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The ultimate guide to queer gift giving
Perfect presents for everyone from roommates to soulmates
Searching for special deliveries for that special someone? Consider these elf-approved, consciously curated presents perfect for everyone from roommates to soulmates.ย
Star Wars Home Collection

Movie nights in bed get a comfort upgrade from the Force โ for those who uphold Jedi code in the streets but embrace the Dark Side in the sheets โ with Sobel Westexโs Star Wars Home Collection, five- to seven-piece twin, queen and king sets suitable for either alliance. Cop a bootleg of the infamous โStar Wars Holiday Specialโ (legal copies donโt exist, nor has it been rebroadcast since its one-and-only airing in 1978) and settle in for a snacky screening with premade Johnsonโs Popcorn (a Jersey Shore staple) or Pop โN Dulgeโs DIY gourmet kits. SobelAtHome.com, $350-$390; JohnsonsPopcorn.com, $27+; PopNDulge.com, $23
Bird Buddy Smart Feeder

Avian enthusiasts get up close and semi-personal with feathered friends thanks to the Bird Buddy smart feeder that allows safe viewing via a solar-powered, app-enabled camera, along with adorable add-ons like a suet ball holder and three-in-one nutrition set to keep the neighborhoodโs population happy and healthy. MyBirdBuddy.com, $299-$415
Link x Lou Permanent Jewelry Pop-Ups

Jewelry โ but make it an experience. Thatโs the premise behind Link x Lou, a quick-fitting accessory service providing recipients with in-person appointments for custom-linked, clasp-less 14-karat white- and yellow-gold necklaces, bracelets, anklets, and rings that wear until theyโre worn out. Moneyโs on โem lasting longer than the situationship youโve got goinโ, but may the odds be ever in your favor. LinkxLou.com, $55-$500
Orttu Shelton Puffer

Guess whoโs coming to dinner? Itโs you as an alt-timeline Tom of Finland in Orttuโs fully quilted, oversized Shelton Puffer comprised of double-layered high-sheen fabric and press-stud fastening that results in a slick style statement vers-er than you are. Orttu.com, $203
Winter Discovery Mini Scented Candle Set

Apotheke takes the guesswork out of choosing just the right ambiance-inducing aroma with its Winter Discovery Mini Scented Candle Set, featuring six fragrant two-ounce tins in seasonal smells that include birchwood apple, black cypress, blackberry honey, cardamon chestnut, charred fig, and firewood (with a combined 90-hour burn time), and packaged in a nostalgically illustrated gift box accentuated by festive gold detailing. ApothekeCo.com, $64
Polaris General 1000 Sport

Resort communities across the country have adopted golf carts as a preferred mode of transportation, and you can establish yourself as a local baddie in Polarisโ General 1000 Sport โ in ethereal colorways like ghost gray โ equipped with a four-stroke DOHC twin-cylinder engine, 100 horsepower, 1,500-pound hitch-towing capacity, and enough street cred for Boomers to shake their fists at. Polaris.com, $17,500+
โArquivistasโ Crystal Book

Brazilian crystal devotee Tatiana Dorow has curated an impressive collection of more than 1,000 rare and exquisite minerals โ ranging from one ounce to over 5,000 pounds โ the comprehensive record of which is now compiled in the sizable coffee-table tome โArquivistasโ (Portuguese for archivist) thatโs sure to satisfy, delight, and provide endless holiday-party talking points to the New Agers in your life. (You know they will.) ArtAndAnthropologyPress.com, $350
Bovem Globe Trimmer 2.0

There are plenty of manscaping tools on the market, but perhaps none are designed with your delicate bits in mind like the handsome second-gen Bovem Globe body and groin trimmer with its ergonomic textured grip, powerful 6500 RPM with low vibration, varying guards, and replaceable TrimSafe blades that tidy you up without cutting skin or pulling rough hair. Deck the halls! โ no more bloody Christmas balls. Bovem.co, $60-$87
Lexington Glassworks Decanter Set

