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Blade singles class of 2017 check in
Last year’s winners discuss experience
GUY ANTHONY
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
I relocated to NewĀ York last July and I am still happily single. I met someone after the story ran and we dated for about eight months. It was a wonderful relationship.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
It was wonderful and I actually went on a few dates with guys who actually saw me in the Blade. I felt like Beyonce for a few weeks. Then, sadly, it was back to reality.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
Take full advantage of the discounted drinks at Nellieās and remember to date often until you find the right person for you. Never feel tempted toĀ settle justĀ because everyone else around you is.
BRITTANY WALSH
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
Iām in a something with a person and that something is open.
If dating someone, where/how did you meet?
Actually the person was a date to the Most Eligible Single event last year but we’d been on a few dates before that.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
It was mostly a good laugh and a bonding experience as it seemed to give my coworkers and anyone Iād meet in community, something to talk about. I like the sass/subtle jabs and pokes that came with it. I think it led to one date.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
I don’t think i’m one for advice but my wish is for the winners to, ya know, take their win seriously and, uh, I wanna see world peace.
ALESIA MICHELLE
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
I am in a relationship.
If dating someone, where/how did you meet?
I met my girlfriend at a Maker’s Lab Beyonce birthday party. She asked me to dance. But things weren’t so simple. I had to ask her at least 20 times to link up before she finally gave me a shot.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
Being named a “Blade Most Eligible Single” was a very cool experience and definitely led to some propositions.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
My advice to the new class of singles is to soak it up. Put yourself out there and try not to pay for your own drinks.
CONSUELLA LOPEZ
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
Still single. Not dating anyone because men arenāt comfortable dating a transgender woman in public.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
No one contacted me for a date.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
If you are transgender and trying to date, go a different route because Iām very confident in the way I look and I didnāt even get asked out on a date.
TAYLOR LIANNE CHANDLER
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
I am in a relationship since November.
If dating someone, where/how did you meet?
Met him on a dating app. He tried to get my attention for a year before I noticed.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
The experience was a blast! Especially doing the photo shoot and getting to see parts of D.C. I had never seen before. I got a lot of national press that was positive for a change. It helped make me more comfortable being out publicly as intersex. I met someone the night of the event who came out specifically to meet me. We dated until April.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
Never be afraid to put yourself outside your comfort zone and take a chance. Dating should be an adventure and fun. Donāt go into it with the baggage from the past.Ā Good luck to this years winners and I hope you find that special someone.
MATTIA DāAFFUSO
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
I started dating someone shortly after last yearās most eligible single event, but I am now single again.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
I started dating someone shortly after so no.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
Have fun and be nice.
DIANE MELIS
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
Currently single and open to dating
If dating someone, where/how did you meet?
I had a relationship in the summer and fall. We met out at Coven a ladies night hosted by Kate Ross, another eligible single from last year.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
I thought it was a super fun experience. The event was my birthday weekend so it really added some fun and something else to celebrate. It was a great fun fact to throw out there and I still have the article that was posted in the paper.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
Have fun with it and enjoy it. Your friends nominated you for a reason so don’t get to serious or worry about getting dates. Just enjoy the ride.
LISA MARIE THALHAMMER
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
After the 2017 Most Eligible Singles ceremony at Town, the very next morning I was contacted by a 2016 Most Eligible Single whom I had a year-long crush on. We unknowingly had been neighbors for years. Ultimately we found we made better friends but even so, it was a very positive source of strength and we supported each other through a wild year.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
I have a lot of gratitude for the Washington Blade and how it continues to build our community, providing a platform for LGBTQ voices to be heard by featuring our people,Ā reporting our news and strengthening our relationships by encouraging love toward each other and ourselves.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
My advice to this yearās singles is to leave your phone on airplane mode once in a while, keep your head lifted high and your eyes wide open. Your greatest love might be standing right across from you. Donāt miss those opportunities to make real world connections. Fall in love with yourself, the world and people around you.
JOE DONNELLY
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
Single
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
The experience was flattering. I saw an uptick in unsolicited Facebook requests after the issue. It did not lead to any dates for me (I was not really expecting that result). It was nice to be selected.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
Just enjoy and have fun with it.
JULIA DeLOIS
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
Still single.
