Living
Queery: Kellan Baker
20 questions for the LGBT health advocate
Kellan Baker, 28, is one of those how-does-he-find-the-time overachievers whose accomplishments are staggering. He’s been in Washington since 2008 working full-time as a senior policy associate for the National Coalition for LGBT Health while simultaneously working on a master’s in global public health policy and international development at George Washington University.
The Thousand Oaks, Calif., native, who identifies as queer, started aiming high in college where he double majored in astrophysics and Russian literature. He’d read a translation of famous Russian novel “The Master and the Margarita” and felt he wasn’t getting a full appreciation for the nuances, so he learned Russian and eventually spent three-and-a-half years in Moscow working as a translator of scientific papers and later as a reporter.
“I just love Russian language and culture,” he says. “It’s very different. It’s like anytime you’re living somewhere and living and understanding the language and not having this filtered version and not having someone else decide what’s interesting, what’s funny, what’s word play.”
Baker, who’s also fluent in German and French, says he was about 14 when he began to realize he was different. It eventually led him into LGBT activism, a passion that grew more intense during his years abroad. “A lot of issues in the states are completely messed up and completely unfair, but by the same token, seeing what goes on in other countries … it’s exposed me to things that I was able to take for granted in the states.”
There were some practical considerations as well. “At some point I realized nobody wanted to read my devastatingly original thoughts on Dostoyevsky, shockingly, so I got into public health,” he says self-deprecatingly.
Baker lives in Brightwood and is on the board of the D.C. Center. He formerly co-chaired D.C. for Marriage. He’s in a relationship and is happy in Washington where he says he’ll likely stay after graduation, at least for a while though he’d like to eventually live and work abroad again.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I have always known that I was different from most of the other little kids in elementary school and from what people expected me to be. The process of understanding what it means to me to be queer and how I express that has been a lifelong process that isn’t finished yet, though I’m 28 now. The people with whom I’ve had the hardest conversations are my mom and dad – we’ve gone through a lot together and are now closer than ever.
Who’s your gay hero?
Bayard Rustin, one of the leaders of the civil rights movement who was also a gay man. His activism for civil rights, justice and peace was informed by his sexuality but not defined by it, and for me, that’s the ideal. Sexual orientation, gender identity, skin color, or whatever might be the issue that drives our passion and gets us out of bed in the morning, should never be the be all, end all of who we are either as people or as activists.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
For getting my dance on, I can never beat a good night at Town. I don’t get out often enough, though, so I’m sure there are lots of great places that I’m missing.
What’s your dream gay wedding?
My dream wedding – gay or not – is in a beautiful, natural setting surrounded by family and friends. A hillside winery in Santa Ynez Valley in Southern California comes to mind, or a spring wedding in D.C. (before the weather gets hot).
What non-gay issue are you most passionate about?
I worked for Special Olympics for a long time both in the U.S. and abroad and have always loved the sense of pulling together and camaraderie that Special Olympics teams have. Everyone’s in it to win it, but also just to have a great time.
What historical outcome would you change?
I would learn how to stop worrying and love the bomb. No, really, it’s hard to pick just one. How about the creation of HMOs by Richard Nixon? I just got a doctor’s bill the other day in which insurance had denied the doctor $400, paid $100, and left me with the balance of almost $200. Isn’t that what we supposedly pay insurance premiums to avoid?
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
The release of the complete seasons of “Sex and the City” on DVD.
On what do you insist?
My privacy.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
LET THE COUNTDOWN BEGIN: The official match schedule for 2010 FIFA World Cup in South Africa.
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“A Survival Guide to Life with High Femmes: How to Balance Your Mother, Your Girlfriend and Your Cat.”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Start a recruitment drive for Team Queer – since they think they can change us, why not return the favor?
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
I’m a cradle Episcopalian, though I’m still not sure what implications that has for my “religious” beliefs about any higher powers. I love the liturgy and history of the Episcopal Church, as well as its insistence on reason alongside scripture and tradition.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Think outside the gay box – work with other movements to focus on issues that impact more than just LGBT people and to show that we really are an integral part of the fabric of all kinds of families and communities.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
Cat food that meets my cat’s demanding requirements, particularly when I’ve been out of town and she’s giving me the cold shoulder.
