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Akil Patterson: My double life as a gay athlete

Hudson Taylor helped me realize my two identities could co-exist

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Akil Patterson and Hudson Taylor (left) of Athlete Ally (Photo courtesy of Patterson)

Six years ago, Hudson Taylor was in the midst of his three-time All-American career at the University of Maryland. I was an assistant coach on the team and also ran a nonprofit called the Terrapin Wrestling Club with a friend who was a devout Catholic. Everyday, my friend and I would attend Mass at noon, have lunch, arrive at the Comcast Center by 2:30 p.m. and listen in on the dayā€™s locker room discussion before practice began. It was often filled with debate on a range of topics, from the first season of the television show ā€œDexterā€ to Barack Obamaā€™s bid to become the Democratic presidential nominee. And normally, Taylor was behind it all. There was another subject that kept coming up and his arguments with one particular teammate on this specific subject became heated and full of controversy: LGBT rights.

Talk about gays and gay rights had always made me nervous. As a college football player and wrestler, Iā€™ve been out to my family since my senior year, but I hadnā€™t told my team or my coaching staff. I made a point to have two lives and never wanted to mix the two in any way, shape or form. Being an athlete and being gay are both fundamental to my identity, yet all of my life experience had taught me that the two could not co-exist.

As a closeted coach, I stood in that locker room listening as Taylor defended gay marriage, gay rights, and reconciled the issues of faith and acceptance. I saw something in him that I lacked in myself because of the pain inflicted by the heterosexual community in sports and the disconnect I felt from the LGBT community.

Taylor, open minded and polished, vehemently defended LGBT rights to his teammates because he felt he was living in two worlds as well. In addition to being a nationally ranked wrestler, he was also a theater major. And he just didnā€™t understand why one of his worlds was so accepting of any type of sexual orientation and another was not. So he spoke out. Sometimes, when things got tense in the locker room, he would change tactics and wow the crowd with his card tricks or his easy-going, self-effacing manner. Despite disagreeing with him at times, teammates loved Taylor because he always gave you his heart. Three seasons filled with arguments, trips to Colorado, two ACC titles and an NCAA top-10 finish culminated with Taylor competing in headgear slapped with an HRC sticker and the logo for equality. Many members of the team had no idea what it was, though I did. And so in the hallway outside of the locker room, I asked Taylor if he would be willing to be interviewed for an article by a friend who wrote for Outsports. Inspired by the response to that article, Taylor and his wife, Lia, founded Athlete Ally and in the process, helped ignite a movement.

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Athlete Ally works to improve the lives of LGBTQ athletes by being a support system, which is something many of us never had growing up in sports. For many, the name calling and the bullying ended any hopes of playing on a team or being in a locker room because being made to feel ā€œless thanā€ anyone else was too much to bear. Others, like me, continued to play and wished that someone, anyone really, at some point, would take a stand for or with you. Now, with our allies, LGBT leaders are paving a way for the next generation to compete and be open and happy.

Athlete Ally isnā€™t about the ally being our voice, itā€™s about teaching our allies to stand up with LGBTQ athletes so we can speak with one voice, in resounding thunder, to declare to the sports world that we will no longer let our friends and colleagues be bullied or pushed around. No longer should our friends be ashamed to have their boyfriends and girlfriends come down to the field and embrace them after scoring the game-winning point or making the game-winning throw.

Athlete Ally conducts programmatic work to develop inclusion of LGBT athletes in sports on almost every level, working with major sports leagues with partnerships like the NBA, NFL Players Association, USA Wrestling and many more. On both the professional and collegiate level, Athlete Ally has an active Ambassadors program across the country taking up the fight and being active leaders and role models for their peers.

Taylor helped change the life of this coach, who had been in his corner so many times. I coached at Maryland while keeping my sexual orientation a secret, but the truth was, I was a gay, black manĀ looking for acceptance, love, and understanding from the family I loved so very much in the sport of wrestling.Ā I had already lostĀ so much in footballĀ after I came out to my college team during my senior year. No one, including myself, was prepared to fully deal with the ramifications of my disclosure and the impact was devastating. So although I hadĀ achieved great success on the field as a two-time All American, no feeling would ever compare to the day, years later, when I watched my colleague, my athlete, and my friend say to his fellow wrestler that day in the Terrapin locker room, “So what if your brother is gay? Why are you so scared of something that you know nothing about?ā€

In a perfect world, Athlete Allyā€™s mission almost seems simplistic: make sure all athletes, in any sport, compete in a safe and welcoming environment. Since we donā€™t live in that perfect world, this task is much more challenging than many people will ever realize. Fortunately for all of us, Athlete Ally was founded by someone who knows how to wrestle any foe in his path.

Akil Patterson serves on the Athlete Ally advisory board and is the director of the Terrapin Wrestling Club, which fuels the Olympic dream for all ages and skill levels.

