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QUEERY: Lynne Barstow

The Congressional Chorus alto answers 20 gay questions

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Lynne Barstow (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Singing comes naturally for Lynne Barstow and before joining Congressional Chorus, she sang exclusively in LGBT choirs.

She met her partner of 22 years, Leslie Pionke, in a gay chorus in Los Angeles and joined the Lesbian and Gay Chorus of Washington “before our boxes were even unpacked,” upon moving here 20 years ago.

“For us, it was the best way to meet people and become active in our community,” the 58-year-old Los Angeles native says. “For many years we performed in the Capitol Hill Arts Workshop’s annual Gilbert & Sullivan productions. Now the Congressional Chorus is my choral home and I have 80 new friends, gay and straight, who share the joy of performing a wide variety of music. I am constantly in awe of the talent that surrounds me.”

Congressional Chorus opens its 32nd season on Sunday, Nov. 18 at 4:30 p.m. at Church of the Epiphany (1317 G St., N.W.) with “Poets, Painters & Dreams: an afternoon of music and dance inspired by Marc Chagall, Sara Teasdale & Langston Hughes.” The chorus will be joined by dancers from the Joy of Motion Dance Center.

“It will lift the audience into a musical dreamscape we could all use right now in these overly plugged-in political times,” Barstow says. “Turn off CNN and spend an afternoon instead with the love poems of Sara Teasdale and the fanciful imagery of artist Marc Chagall.”

Barstow, who sings second alto, says her favorite piece on the program is “Dreams,” composed by Chorus accompanist Chris Urquiaga.

All three composers will be in attendance. Tickets are $32-39 ($19 for students). Upcoming concerts in 2019 are slated for March 23 (“Jazz Hot!”), June 1 (“Let Justice Roll”) and July 3 (“Civil Rights Concert Tour”). Details at congressionalchorus.org.

When she’s not singing, Barstow works as a flight attendant for Delta Airlines. She flies to Europe weekly with Delta and moved to Washington after “a very persuasive woman I met in a lesbian bar on a layover almost 30 years ago convinced me D.C. was the best city on the East Coast.”

They live in Capitol Hill with daughter Ryanne. Barstow enjoys travel, long bike rides, “pretending to” play the banjo and “keeping up with my German and Russian language skills” in her free time.

 

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?

I came out at age 24. No guilt, no hesitation, just elated to tell my parents I had fallen in love. The fact that “she” was not a “he” seemed a minor detail to me. After all, my uncle was gay and we all loved him. If they struggled with my news, they never showed it or attempted to sway me otherwise. Hardest person to tell? My 14-year-old sister, who was mostly concerned I would never be a mother. Read on.

 

Who’s your LGBT hero?

My newest LGBT hero just stepped out of Kansas last week and into Congress. Watch out, America! Sharice Davids, Native American and lesbian, is in the House!

 

What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present? 

Alas, the Phase and the Banana Cafe here on Capitol Hill are now history, but rather than sit home reading the Gay Bar obits, I think I’ll surprise my partner with a Saturday date night at Cobalt. (I know about it, because I just Googled it.)

 

Describe your dream wedding.

My idea of a dream wedding would be going to someone else’s dream wedding. Even though I consider myself a romantic and cheer our right to marry, I’m also a Sagittarian. The only aisle I’ll most likely ever walk down in this life will be on a Boeing 767.

 

What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?

My family would tell you I’m out to save the planet one straw and plastic bag at a time. It’s easy to stress over the minutia of recycling, but the big picture is we do need to become more aware of protecting vulnerable marine life and our oceans. Don’t get me started on to-go cups and polystyrene containers!

 

What historical outcome would you change?

If only those 19 men had decided the night before to take a reflective nature walk under a starry September sky, they might not have ever boarded those planes.

 

What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?

My first girlfriend and I lived in Santa Monica in 1995 and became obsessed with the O.J. Simpson trial. We went downtown to the courtroom three times to watch the proceedings and see who we would run into in the ladies room. I still have a drawing that the court sketch artist signed and gave to me.

 

On what do you insist?

The list is long, yet I will narrow it down to these: kindness, reading, exercise, your headphones being off when I talk to you. And, oh, would it be too much to insist on a POTUS who respects core American values?

