Arts & Entertainment
Gay Teen Vogue editor defends mag’s anal sex guide
the controversial article has angered conservative parents
Teen Vogue’s “Anal Sex: What You Need to Know” guide is facing plenty of backlash but one editor is standing up for the magazine’s decision to include the informative piece.
The guide, written by sex expert Gigi Engel, covers all the bases of anal sex for those with prostates and without. The overall goal is for everyone to be educated on their sexual health.
“When it comes to your body, itās important that you have the facts. Being in the dark is not doing your sexual health or self-understanding any favors,” Engel writes.
“It’s important that we talk about all kinds of sex because not everyone is having, or wants to have, āpenis in the vaginaā sex. If you do have āpenis in the vaginaā sex and are curious about something else, or are finding that that type of sex is not for you and you’d just like to explore other options, it’s helpful to know the facts,” Engel continues.
The article also acknowledges that anal sex may not be for everyone.
āIf you’re not comfortable reading about anal sex, that’s perfectly OK, too. We have plenty of other articles around a variety of issues and wellness,” the article reads.
The guide has angered some who feel it is encouraging anal sex. One mother, known as The Activist Mommy, even posted a video on Facebook of herself burning the magazine. She condemns the magazine for including articles on how to masturbate, gender fluidity and anal sex for its target 11-17 year old audience.
Teen Vogue Digital Editorial Director Phillip Picardi took to Twitter to blast those criticizing the magazine’s sexual health article and to explain from a personal view why articles like this are important for teens to read.
If it’s ok with you guys, I’m gonna TALK ABOUT ANAL SEX FOR A WEE LIL THREAD.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
We published a 411 on Anal Sex story on @TeenVogue as a continued part of our sex education coverage.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
I monitor the webmaster email and have been inundated with hate mail saying we promote sodomy and want teens to get AIDS.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
It’s funny, because I went to Catholic high school and had 0 sex education. I also had a teacher tell me gay sex was a sin in God’s eyes.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
Fast forward to frosh year of NYU, me crying at Callen-Lorde Community Health Center, bc I’d just slept w someone who I found out was HIV+.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
The kind folks at Callen-Lorde taught me about HIV/AIDS, what it is, and how it’s contracted. They also told me to get tested regularly.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
They also explained the concept of HIV stigma, and that HIV and AIDS are two different things. And that HIV is not a death sentence.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
Then they taught me the importance of safer sex, and what I needed to know in particular as a gay man.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
I left a 40-minute doctor’s appointment with more life-saving information than I ever received in all my years of private school education.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
You see, my Catholic school was guilty of endangering all of us by sheer omission of FACTS. EDUCATION doesn’t equal ENCOURAGEMENT.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
Multiple studies have shown abstinence-only sex-ed is linked to higher rates of STIs and teen pregnancies.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
TBH, it is IRRESPONSIBLE. How can you possibly expect teenagers to practice safe sex if they don’t know what’s at risk?
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
How can you expect young women to not get pregnant without access to reproductive health care?
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
The backlash to this article is rooted in homophobia. It’s also laced in arcane delusion about what it means to be a young person today.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
If I had today’s @TeenVogue and @VeraPapisova when I was a teen, I would have been so much safer and better off.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
Instead, I made mistakes that consisted of quite a few doctor’s appointments! But I’m ok!!
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
But until queer sex, love, and families are included in education, we’re doing a dangerous and potentially lethal disservice…
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
to a growing population. Gen Z will be our queerest and most fearless generation yet.
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
In conclusion, here’s my only reply I’ll be giving to any of the messages. ? pic.twitter.com/KiFjVqLlH3
ā Phillip Picardi (@pfpicardi) July 14, 2017
Theater
Two queer artists ready to debut new operas at Kennedy Center
Works by JL Marlor, Omar Najmi part of American Opera Initiative
American Opera Initiative
Kennedy Center Terrace Theater
Jan. 18, 7 p.m. and 9 p.m.
$25.00 ā $39.00
Kennedy-center.org
For those who find traditional opera off-putting or mired in the past, thereās the American Opera Initiative (AOI). Now in its 12th season, the Washington National Operaās well-known program pairs composers and librettists who under mentorship spend months collaborating on new work, culminating with the premiere of three 20-minute operas.
