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Inside the lonely world of MAGA gay men

Pushback against community members who support Trump is not unusual

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Uncloseted Media published this article on April 18.

This story was written in partnership with Gay Times Magazine.

By EMMA PAIDRA | When Evan decided it was time to tell his boyfriend that he voted for Trump, he couldnโ€™t get the words out. โ€œI was stuttering for 20 minutes straight on the phone,โ€ he told Uncloseted Media and GAY TIMES.

Once he finally worked up the courage, he was met with pushback: โ€œHe made fun of me. โ€ฆ He called me a racist and a white supremacist,โ€ says Evan, a 21-year-old math major who lives in Long Island, N.Y.

That pushback isnโ€™t unusual: According to a 2023 Pew Research Center survey, 83 percent of queer men typically vote Democrat. One key reason gay men swing left in 2026 is because of the Trump administration and MAGA-aligned politiciansโ€™ track record on LGBTQ issues. Since the start of Trumpโ€™s second term, his administration has terminated more than $1 billion worth of grants to HIV-related research, removed the Pride flag from the Stonewall National Monument and shut down the LGBTQ-specific option on the 988 youth suicide hotline.

Because of this, many of the fewer than one in five LGBTQ men who cast their ballot for Trump in 2024 face judgment for their political affiliation.

โ€œPeople think that I hate myself for being gay, and that Iโ€™m a gay traitor. โ€ฆ I wish there were more gay conservatives or moderates,โ€ says Evan, who requested to use a pseudonym due to fears over retaliation for his political views.

Navigating dating and relationships as a gay Trumper

Nick Duncan, 43, can relate to Evanโ€™s fears about being an open Trump supporter: โ€œI mostly get hatred. Iโ€™ve never lost a conservative friend because Iโ€™m gay, but Iโ€™ve lost all of my gay friends because Iโ€™m conservative,โ€ says Duncan, a hospitality executive who lives in Miami. โ€œIโ€™ve divorced myself from what I refer to as the Alphabet Mafia.โ€

Duncan says he feels so unwelcome by the LGBTQ community that heโ€™s hesitant to attend certain queer events. โ€œNowadays, I would never go to a Pride event,โ€ Duncan told Uncloseted Media and GAY TIMES. โ€œI donโ€™t feel that I would be safe.โ€

Despite these concerns, Duncan doesnโ€™t hide his political views when looking for love. โ€œIโ€™m in a long-term relationship now, and when I have been on the dating market, Iโ€™m very open and upfront about [my political views]. So I think it just weeds out most people who would have an issue.โ€

For Evan, political differences have been a source of tension in his relationship even before he told his boyfriend who he voted for. โ€œWhen I first met him, he asked me if I liked Trump. โ€ฆ He was kind of scaring me. So I said, โ€˜I donโ€™t know,โ€™โ€ Evan recalls. โ€œHe said, โ€˜Good answer, because if you said yes, I couldnโ€™t even talk to you.โ€™โ€

Since revealing his conservative identity, Evan has had multiple arguments with his boyfriend about politics. โ€œThis guy, who Iโ€™ve been dating for almost a year, heโ€™s way too far left. โ€ฆ The first proof is he thinks thereโ€™s more than two genders,โ€ says Evan. โ€œI tried telling him there were only two genders, and he got mad at me.โ€

Though Evan believes there are only two genders, research suggests that gender is a spectrum allowing for multiple gender identities.

Proud gay Trump supporters

According to a 2025 report from Pew Research Center, 71 percent of LGBTQ adults view the Republican Party as unfriendly towards LGBTQ Americans. Duncan thinks these critiques are unreasonable: โ€œThe Republican Party is not nearly as anti-gay as [leftists] believe,โ€ he says. โ€œThe Trump administration has plenty of openly gay people in the administration, and Trump actually supported gay marriage before it was cool.โ€

Gay members of the Trump administration include Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent, as well as Tony Fabrizio, a pollster and strategist. Additionally, Trump did tell the Advocate in a 2000 interview that though โ€œthe institution of marriage should be between a man and a woman,โ€ he thinks amending the Civil Rights Act to grant the same protection to gay people that we give to other Americans is โ€œonly fair.โ€

But since then, Trump has appointed Supreme Court Justices who have denounced marriage equality and Cabinet members with anti-LGBTQ track records,ย includingย Pete Hegseth, Marco Rubio, and Pam Bondi.

