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U.S. Women’s soccer stars Ali Krieger and Ashlyn Harris announce engagement

The couple plan to wed this year

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U.S. Women’s soccer teammates Ali Krieger and Ashlyn Harris are engaged.

The couple announced that they have been engaged since September in an interview with People on Wednesday.

Krieger, 34, and Harris, 33, first met in 2010 when they became teammates for the U.S. National Team.

ā€œWe became really close friends, and we just hung out, we clicked, and we had so much in common,ā€ Harris told People. ā€œWe always sat next to each other on the bus and on flights, and we kind of just talked about our dreams and our hopes and what we wanted to do one day when we grew up. Because at the time, we were kids. The rest has kind of been history. Here we are nine years later, and weā€™re going to be getting married this year.ā€

On Sept. 15 at a picnic on Clearwater Beach, Fla., Harris proposed to Krieger. They decided to keep their engagement a secret to be professional at work.

“We wanted to be professional and make sure that we showed up every day and did our job and it wasn’t just because we were together, it was because we love what we do, and we’re really good at what we do,” Krieger says. “And that was most important for us.”

However, now the couple is ready to be open about their relationship status.

ā€œWe became more and more confident within and ourselves and then clearly within our relationship,ā€ Harris says. ā€œWe were like, now is the right time ā€¦ and I feel like itā€™s a massive weight off of my shoulders. Finally, after all these years, I just feel like I donā€™t have to hide anything or feel like Iā€™m not living up to the community Iā€™m in.ā€

Krieger and Harris both play for Orlando Pride with Krieger serving as a defender and Harris as the goalkeeper. They plan to wed towards the end of the year in Florida.

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PHOTOS: Freddie’s Follies

Drag show held during venue’s 24th anniversary weekend

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A scene from Freddie's Follies drag show on Saturday. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)


Freddie’s Follies drag show was held atĀ Freddie’s Beach Bar in Arlington, Va. on Saturday, March 22. Performers included Destiny B. Childs, Sorority Heights, Sasha Adams Sanchez, Alameda Sanchez, and Gigi Paris Couture. The weekly show was held on the 24th anniversary weekend of the opening ofĀ Freddie’s Beach Bar.

(Washington Blade photos by Michael Key)

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Television

No, ā€˜Mid-Century Modernā€™ is not a ā€˜Golden Girlsā€™ remake

And thatā€™s a good thing

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The cast of ā€˜Mid-Century Modern.ā€™ (Photo courtesy of Hulu)

Thereā€™s long been a desire for a gay version of ā€œThe Golden Girls.ā€

GenX (and younger) fans who have loved that showā€™s iconic quartet of aging female ā€œfrenemiesā€ have been clamoring for it since the actual ā€œGolden Girlsā€ was still on the air ā€“ so by the time the creators of ā€œMid-Century Modernā€ came up with the idea for a show about three gay friends ā€œof a certain ageā€ (and one cantankerous mother) living together in Palm Springs, it was hardly an original idea. Yet even if they werenā€™t the first to fantasize about a show featuring the gay male equivalents of Dorothy, Blanche, Rose, and Sophia, it hardly matters. They were the ones that actually made it happen.

Thatā€™s due in large part to who they are – or at least, what theyā€™ve done before. The two men who hatched the plot (Max Mutchnick and David Kohan) were also responsible for ā€œWill & Grace.ā€ After they teamed up for a brainstorming session with queer TV powerhouse Ryan Murphy ā€“ who eagerly joined forces with them as the showā€™s executive producer ā€“ there was enough viability behind it to bring the long-gestated dream to fruition at last.

