prove a relationship existed,ā Levi said. āYou were nervous and scared and sad and then you had to go through that. And worse, other people turned them away, even with the paperwork, saying sorry youāre not a family according to our guidelines.ā
Activists reflecting on the Sept. 11 tragedy this week said New York City and New York State officials quickly recognized the inequities faced by same-sex partner survivors and took steps to change polices and laws to correct the situation. The changes began to take place, activists,Ā said, following news media reports of the loss of individual LGBT people at the World Trade Center and at the Pentagon just outside Washington, which was hit by a third hijacked plane.
āIt had such an impact because the loss was about death and relationships,ā said Jennifer Pizer, senior counsel for Lambda Legal, an LGBT litigation group, in a 2006 interview with the Blade at the time of the 5th anniversary of the Sept. 11 attacks.
āThe grief and loss was the same between heterosexual and same-sex couples, and a perception of this seemed to come through to much of the public,ā Pizer said.
Among the victims widely reported on by the media was Mark Bingham, a gay public relations executive and avid rugby player from San Francisco, who wasĀ one ofĀ the passengers on United Airlines Flight 93, which crashed into the countryside in Pennsylvania.
Binghamās mother said she spoke to him by cell phone after his hijacked plane was believed to be heading toward Washington, D.C.Ā for another terrorist attack. She said she believes her son was part of a small group of passengers believed to have attempted to wrestle control of the plane from the hijackers.
Authorities have speculated that passengers such as Bingham and others most likely intervened to prevent the hijackers from crashing the jetliner into a building in Washington, such as the Capitol or the White House.
Bingham was among the 9/11 victims portrayed in the Hollywood film āUnited 93.ā

American Airlines pilot David Charlebois, who was gay, served as co-pilot onboard American Airlines Flight 77 when terrorists hijacked it and crashed it into the Pentagon. (Blade file photo)
Another of the victims widely reported in the media was American Airlines pilot David Charlebois, who was gay and an active member of the National Gay Pilots Association. Charlebois was serving as first officer, or co-pilot, onboard American Airlines Flight 77 when terrorists hijacked the Boeing 757 jetliner and crashed it into the Pentagon.
All of its crew and passengers perished along with dozens of Pentagon employees working in the part of the building struck by the plane.
Charleboisā surviving partner of 14 years, Tom Hay, was treated with respect and honor by American Airlinesā top brass and colleagues when more than a dozen uniformed company pilots and flight attendants attended Charleboisā funeral mass at St. Matthews Cathedral in downtown D.C.
āIt was a time when all Americans did come together with a single, united focus,ā said David Smith, vice president of programs for the Human Rights Campaign and the national LGBT advocacy groupās media spokesperson at the time of the Sept. 11 attacks.
āAnd there were extraordinary acts of kindness and recognition that this is an issue that needs to be dealt with, i.e., our families need to be protected,ā Smith said. āBut it also really brought into stark reality how the lack of recognition of our families causes real pain and at times almost insurmountable challenges that families that are protected by law through marriage donāt have to experience.ā
Levi said ESPA was pleased when, in response to requests by LGBT advocacy groups and media reports, then GOP Gov. George Pataki issued an executive order in October 2001 that included surviving partners of gay and lesbian victims of the World Trade Center attacks in receivingĀ full spousal benefits from the stateās Crime Victims Board.
āThe order marks the first official step taken by any level of government in the nation to address the inequities faced by gay and lesbian survivors of the terrorist attacks in obtaining benefits,ā ESPA said in a statement at the time.
The New York State Legislature soon followed suit by passing three separate bills that included same-sex partner survivors in various state benefits to be allocated to 9/11 survivors and their families. One provided state workerās compensation benefits to domestic partners of 9/11 victims.
Another bill approved by the legislature enabled same-sex partners and their children to be eligible for a newly created World Trade Center Memorial Scholarship Program.Ā A third bill passed by the legislature called on the federal government to include same-sex partners in federal relief programs for 9/11 survivors.
A short time later, the Red Cross responded to requests by ESPA, HRC, Lambda Legal and other LGBT groups by opening up its disaster relief programs to same-sex partner survivors. Activists called the action historic and noted it resulted in badly needed relief for LGBT victims of Hurricane Katrina, which struck New Orleans and the Gulf Coast several years later.
