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The ultimate guide to queer gift giving
Perfect presents for everyone from roommates to soulmates
Searching for special deliveries for that special someone? Consider these elf-approved, consciously curated presents perfect for everyone from roommates to soulmates.ย
Star Wars Home Collection

Movie nights in bed get a comfort upgrade from the Force โ for those who uphold Jedi code in the streets but embrace the Dark Side in the sheets โ with Sobel Westexโs Star Wars Home Collection, five- to seven-piece twin, queen and king sets suitable for either alliance. Cop a bootleg of the infamous โStar Wars Holiday Specialโ (legal copies donโt exist, nor has it been rebroadcast since its one-and-only airing in 1978) and settle in for a snacky screening with premade Johnsonโs Popcorn (a Jersey Shore staple) or Pop โN Dulgeโs DIY gourmet kits. SobelAtHome.com, $350-$390; JohnsonsPopcorn.com, $27+; PopNDulge.com, $23
Bird Buddy Smart Feeder

Avian enthusiasts get up close and semi-personal with feathered friends thanks to the Bird Buddy smart feeder that allows safe viewing via a solar-powered, app-enabled camera, along with adorable add-ons like a suet ball holder and three-in-one nutrition set to keep the neighborhoodโs population happy and healthy. MyBirdBuddy.com, $299-$415
Link x Lou Permanent Jewelry Pop-Ups

Jewelry โ but make it an experience. Thatโs the premise behind Link x Lou, a quick-fitting accessory service providing recipients with in-person appointments for custom-linked, clasp-less 14-karat white- and yellow-gold necklaces, bracelets, anklets, and rings that wear until theyโre worn out. Moneyโs on โem lasting longer than the situationship youโve got goinโ, but may the odds be ever in your favor. LinkxLou.com, $55-$500
Orttu Shelton Puffer

Guess whoโs coming to dinner? Itโs you as an alt-timeline Tom of Finland in Orttuโs fully quilted, oversized Shelton Puffer comprised of double-layered high-sheen fabric and press-stud fastening that results in a slick style statement vers-er than you are. Orttu.com, $203
Winter Discovery Mini Scented Candle Set

Apotheke takes the guesswork out of choosing just the right ambiance-inducing aroma with its Winter Discovery Mini Scented Candle Set, featuring six fragrant two-ounce tins in seasonal smells that include birchwood apple, black cypress, blackberry honey, cardamon chestnut, charred fig, and firewood (with a combined 90-hour burn time), and packaged in a nostalgically illustrated gift box accentuated by festive gold detailing. ApothekeCo.com, $64
Polaris General 1000 Sport

Resort communities across the country have adopted golf carts as a preferred mode of transportation, and you can establish yourself as a local baddie in Polarisโ General 1000 Sport โ in ethereal colorways like ghost gray โ equipped with a four-stroke DOHC twin-cylinder engine, 100 horsepower, 1,500-pound hitch-towing capacity, and enough street cred for Boomers to shake their fists at. Polaris.com, $17,500+
โArquivistasโ Crystal Book

Brazilian crystal devotee Tatiana Dorow has curated an impressive collection of more than 1,000 rare and exquisite minerals โ ranging from one ounce to over 5,000 pounds โ the comprehensive record of which is now compiled in the sizable coffee-table tome โArquivistasโ (Portuguese for archivist) thatโs sure to satisfy, delight, and provide endless holiday-party talking points to the New Agers in your life. (You know they will.) ArtAndAnthropologyPress.com, $350
Bovem Globe Trimmer 2.0

There are plenty of manscaping tools on the market, but perhaps none are designed with your delicate bits in mind like the handsome second-gen Bovem Globe body and groin trimmer with its ergonomic textured grip, powerful 6500 RPM with low vibration, varying guards, and replaceable TrimSafe blades that tidy you up without cutting skin or pulling rough hair. Deck the halls! โ no more bloody Christmas balls. Bovem.co, $60-$87
Lexington Glassworks Decanter Set

Pour one out from Lexington Glassworksโ hand-blown whiskey decanter, each one individually crafted in the companyโs Asheville, N.C., studio and detailed with an elegant crackle finish that lends an air of sophistication to any home bar cart. Pair with a set of LGโs complementary rocks glasses, in the same distinguished style, for a cherished gift. LexingtonGlassworks.com, $280
Joule Turbo Sous Vide