Pour one out from Lexington Glassworksโ hand-blown whiskey decanter, each one individually crafted in the companyโs Asheville, N.C., studio and detailed with an elegant crackle finish that lends an air of sophistication to any home bar cart. Pair with a set of LGโs complementary rocks glasses, in the same distinguished style, for a cherished gift. LexingtonGlassworks.com, $280
Joule Turbo Sous Vide

Your fave chefsโ autopilot cooking technique hits home countertops in Brevilleโs sleek Joule Turbo Sous Vide stick, which cooks seasoned-and-bagged meats and veggies to a faster-than-ever optimal internal temperature (unattended, no less) before a lickety-split sear and serve results in restaurant-quality dishes deserving of at least a couple Michelin stars for your minimal-mess kitchen. Breville.com, $250
Outlines Shower Liner System

Holiday hosts can practice responsible replenishment amid our planetary plastic-waste crisis when you gift Outlinesโ thoughtfully designed Shower Liner System that provides users with a machine-washable cotton top piece and fully recyclable bottom to replace when itโs time to ditch the grime. Set it and forget it with three-, six- or nine-month auto-deliveries. LivingOutlines.com, $50
Barbie Perfume

Fight the patriarchy doused in Barbieโs sweet-and-fresh fragrance that, from top to bottom, features notes of strawberry nectar and red cherry, peony and pink magnolia, and sandalwood and soft musk for an extraordinary scent thatโs more than Kenough. DefineMeCreativeStudio.com, $65
AiRROBO Pet Grooming Vacuum

Posh pets enjoy salon-style luxury in the comfort of their homes when treated to a grooming session by the AiRROBO vacuum (think Flowbee for cats and dogs), a five-tool, one-stop solution for keeping furbabiesโ hair, dander, allergens and mites to a minimum. The portable pamperer includes an electric clipper, crevice and de-shedding tools, and grooming and cleaning brushes housed in a space-saving, HEPA-filtered capsule. US.Air-Robo.com, $110
Aura Smart Sleep Mask