 

What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?

The day before the midterms, I posted the flyer to our upcoming Congressional Chorus concert: Poets, Painters and Dreams. “Make your voice heard Nov. 6th and we’ll make our voices heard Nov. 18th!”

 

If your life were a book, what would the title be?

My life published in two volumes: Volume I: “Ready For Take-off!” Volume II: “Just Landed. It’s Good To Be Home.”

 

If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?

Don’t fact check me, but I feel quite confident that an impressive number of LGBT scientists employed in genetic research would never allow this to happen. As a back-up plan, however, I would enlist every PFLAG chapter across the country (led by Betty DeGeneres) to march wherever our proud mothers and fathers are needed to change minds.

 

What do you believe in beyond the physical world? 

I’m a student of “A Course In Miracles.” I believe a shift in perception from fear to love will awaken us to God, our authentic selves and ultimately to inner peace. Our souls are eternal; our bodies a suit of clothes we take off at the end of our earthly journey.

 

What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?

Please share the resources we have here in D.C. with towns and cities across America. Whitman-Walker’s Insemination Support Group helped us realize our dream of motherhood. Rainbow Families, a few years later, introduced us to families who looked like ours. At the Rainbow Family Conference in May, our daughter, Ryanne (13), spent the entire day with the Teen Group and never once rolled her eyes. In fact, she loved it. These services are indispensable.

 

What would you walk across hot coals for?

I would crawl across hot coals to eradicate the reckless, tragic use of guns in our culture and heal the fear and hate behind every pulled trigger.

 

What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?

I hear there are folks in this country who feel LGBT people are unfit to be parents. That is annoying. Apparently they haven’t met the dozens of loving, stable same-sex families we have had the good fortune to know across the DMV.

 

What’s your favorite LGBT movie?

Hands down, the movie that came out the year I did — “Desert Hearts.” If you start me thinking about that motel scene, I might not be able to finish this interview.

 

What’s the most overrated social custom?

Anything that involves men, beer and elite college parties. I hear this combination can sometimes lead to a lot of trouble down the road.

 

What trophy or prize do you most covet?

Time to reveal my reality TV addiction. I would covet the chance to outwit, outplay and outlast my ridiculously buff, good-looking teammates to earn the title of sole “Survivor.” It would make my mother and daughter endlessly proud. My partner? She would be too busy watching “Downton Abbey” to notice.

 

What do you wish you’d known at 18?

At 18, I wish I had known how much I’d miss my grandparents after they died. All the questions I would never get to ask them, the stories left untold. Every person is a living library, they say. Don’t be so busy, young person, that you forget to check out these most valuable books right in your own family.

 

Why Washington?

Remember that persuasive woman I met in the lesbian bar 30 years ago? After she introduced me to Kramer’s Books and Afterwords Cafe, there was no way I was going to move to New York!

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What ‘Queer Eye for the Straight Guy’ can still teach us

Producer David Collins on lasting impact of hit series

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It’s hard to imagine where LGBTQ+ television would be without “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy,” the trailblazing reality series that premiered in 2003. 

Each episode of this Emmy-winning show saw a group of gays converge on a struggling man — the titular straight guy — and offer nonstop wit while organizing his endlessly messy life. This program about a group of homosexual helpers took the world by storm, furthering the love of gay television begun by shows like “Will and Grace” but bringing it into the growing medium of reality TV. Of course, it wasn’t perfect; “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” often cast its experts less as multi-faceted queer folks and more as sources of early 2000s gay jokes. But despite these pitfalls, it’s undeniable that the original program explored the realities of being gay in a way audiences had never seen before. It was a monumental piece of LGBTQ+ representation, and its success is largely owed to the man who fought to get this show made: producer David Collins. 

Collins spoke with the Blade from his Los Angeles home, where he’s spent the past few years living with his husband and his two daughters. David spoke fondly of his many years in the industry, detailing how it feels to be such a huge part of LGBTQ+ history. He explained, however, that he didn’t initially set out to alter how queer people were seen on television. “I never went out to make gay television,” said the producer. “I went out to tell great stories.”