Your fave chefsโ autopilot cooking technique hits home countertops in Brevilleโs sleek Joule Turbo Sous Vide stick, which cooks seasoned-and-bagged meats and veggies to a faster-than-ever optimal internal temperature (unattended, no less) before a lickety-split sear and serve results in restaurant-quality dishes deserving of at least a couple Michelin stars for your minimal-mess kitchen. Breville.com, $250
Outlines Shower Liner System

Holiday hosts can practice responsible replenishment amid our planetary plastic-waste crisis when you gift Outlinesโ thoughtfully designed Shower Liner System that provides users with a machine-washable cotton top piece and fully recyclable bottom to replace when itโs time to ditch the grime. Set it and forget it with three-, six- or nine-month auto-deliveries. LivingOutlines.com, $50
Barbie Perfume

Fight the patriarchy doused in Barbieโs sweet-and-fresh fragrance that, from top to bottom, features notes of strawberry nectar and red cherry, peony and pink magnolia, and sandalwood and soft musk for an extraordinary scent thatโs more than Kenough. DefineMeCreativeStudio.com, $65
AiRROBO Pet Grooming Vacuum

Posh pets enjoy salon-style luxury in the comfort of their homes when treated to a grooming session by the AiRROBO vacuum (think Flowbee for cats and dogs), a five-tool, one-stop solution for keeping furbabiesโ hair, dander, allergens and mites to a minimum. The portable pamperer includes an electric clipper, crevice and de-shedding tools, and grooming and cleaning brushes housed in a space-saving, HEPA-filtered capsule. US.Air-Robo.com, $110
Aura Smart Sleep Mask

What does the future of total relaxation and deep sleep look like? Blackout darkness and complete serenity in a dream-state sanctuary when you spend your nights in the Aura Smart Sleep Mask with built-in speakers for guided meditation and snooze-inducing ASMR, zero-pressure eye cushioning, and light and sunrise therapy to help you wake rested and refreshed at home and (especially) away. Indiegogo.com, $190
Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBTQ lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyroxtravels.
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From Media Matters to massive queer ragers: the rise of Tara Dikhof
The Washington Blade sits down with the DJ and drag star on her summer tour, rise to prominence, and how Musk helped shape her path.
Before becoming the โfull-time party girlโ with the power to turn any room with Instagram Reels into a dingy dance floor packed with queer people โ at least for a minute or two โ Tara Dikhof was much like a lot of queer Washingtonians: upset at how the first Trump administration quickly began attacking marginalized communitiesโ rights, and in need of a creative, constructive outlet.
โI used to be a journalist at Media Matters, where I worked on our online extremism and LGBTQ program,โ Tara Dikhof told the Blade when asked how she became the actualized drag performer she is today. โI did extensive work documenting how the right wing media ecosystem poisons the debate on queer issues โ and spreads virulent lies about LGBTQ people online.โ
Media Matters is a nonprofit that describes itself as a โprogressive research and information centerโ with the goal of โmonitoring, analyzing, and correcting conservative misinformation in the U.S. media.โ
Tara, who, while working at Media Matters lived up to that goal. She wrote โ or assisted the media watchdog with โ more than 150 articles for the web-based organization. While she covered a wide variety of topics, she became a leading voice covering Joe Rogan during her tenure as a senior researcher for the LGBTQ Program at Media Matters.