What gay stereotype annoys you most?
That gay is an acceptable convenient shorthand for the entire LGBT community and that all LGBT people are white and well off.
What’s your favorite gay movie?
“Some Like It Hot”
What’s the most overrated social custom?
That having e-mail and a mobile phone means you should be instantly accessible at all times.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
A MacArthur Fellowship
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
That I’m not as important as I thought I was.
Why Washington?
I came to D.C. for graduate school after spending four years abroad in Russia and Austria and absolutely love it. I especially love the sense of almost small-town community that can happen in a city only 10 miles square, the varied and distinct neighborhoods, and the trails in Rock Creek Park. D.C. to me is the perfect mix of an intimate, livable city and a hotbed of fascinating domestic and international work.
The latest Honda Civic hatchback and Subaru Impreza are two of the segment’s stars. Both offer sensible pricing, excellent utility and enough personality to avoid feeling like appliances.
The Civic is more polished. The Impreza, more rugged. Luckily, neither is trying to be obnoxiously flashy.
HONDA CIVIC
$28,000
MPG: 30 city/38 highway
0 to 60 mph: 8.9 seconds
Cargo space: 24.5 cu. ft.
PROS: Fuel efficient. Spacious cargo area. Good resale value.
CONS: No all-wheel drive. Fussy infotainment. Low rear headroom.
WHAT’S NEW: Only minor updates for 2026. The biggest change carries over from last year’s refresh: the addition of the hybrid, which has become a star performer.
The Honda Civic hatchback won’t scream for attention. It won’t arrive wearing sequins and carrying a smoke machine. It’s more like Nomi Marks from “Sense8”: intelligent, sophisticated and impressively capable.
The styling remains handsome and clean. Long hood. Low roofline. Crisp lines everywhere.Honda resisted the urge to make this vehicle look like a spaceship or an angry robot. That’s refreshing.
Inside, the dashboard is simple and elegant. The honeycomb air-vent treatment remains one of the coolest interior details in the segment. Materials feel expensive. Controls are easy to understand. And visibility is excellent.
I love how the cargo space is generous, with rear seats that fold flat. A bicycle, several suitcases or enough supplies for an ambitious weekend road trip fit without much hassle.
Then there’s the hybrid. The system produces a healthy amount of power while delivering fuel economy that borders on the absurd. Around town, handling feels smooth, quiet and surprisingly quick. You almost glide through traffic. The standard gasoline engine isn’t bad, but the hybrid is stellar.
The Civic also shines on twisty roads. Steering is precise. Body motions stay controlled. The suspension strikes a sweet balance between comfort and sportiness.
Biggest weakness? No all-wheel drive. For drivers in snowy climates, that’s not so good.
Still, the Civic’s stellar combination of efficiency, quality, and driving enjoyment remains incredibly hard to beat.
SUBARU IMPREZA

$27,000
MPG: 27 city/33 highway
0 to 60 mph: 8.5 seconds
Cargo space: 20.4 cubic feet
PROS: All-wheel drive. User-friendly tech. Safety cred.
CONS: No hybrid version. Some road noise. Modest cargo room.
WHAT’S NEW: The Impreza receives relatively minor updates for 2026. Subaru continues refining this hatchback rather than reinventing it.
If the Honda Civic is urbane, the Subaru Impreza is unfussy. There’s a kind of Kristen Stewart energy here. Cool without trying too hard.
The styling isn’t dramatic, but it works. This hauler appears ready to tackle rain, snow, dirt roads or an impromptu weekend escape.
And all-wheel drive comes standard on every Impreza. (Most competitors only offer front-wheel drive or include all-wheel drive as a pricey option.)
The result: Slippery roads simply don’t create much anxiety. The suspension absorbs bumps nicely. Long trips are comfortable. Visibility is great, thanks to relatively thin roof pillars and large windows.
