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The ultimate guide to queer holiday gift giving
Something for everyone, from charcuterie to an e-moped
Drawing a blank on what to gift the queer loved ones on your holiday shopping list? Consider these thoughtful presents picked exclusively for your LGBTQ friends and family.
Mr. & Mr. Claus Mugs

Two glazed-ceramic Santas are better than one when you cop Sunny & Tedโs hand-painted Mr. and/or Mrs. cocoa mugs available in three blush-faced skin tones and two genders to accurately rep your festive-queer holiday cheer. SunnyAndTed.com, $27.50 each
Whiskey a Go Go

Lift holiday spirits (in handsome drinkware, like Baccaratโs Harmonie Double Old-Fashioned Tumblers) by offering party guests a sampling of your home barโs top-shelf reserves, like Blade & Bowโs Kentucky Straight Bourbon, Glendalough Pot Still Irish Whiskey, and Westward American Single Malt Stout Cask โ a holy trinity all its own. ReserveBar.com, $48, $57, $91
Happy Hanukkah Tea Gift Set + Subarzsweets

VAHDAM Indiaโs Hannukah-special assortment of luscious herbal, chai and black teas โ paired with Subarzsweetsโ handmade, small-batch biscotti-cookie hybrids (the lemon-thyme flavor is what the chefโs kiss emoji was meant for) โ is the treat-yourself pick-me-up youโll crave after eight crazy nights. Vahdam.com, $24; Subarzsweets.com, $45
America the Beautiful Annual Pass

One of your nice-listers resolving to travel more in the new year? Set them up for success with the National Parks & Federal Recreational Landsโ America the Beautiful annual pass, providing access for the holder (plus guests) to more than 2,000 federal sites in the United States, including parks, monuments, battlefields, protected wildlife refuges, stunning seashores, and more. Recreation.gov, $80
Yves Durif Grooming Set

Yves Durif didnโt reinvent the Italian-made, natural rubber resin petite brush and comb that bears his synonymous-with-style name, but he did make these luxury tools sexy AF so you can feel like a million bucks. YvesDurif.com, $105
Boarderie Charcuterie

A far cry from the shelf-stable meat-and-cheese gifts mom loaded up on at your local mallโs pop-up shop, Oprah-approved Boarderie charcuterie boards are chef-made daily and feature hand-selected artisan cheeses, meats, dried fruits, nuts and chocolates on keepsake Acacia platters. Hickory Farms could never. Boarderie.com, $129-$239
Wagged Tails Custom โA-paw-relโ

Memorialize your loved onesโ recently passed pets with Wagged Tailsโ custom-printed apparel and accessories, including T-shirts, tumblers, totes and mugs, emblazoned with their favorite heaven-sent smush-faces. Keep the Kleenex close. WaggedTails.com, $18-$67
Dough Bowl Candles

Drop a needle on Aunt Dollyโs holiday vinyl before lighting the wicks on Stroudโs Simply Southern dough bowl candles and youโve got yourself an instant country Christmas. StroudSimplySouthernCo.com, $24-$79
Cantilever Toolbox

Utilitarianism is a hallmark of Japanese design, and Toyoโs handcrafted cantilever steel storage and tool boxes are no exception with two handy adjustable upper trays and eight removable dividers housed in a handsome, spacious shell deserving of double-takes. Placewares.com, $129
Habibi Santal Journey

Canโt go wrong with a fresh scent tucked under the tree or inside a stocking, and it doesnโt get any fresher (or spicier) than Habibiโs Santal Journey with notes of dry cedar wood, oud and sandalwood overtop wisps of crisp pear and precious orris. ForHabibi.com, $119
NQi GTS E-Moped

In sport mode, the NQi GTS e-mopedโs top speed is a hair-straightening 50 mph thanks to a 60V26Ah Bosch motor, 4th-gen lithium battery tech, and a few body-shop elves whoโve watched โ2 Fast 2 Furiousโ 2 many times. Niu.com, $TBD
Rotate Watchmaking Kit

Challenge your better-half gadget geek over holiday break with customizable Rotate watchmaking kits โ available in easy, medium, and hard configurations โ that come complete with parts, tools, and a user-friendly guide to keep the cursing at a Christian minimum. RotateWatches.com, $195-$225
Coravin x Keith Haring Wine Opener