On the federal level, President George W. Bush and Republican members of Congress joined Democrats in approving a massive, $7 billion Sept. 11 Victim Compensation Fund. Officials said the program was aimed at providing a viable alternative to thousands of individual wrongful death lawsuits that likely would have emerged against airline companies and the company that operated the World Trade Center if such a fund were not created.
But LGBT advocacy groups once again discovered that the relief funds would likely be out of reach for surviving same-sex partners of 9/11 victims. Among other things, the fundās administrator, attorney Kenneth Feinberg, who had worked for the late U.S. Sen. Edward Kennedy (D-Mass.), said rules for who is eligible for receiving as much as $1.3 million in compensation payments would have to be linked to state probate laws and rules.
At the time, no state probate law recognized same-sex relationships, even if they were made legal on the local level by a city or county domestic partnership ordinance.
ESPA, HRC, Lambda Legal and other advocacy groups said they worked hard to lobby the U.S.Ā Justice Department, which had jurisdiction over the compensation fund program, to take administrative steps to include same-sex couples survivors in the program.
At the time, Feinberg told the Blade that while he was concerned about the plight of surviving domestic partners of the Sept. 11 victims, it was not feasible to include specific domestic partner provisions in the relief fundās regulations.
āIf I get in the middle of that fight and try and trump local probate law in a particular case, Iāll be up to my neck in lawsuits,ā he said. āIām not saying theyāre not entitled,ā he said. āIām not saying they are entitled.ā
Smith of HRC said at least two of about 22 known LGBT partner survivors in the Sept. 11 attacks did receive compensation from the fund. Smith said the compensation payments came about, however, when surviving blood relatives chose not to challenge the same-sex partnersā application for the compensation.
In a separate development, HRC, ESPA, Lambda Legal and other LGBT advocacy groups created the September 11 Gay & Lesbian Family Fund to provide some relief to surviving partners who were ineligible for help from the federal relief fund program.
In a May 2006 announcement, ESPA said the known surviving partners of gay or lesbian victims of 9/11 had received nearly $17,315 each from the new Gay & Lesbian Family Fund. ESPA said at the time that the groups raised a total of $378,812 for the fund, with only $11,193, or 2.9 percent, being spent on administrative costs.
āThe Family Fund was established in December [2001] to help offset the discrimination gay and lesbian partners faced in obtaining benefits automatically afforded to surviving spouses, including Social Security and Workers Compensation survivor benefits, and compensation under the Federal 9/11 Victims Compensation Fund,ā the ESPA statement said.
āI donāt think there is one of us who were of remembering age who lives their life the same on Sept. 11 at 8 oāclock in the morning as we did at 10 oāclock in the morning on that day,ā said Winnie Stachelberg, senior vice president for external affairs for the Center for American Progress, and who served as HRCās political director in 2001.
āAnd my hope is itās changed us to respect our diversity, to honor our humanity,ā she said. āI donāt know if weāve embraced those lessons but in this 10th year anniversary if we donāt remember that we need to honor our diversity and our humanity we will not have learned from the tragedy of Sept. 11.ā
Another of the widely reported 9/11 victims was Father Mychal Judge, a gay Catholic priest and beloved New York Fire Department chaplain. Judge was killed when struck by falling debris next to the World Trade Center while he was performing last rites for a dying firefighter. His sexual orientation, while not widely known until after his death, was confirmed by New York Fire Commissioner Thomas Von Essen, who told New York magazine that Judge confided to him that he was both gay and celebate.
In 2002, Congress honored Judge by using his name for the landmark Mychal Judge Police and Fire Chaplains Public Safety Officers Benefit Act. The law marked the first time the federal government had extended an equal benefit for same-sex couples, in this case allowing domestic partners of public safety officers killed in the line of duty to obtain a federal death benefit.
National
Trans Lifeline CEO apologizes for botched online lottery to recruit hotline operators
Applicants compare debacle to āHunger Games,ā and Ticketmaster

Job hunters by the thousands expressed disappointment, frustration, and anger Wednesday over the process to submit online applications for three lucrative but challenging positions as remote telephone operators for the nationās only transgender-led crisis hotline, Trans Lifeline. One applicant complained on Instagram that their experience was akin to āThe Hunger Games.āĀ
But it turns out, the odds were never in their favor.
The CEO of the San Francisco-based nonprofit ā kai alviar horton, who joined Trans Lifeline in July 2024 and does not capitalize any letters in his name ā admitted on social media late Wednesday that their organization was not prepared for the sheer number of applications, which he said was anticipated to number 100, over 48 hours.
