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The ultimate guide to queer gift giving

Perfect presents for everyone from roommates to soulmates

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Searching for special deliveries for that special someone? Consider these elf-approved, consciously curated presents perfect for everyone from roommates to soulmates.ย 


Star Wars Home Collection

Movie nights in bed get a comfort upgrade from the Force โ€“ for those who uphold Jedi code in the streets but embrace the Dark Side in the sheets โ€“ with Sobel Westexโ€™s Star Wars Home Collection, five- to seven-piece twin, queen and king sets suitable for either alliance. Cop a bootleg of the infamous โ€œStar Wars Holiday Specialโ€ (legal copies donโ€™t exist, nor has it been rebroadcast since its one-and-only airing in 1978) and settle in for a snacky screening with premade Johnsonโ€™s Popcorn (a Jersey Shore staple) or Pop โ€™N Dulgeโ€™s DIY gourmet kits. SobelAtHome.com, $350-$390; JohnsonsPopcorn.com, $27+; PopNDulge.com, $23


Bird Buddy Smart Feeder

Avian enthusiasts get up close and semi-personal with feathered friends thanks to the Bird Buddy smart feeder that allows safe viewing via a solar-powered, app-enabled camera, along with adorable add-ons like a suet ball holder and three-in-one nutrition set to keep the neighborhoodโ€™s population happy and healthy. MyBirdBuddy.com, $299-$415


Jewelry โ€“ but make it an experience. Thatโ€™s the premise behind Link x Lou, a quick-fitting accessory service providing recipients with in-person appointments for custom-linked, clasp-less 14-karat white- and yellow-gold necklaces, bracelets, anklets, and rings that wear until theyโ€™re worn out. Moneyโ€™s on โ€™em lasting longer than the situationship youโ€™ve got goinโ€™, but may the odds be ever in your favor. LinkxLou.com, $55-$500


Orttu Shelton Puffer

Guess whoโ€™s coming to dinner? Itโ€™s you as an alt-timeline Tom of Finland in Orttuโ€™s fully quilted, oversized Shelton Puffer comprised of double-layered high-sheen fabric and press-stud fastening that results in a slick style statement vers-er than you are. Orttu.com, $203


Winter Discovery Mini Scented Candle Set

Apotheke takes the guesswork out of choosing just the right ambiance-inducing aroma with its Winter Discovery Mini Scented Candle Set, featuring six fragrant two-ounce tins in seasonal smells that include birchwood apple, black cypress, blackberry honey, cardamon chestnut, charred fig, and firewood (with a combined 90-hour burn time), and packaged in a nostalgically illustrated gift box accentuated by festive gold detailing. ApothekeCo.com, $64


Polaris General 1000 Sport

Resort communities across the country have adopted golf carts as a preferred mode of transportation, and you can establish yourself as a local baddie in Polarisโ€™ General 1000 Sport โ€“ in ethereal colorways like ghost gray โ€“ equipped with a four-stroke DOHC twin-cylinder engine, 100 horsepower, 1,500-pound hitch-towing capacity, and enough street cred for Boomers to shake their fists at. Polaris.com, $17,500+


โ€˜Arquivistasโ€™ Crystal Book

Brazilian crystal devotee Tatiana Dorow has curated an impressive collection of more than 1,000 rare and exquisite minerals โ€“ ranging from one ounce to over 5,000 pounds โ€“ the comprehensive record of which is now compiled in the sizable coffee-table tome โ€œArquivistasโ€ (Portuguese for archivist) thatโ€™s sure to satisfy, delight, and provide endless holiday-party talking points to the New Agers in your life. (You know they will.) ArtAndAnthropologyPress.com, $350


Bovem Globe Trimmer 2.0

There are plenty of manscaping tools on the market, but perhaps none are designed with your delicate bits in mind like the handsome second-gen Bovem Globe body and groin trimmer with its ergonomic textured grip, powerful 6500 RPM with low vibration, varying guards, and replaceable TrimSafe blades that tidy you up without cutting skin or pulling rough hair. Deck the halls! โ€“ no more bloody Christmas balls. Bovem.co, $60-$87


Lexington Glassworks Decanter Set

Pour one out from Lexington Glassworksโ€™ hand-blown whiskey decanter, each one individually crafted in the companyโ€™s Asheville, N.C., studio and detailed with an elegant crackle finish that lends an air of sophistication to any home bar cart. Pair with a set of LGโ€™s complementary rocks glasses, in the same distinguished style, for a cherished gift. LexingtonGlassworks.com, $280