The ā€œat lastā€ came this week, when all 10 episodes of the showā€™s debut season dropped on Hulu, and itā€™s undeniable that there was not only a dream behind it, but also a considerable amount of talent ā€“ most obviously in its casting. Headlining (as ā€œlingerie mogulā€ Bunny Schneiderman) is longtime stage/screen/TV star Nathan Lane, a multi-award winner who is a legend for his ā€œBird Cageā€ performance alone, with eternally hunky Matt Bomer adding a whole different flavor of star power as ditsy-but-sweet-hearted (and blithely promiscuous) flight attendant Jerry. The trio of friends is rounded out by former fashion columnist Arthur, played with imperious aplomb by Nathan Lee Graham, a lesser-known but equally well-rounded veteran performer whose resume includes roles in ā€œZoolanderā€ and ā€œPriscilla, Queen of the Desert,ā€ as well as a guest appearance on ā€œAbsolutely Fabulous.ā€ Finally, sitcom royalty (and Tony-winner) Linda Lavin ā€“ who passed away in December, after filming had completed on the showā€™s inaugural season ā€“ is on hand to steal scenes as Sybil, Bunnyā€™s pull-no-punches mother, who owns the house they all live in and makes sure to assert her matriarchal dominance at every opportunity.

In the pilot episode, titled ā€œBye, George,ā€ Bunny, Jerry, and Arthur reunite to mourn the death of an old companion, with whom the trio of friends once formed a quartet. With each of them facing the uncertainty of a new life after changes in the old one have left them to cope on their own, Bunny decides to invite his two remaining buddies to move with him to Palm Springs, to live with his mother Sybil in a spectacular mid-century modern (hence the name) house that would probably make Frank Sinatra jealous. The arrangement, however, becomes precarious even before it officially begins, when Bunny connects with a much-younger hook-up and becomes smitten ā€“ forcing his two would-be roommates into a scheme to bring him back to his senses before he rescinds their invitation and offers it to his new ā€œboyfriendā€ instead. Itā€™s classic sitcom material, of course, with lots of crossed wires and jumped conclusions to fuel the wackiness ā€“ though in this case, at least, the show stops short of the zany hijinks one might expect from Lucy and Ethel (or even Rose or Blanche) before wrapping things up with a friendship-affirming bow. We canā€™t fault it for that; thereā€™s a premise to be launched here, after all.

Besides, thereā€™s plenty of other comfortable old-school sitcom fun to be had throughout: a sparring match between Arthur and Sybil, whose love-hate dynamic quickly sets the stage for an ongoing battle of sharp wits and sharper tongues; the air-headed naivete of Jerry, with Bomer both leaning into and undercutting the clichĆ© of the pretty-but-dumb aging ā€œtwunkā€; and Bunnyā€™s sincere but impulsive starry-eyed sentimentality, which is frequently undercut by his ā€œDorothy-esqueā€ natural instinct (and Laneā€™s natural talent) for bitchy queendom.

Yet while there are clear choices to mirror the iconic personality traits of the original ā€œGolden Girlsā€ crew in ā€œMid-Century Modern,ā€ the new series seems less regimented in defining each of its characters quite so succinctly, opting instead for a sort of ā€œblendā€ in which the familiar personas of the former showā€™s leading ladies are spread a little more evenly between the four of them together. The result is a show that is obviously a new variation on an established theme, but one in which echoes of the original can be detected in each of its disparate elements rather than confined within the plainly-delineated parameters from which they have been inherited. To put it more plainly, itā€™s a show that acknowledges and embraces the material which inspired it, but goes beyond mere imitation to carve a space of its own. Neither a remake nor a reboot, itā€™s more like an offspring, a separate entity unto itself despite the DNA it shares with its progenitor.

Which is, of course, the only way a show like this can have any real chance of success; to attempt a direct copy of the series that inspired it would spark inevitable (and well-deserved) criticisms of laziness, along with the myriad quibbles which would undoubtedly arise from displeased ā€œGolden Girlsā€ fans; yet to diverge too radically from the established format would eliminate the very reason for its existence. Its seasoned creators were savvy enough to know that a gimmick only goes so far, and they build a show that leaves room for growth beyond its origin as a nostalgic homage into a series with the potential to succeed in its own right. And with the first season helmed by director James Burrows (an 11-time Emmy-winner for his work on shows like ā€œTaxi,ā€ ā€œCheersā€ ā€œFrasierā€ and ā€œWill & Graceā€), who brings the experienced hand necessary to create the kind of authentically ā€œretroā€ piece of entertainment that this one aspires to be, the old-school vibe feels as fresh as it did when ā€œThe Golden Girlsā€ debuted ā€“ almost 40 full years ago.