āWe know now that our impact has caused so many of you hurt and further distrust in us,ā horton wrote in the letter posted on Instagram, acknowledging that Trans Lifeline had endured āmany storms of instability and harm.āĀ
āThe process we strived towards landed in ways that did not build accessibility,ā they wrote. āThis process hurt you, and we are genuinely sorry. We are committed to learning to do better.ā
The job posting still appears online at a portal called levels.fyi offering an annual salary of $63,000, āgenerous paid time-off benefitsā and ā100% employer-paid health care premiumsā as well as retirement benefits and more. Given that studies by the Williams Institute have shown the significant challenges trans people face in the workplace, from discrimination to harassment, especially in comparison to cisgender employees and candidates, Trans Lifelineās offer was a beacon in the darkness to many.Ā
āYou know better than most how hard it is for trans people to get work, especially with decent pay,ā wrote @terfhunter420. āI hope youāre reading the impact this application process has had on people here and consider making some big changes for your next batch of hiring. Something less like trying to score concert tickets on the radio.ā
āTo our surprise,ā horton wrote, āwe received over 2,500 applications before the submission window even opened,ā which was at 1 p.m. EDT Wednesday. He said his team then ādid our best to reach out to every single applicant to let them know to submit again within the window we outlined in the job posting.ā
But when that window opened at 10 oāclock in San Francisco Wednesday, horton said his team was suddenly flooded with more than 1,200 submissions, āin just the first five minutes.ā
The instructions to apply noted that in addition to a resume, candidates had to also submit a five-minute long, detailed self-made video, in lieu of a cover letter. The site indicates this was intended to āsimplify the process.ā But many frustrated candidates noted in their comments online that this particular requirement added a significant extra burden of time and energy, āonly to have it all go to waste due to technical failures,ā wrote @astoldbyjae.Ā
Adding insult to injury is that untold thousands of potential candidates are left to wonder if their submissions were even received or would ever be seen, given that the portal was set up to be limited to accepting no more than 100 submissions on the first day; When hit with more than ten times that many applications, many job hunters reported getting error messages, and shared the pain of that experience in the comments on hortonās post.
āIām heartsick myself right now,ā wrote @zorro_nova. āI tried in that first minute only to get my own error message.ā Another wrote: āI won’t lie I was definitely surprised to see how the hiring process was handled, it was almost like watching a Ticketmaster sale of a Taylor Swift concert more than a job listing.ā @mistersister2024 added: āAs someone who made the 5-minute video, carefully edited it, and then didnāt even get to submit it, this process was very frustrating.ā
āWe were devastated,ā wrote @jennakjirsten. āI think it was hard not even being able to submit the form, even if it had been one of a thousand. We also worry that by only accepting the quickest to apply, you may have missed out on some very qualified applicants.ā
As of press time, horton has not responded to an inquiry by the Blade about what if anything they will do for candidates who received error messages, or exactly how many applications they have on hand.
But in his online letter, horton did announce that so many submissions were received that to process them all, Trans Lifeline has postponed selection of candidates to be invited to interview for the three open positions until April 7, instead of March 24.
He also revealed the org has just two employees dedicated to reviewing all the applications received on Wednesday.
āShout out to the two trans people in hiring who have to read 3,000 applications individually or else they get canceled,ā wrote @jaki_riot. āY’all some MVPs because the response to this situation feels a bit unreasonable.ā
Several commenters praised horton for his apology and for their transparency.
āImo, Trans lifeline has done SO much to earn that benefit of the doubt,ā wrote @kingofyarn. āAnd seeing the backlash made me sad, because it’s as if yāall haven’t worked incredibly hard to earn that trust. I love this heartfelt apology and of course, transparency with a strong moral code.ā
As horton acknowledged in his letter, Trans Lifeline has survived crises before now. Founded in 2014, the nonprofitās two founders left the organization two years later amid accusations of corruption. An internal investigation found āthere had been significant spending of Trans Lifeline funds outside the scope of the current budgetā that āran afoul of Trans Lifelineās obligations to the 501(c)(3) tax laws.ā A report in December 2023 by PBS indicated a downturn in donations forced the nonprofit to reduce the number of hours the hotline was available and slash its budget.Ā
At that time, PBS reported the organization employed as many as 45 people, with around 200 volunteers who help, according to Adam Callahan, director for the hotline program. Every hotline operator identifies as either trans or nonbinary.