Art and wine go to together like Saint Nick and snickerdoodles, which is why the Coravin x Keith Haring Timeless Six+ Artist Edition bottle opener โ featuring the late artistโs iconic dancing figures in black and white โ will look just as good on your dinner party tablescape as it will on display. Coravin.com, $350
Limited Edition Don Q Rum X Coquito NYC Drink Kit
Add a little Latin flavor to your living room Christmas film fest with a screening of Alfredo De Villaโs โNothing Like the Holidaysโ and a traditional coquito with a Don Q kick in hand. The limited-edition collaboration kit between the rum maker and Latina-owned Coquito NYC comes with everything you need to mix it up, including coconut milk, spices, and a bottle of Reserva 7. DonQ.com, $75
Nuzzie Weighted Blanket

Dasher and Dancer will have to pull double duty delivering hefty, chunky Nuzzies, one-of-a-kind breathable, thermo regulating and sustainable weighted blankets (in holiday hues like rich rose and emerald green) for all your snowy-season snuggles. ShopNuzzie.com, $169-$329
(Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBTQ lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect on Instagramย @mikeyroxtravels.)
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Yes, chef!
From military service in Syria to cooking in coastal Delaware, Justin Fritz delivers comfort and connection
Driving down the long stretch of road that connects Rehoboth to Bethany Beach, Iโm thinking about the morning ahead of me. Iโve done tough jobs before on subjects I knew nothing about. But when it comes to this assignment โ profiling a local chef โ I canโt help but worry that Iโve bitten off more than I can chew.
I eat food. I love food. Ironically, I canโt cook.
Sure, I can make a passable meal in a pinch, but when it comes to innate culinary skills, I donโt have the gene. That means I eat out often. Even when the food is good, the experience is rarely inspiring. I have no doubt that the guy Iโm about to profile can cook, but for me, food is fuel, not fun. Writing about eating feels like reading about dancing. You can understand the mechanics, but the magic is harder to capture.
Sooner than I expected, I reach my destination. Rising quietly from the dunes, the weathered cedar shingles and wraparound porch of The Addy Sea Inn gives off the kind of understated confidence money canโt buy. Built in 1904, it doesnโt try to impress you. It just does. I pull into a gravel parking space, step out of the car, and take a breath. Already, I sense that Iโve misjudged what this morning will be.
Inside, breakfast service has just wrapped, but the dining room is still humming with energy. Plates clink. Fresh coffee is brewing. After a quick round of introductions with the staff, Iโm ushered back to the kitchen, where Executive Chef Justin Fritz is waiting.
The room is modest, only slightly larger than my kitchen at home, anchored by a narrow stainless-steel island that serves as the operational center. Whatever the kitchen lacks in space it makes up for in technology. The appliances are state-of-the-art and the multi-tiered glass oven on the wall looks smarter than I am.
Thereโs no brigade of line cooks. No shouted orders. No โHandsโ or โYes, chef!โ echoing off the walls. Thereโs just me and him. Itโs a one-man show.
His first wedding tasting is less than an hour away, but instead of rushing, Justin offers me the grand tour. Pride radiates from him โ not ego, but something quieter. We move through the inn, past guests and staff he greets by name, out onto a porch overlooking the beach and Atlantic, where meticulously planned weddings unfold like carefully choreographed dreams.
โThis whole place transforms,โ he says, gesturing toward the lawn. โWe pitch a 90-foot tent in a yard that can accommodate 150 guests. We set the DJ and the bar up in the back on a floating deck that becomes a dance floor.โ
On our way back inside, we stop to see herbs growing in a double row of hanging planters โ mint, basil, strawberries trailing down the wall like decorations you can eat. Itโs not performative. Itโs practical. Everything here has a purpose.
Back in the kitchen, the tempo shifts. There are no printed-out recipes or neatly arranged mise en place. Justin stops talking just long enough to consult the whiteboard hanging on his refrigerator. There are notes โ words, not sentences โ cueing him on all the things he needs to remember.
When he finally goes into action, itโs intense, but controlled. Justin knows every inch of his kitchen and moves efficiently to gather what he needs to get five different entrees into the oven. I try to be a fly on the wall, but Iโm the elephant in the room. I try, and fail, to move out of his way.
After our fifth near-collision, he laughs. โYou just stay there,โ he says. โIโll move around you.โ And he does.
Justinโs path to The Addy Sea Inn wasnโt linear, and in many ways, thatโs what defines him. After culinary school and early professional success, he made a decision that shifted everything: He enlisted in the Army Reserves alongside his younger brother. In an unexpected twist, Justin completed the enlistment process first, while his brotherโs path was delayed pending a medical waiver.
Initially, Justinโs role had nothing to do with food. He worked as a computer technician, repairing advanced equipment โ a technical, methodical position that stood in stark contrast to the creative environment of a kitchen. Then, as often happens in Justinโs stories, his circumstances changed. A casual conversation with a commanding officer one afternoon led to a sudden reassignment.
โHe said, โYouโre supposed to be at the range. Get in the car โ Iโll explain on the way.โโ Justin recalls. โNext thing I know, Iโm deploying.โ
The destination was Syria. And instead of working with electronics, he found himself back in a kitchen โ only this time, under conditions that redefined what cooking meant.
โThey didnโt want military cooking,โ he says. โThey wanted home cooking.โ
That expectation, simple on the surface, became extraordinarily complex in practice. Ingredients had to be sourced from local markets where quality and safety were inconsistent. Refrigeration was limited. Water couldnโt be trusted. Meat arrived butchered in ways that required improvisation rather than precision.