Duncan says part of the reason he isnโ€™t worried about Trumpโ€™s anti-LGBTQ track record is because he doesnโ€™t view being gay as the most important part of his identity: โ€œThe most important part of who I am is as a father.โ€

Duncan is not alone: A 2020 report from the UCLA Williams Institute School of Law found that Republican lesbian, gay, and bisexual people areย more likelyย to feel connected to other parts of their identities than their sexual orientations.

Evan doesnโ€™t identify with the community at large and does not like to be referred to as โ€œLGBTQโ€ or โ€œqueer.โ€

โ€œI realized Iโ€™m normal. Iโ€™m not LGBTQ,โ€ he says. โ€œIโ€™m just gay.โ€

Evanโ€™s desire to be seen as โ€œnormalโ€ rings of Vice President JD Vanceโ€™s 2024 comments on Joe Roganโ€™s podcast, where he said Trump could win the โ€œnormal gayโ€ vote. During this same interview, Vance suggested that parents of genderqueer children use their childrenโ€™s identities as a rejection of having white privilege. Vance received significant backlash for these comments, with the Human Rights Campaign responding to the vice presidentโ€™s remarks over X.

Some gay Republicans see the GOP as more friendly

For Chris Doane, 56, voting Republican is the only choice that makes sense, as he believes voting for a Democrat goes directly against his interests as a queer man. โ€œConservatives donโ€™t want to murder gays. They want them saved,โ€ he says. โ€œMuslims vote Democrat, because if the Democrats win, they get to stay [in the U.S.], they get to take power, and they will murder gays brutally with a smile on their face,โ€ says Doane.

Doaneโ€™s comments are unfounded and display racist stereotypes peddled by far-right American media: One study from the Brennan Center for Justice compiled data from 1984 to 2020 and found that racial resentment is more prevalent on the right than on the left.

Doane was raised in a conservative family in Bryan, Texas, and isnโ€™t out to his family because he fears that they wonโ€™t accept him. For him, voting Republican is part of his heritage. โ€œI was told, โ€˜Donโ€™t ever let Democrats in control. Theyโ€™ll ruin our country,โ€™โ€ he says. โ€œThatโ€™s pretty much what they did, and thatโ€™s why President Trump is working overtime to straighten it all back out.โ€

Trans rights and gay Republican men

Though Doane and other gay Republicans hold a range of views, a common thread is a hesitancy around trans rights. So, they align more with the Trump administration, which has railed against the trans community with Trumpโ€™s policies and rhetoric.

For example, Doane sees being able to transition as a matter of personal freedom but thinks gender-affirming care for trans kids is a step too far.

โ€œWhen it comes to transgender, I have nothing against that. I just believe that when you make that transition, it should be at a point where your brain is fully developed โ€ฆ and youโ€™re actually going to enjoy that transition,โ€ he says.

He also holds the view that for a trans person to be accepted as their correct gender, they must fully physically transition. โ€œIf youโ€™re gonna transgender, transgender all the way. If youโ€™ve still got male parts on you, you donโ€™t belong in the womenโ€™s dress room.โ€ However, research suggests otherwise, with a 2025 study indicating that policing bathroom access can lead to mental distress in trans youth.

Duncan has his own doubts.

โ€œI disagree with the integration of gender ideology and radical wokeism into the LGBT community. You are free to live under any delusion you so desire. Youโ€™re not free to require me to live under your delusion as well,โ€ he says. โ€œBut if somebody wants to live as a man or a woman, however it is, I firmly believe they have the right to do that. I would never get in the way of it.โ€

Duncan also believes that education about LGBTQ people should be limited in schools. He sees adolescence as a fundamentally confusing time, and believes an education about LGBTQ communities would โ€œadd on layers of confusion.โ€ This belief seems to be in line with Gov. Ron DeSantisโ€™ 2022 โ€œDonโ€™t Say Gayโ€ bill, which has banned education on gender identity and sexual orientation in Floridaโ€™s classrooms from pre-kindergarten until the end of eighth grade, though there are exceptions for health lessons.