Whether that nostalgic pull is enough to make the show a hit is hard to predict. It has laugh-out-loud moments, and convincingly reasserts the importance of genuine friendship and chosen family that has always been a common element in such shows. At the same time, while ā€œThe Golden Girlsā€ was unequivocally queer-friendly, it was not specifically queer-themed. Given todayā€™s polarized sensibilities around queer content, the timing might be wrong to permit this decidedly queer evolution of its premise ā€“ which saucily pulls no punches when it comes to the details of queer sexuality as personified in its three very different but equally randy protagonists ā€“ to have the same universal appeal that made it a long-running mainstream hit.

Only time will tell. For now, you can watch the entire first season on Hulu, and make that call for yourself. For our part, weā€™re just happy to have another high-profile queer show to enjoy, because we all really need that right about now.

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ā€˜Hurt Capitalā€™ chronicles young life of bipolar, trans writer

New book from Isaac Amend a rich and complicated tale

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ā€˜Hurt Capitalā€™ is available now at Amazon and from other retailers.

Washington Blade contributor Isaac Amend has published a new book, ā€œHurt Capital,ā€ chronicling a range of topics related to his transgender status, a personal struggle following a psychotic breakdown, and more.  

BLADE: Why did you write this book and why now?

ISAAC AMEND: In college, I was an avid writer for the Yale Daily News, and tried to prepare myself for a good writing career, taking classes with Pulitzer Prize-winner Michael Cunningham, and other notable authors, including Anne Fadiman and Cynthia Zarin. But when I got out of college, I spent six or seven years in the real world, outside of Ivy gates, racking up experiences to write about ā€” whether it was falling in love with a woman, getting hit by a car in Cyprus, or being manic for 13 months straight. But once all of those things were done, I went back to my literary roots, frantically scribbling books and articles in my room at night. Now I want to have some sort of writing career, and I can partly thank the Blade for that, as you welcome most of my op-eds. 

I felt like it was important to write about bipolar disorder in very honest and raw terms. I experienced a psychotic break from reality when I was 19 years old that I felt ashamed to tell everyone in my life about, but now I want to come clean with it. Recovering from a psychotic break is a complicated process, and Iā€™ll never really know if my mind has fully recovered, but I do know that because of my break from reality, Iā€™m able to tackle difficult problems in life without getting scared. I feel like itā€™s also important for the general public to know about how much hurt and pain transgender people feel on a daily basis, hence the name ā€œHurt Capital.ā€ 

BLADE: Who’s the audience for your book?

AMEND: Itā€™s funny, this is a question that all authors need to answer in a book proposal to agents, and I did exactly that, querying dozens of agents. My book has three target audiences. The first are expats, or expatriates. These are people who live overseas ā€” either on embassies in South Asia or in suburban compounds on the outskirts of Moscow. These are the places that I grew up in, and I felt ā€œgenderlessā€ for some of my time as an expatriate, frolicking to and fro with not a worry in the world as I grew up in Pakistan and India. I want to connect with other people who have lived overseas. 

The second target audience for my book are twins. I have an identical twin named Helen who is my best friend. Iā€™m constantly trying to be a good brother to her, whether itā€™s helping her move apartments or buying her groceries. We connect on a very deep level, and Iā€™m sure that my gender transition partly shocked her and in some ways, may have made her feel upset. Itā€™s a unique phenomenon when one identical twin wants to be a man, and the other one wants to stay a woman. Iā€™ll never fully understand how God made me bipolar and trans while he made my twin sister non-bipolar and cisgender. 