โOne time I ordered lamb,โ he says. โIt came back as bones. Just bones. I scraped the meat off and turned it into sausage because I couldnโt waste it.โ
So, Justin adapted. He baked bread from scratch, created meals that could be eaten days later, and found ways to bring a sense of normalcy into an environment defined by uncertainty. French toast, burritos, pretzels, tiramisu โ dishes that, under different circumstances, might have felt routine became something else entirely.
โI think people underestimate what food means,โ he says. โItโs not just eating. Itโs memory. Itโs comfort. Itโs safety.โ
That last word lingers.
By the time Justin arrived at The Addy Sea Inn, he carried more than just professional experience. He brought discipline, resilience, and a perspective shaped by environments far removed from coastal Delaware. But he also brought uncertainty.
The new role required something different from what heโd done before. Here, he wasnโt executing someone elseโs vision โ he was responsible for creating one.
โI realized I get to do this,โ he says. โI get to build this.โ
What he has built is both ambitious and carefully controlled. Under new ownership and with a growing team, The Addy Sea Inn has evolved into a sought-after destination for weddings and events. The scale has increased, but the operation remains intentionally lean, which puts more pressure on Justin to deliver.
A single day might include breakfast service, take-away lunch preparation, afternoon tea, wedding tastings, and a full-scale event execution. Layered on top of that are cooking classes, early-stage digital content, and a catering business Justin has deliberately paused so he can focus on something more cohesive.
โI want to grow the culinary side of this place,โ he says. โNot just more events, but better experiences. Classes, tastings โ things that bring people into it. I love teaching. I love sharing it.โ
Itโs a vision rooted less in expansion and more in depth. Not more for the sake of more, but more meaningfully.
When I return a few days later for breakfast service, the experience feels both familiar and entirely new.
The day begins with sunrise. Before anything else, Justin pauses and brings his team outside. It isnโt a long break, and it isnโt framed as anything formal. Itโs simply a moment โ watching the light shift over the water, occasionally catching sight of dolphins moving just beyond the shoreline.
Then, without ceremony, the work begins.
Eggs crack. Bacon sizzles, potato pancakes bake on the grill. Orders move in and out with steady consistency. Thereโs no frantic energy, no sense of scrambling to keep up. Instead, thereโs a flow โ continuous, measured, almost meditative.
โIt doesnโt always feel like work,โ he says.
Watching him move through the morning, itโs easy to understand why.
Hours later, after the hustle and bustle of the first meal has ended, Justin turns his attention to a larger, albeit more creative task โ cupcakes for two themed parties. Already inspired, he lifts a heavy electric mixer onto the counter and pushes a flour-dusted binder in front of me.
โIโll bake the cupcakes. You make the butter-cream frosting,โ he says, flipping to the page with the recipe. โDouble it.โ
The request sends me into a mild panic, especially since it requires math. But Justin believes I can do it. To my surprise, so do I. The first batch of chocolate cupcakes are already out of the oven before I finish the first bowl of frosting. Since all I have to do is repeat the process, Iโm starting to feel relieved and maybe even a little cocky. Thatโs when it hits me.
โChef, I made a mistakeโฆI forgot to double the amount of vanilla. I need to do it over.โ
โItโs fine,โ Justin says casually, swiping a small disposable plastic spoon across the silky surface. โIt tastes great. Focus on the next batch.โ
The result, two exquisitely decorated cupcakes, are almost too pretty to eat.
โThese are yours to take home,โ he says as he carefully packs them away in a to-go box.
I start to protest, to tell him he should save the best for himself or the other guests. But I stop myself and pause and savor the moment. This one, I keep.
Chef Justin Fritz resists easy categorization, and that may be part of what makes him so compelling. He is classically trained, but without pretense. His military background suggests rigidity, yet his approach is flexible and intuitive. He carries himself with a quiet confidence, never needing to announce it. Part Jason Bourne, part Willy Wonka. Justin isnโt just cooking food, heโs making magic.
By the time I leave, my understanding of the assignment has shifted. What I expected to be a story about food has become something broader, more nuanced. Itโs about care. About connection.
That sense of purpose extends beyond the kitchen. When I ask Justin whatโs next, he speaks not just about growth and ambition, but about balance โ about building a life that allows space for both. Thereโs a quiet acknowledgment of Cheyenne, his partner of five years, woven into that answer. Not as a headline, but as something steady and grounding, part of how he measures what comes next.
I arrived thinking I would write about a chef. What I found instead was someone who uses food as a language โ a way to communicate, to connect, and to create something that stays with you.
The only way to experience Chef Justinโs cooking is to step inside his world โ by checking into The Addy Sea Inn (www.addysea.com) or securing a ticket to one of the innโs limited public events, including the Spring Soirรฉe and the Toys for Tots Holiday Fundraiser. Thereโs no standalone restaurant, no reservation to book online. His food exists within the rhythm of the inn itself.
In louder, larger kitchens, โYes, chef!โ is a command โ sharp, immediate, unquestioned.
But here, at the edge of the ocean, it lands differently.
Not as an order.
As trust.
And maybe thatโs the real story โ not the food, not the title, but the quiet, deliberate way Chef Justin Fritz makes people feel something they donโt forget.