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Fact: The next president will be Biden or Trump

One candidate is clearly better for the future of the world

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Like it or not, the next president will be either Joe Biden or Donald Trump. In our system, third-party candidates are simply spoilers, they donā€™t win. The last time a third-party candidate won was 1856. It has been 36 years since a third-party candidate even got more than 5% of the vote. So, itā€™s time to face reality and choose; for your future, do you want Biden or Trump? 

I was prompted to write this column because I see the media interviewing young people about who they want as their president. I have great respect for the young people of today. In many ways, they are smarter than my generation was. But itā€™s clear, some donā€™t fully understand the presidential election process. I hear many complain about Biden, and then follow that up and say they will never vote for Trump. Some then say they will vote for a third-party candidate. They need to understand their third-party candidate will not win, but their vote could help elect Trump. I hate to say it, but in 2024, voting for a third-party candidate is the equivalent to flushing your ballot down the toilet. 

I am an unabashed Biden supporter. I see the great things he has done, including: getting us through the fallout from the pandemic, passing an infrastructure bill, forgiving billions in student loans, ensuring our economy is the best in the world with more than 13 million jobs created, and increasing wages. He supports unions, being the first president to walk a picket line with the UAW. His administration is working to deal with climate change. He is fighting for a womanā€™s right to control her own body and healthcare, and supports full equality for the LGBTQ community. In this dangerous world he has kept our troops out of war.

Then there is Trump. To be clear; I see him as a racist, sexist, misogynistic, homophobic, pig. OK, so maybe I donā€™t have strong feelings about him. Trump has been found liable for sexual assault and has been indicted on 91 counts. He proudly claims credit for having taken away control of their body and healthcare from women, when the justices he appointed ended Roe v. Wade. He supports states making decisions on abortion, and we see what recently happened in Arizona. He is a climate change denier and is opposed to wind and solar power. He wants to give more tax deductions to the rich and to corporations, while opposing any increase in the minimum wage. He opposes equality for the LGBTQ community, refusing to endorse the Equality Act. He opposes student debt relief.

You may see these candidates differently, and that is OK. But if you like one more than the other, fear one more than the other, or just arenā€™t enamored by either, you must still make a choice and vote for one of them. Staying home is abrogating your civic responsibility, and especially if you would never vote for Trump, understand your staying home helps him. 

Young voters, like all voters, should take the time to do the research on both candidates. Then match what you find as close as possible to what you want to see as your future. If you want student loan relief, equality for the LGBTQ community, women having control of their body and healthcare, equal pay for women, efforts to ameliorate the impact of climate change, then clearly Trump is not your candidate. 

I hear some young people say they wonā€™t vote for Biden because of his positions on the Israel/Hamas war. I, too, have called for Israel to recalibrate how they fight this war. But I ask you to look again at Trumpā€™s history of attachment to Netanyahu, even going so far as relocating the U.S. embassy to Jerusalem. If you want a chance for the Palestinian people to live in peace and prosperity, for Israel to remove their settlements from the West Bank, your chance of having that happen is clearly better with Biden than Trump. Donā€™t let your emotions today, cloud the reality of the future.

Yes, Biden is old, but so is Trump. He apparently canā€™t even stay awake at his own trial having nodded off two days in a row.Ā  So, since one of them will be president, with no third-party candidate having a chance, I urge you to look at them again, in a realistic way. Then make your choice. I think you may come to the same conclusion I have. Though not perfect, and no one is, Biden is the better candidate for your future, and for the future of the world.Ā 

Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist. He writes regularly for the Blade.

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Donā€™t avoid drug education on 4/20 day

Cannabis culture continues to grow in the District

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In 2023, the law was signed to expand the Districtā€™s medical cannabis program. It also made permanent provisions allowing residents ages 21 and older to self-certify as medical cannabis patients. Overall, cannabis is fully legal in D.C. for medical and recreational use, and 4/20 Day is widely celebrated. 

Medical cannabis, for example, has a long history with the LGBTQ community, and they have often been one of the oldest supporters of marijuana and some of the most enthusiastic consumers. Cannabis use also has a long history of easing the pain of the LGBTQ community as relief from HIV symptoms and as a method of coping with rejection from society. 

The cannabis culture continues to grow in the District, and as a result, so does the influence on younger people, even youth within the LGBTQ community. Drug education can play an important role and should not be avoided during 4/20 Day. Parents and educators can use drug education to help their kids understand the risks involved with using marijuana at a young age. 

According to DC Health Matters, marijuana use among high school students has been on the decline in the District since 2017. In 2021, it was estimated that around 20% of high school students use marijuana, a drop from 33% in 2017. Nationally, in 2020, approximately 41.3% of sexual minority adults 18 and older reported past-year marijuana use, compared to 18.7% of the overall adult population.

When parents and educators engage with their kids about marijuana, consider keeping the conversations age appropriate. Speaking with a five-year-old is much different than speaking with a teenager. Use language and examples a child or teen would understand. 

The goal is to educate them about the risks and dangers of using cannabis at a young age and what to avoid, such as edibles. 

Most important, put yourself in your kid’s shoes. This can be especially important for teenagers as they face different social pressures and situations at school, with peer groups, or through social media. Make a point of understanding what they are up against. 