Joule Turbo Sous Vide

Your fave chefsโ€™ autopilot cooking technique hits home countertops in Brevilleโ€™s sleek Joule Turbo Sous Vide stick, which cooks seasoned-and-bagged meats and veggies to a faster-than-ever optimal internal temperature (unattended, no less) before a lickety-split sear and serve results in restaurant-quality dishes deserving of at least a couple Michelin stars for your minimal-mess kitchen. Breville.com, $250


Outlines Shower Liner System

Holiday hosts can practice responsible replenishment amid our planetary plastic-waste crisis when you gift Outlinesโ€™ thoughtfully designed Shower Liner System that provides users with a machine-washable cotton top piece and fully recyclable bottom to replace when itโ€™s time to ditch the grime. Set it and forget it with three-, six- or nine-month auto-deliveries. LivingOutlines.com, $50


Barbie Perfume

Fight the patriarchy doused in Barbieโ€™s sweet-and-fresh fragrance that, from top to bottom, features notes of strawberry nectar and red cherry, peony and pink magnolia, and sandalwood and soft musk for an extraordinary scent thatโ€™s more than Kenough. DefineMeCreativeStudio.com, $65


AiRROBO Pet Grooming Vacuum

Posh pets enjoy salon-style luxury in the comfort of their homes when treated to a grooming session by the AiRROBO vacuum (think Flowbee for cats and dogs), a five-tool, one-stop solution for keeping furbabiesโ€™ hair, dander, allergens and mites to a minimum. The portable pamperer includes an electric clipper, crevice and de-shedding tools, and grooming and cleaning brushes housed in a space-saving, HEPA-filtered capsule. US.Air-Robo.com, $110


Aura Smart Sleep Mask

What does the future of total relaxation and deep sleep look like? Blackout darkness and complete serenity in a dream-state sanctuary when you spend your nights in the Aura Smart Sleep Mask with built-in speakers for guided meditation and snooze-inducing ASMR, zero-pressure eye cushioning, and light and sunrise therapy to help you wake rested and refreshed at home and (especially) away. Indiegogo.com, $190


Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBTQ lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyroxtravels.

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Jason DePuy on coping with homophobia in โ€˜Big Brotherโ€™ house

First drag queen contestant on CBS show fought to stay positive

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Jason DePuy on Big Brother (Photo courtesy of CBS Broadcasting,Inc.)

One week after Jason DePuy (known as Salina EsTitties on โ€œRuPaulโ€™s Drag Raceโ€) was bullied and eventually evicted from CBSโ€™s “Big Brotherโ€ house, the queer drag performer is still emotionally processing his feelings.

During his 24 days in the reality TV competition, DePuy often had a rough time, with fellow cast member Kamuela โ€œKamuโ€ Kirk making homophobic comments and feeling isolated.

In a conversation with Head of Household Rick Devens, Kirk left viewers upset when he said, โ€œBro, miss me with the drag stuff. Miss me. Iโ€™m still an MMA guy, and I have an image to uphold.โ€

Former โ€œBig Brotherโ€ contestant Frankie Grande called his wordsย  โ€˜homophobicโ€™ and โ€˜gross.โ€™ Another comment, where Kirk said he wanted to end DePuyโ€™s career, also received strong backlash online.

Now that he is out of the house, DePuy has been shocked and deeply touched by the love from โ€œBig Brotherโ€ fans and former contestants. We chatted with DePuy for this Blade exclusive.

โ€œTo know that my community was rallying for me outside the house was the most wonderful thing. Seeing how much people were just wanting to shower me with love was incredible. Even my friends, I went to say hi and give them a hug, and theyโ€™re like, โ€˜Uh, uh, come here.โ€™ They had to hold me and let me know America was feeling for me in a way that I had no idea.โ€

He added: โ€œTo see that reality was just overwhelming, and I couldnโ€™t ask for more.โ€

Known as a messy player in the house, DePuy often had to fight to stay positive and stand up for himself. 