โI think some of my most impactful work from my time at Media Matters was when I was the leading journalist reporting on Joe Roganโs extremism and right wing misinformation. I broke the story that he was encouraging young people not to get the COVID vaccine,โ Dikhof said. โI reported that the presidential debates hadnโt asked a question about LGBTQ issues since the 2000s. I also led a study looking at TV news reporting on anti-trans violence, showing that TV news stations, cable and broadcast combined, collectively reported on anti-trans violence for less than an hour almost every year.โ
In addition to media coverage, Dikhof also worked on the inside as a Truman-Albright Fellow and policy analyst at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, working to improve the health and safety of Americans.
That effort was recognized from both sides of the political aisle. She and her detailed research appeared in a slew of outlets, includingDemocracy Now!, The Atlantic, and even the Bladeโs West Coast sister publication, the LA Blade, among others. While her work began making headlines informing people about the dangers of under coverage of LGBTQ issues, it also garnered attention from staunch anti-LGBTQ voices.
One of those voices โ and the one Dikhof ultimately credits as the reason she bowed out of the media watchdog world โ was Elon Musk. Musk, the CEO of Tesla, founder and chief engineer of SpaceX, and owner of X, was not pleased with coverage of the platformโs questionable practices under his leadership. The app relaxed censorship policies, dissolved its Trust and Safety Council, and reinstated thousands of previously banned accounts โ many of them far-right accounts found to be pushing harmful misinformation and disinformation.
โHe was trying to silence fact-based journalism that revealed that his platform X was running advertisements next to Nazi content,โ Dikhof said. โWhen you’re facing lawsuits against the richest man in the world, unfortunately, the facts don’t matter as much.โ
She said it led to her being let go from the media watchdog organization โ something she had worked so long to help grow awareness about the dangers of growing authoritarianism on platforms and across the airwaves.
โThat was incredibly devastating. I dedicated my entire adult life to the progressive movement, to trying to stop right wing misinformation, and to have that drop out from under me was defeating, to say the least. But you canโt keep a powerful girl down.โ
She didnโt stay down for long. She tapped into the drag and DJ world after leaving the nationโs capital. Since then, she has expanded on her drag journey and opened for some of the worldโs biggest performers โ from Aliyahโs Interlude, to Violet Chachki, to massive pop superstar Chappell Roan. It seems the Dikhof rocket has taken off and doesnโt look like itโs slowing down.

That switch, she explained, has her feeling like she is doing more for the LGBTQ community than she could at Media Matters.
โI started throwing parties and community events for queer people in Boston, and I now throw parties for over 1,200 people a month,โ she said. โI honestly donโt feel like Iโve ever had more of an impact on queer and trans people than I am now. I believe, from the bottom of my heart, that getting a group of LGBTQ people in a room together and letting them radically express themselves through dance and movement and to build new friendships and to find the love of their life โ is a radical act.โ
Her goal is simple โ provide a place for LGBTQ people, specifically trans people, to let down their hair โ or in her case, giant wigs and fantastical headpieces โ and just dance.
โIโm just trying to give people a space to exist, which for a lot of queer and trans people right now is not something they can do. They donโt feel safe at work, they donโt feel safe at home, they donโt feel safe in public, and the one oasis that they can access is the gay club. Itโs a place where they can dress however they want, they can love whoever they want.โ
That radical act, she explained, should be as inclusive as America is diverse. She sees the waves of conservatism that have hit the federal government โ and state offices around the country swinging to the right โ reflected in the nightlife scene she encounters. LGBTQ clubs have long been a proxy for the social standards in mainstream America, which often focus heavily on young, white, cisgender men.
โIt is one of the most connecting things we can do while weโre on this planet. My guiding light is, I am trying to build dance floors that are multigenerational and multiracial. Iโm trying to start a new chapter in queer nightlife, where dance floors arenโt just dominated by white, buff gay men.โ
While in-person nightlife has led to a diverse dance floor thumping with bops from Slayyyterโs new release โWor$t Girl In Americaโ to gay club classics like Ariana Grandeโs โInto Youโ โ with wild-haired Dikhof at the helm in looks that could make even Cher do a double take โ her rise has also been immensely assisted by some of the very platforms she once called out while living in Washington.
She has amassed quite the following โ 142,000 followers on Instagram, 2.6 million likes on TikTok, and thousands of streams on SoundCloud.
Despite this growing and visibly powerful media presence, she has hard limits on when and where she deems it appropriate. The dance floor is not always one of those places โ not just due to the growing data on the harm social media causes to usersโ health, but also to stay true to her goal of helping the LGBTQ community become a stronger, more accepting place.
โSocial media promises connection and relationships, but itโs not true. What we actually need is a way for people to put their phones down and connect with others in real life,โ she said. โIโm trying to build a coalition that represents the true power of the LGBTQ community, where we can all exist in harmony together. At a lot of my parties, I have a no-phones policy, because what I want people to do is disconnect from social media, disconnect from our system of mass surveillance, and just be present for a few hours.โ