I like how the cabin is functional rather than fancy. Materials don’t quite match the Civic’s upscale vibe, but everything feels sturdy. A large infotainment screen dominates the dashboard and generally works well, though some drivers may prefer more physical buttons.
Cargo space is respectable, and the design makes loading bulky items easy.
Performance depends heavily on trim. The base engine gets the job done, but nobody will confuse it for a sports car. The RS trim’s larger engine provides more power and makes the ride livelier. But even then, acceleration remains merely adequate.
The Impreza’s real appeal lies elsewhere, with a mix that few rivals can match: hatchback practicality, standard all-wheel drive, strong safety scores and reasonable pricing.
Perhaps that’s the key difference between these two hatchbacks. The Honda Civic impresses immediately. The Subaru Impreza grows on you.
Fortunately, choosing between them is less stressful than deciding who gets the last mimosa at brunch.
Real Estate
When buying a home, it’s decisions, decisions, decisions
Keeping notes on the process makes for an informed purchase
When looking to buy a home, there are lots of details to consider. Many of my clients would come to me and say, “Joe I want to buy a place, but I haven’t decided which neighborhood to buy in.” And the struggle was real. A few clients had everything decided from the color of the hallway walls to the cabinet handles and sometimes which three square blocks they wanted to look at.
But other clients were occasionally looking at properties in areas as distinct as Union Market/NOMA, Brookland, Logan Circle, and then we would even go across the river to look at a property in Shirlington or the Van Dorn areas of Virginia, which all have their own unique flavor and characteristics.
Sometimes clients would tell me, “I only want to look in Mount Pleasant or Adams Morgan.” Or, “don’t even show me any properties west of this street or south of that street.” My job wasn’t to convince people where to live. It was to just take the parameters they set for me and find as good of a property in that zone as I could, coordinate the showings and, if necessary, offer the strategy.
One can see that buyers often had more decisions to make than a seller. From a seller’s perspective, the house was where it was, and we just had to make the best of it. But working with a buyer could mean looking at five different neighborhoods, and then being a “thought partner” to help them figure out which were the top two or three areas they had seen, and then further distilling those down into what was available and weighing those options against each other.
One house could have the dream bathroom but also be located six blocks further from a Metro stop, walkable shopping and dining, and “just too far away from my friends.” Another house could have all the neighborhood options a client was looking for, but was just not in turnkey condition, and would require an additional $30,000 of upgrades once purchased to make it into the dream home they envisioned.
One activity I often asked buyers to do was to keep an active list in their heads of the properties they liked, and to keep a running rank of the top three. I often encouraged them to bring a notebook along on the journey where they could take notes and write down questions they thought of as they looked. It was an important decision, and sometimes the largest purchase of their lives. Why not take it a little seriously, and take notes? This could often help the buyer later when they felt it was time to decide.
The point here is, keeping a notebook handy can sometimes help a person with what feels like an overwhelming process. It provides a space to explore how one feels, jot down important details to remember, and then use that to make an informed decision.
Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with RLAH. Reach him at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].
Real Estate
Under-the-radar Delaware beach towns smart buyers are targeting
There are other options if Rehoboth prices are scaring you off
Look, we love Rehoboth. We will always love Rehoboth. Queer folks have been flocking there since the 1940s, and with scores of LGBTQ-owned businesses and a Pride calendar packed tighter than the boardwalk in July, “Rehomo” earned its crown fair and square.
But let’s be honest with each other: trying to buy property there right now feels a lot like trying to get a reservation at the one good restaurant in town on a Saturday in August. Everyone wants in, inventory is tighter than your swim trunks after Labor Day brunch, and the prices have officially entered “are you kidding me” territory.
So here’s a thought: What if you didn’t fight the crowd? What if, instead, you let Rehoboth keep doing its glorious, chaotic, glitter-bomb thing and you quietly built your beach life 15 minutes away for considerably less drama and considerably more square footage? Here are four towns ready for their close-up.
