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Queery: Brian Markowski

The honors graduate answers 20 gay questions

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Brian Markowski (Blade photo by Michael Key)

Itā€™s never easy to go back to school later in life, but through hard work and dedication, Brian Markowski managed to maintain a 4.0 GPA and graduate with both bachelorā€™s and masterā€™s degrees in information systems through Strayer University while balancing family life with his partner and two stepchildren, Rico and Myles.

The 43-year-old Air Force vet and Middletown, Conn., native, has been in Washington since the mid-ā€˜90s after stints in St. Louis; Biloxi, Miss.; Pensacola, Fla.; Germany and more. Markowski, known as ā€œSkiā€ among friends, was honored in June at the universityā€™s commencement ceremony for his ā€œcommitment to academic excellence and the community.ā€ He also volunteers with the Capital Area Food Bank and My Sisterā€™s Place.

Markowski and his partner, David Gilmer, live in D.C.ā€™s Bloomingdale neighborhood. Theyā€™ve been together six years. Markowski enjoys dancing and spending time with family and friends in his free time. (Blade photo by Michael Key)

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?Ā 

Since 1997.Ā  It was hardest to tell my mom and dad because I did not want to be rejected. I actually had to make two separate trips to the upper East Coast to tell them. I told my mom one weekend and since my dad was not around on the first trip, I had to make a second trip to tell him. My mom and dad are not married so they do not live together.

Who’s your LGBT hero?

I would have to say Ellen DeGeneres. When Ellen came out she made her career and personal life an open window and society was waiting to throw stones. She held her own, stayed true to herself and those stones bounced right off.

What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?Ā 

Tracks & Escandalo. Tracks was that club that everyone went to, gay or straight. Escandalo was one of the best gay Latin clubs. It had a family atmosphere and people were so real. It was small but would pack in the crowd and play that great music.

Describe your dream wedding.

To get married on the beach of ManatĆ­ on the island of Puerto Rico surrounded by family and friends. Once the wedding after party is done, would love to be carried away in a hot air balloon as my partner and I wave farewell.

What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?

Besides having affordable health care for all, we need to remember to respect others. Everyone is so pre-occupied with who is getting a divorce, having a baby, gaining or losing weight and blasting out other peopleā€™s business on Twitter, Facebook, etc. Remember all people have the right to privacy. Instead of trying to be in the mix, take a few steps back and take a good look in the mirror. The reflection you get back may surprise you.

What historical outcome would you change?

The assassinations of Martin Luther King Jr. and John F. Kennedy. Their contributions to our countryā€™s equal rights campaign were just the beginning. They both died too soon.

What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?Ā 

OMG who did not like the ā€˜80s: balloon pants, big hair (male and female), crazy colors. Who would have thought Madonna would become such an icon? And I will never forget watching the Motown anniversary special when Michael Jackson did the moonwalk across stage and the crowd went crazy.

On what do you insist?

I insist on staying true to yourself and always doing your best. Life is not a DVR ā€” there are no replays.

What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?

Giving thanks to all who posted happy birthday messages to me.

If your life were a book, what would the title be?

ā€œMy name is S K I ā€¦ Like going down or up a hillā€

If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?

Nothing ā€” I feel that being gay is what helps me stay special. It is the cherry on top of this ice cream sundae of life. Being gay is part of me but does not make me who I am as a man.

What do you believe in beyond the physical world?Ā 

I believe when your time here is done there is another place beyond where you will be with the ones you love.

Ā What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?

Donā€™t let your position allow you to lose focus on the prize: Equality for all.

What would you walk across hot coals for?

To dance side by side or face to face with Janet Jackson.

What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?

I hate them all. The fact that we have stereotypes does not help us gain overall equality.

What’s your favorite LGBT movie?

ā€œTo Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything Julie Newmarā€

What’s the most overrated social custom?

Holding the door for a lady. I think we should hold the door for the next person behind you, whether male or female. It does annoy me that when you do hold it for someone you cannot even get a thank you.

What trophy or prize do you most covet?

My outstanding graduate student award from Strayer University. I was recognized in front of all my family and friends, and thousands of others, a few weeks ago at commencement ceremony at the Verizon Center here in D.C.

What do you wish you’d known at 18?

Life is what you make it and not what you have.

Why Washington?