โFor my party, Feral, which is [a] no-phones LGBTQ rager, at the door before anyone enters the party, we tell them our partyโs policies, and we make sure they have a verbal yes agreeing to them,โ she said. โThose policies are no phones, no photos, no videos on the dance floor, treat yourself and others with respect.โ
She sees this intentional inclusivity as a major way to combat the hate trickling down from the Trump-Vance administration and regurgitated by mainstream media organizations that feed into that bias.
โI believe that we can create, and we can continue to build radical change in this country on the dance floor. So much mainstream media has consistently allowed conservative media to set the terms of debate for LGBTQ rights. Mainstream media outlets like the Washington Post, outlets like New York Times, put trans rights up for debate when we can all agree that human rights are not something that we can debate.โ
She continued, explaining that the bias mainstream media imposes โ like with The New York Timesโ consistently criticized coverage of transgender people, which often has little or no actual transgender voices in its reporting โ frames these issues as cultural debates rather than basic human rights.
โThese mainstream outlets donโt debunk those claims. They donโt push back on them. We need to say that lesbians belong at the gay club. We need to say that we donโt tolerate anti-Black discrimination at the gay club. We need to say that trans people deserve to be loud and messy in the gay club, just like everyone else gets to.โ
She explained that what she is trying to do is simple in theory โ make the space truly a dance haven for everyone in the community.
โWhat Iโm really trying to do is Iโm trying to open a portal of transcendence. Iโm trying to create magical moments where all of the problems in the world drop out of your mind.โ
Dikhof attempts to do this, she explained, by tapping into that deeply human โ and animalistic โ need for connection.
โHumans are primates and primates are animals that need physical touch. We need community spaces, and increasingly, with social media, late stage capitalism, and a horrible economic outlook, people donโt have a public forum to connect with others. There have been nights where I have taken a $3,000 loss, but itโs part of it.โ
To her, the value queer nightlife gives to the community canโt be measured by ticket sales or ad clicks โ itโs measured by acts of queer joy and defiance that echo the communityโs need for broader survival in an era of book bans and hostility for the sake of cruelty.
โAll we need is a room for four hours, a DJ, a working sound system, and a community that cares about protecting each other. If you have that, you can create total bliss. I think the beauty and transcendence of queer nightlife is something that Republican lawmakers will probably never understand.โ
She sees the dance floor as just as important for queer people as the Senate floor. Not separate from politics โ it is politics.
โI do believe that having queer community spaces is an integral part of political organizing. We cannot let the bastards steal our joy. Getting out of the house and being loudly queer is a form of resistance.โ