“I’m a hillbilly from Ohio, and I thought I was going to be an editor,” David laughed, looking back on his career. “I interned at the Cincinnati Film Office, and I showed up to work my very first day, and the film commissioner was like, ‘Get to the airport right now and pick [someone] up. Don’t talk to them.’ Well, I ended up picking up Jodie Foster.” Collins raved about this car ride that changed his life, with the pair becoming friends and Foster pushing him to become a producer who puts their own media out into the world. Eventually, he did just that, and after learning about the wild new genre that was reality TV, he pitched a series to Bravo: “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.” 

“I was obsessed with Esquire magazine, and they had five categories: fashion, grooming, interior design, culture, food, and wine. So I gave them each a gay, and the Fab Five were born!” Collins said, describing how viewers quickly fell in love with the concept and earned the program four seasons and an Emmy for Outstanding Reality Program. He spoke about how proud he felt creating a show that centered real gay people, not characters in a story, remembering, “To stand in the middle of Times Square and look up and see this massive billboard with the original Queer Eye guys…it wasn’t even a dream come true, because it wasn’t a dream I had even fathomed.”

With his series, people were watching actual gay men and learning the realities of a queer culture that had always been portrayed as a danger to society. Collins tearfully recounted hearing about queer people using the show as a way to connect with their family, saying, “What I’m most proud of that’s come out of Queer Eye [are] the conversations that that series has allowed to have people around their kitchen tables with little boys in Ohio like me who were scared to death that they were going to burn in hell because their pastor was telling them that they were a sinner.”

Now, for all of its trailblazing, the program wasn’t wholly positive; the show’s focus on the central ‘straight guy’ meant it rarely delved into the lives of its Fab Five. Collins regretted that lack of depth but understood that earlier audiences weren’t accustomed to such a nuanced look into queerness — that would have to wait for the reboot. 

When “Queer Eye” came out in 2018, audiences were introduced to not only a new Fab Five, but a whole new format (that didn’t rely on a straight person). Now, the series would assist queer folks and allies alike, spotlighting these individuals as well as the queer experts helping them improve their lives. The show has been applauded for its amazing makeovers, but where it truly stands out is its representation, offering a look into individuals across the country and the struggles — along with the immense joys — of being queer in America today.

Fans were disappointed to hear that “Queer Eye” would be ending after its 10th season, but David stressed that they wouldn’t have to be sad for long. “What I will say to you is this: hang tight,” he teased. “There’s yet another version of ‘Queer Eye’ to come, and we’re working on that now.” In the meantime, Collins is continuing his work with new shows like the “House of Stassi,” a series centered on “Vanderpump Rules’”prolific waitress. He’s excited about these new projects, but emphasized that his heart will always belong to “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” and all that it continues to do for viewers 19 years after its finale. 

“It’s not about your new outfit or your new couch or your new whatever. It’s about your humanity,” said Collins, speaking about the core lesson he hopes people take away from the Queer Eye franchise. “It’s about seeing yourself. It’s about dignity. It’s about how confidence breeds success.”

A valuable message that queer folks can benefit from even more now than they did in 2003. And, while it’s unclear just what lies ahead for this franchise, one thing is for sure: “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” helped people everywhere understand the power that exists within our queerness. It’s a truth that has impacted countless pieces of LGBTQ+ television today, and it’s one that Collins promises to keep alive through whatever hit show he creates next. 

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Jason DePuy on coping with homophobia in ‘Big Brother’ house

First drag queen contestant on CBS show fought to stay positive

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One week after Jason DePuy (known as Salina EsTitties on “RuPaul’s Drag Race”) was bullied and eventually evicted from CBS’s “Big Brother” house, the queer drag performer is still emotionally processing his feelings.

During his 24 days in the reality TV competition, DePuy often had a rough time, with fellow cast member Kamuela “Kamu” Kirk making homophobic comments and feeling isolated.

In a conversation with Head of Household Rick Devens, Kirk left viewers upset when he said, “Bro, miss me with the drag stuff. Miss me. I’m still an MMA guy, and I have an image to uphold.”

Former “Big Brother” contestant Frankie Grande called his words  ‘homophobic’ and ‘gross.’ Another comment, where Kirk said he wanted to end DePuy’s career, also received strong backlash online.