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
No one contacted me.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
Definitely fun as a treat and honor but donāt put too many eggs in this basket.
DAVID TORIAN
What is your relationship statusĀ now, one year after being named a Blade Most Eligible Single?
Single
How was the experience of being named a Blade Most Eligible Single ā did it lead to any dates?
I was honored and excited to be named. Sadly, no dates came of it.
Any advice to this year’s winners?
Be honored for being selected.
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Full-spectrum funny: an interview with Randy Rainbow
New book āLow-Hanging Fruitā delivers the laughs
Can we all agree that thereās nothing worse than reading a book by a humorist and not laughing? Not even once. Fear not, as gay humorist and performer Randy Rainbow more than exceeded my expectations, as he will yours, with his hilarious new book āLow-Hanging Fruitā (St. Martinās Press, 2024). If you loved his 2022 memoir āPlaying With Myself,ā youāll find as much, if not more to love in the new book. His trademark sense of humor from his videos, transfers with ease to the page in the essays. There are multiple laugh-out-loud moments throughout the two-dozen essays. Always a delight to talk to, Randy made time for an interview shortly before the publication of the book.
BLADE: I want to begin by apologizing for putting you on speakerphone so I can get this interview recorded, because I know you are not fond of it as you pointed out in the āAnd While Weāre On the Subjectā¦ā essay in your new book.
RANDY RAINBOW: [Laughs] Thank you for paying attention. But yours is a good speakerphone. I would not have known.
BLADE: Your first book, āPlaying With Myself,ā was a memoir and the new book, āLow-Hanging Fruit,ā is a humorous essay collection. Did it feel like you were exercising different writing muscles than you did for the first book ā essays versus memoir?
RAINBOW: It did a little bit. I think I had a little more fun writing this book. Save for the fact that I was shlepping around on tour as I also make well known in the book. That wasnāt fun. To not have the, I hate to say burden, but the responsibility of doing a chronological memoir, really getting everything right and then telling your story. I felt like I was just free to shoot the shit and have a little fun.
BLADE: Were these essays written in one creative burst or over the course of years?
RAINBOW: Over the course of a few months. The second half of my tour is when I started doing it. So, probably about five to six months.
BLADE: The first essay āLetter of Resignationā reminded me of Fran Lebowitzā¦
RAINBOW: Iām so glad.
BLADE: And then, lo and behold, you name-check Fran in the second essay āGurl, Youāre A Karen.ā Do you consider her to be an influence on your work?
RAINBOW: Not directly. I’m a fan of hers. But I just feel sympatico with her for all the obvious reasons. I have a problem with everything [laughs] and being able to be funny and creative about it in this book was very cathartic, I felt.
BLADE: Something similar occurred when I was reading the essay āI Feel Bad About My Balls,ā which recalled another humor essayist ā Nora Ephron, whom you mention at the conclusion of the piece. Is she an influence?
RAINBOW: Again, a fan. I wouldn’t say she ever directly influenced me although I guess since becoming an author myself, I read all of her books, so I love her. But not a direct influence. I think I listened to her audiobook of āI Feel Bad About My Neckā and that’s what inspired that chapter.
BLADE: Do you know if Jacob Elordi is aware of his presence in the book?
RAINBOW:I would assume that word has gotten back to him. This is gonna make him!
BLADE: In āRider? I Hardly Know Her,ā you wrote about being on tour as you are about to, once again, embark on a tour throughout October. Do you consider this more of a book tour, as opposed to one of your stage tours?
RAINBOW: It absolutely is. The way it worked out was Iām doing two of my concert shows in Palm Desert. I start my book events here with Harvey Fierstein in New York and then fly to the West Coast and do two musical concerts and then I embark on the rest of my book tour as I make my way back to New York. In that regard, it’s a little less nauseating ā¦ taxing.
Yes, although I just finished an eight-month tour. I’ve only had the summer off, and I find myself having to remind myself, āYou’re just going for a week, going for a week, and then you come home, and that’s it. I have PTSD from all that travel. Iām not built for it.
BLADE: Iām based in Fort Lauderdale. Are there additional dates in the works, including one in your former home of South Florida?
RAINBOW: That’s where I’m from! Thatās where my mother is still located.