Included in this yearās exciting group are queer artists JL Marlor and Omar Najmi. While these multi-taskers lend their composition talents to AOI, they are also performers and arts administrators. Marlorās bio includes electric guitarist, and performer (she fronts the celebrated indie rock band Tenderheart Bitches), and Najmi divides most of his time writing music and performing as an operatic tenor.Ā
Marlor and librettist Claire Fuyuko Biermanās āCry, Wolfā is a short yet probing opera about three males (a late teen and two college age) who are navigating some dark internet ideologies. The work explores how the red-pilled manosphere pipeline serves as spaces of community for some people.
āTo me itās a very timely piece inspired by an outlook that has consequences in the real world.ā She adds, āWeāve heard a lot about how angry incels [involuntary celibates] think about women. I want to hear what incels think about themselves.ā
While Marlor tends to gravitate toward more serious opera pieces, Fuyuko Bierman, whose background includes standup, tends toward humor.
āI think this work brought out the best in both of us. The libretto feels like a comedy until suddenly it doesnāt.ā
Marlor was introduced to opera through osmosis. At her gay unclesā house there was always music ā usually Maria Callas or Beverly Sills. She appreciated grand opera but not with the same ardor of true buffs. But her relationship with opera changed dramatically while attending Smith College.
āI was lucky enough to have Kate Soper as my first composition teacher and saw her opera āHere Be Sirensā as my first piece of modern opera. I was totally hooked.ā
Originally from picturesque Beverly, Mass., Marlor now lives in Brooklyn with her partner and their very senior dog. For Marlor, coming out at 25 in 2017 wasnāt entirely smooth, but finding support among the many queer women in the world of classical music helped. And more recently, AOI has bolstered her confidence in continuing a career in the arts, she says.
Najmi and librettist Christine Evansā opera is titled āMud Girl.ā Set against a post-apocalyptic, climate-affected world, itās the story of a mother, daughter, and the daughterās child Poly, created from toxic detritus, trying to navigate relationships.Ā
āMost people go into opera without having had a ton of exposure.Ā Often through musical theater or choir,ā says Najmi, 37. In his case, he was pursuing a BFA in musical theater at Ithaca College. After an unanticipated internal transfer to the School of Music, where he transitioned from baritone to young gifted tenor, his interest veered toward opera.Ā
While enjoying a performance career, he wrote his first opera on a whim. āAnd now,ā he says ācomposition is my creative passion. Singing is more like a trade or sport. I love the action of doing it and practicing.ā
In one of his recent operas, āJo Dooba So Paar,ā Najmi, who is half Pakistani American, draws specifically from personal experience, exploring how queer and Muslim donāt necessarily need to be conflicting identities. And while he grew up in liberal Boston in a secular environment, he still had insights into what it means to exist in two worlds. Itās a story he wanted to tell. Ā
On a broader level, he says coming of age in the 1990s and aughts, on the cusp of homosexuality becoming normalized and accepted, created certain angsts. Today, his artistās voice is drawn to the sentimentality that comes with unrequited longing.
Whatās more, Najmi collaborates with his husband Brendon Shapiro. In 2022, the Boston-based couple co-founded Catalyst New Music, an organization dedicated to fostering, developing, and producing new works.Ā
AOIās three 20-minute operas will be led by conductor George Manahan and performed by Cafritz Young Artists on Jan. 18, at 7 p.m. and 9 p.m. in the Kennedy Center Terrace Theater.
Following their world premiere at the Kennedy Center, the three operas will travel to New York City in a co-presentation with the Kaufman Music Center. The Jan. 23 performance will mark AOIās first appearance in New York City.
Music & Concerts
Gay Menās Chorus starting the year with a cabaret
‘Postcards’ to be performed at CAMP Rehoboth
The Gay Menās Chorus of Washington will perform āPostcards,ā a cabaret, on Saturday, Jan. 18 at 5:00p.m. and 8:00p.m. at CAMP Rehoboth Elkins-Archibald Atrium.Ā
In this performance, the choir will share hilarious and heart-warming stories and songs about the travel adventures theyāve had and hope to have. Songs include āMidnight Train to Georgia,ā āStreets of Dublin,ā āMagic To Do,ā āHome,ā and āI Left My Heart in San Francisco.ā Tickets cost $35 and can be purchased on Camp Rehobothās website.