โ€œItโ€™s okay to tell kids that some boys like boys, some girls like girls, some people like both. But it just needs to be kept vague and general,โ€ Duncan says. โ€œHowever you are is okay. We donโ€™t need to expose children to gay media because if youโ€™re gay, youโ€™re going to know.โ€

Duncan does not believe heteronormative bias in mainstream media is a problem, though a study published in Equity & Excellence in Education found heteronormative biases in schools may harm queer students. โ€œThe vast majority of people are heterosexual, and a functioning society is built on a heteronormative bias,โ€ he says. โ€œIt is important to understand that we are the extreme minority and society is not responsible for conforming to us.โ€

They approve of Trump and donโ€™t see him as a threat

While LGBTQ Americans see the Republican party as unfriendly towards queer people, Duncan and Doane arenโ€™t worried about being stripped of their rights. Duncan says the 2015 passage of gay marriage solidified his equal rights. โ€œWe have marriage as gay men. I have every right that a straight man does,โ€ he says.

Doane also feels that his rights are secure under Trump 2.0 and approves of the president so far. โ€œI voted for that great, big, beautiful wall because we were being overrun by illegals,โ€ he says. Doane also approves of U.S. interventions in Iran and Venezuela, though he criticizes Trump for โ€œleaving [Venezuela] way too soon.โ€

Similarly, Duncan is generally approving of Trumpโ€™s handling of immigration. โ€œI donโ€™t love what weโ€™re doing as far as deportations, but we had to get some control over the illegal population,โ€ says Duncan. โ€œI wish there was another way, but I canโ€™t think of it.โ€

Duncan and Doane are certainly in the minority as queer men who approve of Trump, but as far as theyโ€™re concerned, Trump is delivering on his promises. โ€œOverall, Iโ€™m happy,โ€ says Duncan. โ€œIโ€™m getting pretty much exactly what I voted for.โ€


Editorโ€™s note: An earlier version of this article stated that Trump told the Advocate in 2000 that legalizing gay marriage was โ€œonly fair.” That was incorrect. He told the publication that he thinks amending the Civil Rights Act to grant the same protection to gay people that we give to other Americans is โ€œonly fair.โ€

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Milo Yiannopoulos deported to UK

ICE arrested far-right provocateur in New Orleans on Thursday

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Editor’s note: The Department of Homeland Security on Saturday said Milo Yiannopoulos has been deported to the U.K.

U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement on Thursday arrested far-right provocateur Milo Yiannopoulos.

A DHS spokesperson in a statement sent to the Washington Blade said ICE arrested Yiannopoulos, who they described as “an illegal alien from the United Kingdom,” at Louis Armstrong New Orleans International Airport.

The DHS spokesperson said Yiannopoulos “legally entered the country” in New York on May 14, 2019.

“He chose to overstay his welcome in violation of our nation’s laws,” said the spokesperson.

The DHS spokesperson said an immigration judge on July 22 “issued a final order of removal” for Yiannopoulos “after failing to show up for his immigration hearing.” The Times-Picayune newspaper in New Orleans on Friday reported Yiannopoulos is being held at an ICE detention center in Alexandria, La., which is about 200 miles northwest of the Crescent City.

“He will remain in ICE custody pending removal,” said the DHS spokesperson.

Yiannopoulos has, among other things, repeatedly targeted transgender people and Muslims.

The American Conservative Union, which organizes the annual Conversative Political Action Conference, in 2017 disinvited Yiannopoulos from speaking at that year’s CPAC after a video in which he appeared to condone sex between adults and underage boys emerged. Yiannopoulos subsequently resigned from Breitbart News, a far-right news website, where he had been a senior editor.

Yiannopoulos later that year married his boyfriend in Hawaii. The far-right provocateur in 2021 claimed he was an “ex-gay.”

The Australian government in 2019 banned Yiannopoulos from entering the country “on character grounds.” Yiannopoulos was also banned from Facebook, Twitter (now X), and other social media platforms.

Milo Yiannopoulos speaks at a “Gays for Trump” event during the 2016 Republican National Convention in Cleveland. (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)

The Times-Picayune reported Yiannopoulos “most recently worked for” Ye, formerly known as Kanye West.

The controversial rapper is scheduled to perform in New Orleans on Friday.