โ€œNo one was coming to my rescue. In real life, itโ€™s easy to block people, but in the house, I didnโ€™t have that luxury, so I had to find it within myself to learn how to speak up for myself in a way that wasnโ€™t nasty or biting. I didnโ€™t attack anyone personally, which is what I was the most proud of.โ€

DePuy acknowledged he has had a history of putting his foot in his mouth when it came to certain โ€œDrag Race”moments, being in the public eye, and making a fool of himself. โ€œIโ€™ve learned my lessons; to see how I handled myself in the โ€˜Big Brotherโ€™ house was amazing.โ€ 

While DePuy has been sober for 14 and a half years and has a strong spiritual foundation, in the Big Brother house, he often felt like he couldnโ€™t communicate what he was feeling. 

โ€œAs a queer person, a person of color, a drag queen, I have to be very careful about how I move. I donโ€™t have the luxury or privilege to just act a certain way or say a certain thing. I have to be very careful; Iโ€™m representing me. But who I am is a Latino, a person of recovery, a drag queen, a queer person in the community. I know that thereโ€™s a lot of pressure that comes with that. I felt it was safer for me to sit there and just breathe than try to do anything crazy.โ€

He continued: โ€œI couldnโ€™t speak to the personal attack that was happening in the house, because in my mind I was like, โ€˜no, this is a game, and I have to play it, put that aside.โ€™โ€

Not only can viewers watch the episodes, but they can also watch the live feeds of whatโ€™s happening. Seeing the fansโ€™ social media posts from people who had watched the episodes and the live feeds also contributed to DePuy realizing that his feelings of discomfort were valid.

โ€œTo know that I wasnโ€™t delusional in those moments, that others could see what was happening, has been a lot to take in. Fans and friends let me know the comments made went beyond the gameโ€ฆIโ€™m like, โ€˜Oh, so my instincts were correct.โ€

One of the most poignant moments on the live feeds occurred when DePuy was crying, alone in his room, and said how he missed his gay community.

โ€œI really missed my friends. I missed my queer community. Weโ€™re so colorful. Weโ€™re so loud. Weโ€™re so vibrant. We speak off the cuff, and weโ€™re very truthful and honest with how we speak, and itโ€™s fun. We have fun lingo.โ€

DePuy had to censor his expressions in the house. โ€œBecause I can say one thing, but it can mean something different to straight people than it does with my queer brothers and sisters. So, there was a sense of code-switching that I had to do. I had to even put aside some of my queerness in a way sometimes to fit in.โ€

DePuy was thrilled to be the very first drag queen to ever be cast on the show. 

โ€œIโ€™m honored to have been chosen. Thereโ€™s a million drag queens out there, and to know that I was a contender to come in the house and not even be in drag was like a wow for me. Iโ€™m over here in Hollywood, running around these streets with a wig and heels just to make a dollar to survive, and I have to rely on drag to do that. And then to be offered this opportunity and be given the privilege to say, โ€˜hey, you donโ€™t have to put on the wig for you to be valuable here,โ€™ is just insane to me.โ€

Prior to his shows, DePuy has been hustling for 15 years, flipping burgers and doing drag at night.

โ€œThat has been my life these past since I was 17. So itโ€™s been a long journey; the opportunity to do this out of drag is a very big blessing. Iโ€™m honored and grateful to be the representation of my community.โ€

If you missed Jason on โ€œBig Brother: Unlocked,” the episode can be seen on CBS.com. He will be back on the show for the finale.

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Rainbows in Revolt on a mission to make LGBTQ artistsโ€™ voices heard

Rainbows in Revolt on a mission to make LGBTQ artistsโ€™ voices heard

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Lily Erin, one of Rainbows in Revoltโ€™s signature artists, performed at Capital Pride in June. (Photo courtesy of Rainbows in Revolt)

Last monthโ€™s Pride celebration in D.C. was so fun. Walking around my first Capital Pride with a $15 lemonade I was loving the madness and the color. Artists and small businesses battling banks youโ€™ve never heard of collecting your personal information so you can spin a wheel to snag free merch. Great music blaring, people actually smiling and enjoying themselves, the โ€œGreatโ€ American State Fair could never!

The Monument Stage was on Pennsylvania Avenue, directly in front of the National Gallery of Art and I canโ€™t think of a better venue to see live music. How does someone get on the lineup for Pride? How do we accelerate the visibility of the most talented voices in our community to perform in places like this?

There is certainly not a talent gap, but there is a visibility gap. Chappell Roan went from playing for two people in a parking lot to owning the main stage at Coachella in one year. Whether it is shadowbanning or bias in AI, algorithms have been shown to suppress queer artists. In a digital age, how can queer people break through and show the world how talented they are?