I moved to D.C. after a short time in North Carolina pursuing my post-military telecommunication career.

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Theater

ā€˜Hand to Godā€™ showcases actors and their puppets

Luke Hartwood serves as designer, coach for Keegan production

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Luke Hartwood in ā€˜Hand to Godā€™ at Keegan Theatre. (Photo by Kodie Storey)

ā€˜Hand to Godā€™
Feb. 1-March 2
Keegan Theatre
1742 Church St., N.W.
$49-$59
Keegantheatre.org

Luke Hartwood has loved puppets for as long as he can remember. 

At 24, heā€™s indulging his passion as puppet designer/coach and properties designer for Keegan Theatreā€™s production of Robert Askinsā€™ ā€œHand to God.ā€ Itā€™s the Tony-nominated comedy about meek Jason who after the death of his father finds an outlet for his anxiety at the Christian Puppet Ministry in small town Texas.

Puppets begin as a design team collaboration, Hartwood explains, and move on from there. With ā€œHand to God,ā€ the playwrightā€™s notes describe Jasonā€™s badly behaved puppet Tyrone as looking ā€œElmo-y and shit,ā€ but beyond that thereā€™s room for some interpretation. 

Hartwood, who is gay and Asian American, graduated from George Mason University in May 2023. He majored in theater with a double concentration in performance and design/technology, and minored in graphic design. 

ā€œWith all my varied interests thatā€™s what made sense to me,ā€ he says. ā€œIt wasnā€™t easy but now Iā€™m a flexible candidate when interviewing for work. Iā€™m skilled in design and the physical fabrication of puppets. And I also act.ā€

Based in Northern Virginia, heā€™s been with his partner for six years. Recently, Hartwood shared his thoughts on puppetry and what he wants from the future. 

WASHINGTON BLADE: Whatā€™s the attraction to puppets?

LUKE HARTWOOD:  Iā€™ve always loved puppets. It started as a kid watching cartoons, Iā€™d pause the TV get out a sheet of paper and draw a character, usually PokĆ©mon and Digimon. I learned to use shapes, rounded or sharp edges depending if I wanted to make it cute or scary. I moved from 2-D to 3-D using cereal boxes to give dimension to the drawings. Once I carved a character into the wood of my momā€™s sideboard. She wasnā€™t happy.

BLADE: Were puppets your way into theater? 

HARTWOOD: Not exactly. Despite some fear, I started acting when I was a sophomore in high school. I was a shy kid, but I wanted to be in theater. With me, I also brought my love of art and soon began working on props. It wasnā€™t unusual to see me in costume backstage between scenes building props. 

BLADE: And you continued in college?

HARTWOOD: Mine was the dreaded COVID college experience and the creation of Zoom theater. When we finally came back to live theater, my stage fright returned too. But I got past that and acted in ā€œYouā€™re a Good Man, Charlie Brownā€ [Hartwood was cast as the titular blockhead]. Itā€™s a low-tech show; I did cutouts in the style of Peanuts characters. That was fun. 

BLADE:  With ā€œHand to Godā€ at Keegan youā€™re really multitasking. Tell me a little bit about working with actors. 

HARTWOOD:  During casting, the actors were asked to bring a sock to use as a puppet. Not to show expertise but to prove some potential. 

Actor Drew Sharpe plays both Jason and his puppet Tyrone throughout the show; itā€™s like patting your head and rubbing your tummy at the same time. 

We start with basics. But then we retrain the way an actor thinks about a puppet. Not only is he marking up his script with his own blocking and intentions, but heā€™s also doing the same thing for his puppet. Itā€™s playing two roles simultaneously. Iā€™m in awe of how quickly Drew has learned and improved over the last few weeks.

BLADE: Does being queer affect your project choices? 

HARTWOOD: I try to incorporate my queerness into theater. For a while I didnā€™t know how to do that. Iā€™m not writing plays or activist pieces, but Iā€™m selective of what shows I do. I like to dedicate time to shows I care about, particularly those involving the queer and POC communities. Sometimes that means working with a smaller theater and not getting paid as much.

BLADE: Is money a concern? 

HARTWOOD: I recently quit my full-time corporate job as a business analyst at a government contracting company to focus fully on theater. If Iā€™m going to spend 40 hours of my week doing something I better love it. 

I was picturing myself in 10, 20, or 30 years. If I push my artistry now, thereā€™s more time for me to become successful or to get my big break. 