Laura Loomer, a far-right conspiracy theorist who is close to President Donald Trump, has called for Yiannopoulos’s deportation. Loomer on Friday wrote on X that she “reported him to ICE and the FBI” after he “called for me to be assassinated.”

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San Francisco, long a queer safe haven, remains competitive for homebuyers

AI boom has boosted market as housing shortages continue

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San Franciscoโ€™s LGBTQ Castro neighborhood is seeing an uptick in home purchases, local real estate agents said. (Photo by Rick Gerharter)

LGBTQ people have a variety of housing options when theyโ€™re lucky enough to be able to afford property. In San Francisco โ€“ long considered a safe haven for the queer community โ€“ individual needs have to be weighed both against the cityโ€™s chronic housing shortage and a competitive but often lucrative job market.

After a lull of several years, the cityโ€™s real estate market has heated up in recent months, driven by the cityโ€™s economic recovery post-COVID lockdowns and the artificial intelligence boom.

For Rick Page, 68, and Anthony Farace, 57, both gay men, the job market was a top reason to move back to the city after theyโ€™d left the Bay Area five years ago.

Page said the couple had left behind a โ€œhuge home in a town called Oakhurst, on the way to Yosemite.โ€ When moving back to San Francisco they wanted to balance suburban and downtown vibes, Farace said, leading them to settle in Diamond Heights, a tiny neighborhood built atop three hills above Noe Valley, that has suburban sensibilities but isnโ€™t too far from downtown.

โ€œIn the summer itโ€™s a little foggy but itโ€™s nicer up here the rest of the time, and where it felt like you arenโ€™t downtown where itโ€™s just concrete and buildings,โ€ Farace said. 

Added Page, โ€œIt sounds goofy, but if thereโ€™s a tsunami, it wonโ€™t get all the way up here.โ€

Page said that in the spring the couple initially bought a relatively small studio in Diamond Heights. But they found that it didnโ€™t meet their needs and purchased a second studio unit nearby that did. They closed on the larger condo unit in October.

โ€œIt just didnโ€™t have any kind of patio or outdoor thing for the dog,โ€ Page said of their first studio, โ€œso we saw something upgraded with a kitchen redone, nice hardwood floors, a fireplace, a sunny patio, so it was much nicer. We bought that one, now we have to figure out what to do with the first one.โ€

The first unit was $450,000 and the second $520,000, they stated.

The couple also mentioned a lack of some of the downtown, South of Market, and Mission District street disorder that garnered negative headlines in the past several years. The couple also noted that Diamond Heights is more affordable than traditionally high-priced Russian Hill, which is closer to downtown. 

Nevertheless, โ€œThe employment, the social life is betterโ€ in San Francisco, Page added. 

Federal data shows many LGBTQ people want to own a home.

Fannie Mae, the government sponsored enterprise that buys home loans, does have some LGBT data, according to research from 2023 that was published in 2024. The data is the result of sexual orientation and gender identity identifiers in the National Housing Survey. It did not ask about queer representation.

According to the report, 8.6% of respondents identified as lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender โ€“ similar to the U.S. Census Bureau’s Household Pulse Survey. The survey included responses from a weighted total of 12,363 people 18 years and older, with a weighted total of 1,059 identifying as LGBT.

The research found the LGBT homeownership rate to be 46%, which is much lower than the overall U.S. homeownership rate of 65%.

The latest available data from The Urban Institute reveals that the homeownership rate for individuals identifying as LGBTQ+ stands at 51%, in contrast to 71% for those who identify as both straight and cisgender. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, at least 1.3 million same-sex couples reside in the U.S., meaning a significant number of LGBTQ people in this country do not own their own homes.

In San Francisco, the Diamond Heights neighborhood is just a half-hour walk from the Castro, and even shorter on the bus. 

Charlie Mader is a gay man who has been a Realtor in San Francisco for โ€œjust under 25 years,โ€ with a particular emphasis on Diamond Heights, the Castro, and Noe Valley. He said that while many LGBTQ people want to live relatively close to a queer neighborhood, such as the Castro, โ€œItโ€™s not like it used to be.โ€

Even in spite of a recent backlash to LGBTQ equality in the mid-2020s, leading to a number of federal policies largely targeting transgender and gender-nonconforming people, Mader said that since marriage equality, โ€œYou hear โ€˜Thereโ€™s no need for us to live together in a gay ghetto,โ€™ and weโ€™re interspersed throughout the community and the country.โ€

Marriage equality became legal in California in June 2013, two years before the U.S. Supreme Court made same-sex unions legal nationwide in 2015.