Allison and Matt of Rainbows in Revolt are on a mission to make openly LGBTQ+ artistsโ€™ voices heard. Their goal is to find โ€œmusicians whose queerness is central to their identity as an artist,โ€ and accelerate them to a place where they can actually reach fans.

The only time queer events seem to be in the spotlight is June, but this should be year round, according to Allison and Matt. Rainbows in Revolt wants to act as a โ€œnucleusโ€ for different sub-communities, finding common ground in the universal language of music.

Matt and Allison founded Rainbows as a way to make cheaper, higher quality merchandise for queer artists. While Rainbows has already pledged 20% of their profits to the LGBTQ+ community, with 10% to Whitman-Walker Health and 10% to LGBTQ+ organizations in need, this is just the beginning of the work that they do.

Rainbows โ€œdoes the dirty workโ€ that artists normally struggle to do on their own with limited resources. Interviews, artist profiles, social promotion, playlist discovery, radio outreach, and merch-funded support. This work is normally expensive, time consuming, and requires lots of different skills. Musicians donโ€™t want to be editing clips to post online. Standup comedians donโ€™t want to make graphics for their tour dates. They want to write more. They want to focus on their craft.

In addition to helping artists find their audience, Rainbows has built other digital tools to help queer people connect, including an interactive Safe Space Map for most major cities. It is hard to know which places are truly safe and supportive just from a simple Google search. Attitudes and actions change, and there should be a simple way for queer people to find other places that align with them. The Safe Spaces Maps are all up to date, and are tagged and filterable. Instead of relying on forums and word of mouth, Rainbows has created a centralized way to find authentic community quickly.

I had a chance to talk with Allison and Matt at Pride where Lily Erin, one of their signature artists, was performing on the Monument stage. Lily Erin is a folk singer who is familiar and forging her own path. Her bittersweet sound echoes through Acadia, and her garb mirrors the New England athletes I grew up with. Gorp Core meets streetwear. A graphic tee, hiking shorts, and creamsicle Jordans.

Her debut single, โ€œBus Stop,โ€ tells a sad story about unconditional love, and the conditions that still seem to come with it. Graduating into lockdown, Erin needed a new way to connect with herself and others. Lily made โ€œBus Stop” without an intention to share it, but doing so was a liberation. People have been responding to her honesty around queer-ness, family, and the โ€œghosts which haunt usโ€ even in the daytime.

Rainbows in Revolt has helped Lily Erin go from bars and backyards to The Monument Stage at Pride. This is a meteoric rise, and a testament to both Erinโ€™s talent and the work of Rainbows to promote her. โ€œA little encouragement goes a long way with early artists,โ€ and by โ€œplanting a seedโ€ Rainbows is already seeing their artist garden grow. Community is power, and Erin is a perfect example of how effective simple modern techniques of promotion can be.

A next step for Rainbows is putting on shows themselves. On Oct. 3, Rainbows in Revolt will host an Evening with Ray Boltz at the National City Christian Church. Boltz grew up in the Catholic Church and for many years was the soundtrack to many services, youth camps, and church groups. He was celebrated by millions until he came out in 2008. Allison remembers her community โ€œnever playing his music again.โ€ 

Rainbows in Revolt is helping him to return to the church, and proving that identity does not need to be exclusive. We live in a complicated world with complicated lines being drawn. Boltz proves that these lines donโ€™t exist, and will be breaking down barriers to bring together communities. To Allison, โ€œa trans woman standing next to a straight white man in church is a powerful teacher.โ€

The Safe Space maps bridge all types of spaces, and one of the unlikely ones is, perhaps, churches. Matt said that โ€œBYU has only nine safe spaces around their campus and seven of them are churches.โ€ Not all churches are anti-gay, and many times they are the only place for people to find community.

Rainbows in Revolt is just getting started bridging gaps and building community.

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Summer in the City: Free exhibits, movies, more fill D.C.’s calendar

America 250 celebrations continue

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Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande star in โ€˜Wicked,โ€™ screening Sept. 12 at Union Market. (Photo courtesy of Universal Pictures)

From late-night museum visits and outdoor jazz concerts to free movie screenings and America250 exhibitions, Washington’s summer calendar is packed with events that donโ€™t charge admission. Here’s a look at some of the free activities happening across the District through September and beyond.