Lewes: The Charming Overachiever
Lewes is what happens when a beach town actually has its life together. Historic charm, walkability, proximity to Cape Henlopen State Park, less crowding, and a strong year-round community. Unlike towns that turn into ghost towns after Labor Day, Lewes maintains a real community all year long, which is more than we can say for some situationships.
And right now, the market is practically begging you to make a move. It’s one of the most desirable and stable markets in the county — built for buyers thinking long-term, not flippers, and Sussex County overall has flipped into genuine buyer’s market territory for the first time in years. Translation: you finally get to be the one with leverage.
Bethany Beach: My Personal Pick
Full disclosure: I own in Bethany. So consider this section a little biased — and also the most honest thing I’ll tell you in this whole article.
When I drive down from D.C., I’m not looking for more of D.C. I love this city, but I also love leaving it — and yes, some of the people in it too (you know who you are, and so do I). Bethany gives me that full exhale. It’s quiet in the way that actually means something: fewer crowds, slower mornings, a soundtrack that’s mostly waves instead of nightlife. It leans hard into its “quiet resort” reputation, with low property taxes and a limited geographic footprint, and it is not the least bit sorry about it.
But quiet doesn’t mean isolated. I’ve got a genuinely excellent food scene nearby, real shopping, and a string of charming neighboring beach towns — and when I do want a taste of Rehoboth’s energy, it’s a short, easy drive away. I get to choose my dose of chaos instead of living inside it.
And here’s the part that matters most for this article: the price. If you’ve looked at Rehoboth listings and quietly closed the tab in despair, I need you to hear this — you can absolutely afford a beach house. It just doesn’t have to be in Rehoboth. Bethany’s average home value sits around $848,592, which is still real money, no question — but it buys you more house, more land, and more peace than the same budget gets you closer to the boardwalk. Bethany is welcoming too, just without Rehoboth’s decades of built-in queer institutional history — and for plenty of us, that trade-off is more than worth it.
Fenwick Island: Small Town, Big Flex
Fenwick rarely gets mentioned and, frankly, it should be insulted. It’s tiny, it’s quiet, and it has beach access without the carnival energy. The market data tends to lump it in with Bethany, where single-family oceanfront homes clear $1 million while entry-level condos start in the $600s — proof that “under-the-radar” doesn’t mean “bargain bin,” it means “fewer people fighting you for it.”
South Bethany: For the Boat Gays
Some of us want sand between our toes. Others want a private dock and a boat named something deeply unserious. South Bethany’s canal communities are built for the latter — water access on both sides, fewer crowds, and a lifestyle that says, “I have a captain’s hat and I am not afraid to wear it.”
The Math Works in Your Favor Now
Here’s the part that should really get your attention: Sussex County’s median sold price has dropped to $440,000, down 3.3% year-over-year, and buyers are routinely closing around 88 cents on the dollar compared to asking price. That’s a far cry from the unhinged bidding wars of 2021 and 2022, when overpaying was basically a competitive sport. Inventory across the county sits at nearly 2,500 active listings — the most of any county in Delaware, meaning you actually get to be picky for once. Revolutionary, we know.
And no, choosing one of these towns doesn’t mean leaving your people behind. Sussex Pride serves the entire county, not just Rehoboth proper, and CAMP Rehoboth’s resources extend well beyond town limits too. You’re not exiling yourself to the suburbs of queerness — you’re just getting a bigger kitchen, a quieter porch, and a much shorter line for the bathroom.
Add in the fact that Delaware has no estate tax and some of the lowest property taxes around, savings that genuinely add up over a retirement horizon, and the case writes itself. Rehoboth will always be the beating, sequined heart of queer beach culture in Delaware. But if you’ve been telling yourself a beach house isn’t in the cards — I’m here to tell you it absolutely is. It just might be 15 minutes south, with your own quiet porch, your own salt air, and considerably more room to breathe.
Have a real estate question or Rehoboth market tip? Reach out to [email protected] for LGBTQ-friendly real estate resources in the Rehoboth area.
Justin Noble is a Realtor licensed in D.C., Maryland, and Delaware with Monument Sotheby’s International Realty. Reach him at [email protected] or 302-897-7499.
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