Friday, January 10
āCenter Aging Friday Tea Timeā will be at 2 p.m. on Zoom. This is a social hour for older LGBTQ adults. Guests are encouraged to bring a beverage of choice. For more details, email [email protected].Ā
Women in their Twenties and Thirties will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This is a social discussion group for queer women in the Washington, D.C. area. For more details, join their closed Facebook Group.Ā
Go Gay DC will host āFirst Friday LGBTQ+ Community Happy Hourā at 7 p.m. at Puro Gusto. This event is ideal for making new friends, professional networking, idea-sharing, and community building. This event is free and more details are available on Eventbrite.
Saturday, January 11
Go Gay DC will host āLGBTQ+ Community Brunchā at 11 a.m. at Freddieās Beach Bar & Restaurant. This fun weekly event brings the DMV area LGBTQ community, including allies, together for delicious food and conversation. Attendance is free and more details are available on Eventbrite.
Ms. Capital Pride will host āMAL Weekend Drag Brunchā at 12 p.m. at Baby Shank. Guests will enjoy a lively gathering full of joy, laughter, and connection. They will also indulge in food and drinks while enjoying dazzling performances and entertainment. Tickets are $27 and can be purchased on Eventbrite.Ā
LGBTQ People of Color Support Group will be at 1 p.m. on Zoom. This peer support group is an outlet for LGBTQ People of Color to come together and talk about anything affecting them in a space that strives to be safe and judgement free. For more information and events for LGBTQ People of Color, visit thedccenter.org/poc or facebook.com/centerpoc.
Sunday, January 12
Go Gay DC will host āLGBTQ+ Community Dinnerā at 6:30 p.m. at Federico Ristorante Italiano. Guests are encouraged to come enjoy an evening of Italian-style dining and conversation with other LGBTQ folk. Attendance is free and more details are available on Eventbrite.
DC9 Nightclub will host āDance Clubā at 8 p.m. at 1940 9th St., N.W. At this event, Jacq Jill and Flotussin will join Dance Club for the Sunday night closing party of MAL Weekend at DC9. The Baltimore staples will be joined by Dance Club resident DJs Baronhawk Poitier, Joyce Lim & Tommy C, plus Artemis on lights, to close out a jam-packed MAL 2025. Tickets start at $10 and can be purchased on Eventbrite.Ā
Monday, January 13
Center Aging: Monday Coffee & Conversation will be at 10 a.m. on Zoom. This is a social hour for older LGBTQ adults. Guests are encouraged to bring a beverage of their choice. For more details, email [email protected].Ā
Genderqueer DC will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This is a support group for people who identify outside of the gender binary. Whether youāre bigender, agender, genderfluid, or just know that youāre not 100% cis. For more details, visit genderqueerdc.org or Facebook.Ā
Tuesday, January 14
Trans Support Group will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This groupĀ is intended to provide emotionally and physically safe space for trans people and those who may be questioning their gender identity/expression to join together in community and learn from one another. For more details, email [email protected]. Ā
Coming Out Discussion Group will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This is a peer-facilitated discussion group and a safe space to share experiences about coming out and discuss topics as it relates to doing so. For more details, visit the groupās Facebook page.Ā
Wednesday, January 15
Job Club will be at 6 p.m. on Zoom. This is a weekly job support program to help job entrants and seekers, including the long-term unemployed, improve self-confidence, motivation, resilience and productivity for effective job searches and networking ā allowing participants to move away from being merely āapplicantsā toward being ācandidates.ā For more information, email [email protected] or visit thedccenter.org/careers.
Thursday, January 16
The DC Centerās Fresh Produce Program will be held all day at the DC Center for the LGBT Community. People will be informed on Wednesday at 5:00 pm if they are picked to receive a produce box. No proof of residency or income is required. For more information, email [email protected] or call 202-682-2245.Ā
Virtual Yoga with Charles M. will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This is a free weekly class focusing on yoga, breathwork, and meditation. For more details, visit the DC Center for the LGBT Communityās website.
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