What does the future of total relaxation and deep sleep look like? Blackout darkness and complete serenity in a dream-state sanctuary when you spend your nights in the Aura Smart Sleep Mask with built-in speakers for guided meditation and snooze-inducing ASMR, zero-pressure eye cushioning, and light and sunrise therapy to help you wake rested and refreshed at home and (especially) away. Indiegogo.com, $190
Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBTQ lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyroxtravels.
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What โQueer Eye for the Straight Guyโ can still teach us
Producer David Collins on lasting impact of hit series
Itโs hard to imagine where LGBTQ+ television would be without โQueer Eye for the Straight Guy,โ the trailblazing reality series that premiered in 2003.
Each episode of this Emmy-winning show saw a group of gays converge on a struggling man โ the titular straight guy โ and offer nonstop wit while organizing his endlessly messy life. This program about a group of homosexual helpers took the world by storm, furthering the love of gay television begun by shows like โWill and Graceโ but bringing it into the growing medium of reality TV. Of course, it wasnโt perfect; โQueer Eye for the Straight Guy” often cast its experts less as multi-faceted queer folks and more as sources of early 2000s gay jokes. But despite these pitfalls, itโs undeniable that the original program explored the realities of being gay in a way audiences had never seen before. It was a monumental piece of LGBTQ+ representation, and its success is largely owed to the man who fought to get this show made: producer David Collins.
Collins spoke with the Blade from his Los Angeles home, where heโs spent the past few years living with his husband and his two daughters. David spoke fondly of his many years in the industry, detailing how it feels to be such a huge part of LGBTQ+ history. He explained, however, that he didnโt initially set out to alter how queer people were seen on television. โI never went out to make gay television,โ said the producer. โI went out to tell great stories.โ
โIโm a hillbilly from Ohio, and I thought I was going to be an editor,โ David laughed, looking back on his career. โI interned at the Cincinnati Film Office, and I showed up to work my very first day, and the film commissioner was like, โGet to the airport right now and pick [someone] up. Donโt talk to them.โ Well, I ended up picking up Jodie Foster.โ Collins raved about this car ride that changed his life, with the pair becoming friends and Foster pushing him to become a producer who puts their own media out into the world. Eventually, he did just that, and after learning about the wild new genre that was reality TV, he pitched a series to Bravo: โQueer Eye for the Straight Guy.”
โI was obsessed with Esquire magazine, and they had five categories: fashion, grooming, interior design, culture, food, and wine. So I gave them each a gay, and the Fab Five were born!โ Collins said, describing how viewers quickly fell in love with the concept and earned the program four seasons and an Emmy for Outstanding Reality Program. He spoke about how proud he felt creating a show that centered real gay people, not characters in a story, remembering, โTo stand in the middle of Times Square and look up and see this massive billboard with the original Queer Eye guysโฆit wasnโt even a dream come true, because it wasnโt a dream I had even fathomed.โ
With his series, people were watching actual gay men and learning the realities of a queer culture that had always been portrayed as a danger to society. Collins tearfully recounted hearing about queer people using the show as a way to connect with their family, saying, โWhat Iโm most proud of thatโs come out of Queer Eye [are] the conversations that that series has allowed to have people around their kitchen tables with little boys in Ohio like me who were scared to death that they were going to burn in hell because their pastor was telling them that they were a sinner.โ
Now, for all of its trailblazing, the program wasnโt wholly positive; the showโs focus on the central โstraight guyโ meant it rarely delved into the lives of its Fab Five. Collins regretted that lack of depth but understood that earlier audiences werenโt accustomed to such a nuanced look into queerness โ that would have to wait for the reboot.
When โQueer Eyeโ came out in 2018, audiences were introduced to not only a new Fab Five, but a whole new format (that didnโt rely on a straight person). Now, the series would assist queer folks and allies alike, spotlighting these individuals as well as the queer experts helping them improve their lives. The show has been applauded for its amazing makeovers, but where it truly stands out is its representation, offering a look into individuals across the country and the struggles โ along with the immense joys โ of being queer in America today.
Fans were disappointed to hear that โQueer Eyeโ would be ending after its 10th season, but David stressed that they wouldnโt have to be sad for long. โWhat I will say to you is this: hang tight,โ he teased. โThereโs yet another version of โQueer Eyeโ to come, and weโre working on that now.โ In the meantime, Collins is continuing his work with new shows like the โHouse of Stassi,โ a series centered on โVanderpump Rulesโโprolific waitress. Heโs excited about these new projects, but emphasized that his heart will always belong to โQueer Eye for the Straight Guyโ and all that it continues to do for viewers 19 years after its finale.
โItโs not about your new outfit or your new couch or your new whatever. Itโs about your humanity,โ said Collins, speaking about the core lesson he hopes people take away from the Queer Eye franchise. โItโs about seeing yourself. Itโs about dignity. Itโs about how confidence breeds success.โ