โRight now, Iโm really living my wildest dreams and Iโm hungry. This is just the beginning for Tara Dikhof. Weโre living in a society where we have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions, and God like technology, and I am going to use that God like technology to the best of my ability.โ
Tara Dikhof is currently on her summer tour, starting at Project GLOW for Queer Chaos in Washington. She will return โ after crisscrossing the country โ to perform at Bunker on June 20 during Capital Pride weekend.
Just as humans have always had meals, queer humans, too, have enjoyed meals. Yet what is it that makes “queer foodโ distinct?
At the beginning of May in Montreal, the Queer Food Conference 2026 sought not to answer that question, but to further interrogate it. The conference united scholars, activists, artists, journalists, farmers, chefs, and other food industry professionals for three days of panels, workshops, discussions, and, yes, meals, in an inclusive, thoughtful, contemplative-yet-whimsical environment, taking a comprehensive view of the landscape of queer food.
The two organizers โ Professor Alex Ketchum, at the Institute for Gender, Sexuality, and Feminist Studies of McGill University in Montreal, and Professor Megan Elias, Director of Food Studies & Gastronomy at Boston University โ met in 2022 when Elias acted as a peer reviewer for Ketchumโs second book, โIngredients for a Revolution,” a wide-ranging history of more than 230 feminist and lesbian-feminist restaurants, cafes, and coffeehouses from 1972 to the present in the US.
Elias, taken by the book and its exploration, invited Ketchum to speak at one of Eliasโs courses, at which pastries were served and feminist bread making was baked into conversation. Elias floated the idea of co-organizing a queer food conference โ and a hot 24 hours later, Ketchum said yes, with plans sketched out, from grants to topics to speakers. In parallel, the duo started to conceptualize โQueers at the Table,โ a book based on their work (published last year).
The conference, the book, the research: their work is, in part, grounded in the question: What is queer food? True to queer theory, each has her own nuanced response as drivers of their research, challenging the traditional and looking beyond norms of food studies. Ketchumโs view is that it is grounded on food by and for the queer community, in specific histories, and especially in the labor behind the food. Elias posits that queer food is at the intersection of queerness and culinary studies, beyond gender norms and binaries, back to the societal basics of queer food as part of queer humans always having meals. โQueer food destabilizes assumptions about food, gender and sexuality, making space for a wider range of relationships to food,โ she says.
The academicsโ professed enthusiasm, however, rarely reached beyond small circles.
โI regularly attended big food studies conferences, but almost never saw presentations about gender identity beyond women’s roles,โ says Elias about her prior work, and when her students would ask for additional literature about sexuality and food, results had been sparse. Ketchum echoed this gap: When she was in graduate studies, she received hesitation from leadership about her chosen field of study. By 2024, however, queer food as an area of study and practice had grown, whether in popular culture or well as in publishing, setting the stage for the first Queer Food Conference in 2024 in Boston. Their aim at that even was to launch the subfield of queer food studies into the mainstream, so that fellow academics, students, and those interested in the space could convene, โcreating space for others to build,โ says Ketchum. โPeople were enthusiastic.โ
Once Ketchum and Elias published โQueers at the Tableโ in 2025 (notably, gay author John Birdsall also published a book examining queer identity through food last year, โWhat Is Queer Food?โ), they laid the foundation for the 2026 conference in Montreal. This edition was an โembodiedโ conference, inclusive of various ontologies in queer food studies: theory, labor, art, taste, an interdisciplinary, expansive grounding.
Topics ranged from cookbooks and influencers to farming and land movements, bars and cafes, brewing and baking, history and sociology, writing and printmaking, healthcare and community, and centering marginalized โ especially trans โ voices.
Naturally, food was centered. The conferenceโs keynotes were not academics, but the chefs themselves who created the food with their own hands that attendees ate over the three days. โNot to disregard a pure academic space,โ says Ketchum, โbut to not have food in a room when we talk about food would be wild.โ
Jackson Tucker, a Distinguished Graduate Fellow at the University of Delaware, said that โWhat I found [at the conference] was a genuinely diverse gathering: scholars who did grounded social research but also practitioners, organizers, and people who had never thought about an academic conference in their lives and didnโt need to. That mix is the soul of this whole project for me. Without the people who are out in the world doing queer food, the conference wouldnโt exist.โ
Ketchum โ her home being Montreal โ also worked to fold in community-driven events so that attendees could get a taste of queer food in the city outside of classroom walls; for example, attendees participated in a collaborative evening pizza-making class at a queer-owned pizzeria.
The interdisciplinary nature of the conference led to sharing of research, thoughts, activities, and planning. There was a โvalue of bringing people together of different backgrounds, which leads to richer discussion,โ she says.
Elias picked up on this theme: โI saw people bonding and connecting and believing in Queer Food Studies,โ โ one of the central goals that Ketchum noted, further legitimizing a nascent field. As both professors continue their research and leadership, they envision a continued layering of centering the queer experience and community through the shared value and study of food.
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Gay Men’s Chorus celebrates 45 years at annual gala
‘Sapphire & Sparkle’ Spring Affair held at the Ritz Carlton
The Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington held the annual Spring Affair gala at the Ritz Carlton Washington, D.C. on Saturday. The theme for this year’s fete was “Sapphire & Sparkle.” The chorus celebrated 45 years in D.C. with musical performances, food, entertainment, and an awards ceremony.
Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington Executive Director Justin Fyala and Artistic Director Thea Kano gave welcoming speeches. Opening remarks were delivered by Spring Affair co-chairs Tracy Barlow and Tomeika Bowden. Uproariously funny comedian Murray Hill performed a stand-up set and served as the emcee.
There were performances by Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington groups Potomac Fever, 17th Street Dance, the Rock Creek Singers, Seasons of Love, and the GenOUT Youth Chorus.

Anjali Murthy, a member of the chorus and a graduate of the GenOUT Youth Chorus, addressed the attendees of the gala.
“The LGBTQ+ community isn’t bound by blood ties: we are brought together by shared experience,” Murthy said. “Being Gen Z, I grew up with Ellen [DeGeneres] telling me through the TV screen that it gets better: that one day, it’ll all be okay. The sentiment isn’t wrong, but it’s passive. What I’ve learned from GMCW is that our future is something we practice together. It exists because people like you continue to show up for it, to believe in the possibilities of what we’re still becoming”
The event concluded with the presentation of the annual Harmony Awards. This year’s awardees included local drag artist and activist Tara Hoot, the human rights organization Rainbow Railroad as well as Rocky Mountain Arts Association Executive Director, Dr. Chipper Dean.
(Washington Blade photos and videos by Michael Key)































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