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Memorial for groundbreaking bisexual activist set for May 2
Loraine Hutchins remembered as a โforce of natureโ
The Montgomery County Pride Center will host a celebration honoring the life and legacy of Loraine Hutchins, Ph.D., on May 2. People are invited to attend the onsite memorial or a livestream event. The on-site event will begin at 10 a.m. with a meet-and-greet mixer before moving into a memorial service around the theme โLoraine a Force of Nature!โ at 11 a.m., a panel talk at 12 p.m., break out sessions for artists, academics, and activists to build on her legacy at 1 p.m. and a closing reception at 2 p.m.
Attendees are encouraged to register for the on-site memorial gathering or the livestreamed memorial. The goal of this event is also to collect stories and memories of Loraine. Attendees and others can share their stories at padlet.com.ย
An obituary for Hutchins was published in the Bladelast Nov. 24, where people can learn more about her activism in the bisexual community. A private service for friends and family was held in December but this memorial service is open to all.ย
Alongside her groundbreaking work organizing for U.S. bisexual rights and liberation including co-editing โBi Any Other Name: BIsexual People Speak Outโ (1991), she also integrated faith into her sexual education and advocacy work. Her 2001 doctoral dissertation, โErotic Rites: A Cultural Analysis of Contemporary U.S. Sacred Sexuality Traditions and Trends,โ offered a pointed queer and feminist analysis to sex-neutral and sex-positive spiritual traditions in the United States. Her thesis was also groundbreaking in exploring the intersections between sex workers and those in caregiving professionals, including spiritual ones.
In an oral history interview conducted by Michelle Mueller back in August 2023, Hutchins described herself as a โpriestess without a congregation.โ While she has occasionally had a sense of community and feels part of a group of loving people, she admitted that โI donโt feel like we have the shape or the purpose that we need.โ
โIโve often experienced being the Cassandra in the room, the Cassandra in the community. Somebody whoโs kind of way out there ahead, thinking through the strategic action points that my community hasnโt gotten to yet, and getting a lot of resistance and hostile responses from people who are frightened by dissent and conflict and not ready for the changes we have to make to survive,โ she said.
โFor somebody whoโs bisexual in an out political way and whoโs been a spokesperson for the polyamory movement in an out political way, itโs very exposing. And itโs very important to me to be able to try to explain and help other people understand the connection between spirituality and sexuality,โ she explained citing how even as a graduate student she was โexploring how to feel erotic and spiritual, and not feel them in conflict with each other in my own spiritual contemplative life and my own sensual body awareness of being alive in the world.โ
โEvery religion has a sense of sacred sexuality. Itโs just they put a lot of boundaries and regulations on it, and if we have a spiritual practice that is totally affirming of womenโs priesthood and of gay people, queer peopleโs ability to minister to everyone and to be ministered to be everyone, what does that do to the gender of God, or our understanding of how we practice our spirituality and our sexuality in community and privately?โ
โThereโs no easy answer,โ she concludes, and she continued to grapple with these questions throughout her life, co-editing another seminal text, โSexuality, Religion and the Sacred: Bisexual, Pansexual, and Polysexual Perspectives,โ published in 2012. Her work blending spiritual and queer liberation remains groundbreaking to this day.
Rev. Eric Eldritch, a local community organizer and ordained Pagan minister with Circle Sanctuary who has worked for decades with the DC Centerโs Center Faith to organize the Pride Interfaith Service, is eager to highlight this element of her legacy at the memorial service next month.