A valuable message that queer folks can benefit from even more now than they did in 2003. And, while itโs unclear just what lies ahead for this franchise, one thing is for sure: โQueer Eye for the Straight Guyโ helped people everywhere understand the power that exists within our queerness. Itโs a truth that has impacted countless pieces of LGBTQ+ television today, and itโs one that Collins promises to keep alive through whatever hit show he creates next.
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Jason DePuy on coping with homophobia in โBig Brotherโ house
First drag queen contestant on CBS show fought to stay positive
One week after Jason DePuy (known as Salina EsTitties on โRuPaulโs Drag Raceโ) was bullied and eventually evicted from CBSโs “Big Brotherโ house, the queer drag performer is still emotionally processing his feelings.
During his 24 days in the reality TV competition, DePuy often had a rough time, with fellow cast member Kamuela โKamuโ Kirk making homophobic comments and feeling isolated.
In a conversation with Head of Household Rick Devens, Kirk left viewers upset when he said, โBro, miss me with the drag stuff. Miss me. Iโm still an MMA guy, and I have an image to uphold.โ
Former โBig Brotherโ contestant Frankie Grande called his wordsย โhomophobicโ and โgross.โ Another comment, where Kirk said he wanted to end DePuyโs career, also received strong backlash online.
Now that he is out of the house, DePuy has been shocked and deeply touched by the love from โBig Brotherโ fans and former contestants. We chatted with DePuy for this Blade exclusive.
โTo know that my community was rallying for me outside the house was the most wonderful thing. Seeing how much people were just wanting to shower me with love was incredible. Even my friends, I went to say hi and give them a hug, and theyโre like, โUh, uh, come here.โ They had to hold me and let me know America was feeling for me in a way that I had no idea.โ
He added: โTo see that reality was just overwhelming, and I couldnโt ask for more.โ
Known as a messy player in the house, DePuy often had to fight to stay positive and stand up for himself.
โNo one was coming to my rescue. In real life, itโs easy to block people, but in the house, I didnโt have that luxury, so I had to find it within myself to learn how to speak up for myself in a way that wasnโt nasty or biting. I didnโt attack anyone personally, which is what I was the most proud of.โ
DePuy acknowledged he has had a history of putting his foot in his mouth when it came to certain โDrag Race”moments, being in the public eye, and making a fool of himself. โIโve learned my lessons; to see how I handled myself in the โBig Brotherโ house was amazing.โ
While DePuy has been sober for 14 and a half years and has a strong spiritual foundation, in the Big Brother house, he often felt like he couldnโt communicate what he was feeling.
โAs a queer person, a person of color, a drag queen, I have to be very careful about how I move. I donโt have the luxury or privilege to just act a certain way or say a certain thing. I have to be very careful; Iโm representing me. But who I am is a Latino, a person of recovery, a drag queen, a queer person in the community. I know that thereโs a lot of pressure that comes with that. I felt it was safer for me to sit there and just breathe than try to do anything crazy.โ
He continued: โI couldnโt speak to the personal attack that was happening in the house, because in my mind I was like, โno, this is a game, and I have to play it, put that aside.โโ
Not only can viewers watch the episodes, but they can also watch the live feeds of whatโs happening. Seeing the fansโ social media posts from people who had watched the episodes and the live feeds also contributed to DePuy realizing that his feelings of discomfort were valid.
โTo know that I wasnโt delusional in those moments, that others could see what was happening, has been a lot to take in. Fans and friends let me know the comments made went beyond the gameโฆIโm like, โOh, so my instincts were correct.โ
One of the most poignant moments on the live feeds occurred when DePuy was crying, alone in his room, and said how he missed his gay community.
โI really missed my friends. I missed my queer community. Weโre so colorful. Weโre so loud. Weโre so vibrant. We speak off the cuff, and weโre very truthful and honest with how we speak, and itโs fun. We have fun lingo.โ
DePuy had to censor his expressions in the house. โBecause I can say one thing, but it can mean something different to straight people than it does with my queer brothers and sisters. So, there was a sense of code-switching that I had to do. I had to even put aside some of my queerness in a way sometimes to fit in.โ
DePuy was thrilled to be the very first drag queen to ever be cast on the show.
โIโm honored to have been chosen. Thereโs a million drag queens out there, and to know that I was a contender to come in the house and not even be in drag was like a wow for me. Iโm over here in Hollywood, running around these streets with a wig and heels just to make a dollar to survive, and I have to rely on drag to do that. And then to be offered this opportunity and be given the privilege to say, โhey, you donโt have to put on the wig for you to be valuable here,โ is just insane to me.โ
Prior to his shows, DePuy has been hustling for 15 years, flipping burgers and doing drag at night.
โThat has been my life these past since I was 17. So itโs been a long journey; the opportunity to do this out of drag is a very big blessing. Iโm honored and grateful to be the representation of my community.โ