Now that he is out of the house, DePuy has been shocked and deeply touched by the love from “Big Brother” fans and former contestants. We chatted with DePuy for this Blade exclusive.

“To know that my community was rallying for me outside the house was the most wonderful thing. Seeing how much people were just wanting to shower me with love was incredible. Even my friends, I went to say hi and give them a hug, and they’re like, ‘Uh, uh, come here.’ They had to hold me and let me know America was feeling for me in a way that I had no idea.”

He added: “To see that reality was just overwhelming, and I couldn’t ask for more.”

Known as a messy player in the house, DePuy often had to fight to stay positive and stand up for himself. 

“No one was coming to my rescue. In real life, it’s easy to block people, but in the house, I didn’t have that luxury, so I had to find it within myself to learn how to speak up for myself in a way that wasn’t nasty or biting. I didn’t attack anyone personally, which is what I was the most proud of.”

DePuy acknowledged he has had a history of putting his foot in his mouth when it came to certain “Drag Race”moments, being in the public eye, and making a fool of himself. “I’ve learned my lessons; to see how I handled myself in the ‘Big Brother’ house was amazing.” 

While DePuy has been sober for 14 and a half years and has a strong spiritual foundation, in the Big Brother house, he often felt like he couldn’t communicate what he was feeling. 

“As a queer person, a person of color, a drag queen, I have to be very careful about how I move. I don’t have the luxury or privilege to just act a certain way or say a certain thing. I have to be very careful; I’m representing me. But who I am is a Latino, a person of recovery, a drag queen, a queer person in the community. I know that there’s a lot of pressure that comes with that. I felt it was safer for me to sit there and just breathe than try to do anything crazy.”

He continued: “I couldn’t speak to the personal attack that was happening in the house, because in my mind I was like, ‘no, this is a game, and I have to play it, put that aside.’”

Not only can viewers watch the episodes, but they can also watch the live feeds of what’s happening. Seeing the fans’ social media posts from people who had watched the episodes and the live feeds also contributed to DePuy realizing that his feelings of discomfort were valid.

“To know that I wasn’t delusional in those moments, that others could see what was happening, has been a lot to take in. Fans and friends let me know the comments made went beyond the game…I’m like, ‘Oh, so my instincts were correct.”

One of the most poignant moments on the live feeds occurred when DePuy was crying, alone in his room, and said how he missed his gay community.

“I really missed my friends. I missed my queer community. We’re so colorful. We’re so loud. We’re so vibrant. We speak off the cuff, and we’re very truthful and honest with how we speak, and it’s fun. We have fun lingo.”

DePuy had to censor his expressions in the house. “Because I can say one thing, but it can mean something different to straight people than it does with my queer brothers and sisters. So, there was a sense of code-switching that I had to do. I had to even put aside some of my queerness in a way sometimes to fit in.”

DePuy was thrilled to be the very first drag queen to ever be cast on the show. 

“I’m honored to have been chosen. There’s a million drag queens out there, and to know that I was a contender to come in the house and not even be in drag was like a wow for me. I’m over here in Hollywood, running around these streets with a wig and heels just to make a dollar to survive, and I have to rely on drag to do that. And then to be offered this opportunity and be given the privilege to say, ‘hey, you don’t have to put on the wig for you to be valuable here,’ is just insane to me.”

Prior to his shows, DePuy has been hustling for 15 years, flipping burgers and doing drag at night.

“That has been my life these past since I was 17. So it’s been a long journey; the opportunity to do this out of drag is a very big blessing. I’m honored and grateful to be the representation of my community.”

If you missed Jason on “Big Brother: Unlocked,” the episode can be seen on CBS.com. He will be back on the show for the finale.

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Rainbows in Revolt on a mission to make LGBTQ artists’ voices heard

Rainbows in Revolt on a mission to make LGBTQ artists’ voices heard

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Lily Erin, one of Rainbows in Revolt’s signature artists, performed at Capital Pride in June. (Photo courtesy of Rainbows in Revolt)

Last month’s Pride celebration in D.C. was so fun. Walking around my first Capital Pride with a $15 lemonade I was loving the madness and the color. Artists and small businesses battling banks you’ve never heard of collecting your personal information so you can spin a wheel to snag free merch. Great music blaring, people actually smiling and enjoying themselves, the “Great” American State Fair could never!