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Queery: Meet artist, performer John Levengood
Modern creative talks nightlife, coming out, and his personal queer heroes
John Levengood (he/him) describes himself as a modern creative with a wideโranging toolkit. He blends music, technology, civic duty, and a sharp sense of wit into a cohesive artistic identity. Known primarily as a recording artist and performer, heโs also a selfโtaught music producer and software engineer who embodies a generation of creators who build their own lanes rather than wait for one to appear.
Levengood, 32, who is single and identifies as gay and queer, is best known as a recording artist who has performed at Pride festivals across the country, including the main stages of World Pride DC, Central Arkansas Pride, and Charlotte Pride.
โLocally in the DMV, I’m known for turning heads at nightlife venues with my eye-catching sense of style. When I go out, I don’t try to blend in. I hope I inspire people to be themselves and have the courage to stand out,โ he says.
Heโs also known for hosting karaoke at Freddie’s Beach Bar in Arlington, Va., on Thursday nights. โI like to create a space where people feel comfortable expressing themselves, building community, and showcasing their talents.โ
He also creates social media content from my performances and do interviews at LGBTQ+ bars and theatres in the DMV. Follow the Arlington resident @johnlevengood.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I have been fully out of the closet since 2019. My parents were the hardest people to tell because my family has always been my rock and at the time I couldn’t imagine a world without them. Their reactions were extremely positive and supportive so I had nothing to fear all along.
I remember sitting on the couch with my mom, dad, and sister in our hotel room in New Orleans during our winter vacation and being so nervous to tell them. After I finally mustered up the nerve and made the proclamation, I realized my dad had already fallen asleep on the couch. My mom promised to tell him when he woke up.
Whoโs your LGBTQ hero?
My LGBTQ heroes are Harvey Milk for paving the way for gays in politics and Elton John for being a pioneer for the fabulous and authentic. My local heroes in the DMV are Howard Hicks, manager of Green Lantern, and Tony Rivenbark, manager of Freddie’s Beach Bar. Both of them are essential to creating spaces where I’ve felt welcome and safe since moving to the DMV.
Whatโs Washingtonโs best nightspot, past or present?
Trade tops the list for me because of the dance floor and outdoor space. It’s so nice to get a break from the music every once and a while to be able to have a conversation.
We live in challenging times. How do you cope?
I’m still figuring this out. What is working right now is writing music and spending time with family and friends. I’ve also been spending less time on social media going to the gym at least three times a week.
What streaming show are you binging?
After “Traitors” Season 4 ended, I was in a bit of a show hole, but “Stumble” has me in a laughing loop right now. The writing is so witty.
What do you wish youโd known at 18?
At 18, I wish I would have known how liberating it is to come out of the closet. It would have been nice to know some winning lottery numbers as well.
What are your friends messaging about in your most recent group chat?
We are planning our next trip to New York City. If you can believe it, I visited NYC for the first time in 2025 for Pride and I’ve been back every quarter since. Growing up in the country, I was subconsciously primed to be scared of the city. But my mind has been blown. I can’t wait to go back.
Why Washington?
It’s the closest metropolitan area to my family, but not too close. I love the museums, the diversity, the history, and the proximity to the beach and mountains. It’s also nice to live in a city with public transportation.
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