Mader said marriage equality helped incentivize more LGBTQ home-buying due to an old Clinton administration tax law that gave married couples favorable tax incentives versus single homebuyers. 

But even within the City-by-the-Bay, the distinction between neighborhoods is not as stark.

โ€œI hear the Mission is just as gay as the Castro is, and the food is better,โ€ Mader said. โ€œI canโ€™t argue with that.โ€

Angel Carney, a lesbian Realtor, has also been in the Castro area for decades. She said the threshold of home ownership there has risen dramatically. 

โ€œWhen I first started,โ€ which was in 2002, she said, โ€œI had teachers, I had nurses, I had a doctor โ€ฆ It was diverse in terms of who was buying. Everybody had a way to get into the market.โ€

Now, โ€œwith tech, they blew out everybody,โ€ she added, saying first-time homebuyers are sometimes competing with tech employees making six-figure salaries from their early 20s due to their economic opportunities.

Carney said that even so, โ€œItโ€™s mostly a two-income household whoโ€™s buying in the Castro,โ€ largely people in their 30s.

โ€œLGBTQ is more of a rarity,โ€ she added. โ€œIโ€™ve seen more non-LGBTQ, I would say, couples buying in the Castro.โ€

One reason is because while it is such an iconic epicenter of the LGBTQ community, it is โ€œdefinitely a transit hub, and itโ€™s geographically central, so if you work on the Peninsula, you go over Diamond Street and youโ€™re on [Highway] 280. You can get to BART, to the airport, it definitely is transit centric for work, for traveling, if youโ€™re a tech worker.โ€

Understanding that unhoused people are often part of San Francisco neighborhoods such as the Castro is also a factor, Mader said. 

โ€œBecause gays are so tolerant, it draws a magnet for people who you know are distressed and so you see more antisocial behavior, begging on the street, people just getting high because they know they can get away with it,โ€ he said. That can impact peopleโ€™s desire to buy a forever home in one neighborhood or another.

Indeed, the Castro has experienced fewer open-air drug scenes than other parts of the city, such as Sixth Street or the Civic Center Plaza, which are both near the downtown core. Such activity has, however, remained a persistent complaint of Castro merchants. In early December, Sophie Marie, a legislative aide to gay Board of Supervisors President Rafael Mandelman, who represents the neighborhood as District 8 supervisor, noted that โ€œa lotโ€ of unhoused people have recently moved into the Castro as they leave South of Market and Civic Center amid an increase in law enforcement activity and attention from city government there.

The Castro is among those neighborhoods seeing building height limits increased as a result of Mayor Daniel Lurieโ€™s family zoning plan that, after much rancor, passed the Board of Supervisors for the final time on December 9. The plan is intended to increase the cityโ€™s housing stock to meet state housing goals.

San Franciscoโ€™s median home sale price rose nearly 6% to $1.85 million, its highest amount since 2022, earlier this year, as the San Francisco Standard reported.  

Mader said that nonetheless, โ€œThere are empty condos everywhere for sale,โ€ and that market is down 20% from its peak.

โ€œRight now Iโ€™m selling for $625,000 โ€“ Iโ€™ve sold for $100,000 more than that,โ€ Mader noted.

Carney agreed that condos are very available right now.

โ€œIf youโ€™re thinking about entering the market, think about condos,โ€ she advised. โ€œWhen interest rates go down, prices will go up, so get in now on a condo. People say theyโ€™re waiting for the market to drop โ€“ well, the market dropped on condos. Those are a great buy right now.โ€

The Fannie Mae data showed that homeownership aspirations are high among LGBT consumers, with 83% saying they “would like to buy at some point” or “continue to own,” the report stated. This share is comparable to non-LGBT consumers, the report stated. LGBT consumers also believe there are more obstacles to owning a home than their non-LGBT peers.