The third target audience for my book are individuals with mental health issues. I want to connect with other people who have also gone through psychotic breaks, been manic, talked at the speed of light, felt depressed, or felt so anxious that they had to pop a lot of pills and stay in bed. I want to connect with people who suffer from schizophrenia, bipolar, ADHD, and OCD, among many other diseases. These disorders are so complicated in nature, but we need to be honest about their dimensions and how to best treat them. 

BLADE: How long did it take to write and what was your process? 

AMEND: The book didnā€™t take me long to write. I churned out around 5,000 to 7,000 words in one week, then I had a 500 word per day policy ā€” itā€™s a policy I implement with all of my books. I would write 500 words per day usually at a bar at night. I was living in D.C. back then and would frequent Nanny Oā€™Brienā€™s, a well-known Irish dive bar open late. I would pull out my iPhone and write 500 words (but usually more) in Google Docs. There were all sorts of characters at Nanny Oā€™Brienā€™s ā€” bartenders who would scream at me if I didnā€™t tip enough, people from the Russian embassy, and famous politicos who would bring their golden retriever in tow. I almost got into a fistfight there with a Russian diplomat, but still miss the memories that bar curated. I even told my landlord at the time that I associated Nanny Oā€™Brienā€™s with the book. 

BLADE: What are you thoughts on how the new Trump administration has attacked trans rights and do you see any hope in the near future?

AMEND: Itā€™s a travesty, whatā€™s going on. The new administration is cruel beyond belief, yet I still retain some semblance of hope for the future. I see our nation as divided, but a nation that still elects an almost equal amount of Republicans to the presidency as it does Democrats. Most large cities in the U.S. are dominated by progressive people who understand the value in diversifying sexuality and gender identities, and celebrating that diversity. I always tell people to ā€œvote with their feet,ā€ as in, if you have the privilege of being able to move to a new location, move to a city that is full of liberal minded people. But many trans youth donā€™t have the privilege of moving; they are stuck in schools full of students that bully them for their gender. Indeed, there is a massive mental health crisis happening among trans youth. The Trump administration has banned everyone under the age of 19 from receiving gender affirming care, and that is cruel. I have spoken openly about my belief that adolescents and other youth should be able to access puberty blockers, and I maintain that stance. 

This seems out of left field, but Iā€™ve seriously thought about pooling money together to pay for trans youth to receive medical care in Canada. Itā€™s sort of a gauche idea, because trans youth presumably need to stay in school in the U.S., and their parents would have to agree to them going up north, but the idea still persists in my head. I guess I dream of ways that these kids can feel better, and receiving care in Canada comes to mind. 

BLADE: What’s your message to young trans kids who are frightened during these difficult times?

AMEND: Keep your head up. Older trans people like me are fighting for you to have better lives. If someone tries to put you down in school just remember that they are putting you down out of an insecurity they harbor about themself or the world. Secretly, they feel inferior. Donā€™t forget that the qualities that you bring to the table ā€” your unique gender and/or sexual identity ā€” is what makes you beautiful. 

BLADE: There are many queer memoirs out there; what’s unique about your story?

AMEND: My story is intersectional, meaning I weave a story about a transgender man who is also bipolar and is a twin and grew up overseas in Saudi Arabia, Pakistan, India, Russia, and Jordan. Itā€™s not a one-dimensional story. Itā€™s rich and complicated with tales of being manic and going on testosterone and being psychotic and hoping that I donā€™t lose all of my marbles in front of my twin and little sister and the rest of my family. I speak of KGB henchmen in Russia and spooks here in D.C. (kind of like that Russian diplomat who almost tried to punch me). I speak of many thingsā€”not just being queer.

The following is an excerpt from ā€œHurt Capital,ā€ which is available now at Amazon and other retailers.