As of press time, the careers page on the Trans Lifeline site indicated āStaff Hotline Operator applications are closed.āĀ
āWe are so grateful for the overwhelming interest in our Hotline Operator positionsā1,000 applications within the first two minutes! Thank you to each person who took the time to apply. Weāve received a fantastic pool of candidates and have now closed the application process. We are working diligently to review the first 100 complete applications received and aim to notify everyone of their status by Friday, March 21st. If you have not heard from us, be assured we are still actively considering your application. Please keep an eye on your inbox for our email. We will respond to everyone who has applied. We appreciate your understanding and enthusiasm.ā
State Department
US withdraws from OAS LGBTI Core Group
Decision ‘in line with the president’s recent executive orders’

A State Department spokesperson on Tuesday confirmed the U.S. has withdrawn from the Organization of American States’ LGBTI Core Group.
The U.S., along with Argentina, Brazil, Canada, Chile, Colombia, Mexico, and Uruguay, co-founded the Core Group in 2016 during that year’s OAS General Assembly that took place in the Dominican Republic.
“We look forward to deepening our collaboration at the OAS on issues impacting LGBTI persons so as to enhance dialogue, cooperation, and the sharing of best practices at regional and multilateral levels, recognizing also the various efforts and developments undertaken by and in member states,” reads a joint statement the countries issued on June 15, 2016. “Furthermore, we encourage and welcome the participation of other interested OAS member states in the membership and activities of the Core Group.”
“We also look forward to collaborating with civil society organizations and other social actors as we seek to further shared goals,” it adds. “Our commitment in these areas is firm and will remain so.”
President Donald Trump since he took office on Jan. 20 has signed a number of executive orders that have specifically targeted the LGBTQ and intersex community. These include the āDefending Women from Gender Ideology Extremism and Restoring Biological Truth to the Federal Governmentā directive that, among other things, bans the State Department from issuing passports with āXā gender markers.
A directive that Secretary of State Marco Rubio issued bans embassies and other U.S. diplomatic institutions from flying the Pride flag. (Former President Joe Biden in March 2024Ā signedĀ a government spending bill with a provision that banned Pride flags from flying over U.S. embassies.)
“In line with the presidentās recent executive orders, we have withdrawn from the OAS LGBTI Core Group,” the State Department spokesperson told the Washington Blade.
The U.S. last month withdrew from the U.N. LGBTI Core Group, a group of U.N. member states that have pledged to support LGBTQ and intersex rights.
State Department
Rubio: 83 percent of USAID contracts have been cancelled
State Department will administer remaining programs

Secretary of State Marco Rubio on Monday said 83 percent of U.S. Agency for International Development contracts have been cancelled.
“The 5,200 contracts that are now cancelled spent tens of billions of dollars in ways that did not serve, (and in some cases even harmed), the core national interests of the United States,” said Rubio on X.
Rubio added “the remaining 18 percent of programs we are keeping (approximately 1,000)” will “now be administered more effectively under the State Department.”
Rubio on Jan. 24Ā directedĀ State Department personnel to stop nearly all U.S. foreign aid spending for 90 days in response toĀ an executive orderĀ that President Donald Trump signed after his inauguration. The Washington Blade has previously reported programs in Kenya and other countries the President’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief funds have been forced to suspend services and even shut down because of a lack of U.S. funding, even though Rubio issued a waiver that allowed PEPFAR and other ālife-saving humanitarian assistanceā programs to continue to operate during the freeze.
The Trump-Vance administration also moved to dismantle USAID.
A statement the White House issued on Feb. 3 said the organization āhas been unaccountable to taxpayers as it funnels massive sums of money to the ridiculous ā and, in many cases, malicious ā pet projects of entrenched bureaucrats, with next-to-no oversight.ā The statement also contains examples of what it described as “waste and abuse” that included $2 million for “sex changes and ‘LGBT activism'” in Guatemala, $1.5 million to “advance diversity, equity and inclusion in Serbia’s workplaces and business communities,” and $47,000 for a “transgender opera” in Colombia.”
LGBTQ+ Victory Institute Executive Director Elliot Imse told the Blade last month his organization has lost around $600,000, which is two-thirds of its entire global program budget. Imse said the global LGBTQ rights movement is set to lose more than $50 million because of the suspension of U.S. aid.