Those obstacles include that over 70% of LGBT respondents said it was difficult to get a home mortgage today, compared to only 55% of non-LGBT respondents, according to the research. LGBT consumers were more concerned about closing costs, credit score or history, current debt, and insufficient income for monthly payments.

The Federal Reserve on December 10 lowered interest rates for the third time this year. The recent reduction was by a quarter of a percentage point, as the New York Times reported. The new range is between 3.25% to 3.75%. But CNBC noted that mortgage rates may remain higher because they are less impacted by the Fed. The average rate for a 30-year, fixed-rate mortgage is currently about 6.35%, the network reported December 10.

Nationally, the real estate market is dealing with the same uncertainty as the rest of the economy, now almost one year into President Donald Trumpโ€™s second term.

โ€œEveryone is afraid of another Trump recession,โ€ Mader said. โ€œPeople are not buying houses especially in places like Florida, where theyโ€™re having all kinds of issues with insurance.โ€
Florida is the nationโ€™s most expensive state for home insurance due to natural disasters like hurricanes. 

California is also experiencing insurance issues, particularly in areas prone to wildfires, as the San Francisco Chronicle reported. Most of the Bay Area is not as affected as other parts of the state, though insurance premiums are rising for home insurance.

Not everyone wants to live in a big city. 

Mark Kliem, whoโ€™s part of the LGBTQ Real Estate Alliance, focuses on the North Bay, encompassing Solano, Napa, and Sonoma counties. 

โ€œConsumers can contact the alliance no matter where they live and connect with the nearest LGBTQ agent close to their area whether they are buyers or sellers,โ€ Kliem, who is gay, said.
Kliem lives in the Solano County city of Vallejo, where the real estate market took a dive during the Great Recession.

โ€œA lot of investors swooped in and bought up as many of those places as they could, so there was a lot of investing in property through that, and a lot of flippers,โ€ he said, referring to people who buy a property, fix it up, and then sell it for a profit.

Now, the area is one of the countryโ€™s hottest real estate markets, he said, because itโ€™s near San Francisco, has warmer weather and is more affordable long-term.

โ€œItโ€™s a good place location wise โ€“ weโ€™re on a bay, we have a ferry service to downtown San Francisco. We donโ€™t have BART, so itโ€™s a little problematic to get to the nearest BART, but our weather gets even warmer, less fog, than Oakland. Throughout the year, itโ€™s a five-degree difference from San Francisco.โ€

Ultimately, the Golden State and the Bay Area in particular are poised to remain competitive for buyers of all sexual orientations and gender identity โ€“ despite the fact that that leads to so many barriers to entry. Gay Realtor Anthony Waite, 30, explained why.

โ€œA lot of people who moved to Austin, Texas [during the COVID pandemic lockdowns] said thereโ€™s not a lot to do,โ€ Waite said. โ€œIn San Francisco, you could find something to do every single corner every hour, day and night. Texas doesnโ€™t offer that.โ€

(Editorโ€™s note: This article was originally published by the Bay Area Reporter and is part of a national initiative exploring how geography, policy, and local conditions influence access to opportunity. Find more stories at economicopportunitylab.com .)

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For LGBTQ youth starting with nothing, Pride House in Florida offers help

Many residents aged out of foster care or were kicked out by parents

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(Photo courtesy of The Our Fund Foundation)

Economic mobility usually assumes a starting line: a bedroom to return to, a parent to call, a place to regroup after things go wrong. For many LGBTQ young adults in South Florida, that starting line never existed. 

Thatโ€™s why Our Fund Foundation, SunServe, and Sunshine Cathedral partnered to build Sunshine Pride House, a 12-bed transitional home helping LGBTQ young adults stabilize, find work, and prepare for independence.

For the residents who live there, that support shows up in small, ordinary ways.

In the evenings, the house settles into a rhythm: dinner prep, shared chores, quiet conversations at the kitchen counter. As house mother, Martha Acevedo anchors the day-to-day life of Sunshine Pride House, creating a sense of consistency many residents have never known. A few nights a week, she cooks home-prepared meals, often inviting residents to join her in the kitchen โ€” chopping, stirring, learning by doing.

For some, the meal itself is the moment that lands hardest.