When speaking to them about cannabis, stay calm and relaxed, stay positive, donā€™t lecture, and be clear and concise about boundaries without using scare tactics or threats. 

Yet, itā€™s OK to set rules, guidelines, and expectations; create rules together as a family or class. Parents and educators can be clear about the consequences without lecturing but clearly stating what is expected regarding cannabis use. 

Moreover, choose informal times to have conversations about cannabis and do not make a big thing about it. Yet, continue talking to them as they age, and let them know you are always there for them.     

Finally, speak to them about peer pressure and talk with them about having an exit plan when they are offered marijuana. Peer pressure is powerful among youth, and having a plan to avoid drug use helps children and students make better choices. Ultimately, it is about assisting them in making good choices as they age. 

Members of the LGBTQ community often enter treatment with more severe substance use disorders. Preventative measures involving drug education are effective in helping youth make good choices and learn about the risks.

Marcel Gemme is the founder of SUPE and has been helping people struggling with substance use for over 20 years. His work focuses on a threefold approach: education, prevention, and rehabilitation.

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Walking the pathway to national cannabis legalization

Social equity needs to be front and center in our efforts

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As we gear up for a major election year, the buzz around cannabis legalization is getting louder. Policymakers are starting to see the need for comprehensive reform, while advocates and small business owners in the industry are cautiously optimistic about the future. But let’s not kid ourselves, this system was designed to keep certain communities out, and it’s crucial that we continue to address these deep-rooted inequities as we blaze the trail forward. A step toward legalization that doesn’t prioritize equity and dismantle the barriers that have held back marginalized groups would be a major bummer. In this op-ed, we’re going to take a groovy journey through the evolution of grassroots organizing in the cannabis industry and highlight the importance of social equity in achieving true national cannabis legalization and boosting our humanity along the way.

Over the years, I’ve been right in the thick of it, helping to build grassroots organizations like Supernova Woman and Equity Trade Network. These groups have been on the frontlines, fighting for cannabis programs in Oakland and San Francisco. I’ve also rocked my own brand, Gift of Doja, and organized the first Cannabis Garden at a major neighborhood street fair, Carnaval San Francisco. I even served as chair of the first Cannabis Oversight Committee in the nation. But the real magic has always happened in when working in coalitions. Each individual and organization brings a unique piece to the puzzle. Grassroots organizing is as challenging as crafting a democratic society but is worth the effort in generating workable implementable solutions. Collective efforts have been game-changers in shifting public opinion and paving the way for major policy changes at both the state and local levels.

As we navigate the path toward cannabis legalization, lobbyists and lawmakers can’t forget about the small business owners who have been grinding to build their dreams. Political advocacy and lobbying are important, but if we’re not uplifting the voices and experiences of those who have been fighting on the ground, we’re missing the mark. Big companies can hire lobbyists, but small business owners donā€™t have that luxury and if we are not in the room we are on the table. Coalitions allow for us to be in the room when we canā€™t physically be there. Our communities, especially people of color, have been hit hard by systemic oppression, from over-policing to mass incarceration and limited economic opportunities to limit our ability to be in the room of power and decision making.

Social equity needs to be front and center in any cannabis legalization efforts. It’s not enough to just remove criminal penalties or create a legal market. We need to actively work on repairing the damage caused by years of prohibition. That means fighting for resources, investment, and low-interest loans for small businesses. It means creating a tiered fee and tax structure that doesn’t crush the little guys. And it means opening up equity programs to all industries, not just cannabis. Social justice without economic access and repair is like a joint without a lighter – it just won’t spark the change we need. We have a responsibility to evolve the economy and break down unnecessary barriers. Activism, social justice, and economic reform are all connected, man.

Industry leaders, culture creators, advocates, and consumers alike, we all need to step up and promote social equity. It’s on us to support initiatives that provide resources, mentorship, and funding for individuals from affected communities to enter the legal cannabis market. And let’s not forget the power of our wallets. Buying from companies that align with our values and support the work we believe in can send a powerful message. Voting with our dollars might just be more impactful than showing up at the ballot box.

As we head into a major election year, the cannabis industry is at a crossroads. It’s a time for drumming up voter interest and for candidates to make promises that grassroots organizations have fought hard for. Small business owners will be navigating a tricky landscape, but we can’t lose sight of the power of collective work. By keeping social equity at the forefront, we can undo the harms of the past while building new frameworks that will shape a brighter future for all.

In conclusion, grassroots organizing has been the driving force behind shifting public perception and pushing for policy changes in the cannabis industry. But let’s not forget that true national cannabis legalization can only be achieved if we address social equity. It’s time for us to come together, listen to the voices of those most impacted, and walk the high road towards a future where cannabis legalization isn’t just about business opportunities, but also about healing and empowerment for all communities. Let’s light up a joint of social justice and blaze a trail towards a better tomorrow.

Nina Parks is co-founder of Equity Trade Network & Supernova Women. Reach her at [email protected].

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