The Monument Stage was on Pennsylvania Avenue, directly in front of the National Gallery of Art and I can’t think of a better venue to see live music. How does someone get on the lineup for Pride? How do we accelerate the visibility of the most talented voices in our community to perform in places like this?

There is certainly not a talent gap, but there is a visibility gap. Chappell Roan went from playing for two people in a parking lot to owning the main stage at Coachella in one year. Whether it is shadowbanning or bias in AI, algorithms have been shown to suppress queer artists. In a digital age, how can queer people break through and show the world how talented they are?

Allison and Matt of Rainbows in Revolt are on a mission to make openly LGBTQ+ artists’ voices heard. Their goal is to find “musicians whose queerness is central to their identity as an artist,” and accelerate them to a place where they can actually reach fans.

The only time queer events seem to be in the spotlight is June, but this should be year round, according to Allison and Matt. Rainbows in Revolt wants to act as a “nucleus” for different sub-communities, finding common ground in the universal language of music.

Matt and Allison founded Rainbows as a way to make cheaper, higher quality merchandise for queer artists. While Rainbows has already pledged 20% of their profits to the LGBTQ+ community, with 10% to Whitman-Walker Health and 10% to LGBTQ+ organizations in need, this is just the beginning of the work that they do.

Rainbows “does the dirty work” that artists normally struggle to do on their own with limited resources. Interviews, artist profiles, social promotion, playlist discovery, radio outreach, and merch-funded support. This work is normally expensive, time consuming, and requires lots of different skills. Musicians don’t want to be editing clips to post online. Standup comedians don’t want to make graphics for their tour dates. They want to write more. They want to focus on their craft.

In addition to helping artists find their audience, Rainbows has built other digital tools to help queer people connect, including an interactive Safe Space Map for most major cities. It is hard to know which places are truly safe and supportive just from a simple Google search. Attitudes and actions change, and there should be a simple way for queer people to find other places that align with them. The Safe Spaces Maps are all up to date, and are tagged and filterable. Instead of relying on forums and word of mouth, Rainbows has created a centralized way to find authentic community quickly.

I had a chance to talk with Allison and Matt at Pride where Lily Erin, one of their signature artists, was performing on the Monument stage. Lily Erin is a folk singer who is familiar and forging her own path. Her bittersweet sound echoes through Acadia, and her garb mirrors the New England athletes I grew up with. Gorp Core meets streetwear. A graphic tee, hiking shorts, and creamsicle Jordans.

Her debut single, “Bus Stop,” tells a sad story about unconditional love, and the conditions that still seem to come with it. Graduating into lockdown, Erin needed a new way to connect with herself and others. Lily made “Bus Stop” without an intention to share it, but doing so was a liberation. People have been responding to her honesty around queer-ness, family, and the “ghosts which haunt us” even in the daytime.

Rainbows in Revolt has helped Lily Erin go from bars and backyards to The Monument Stage at Pride. This is a meteoric rise, and a testament to both Erin’s talent and the work of Rainbows to promote her. “A little encouragement goes a long way with early artists,” and by “planting a seed” Rainbows is already seeing their artist garden grow. Community is power, and Erin is a perfect example of how effective simple modern techniques of promotion can be.

A next step for Rainbows is putting on shows themselves. On Oct. 3, Rainbows in Revolt will host an Evening with Ray Boltz at the National City Christian Church. Boltz grew up in the Catholic Church and for many years was the soundtrack to many services, youth camps, and church groups. He was celebrated by millions until he came out in 2008. Allison remembers her community “never playing his music again.” 

Rainbows in Revolt is helping him to return to the church, and proving that identity does not need to be exclusive. We live in a complicated world with complicated lines being drawn. Boltz proves that these lines don’t exist, and will be breaking down barriers to bring together communities. To Allison, “a trans woman standing next to a straight white man in church is a powerful teacher.”

The Safe Space maps bridge all types of spaces, and one of the unlikely ones is, perhaps, churches. Matt said that “BYU has only nine safe spaces around their campus and seven of them are churches.” Not all churches are anti-gay, and many times they are the only place for people to find community.

Rainbows in Revolt is just getting started bridging gaps and building community.

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