โ€œSome of them tell me they havenโ€™t had a cooked meal in such a long time,โ€ Acevedo said. โ€œWhen I serve the food and they say โ€˜thank you,โ€™ you can see it. Theyโ€™re kids. They just needed a home.โ€

Acevedo says the reactions still catch her off guard. What feels routine to her โ€” cooking, setting plates, sitting down together โ€” can feel extraordinary to young people who have spent months or years without a consistent place to eat.

โ€œWhen I cook, I do it proudly,โ€ she said. โ€œI give a lot of love.โ€

According to research from The Trevor Project, 28% of LGBTQ youth have experienced homelessness or housing instability at some point in their lives.ย Data from True Colors United underscores the scale of the disparity โ€” LGBTQ youth are 2.2 times more likely to experience homelessness than non-LGBTQ youth.

โ€œSo these kids are coming to the house because theyโ€™ve either aged out of foster care or theyโ€™ve been kicked out of their homes because theyโ€™re LGBTQ,โ€ said Tony Lima, CEO of SunServe. โ€œYou kind of have to start from zero. Thatโ€™s the common theme of all of these youth.โ€

Those experiences carry lasting consequences: LGBTQ youth who have been unhoused report significantly higher rates of depression, anxiety, and other mental health challenges than their housed peers. 

โ€œIn order to have proper mental health, thatโ€™s conducive to living a full life, you need to have a home,โ€ Lima said. โ€œYou need to have a place to be able to rest your head.โ€

That reality isnโ€™t unique to LGBTQ youth, though queer young people are far more likely to experience it โ€” and far less likely to have family support to fall back on.

Elijah Manleyโ€™s experience with homelessness began during the 2008 financial crisis, when he was about 9 years old. After his single mother lost her job, his family was evicted and spent years cycling through instability โ€” living in their car, rotating between friendsโ€™ homes, staying in an overcrowded apartment with relatives, and at one point sleeping in a storage unit in Lauderhill. Each morning, Manley and his siblings woke before dawn to shower at beach facilities before heading to school, trying to maintain a sense of normalcy without a permanent home.

Manley, who is now 27, was not yet out as queer during this period, and his homelessness was driven by economic collapse rather than family rejection. Still, he says the experience shows how early housing instability โ€” regardless of cause โ€” can derail childhood, education, and long-term opportunity. His familyโ€™s situation improved only gradually, and he credits a mix of early work, community connections, and โ€œa little luckโ€ for eventually finding stability โ€” a path he notes many others never get.

Today, Manley points to LGBTQ nonprofits like SunServe as essential lifelines โ€” especially for young people who face both economic instability and identity-based rejection.

โ€œTheyโ€™re very vital and lifesaving. Without them, a lot of people would be in a much worse situation,โ€ he said. โ€œThey keep our communities housed and fed and connected to the social services and healthcare they need. Theyโ€™re filling a void the government hasnโ€™t filled.โ€

Manley, who has run for public office several times and is currently running for Congress to represent Floridaโ€™s 20th district in West Broward, argues that relying on private charity to fill that void leaves too many people behind.

โ€œThese are services the government should be providing or supporting,โ€ he said. โ€œCharity should not be public policy. It should be provided to everybody, regardless of their income, and not dependent on somebody elseโ€™s charity.โ€

Housing is Just The Starting Point

For now, Sunshine Pride House exists largely because private donors stepped in where public dollars did not. While public agencies can and do fund programs that reach LGBTQ people, government funding is often constrained by nondiscrimination and open-access requirements that make it difficult to support services explicitly limited to a single identity group. 

The home is owned by Sunshine Cathedral, while SunServe runs the day-to-day programming and services inside. With no state or federal grants tied to the house itself, its roughly $250,000 annual operating budget is raised through individual donors and philanthropic partners, coordinated in large part through Our Fund Foundation. 

โ€œThereโ€™s no way to do this work without being clear about the population weโ€™re serving โ€” and that cuts off a lot of funding possibilities,โ€ said David Jobin, CEO of Our Fund.  

The funding covers housing, staffing, life coaching, and wraparound support โ€” allowing the program to exist in a policy environment where targeting services to LGBTQ youth often disqualifies programs from public dollars altogether.

The idea for Sunshine Pride House began not as a programmatic expansion, but as a personal intervention. More than five years ago, philanthropist Michael Kalb approached Our Fund Foundation with a simple question: what would it take to create a safe, stable home for LGBTQ young people who had nowhere else to go? 