If you missed Jason on โBig Brother: Unlocked,” the episode can be seen on CBS.com. He will be back on the show for the finale.
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Rainbows in Revolt on a mission to make LGBTQ artistsโ voices heard
Rainbows in Revolt on a mission to make LGBTQ artistsโ voices heard
Last monthโs Pride celebration in D.C. was so fun. Walking around my first Capital Pride with a $15 lemonade I was loving the madness and the color. Artists and small businesses battling banks youโve never heard of collecting your personal information so you can spin a wheel to snag free merch. Great music blaring, people actually smiling and enjoying themselves, the โGreatโ American State Fair could never!
The Monument Stage was on Pennsylvania Avenue, directly in front of the National Gallery of Art and I canโt think of a better venue to see live music. How does someone get on the lineup for Pride? How do we accelerate the visibility of the most talented voices in our community to perform in places like this?
There is certainly not a talent gap, but there is a visibility gap. Chappell Roan went from playing for two people in a parking lot to owning the main stage at Coachella in one year. Whether it is shadowbanning or bias in AI, algorithms have been shown to suppress queer artists. In a digital age, how can queer people break through and show the world how talented they are?
Allison and Matt of Rainbows in Revolt are on a mission to make openly LGBTQ+ artistsโ voices heard. Their goal is to find โmusicians whose queerness is central to their identity as an artist,โ and accelerate them to a place where they can actually reach fans.
The only time queer events seem to be in the spotlight is June, but this should be year round, according to Allison and Matt. Rainbows in Revolt wants to act as a โnucleusโ for different sub-communities, finding common ground in the universal language of music.
Matt and Allison founded Rainbows as a way to make cheaper, higher quality merchandise for queer artists. While Rainbows has already pledged 20% of their profits to the LGBTQ+ community, with 10% to Whitman-Walker Health and 10% to LGBTQ+ organizations in need, this is just the beginning of the work that they do.
Rainbows โdoes the dirty workโ that artists normally struggle to do on their own with limited resources. Interviews, artist profiles, social promotion, playlist discovery, radio outreach, and merch-funded support. This work is normally expensive, time consuming, and requires lots of different skills. Musicians donโt want to be editing clips to post online. Standup comedians donโt want to make graphics for their tour dates. They want to write more. They want to focus on their craft.
In addition to helping artists find their audience, Rainbows has built other digital tools to help queer people connect, including an interactive Safe Space Map for most major cities. It is hard to know which places are truly safe and supportive just from a simple Google search. Attitudes and actions change, and there should be a simple way for queer people to find other places that align with them. The Safe Spaces Maps are all up to date, and are tagged and filterable. Instead of relying on forums and word of mouth, Rainbows has created a centralized way to find authentic community quickly.
I had a chance to talk with Allison and Matt at Pride where Lily Erin, one of their signature artists, was performing on the Monument stage. Lily Erin is a folk singer who is familiar and forging her own path. Her bittersweet sound echoes through Acadia, and her garb mirrors the New England athletes I grew up with. Gorp Core meets streetwear. A graphic tee, hiking shorts, and creamsicle Jordans.
Her debut single, โBus Stop,โ tells a sad story about unconditional love, and the conditions that still seem to come with it. Graduating into lockdown, Erin needed a new way to connect with herself and others. Lily made โBus Stop” without an intention to share it, but doing so was a liberation. People have been responding to her honesty around queer-ness, family, and the โghosts which haunt usโ even in the daytime.
Rainbows in Revolt has helped Lily Erin go from bars and backyards to The Monument Stage at Pride. This is a meteoric rise, and a testament to both Erinโs talent and the work of Rainbows to promote her. โA little encouragement goes a long way with early artists,โ and by โplanting a seedโ Rainbows is already seeing their artist garden grow. Community is power, and Erin is a perfect example of how effective simple modern techniques of promotion can be.
A next step for Rainbows is putting on shows themselves. On Oct. 3, Rainbows in Revolt will host an Evening with Ray Boltz at the National City Christian Church. Boltz grew up in the Catholic Church and for many years was the soundtrack to many services, youth camps, and church groups. He was celebrated by millions until he came out in 2008. Allison remembers her community โnever playing his music again.โ
Rainbows in Revolt is helping him to return to the church, and proving that identity does not need to be exclusive. We live in a complicated world with complicated lines being drawn. Boltz proves that these lines donโt exist, and will be breaking down barriers to bring together communities. To Allison, โa trans woman standing next to a straight white man in church is a powerful teacher.โ
The Safe Space maps bridge all types of spaces, and one of the unlikely ones is, perhaps, churches. Matt said that โBYU has only nine safe spaces around their campus and seven of them are churches.โ Not all churches are anti-gay, and many times they are the only place for people to find community.
Rainbows in Revolt is just getting started bridging gaps and building community.
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