Dear Mom,

The pills in my bathroom cabinet are sitting next to each other like fifteen linebackers on a football field. Bolton. Edmunds. Greenlaw. Wagner. Warner. The Chiefs are winning, and I havenā€™t even spotted Travis Kelce yet. Theyā€™re all famousā€“each single pill bottleā€“each capsule I need to swallow with orange juice at night. I get the high pulp kind, now, from Trader Joeā€™s, that costs around four bucks. Semi pulp doesnā€™t put the tablets down fast enough. Iā€™ve got every kind of med imaginable since my first episode ten years ago. 

Bipolar has never felt so bad. But itā€™s also never felt so good. The mania that lasted for a year last September has crept away, but its high still remains in my head. At least partly. Partially. Essentially. Basically, it was awesome. I celebrated at every turn. Went walking for hours on end, only to feel my breath creeping into my lungs, and out, past midnight, when I dreamt of fairytales and candy cane land and piles of dollars stacked so high in front of Rick Ross. So high that he forgot he sold coke. I forgot he sold coke. I forgot a lot of that year, Mom. 

Iwant to be like Rick Ross one day. I want to star in a song with Drake. Rapping about lemon pepper chicken and taking my celebrity son to French Montessori. I want to be a hustler, a gangster at every turn, a coke warlord just fiending for a kingdom. The kingdom I create is in my mind: itā€™s ruled by Dostoevsky and Tolstoy and even Pushkin. I named a cat after Pushkin. Russian writers have never felt so real. I want them to come back from the dead and resurrect themselvesā€“all polished and everything. No wax. I remember visiting Tolstoyā€™s grave with you in Moscow, when henchmen roamed the city at night and CIA officers were prowling the embassyā€™s corridors. I was scared in Moscow. Scared back then. Scared of my female body. But now itā€™s a male one, and Iā€™m a son. Iā€™m your son, Mom. But Iā€™m troubled. Very troubled indeed.  

I went to a soccer game again. We are named Footyholics. We played near Logan Circle, in the backyard of a school, and I swear the soccer ball was going to kill me. It hit my head, with a bangā€“not a whimperā€“and zoomed past some crust on my earlobes. My black stud almost shook for a bit. I clenched the ring you got me on my index finger. You got it from Delhi, and now Iā€™m remembering things back there as well, when you and I lived in India. But there are many things I still canā€™t remember, Mom. Just trust me on that one. Trust me. 

Hereā€™s one thing I do remember, though: getting in that car accident with you. In Delhi. You were all up in the front seat, and Helen and I were in the back. And a motorcyclist went clamp on the right window, and his flesh and blood were splayed all near for us to see. He died that day, and I think thatā€™s the first time I ever saw you cry. I only saw you cry a second time, when Dad was in Kabul, and you missed him like hell, and Phoebe had a tantrum on the National Gallery steps, and you drove us back home, teary-eyed, and you just sat crying that day, in the DC suburbs. And there was not a damn thing I could do about it. 

We lost the soccer game. Footyholics lost. But we grabbed a few beers after, at a place near the traffic circle, where expats and missionaries and bankers were fiending for a beer as well, all alike, just as I was fielding for a kingdom in my head. I swear this city is ruled by sociopaths sometimes. They just crawl around here, like ants around a hill, waiting to wreak havoc. 

At the bar we were sitting outside, on a wooden table, and we all ordered some beers and some tacos and stuff. And some burritos with chicken. And I swear I shouldnā€™t drink, but Iā€™m just like your husbandā€“thereā€™s nothing that tastes better than alcohol in this world, Mom. But beer is bad for me. Itā€™s bad for a guy who thinks a soccer ball is going to kill him. At the restaurant, I spotted a street sweeper brushing away leaves. I suddenly fixated on the sweeper: on his crew cut, his black boots, his leather skin. I thought he was manic for leaves. I also thought the waitress hated Jesus until a cross kissed her neck. I thought many things, Mom, and none of them were true. 

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