Kalb had been deeply affected after witnessing unhoused youth being mocked in public spaces, and he believed housing could change the entire trajectory of a young personโ€™s life. Working closely with Jobin, that initial conversation grew into a multi-year effort to design a model tailored specifically to South Floridaโ€™s LGBTQ youth.

โ€œPeople hear โ€˜housingโ€™ and think thatโ€™s the solution, but housing is just the starting point,โ€ Jobin said. 

Kalb ultimately invested more than $600,000 into the project, joined by fellow donor Terry Merlin, while Our Fund helped assemble the partnerships needed to make it work. Sunshine Cathedral agreed to purchase and own the property, drawing on its decades of experience managing community housing, while SunServe took on day-to-day operations and services inside the home. What opened first as a pilot in a rented house evolved into the current 12-bed facility โ€” now fully owned, privately funded, and operating as one of the only LGBTQ-specific transitional housing programs in the region. 

โ€œIf we want to continue to bring these services to life, that requires funding โ€” and weโ€™re really going to need help to do that,โ€ said John Marler, Communications Director of SunServe. โ€œGovernment funding has been harder and harder to come by, and foundation funding and corporate sponsorships are becoming more competitive.โ€

Kalb, who died unexpectedly in December, often said a safe place allows young people to โ€œfinally exhale,โ€ and Sunshine Pride House stands as a direct reflection of that belief.

The structure of Sunshine Pride House reflects that focus on stability first, mobility second. The home is designed as short-term transitional housing rather than a permanent shelter. 

They Have Nowhere Elsewhere to Go 

For Mario DePedro, who helps oversee the program, the work often means stepping into roles most parents fill by default.

โ€œWe have youth who are just leaving home for the first time and their parents donโ€™t support them. They have nowhere else to go. Now itโ€™s up to us to take the place of what the parent should be,โ€ he said.

Inside the house, residents share bedrooms and follow a structured daily routine. They are required to work or attend school, participate in therapy, and meet regularly with life coaches who help them set goals.

โ€œWe call it a future plan. Weโ€™re helping them with the goals they want to reach, so they can be successful in their life,โ€ he said.

That plan can include finishing high school, enrolling in college, securing steady employment, learning financial literacy, or preparing for independent housing.

Many residents arrive carrying layers of trauma that extend far beyond the moment they lost housing.

โ€œTheyโ€™re coming from a lot of trauma,โ€ DePedro said. โ€œBeing kicked out at 18 usually isnโ€™t the first trauma โ€” thereโ€™s often a cycle of abuse that leads up to that moment.โ€ 

For residents who began adulthood without savings, family support, or stable housing, that planning process can be the difference between cycling back into crisis and building a path toward long-term economic stability.

โ€œThey need jobs. They need mental health care. And they need community โ€” they want to feel like theyโ€™re not alone in it,โ€ he said.

The needs are immediate and interconnected. Thatโ€™s why the house is built around flexibility rather than rigid benchmarks.

โ€œThis is absolutely not one-size-fits-all. Everything we do is client-centered and client-led,โ€ DePedro said. โ€œThe reality is that weโ€™re saving kidsโ€™ lives in this house. These are people who have nowhere else to go.โ€

Because of safety concerns, the location of Sunshine Pride House is not publicly disclosed, and residents are not identified.

โ€œWeโ€™re really putting young people on a path for success that they might not otherwise achieve in their life without this lift,โ€ said Jobin. โ€œYou hear the words โ€˜Pride Houseโ€™ and you think itโ€™s just a roof. But itโ€™s the wraparound services that put young people on trajectories for successful lives.โ€

Instead of starting a new nonprofit, Jobin said the foundation focused on partnering with organizations already doing the work โ€” bringing together SunServe, Sunshine Cathedral, and others to build a model that could move quickly and last.

Sunshine Pride House doesnโ€™t promise transformation or guarantee success. What it offers is something far more basic โ€” time, safety, and a place to rest their head. For young people who started adulthood with nothing, that pause can be enough to change what comes next.

(Editorโ€™s note: This article is part of a national initiative exploring how geography, policy, and local conditions influence access to opportunity. Find more stories at economicopportunitylab.com.)

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