Museum exhibitions

The Renwick Gallery is presenting State Fairs: Growing American Craft, an exhibition that looks at unique and unconventional crafts from the 19th century to the present. It will run until Sept. 7, and admission is free. 

The Arts and Industries Building, located next to the Smithsonian Castle, is presenting the exhibition Voices and Votes: Exploring Democracy Across America. The exhibition features the development of American independence and what that has meant over time, beginning with the Revolutionary War. Admission to the museum is free, and the exhibition runs until Sept. 7.

The National Gallery of Art presents Dear America, an exhibit featuring more than 100 pieces of work, including letters, photographs, and drawings that depict American landscapes and depictions of freedom. The exhibition will run until Sept. 20.

The National Museum of Women in the Arts is exhibiting Burnished: Pueblo Pottery until Sept. 27. The exhibit features pottery from the Southwest, and while most of the pottery belongs to women artists, a few also reflect those who have advocated for women.

Extending past this summer, the exhibition ยกPuro Ritmo! The Musical Journey of Salsa will be at the National Museum of the American Latino until July 2028. The exhibition shows how Afro-Cuban music has become a staple in the U.S. Admission is free.

The Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial Library will feature the exhibition District Vibes / American Pride: How DC Changed American Culture, which will highlight all of the ways D.C. has impacted American life. The exhibit will run until Sept. 27.

At the Folger Shakespeare Library, the exhibit Imagining Shakespeare: Mythmaking and Storytelling in the Regency Era will be on view through Aug. 2. All the portraits on display come from the Boydell Shakespeare Gallery in London.

The United States Botanic Garden will be open until 8 p.m. on Aug. 20 and Sept. 17, as part of Americaโ€™s State Flowers: An America250 Celebration. The evenings will include live music, mocktails, ice cream, and snacks.

The National Gallery of Art Sculpture Garden will have extended hours, staying open until 8 p.m. Wednesday to Saturday until Sept. 3. 

Live performances

On Aug. 7, the postgame Nationals concert series will continue with Jordan Davis performing. To see the concert, guests just need to buy tickets to the Nationals game. 

Jazz in the Garden will run each Friday until Aug. 14. The event has free admission, but those interested have to enter a lottery due to the high demand for the event.

From May to October, Capital Harvest Market occurs every Wednesday from 10 a.m.-2 p.m. at the Ronald Reagan Building and International Trade Center. The market features fresh foods, crafts, and recipes for unique dishes. A full list of vendors is available on Capital Harvestโ€™s website.

Live! Concert Series on the Plaza will feature live performances at Woodrow Wilson Plaza until Sept. 25. The performances run Monday to Friday from 12-1 p.m. Admission is free to the performances. 

DowntownDC Live! at Anthem Row is running until July 30, with free performances every Thursday from 5:30 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. The final performance will feature HUE and a vintage flea market hosted by Get Flee Marketplace. 

Located in Adams Morgan, AdMo Vibe will present live performances every Thursday at 6 p.m. in Kalorama Park. Guests are encouraged to check out Adams Morgan before and after shows, and it is an event for all ages.

Other events

Union Market is hosting drive-in movies on Aug. 8, featuring โ€œMonsters, Inc.โ€, and Sept. 12, featuring โ€œWicked.โ€ On Aug. 8, the parking lot will open at 7:30 p.m., with the movie starting at 8:25 p.m. On Sept. 12, the parking lot will open at 6:35 p.m., and the movie will start at 7:30 p.m.

Sunset Cinema at the Wharf will also be available one day a month. On Aug. 12, โ€œ10 Things I Hate About You” will premiere, and on Aug. 26, โ€œProject Hail Mary.โ€ No tickets are necessary. 

The Library of Congress will also show movies. On Aug. 6, guests are invited to watch โ€œApollo 13.” The movie will be shown at 8 p.m., with additional live performances beginning at 7 p.m.

For fans of Asian media, the Okaton convention will be at Walter E. Washington Convention Center from July 31-Aug. 2. Festivities will include cosplay contests, skits, live music, and panel discussions.

Washington Spiritโ€™s season also begins in August. The Spirit is Washingtonโ€™s National Women’s League, with matchups occurring between the San Diego Wave, the North Carolina Courage, the Orlando Pride, and the Bay FC.

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