Also, I just graduated from bartending school. That should help pay the bills. 

BLADE: How does ā€œHand to Godā€ jibe with your professional ethos? 

HARTWOOD: Really well. Though not explicitly written for the queer community or POC, it explores grief, toxic masculinity and what it means to be ā€œman enough.ā€ And that resonates with a lot of queer folks. 

And, Iā€™m definitely here for the puppets 

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Telling the Randy Shilts story

Remembering the book that made America pay attention to AIDS

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(Book cover image courtesy Chicago Review Press)

ā€˜When the Band Played Onā€™
By Michael G. Lee
c.2025, Chicago Review Press
$30/282 pages

You spent most of your early career playing second fiddle.

But nowĀ youā€™ve got the baton, and a story to tell that people arenā€™t going to want to hear,Ā though itā€™s essentialĀ that theyĀ face the music.Ā They mustĀ know whatā€™s happening. As in the new bookĀ ā€œWhen the Band Played Onā€ by Michael G. Lee,Ā this time, itā€™s personal.

Born in 1951 in small-town Iowa, Randy Shilts was his alcoholic, abusive motherā€™s third of six sons. Frustrated, drunk, she reportedly beat Shilts almost daily when he was young; she also called him a ā€œsissy,ā€ which ā€œseemed to follow Randy everywhere.ā€

Perhaps because of the abuse, Shilts had to ā€œteach himself social graces,ā€ developing ā€œadultlike impassivenessā€ and ā€œbiting sarcasm,ā€ traits that featured strongly as he matured and became a writer. He was exploring his sexuality then, learning ā€œthe subtleties of sexual communication,ā€ while sleeping with women before fully coming out as gay to friends.

Nearing his 21st birthday, Shilts moved to Oregon to attend college and to ā€œallow myself love.ā€ There, he became somewhat of an activist before leaving San Francisco to fully pursue journalism, focusing on stories of gay life that were ā€œmostly unknown to anyone outside of gay culture.ā€

He would bounce between Oregon and California several times, though he never lost sight of his writing career and, through it, his activism. In both states, Shilts reported on gay life, until he was well known to national readers and gay influencers. After San Francisco supervisor Harvey Milk was assassinated, he was tapped to write Milkā€™s biography.

By 1982, Shilts was in love, had a book under his belt, a radio gig, and a regular byline in a national publication reporting ā€œon the GRID beat,ā€ an acronym later changed to AIDS. He was even under contract to write a second book.

But Shilts was careless. Just once, careless.

ā€œIn hindsight,ā€ says Lee, ā€œā€¦ it was likely the night when Randy crossed the line, becoming more a part of the pandemic than just another worried bystander.ā€

Perhaps not surprisingly, there are two distinct audiences for ā€œWhen the Band Played On.ā€ One type of reader will remember the AIDS crisis and the seminal book about it. The other is too young to remember it, but needs to know Randy Shiltsā€™s place in its history.

The journey may be different, but the result is the same: author Michael G. Lee tells a complicated, still-controversial story of Shilts and the book that made America pay attention, and itā€™s edgy for modern eyes. Lee clearly shows why Shilts had fans and haters, why Shilts was who he was, and Lee keeps some mystery in the tale. Shilts had the knowledge to keep himself safe but he apparently didnā€™t, and readers are left to wonder why. Thereā€™s uncomfortable tension in that, and a lot of hypothetical thinking to be had.

For scholars of gay history, this is an essential book to read. Also, for anyone too young to remember AIDS as it was, ā€œWhen the Band Played Onā€ hits the right note.

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2025 is the year to prioritize LGBTQ wellness

Community center hosts workshop ‘prioritizing self-care & community care’

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The DC LGBTQ+ Community Center will host ā€œPrioritizing Self-Care & Community Care in 2025 Workshopā€ on Wednesday, Jan. 22 at 7 p.m.

This will be an engaging conversation about how to prioritize self-care and community care in the upcoming year. This one-hour workshop will be facilitated by Program Director & Psychotherapist Jocelyn Jacoby. This workshop is designed to be a place where LGBTQ people can be in community with each other as the community grapples with fear and hope and comes up with practical ways to promote resiliency.

Registration for this event is mandatory and can be accessed on the DC Centerā€™s website.Ā 

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