BLADE: Yes, we saw you here at the Broward Center, and your mom was there.
RAINBOW: Thatās right! No South Florida dates for this tour, but there’s always next year. We’re already planning a few strategically placed tour dates for summer and fall of next year. I’ll definitely be in Florida then, but youāll have to wait for it.
BLADE: āNotes From A Litter Box,ā written in the voice of your cat Tippi, made me wonder if youād agree that there has never been a better time than now to be a childless cat person.
RAINBOW: Isn’t it funny? That was the least political chapter in the book, the least controversial chapter, and now it’s all anyoneās talking about. It’s our time! What with Taylor Swift and everything, it’s terrific. I wrote that long before all of this J.D. Vance nonsense, but it certainly has put some wind in our sails. And Tippiās! Who heard her name and sheās looking for treats. Here you go, dear. In the audiobook, the great actress Pamela Adlon voices Tippi.
BLADE: Could you foresee writing a childrenās book about Tippi?
RAINBOW: Well, what can I say? I don’t know how much Iām at liberty to discuss. Fuck it, I’ll discuss it! I did write a children’s book, and I’m saying it to whoever asks me. It comes out next year, and that’s actually what we’re planning the tour around, when it comes out around Pride next year. I won’t get into exactly what it’s about, but I will be revealing that very soon. And Tippi is a major character in it.
BLADE: Fantastic! As a 10-year resident of Fort Lauderdale, I especially enjoyed your motherās takedown of DeSantis in āLadies and Gentlemenā¦My Mother (the Sequel).ā I take it she didnāt need any prodding from you.
RAINBOW: No. No, she did not. I actually asked her ahead of time ā we did a little pre-interview like it was āThe Tonight Showā ā and I asked her about her topics, so she had her DeSantis material all laid out.
BLADE: Would you please tell my husband Rick thereās a right way to load the dishwasher? He wonāt listen to me, but heāll definitely listen to you.
RAINBOW: I, sadly, do not have a husband, so that is one example that I don’t actually have specifics on. How does he do it?
BLADE: Just wrong!
RAINBOW: Wrong for you.
BLADE: For example, the silverware is just pell-mell in the rack, instead of being grouped, spoons with spoons, forks with forks, and so on.
RAINBOW: He’s not putting mugs or glassware on the bottom, is he?
BLADE: No, not at all. But the plates should go in the same direction, right?
RAINBOW: Absolutely, yes.
BLADE: Thank you!
RAINBOW: I would get rid of him [laughs].
BLADE: āLow-Hanging Fruitā arrives in advance of Election Day 2024 and includes the āRandy Rainbow For Presidentā and āMy Gay Agendaā essays, along with running political commentary, as well as a dig at āDonald Jessica Trumpā which you say you couldnāt resist. All kidding aside, please share your thoughts on the 2024 election.
RAINBOW: Oh God, kidding aside? How dare you! I have no thoughts that are not kidding because I have to kid to keep my sanity. It’s literally insane. I’ve left my body over it. I don’t know what’s going on. I don’t know what to expect. I try to be positive, but I don’t know what that means anymore. I cannot wait for it to be fucking over!
BLADE: Finally, when it comes to āhot tea,ā which you write about in the essay āDo I Hear A Schmaltz?ā, may I also recommend Harney & Sonsā āVictorian London Fog?ā Iām savoring it as we speak.
RAINBOW: Good one! Thank you! I’m very into Harney and Sons now. I have just a few from their catalog, but that’s the next one I’ll try.
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Author of new book empowers Black āfatā femme voices
After suicidal thoughts, attacks from far right, a roadmap to happiness
In 2017, Jon Paul was suicidal. In nearly every place Paul encountered, there were signs that consistently reminded the transgender community that their presence in America by the far right is unwelcomed.
Former President Donald Trump’s anti-trans rhetoric is “partly” responsible for Paul’s suicidal contemplation.
“I’m driving out of work, and I’m seeing all of these Trump flags that are telling me that I could potentially lose my life over just being me and wanting to be who I am,” Paul said. “So, were they explicitly the issue? No, but did they add to it? I highly would say yes.”
During Trump’s time as president, he often disapproved of those who identified as transgender in America; the former president imposed a ban on transgender individuals who wanted to join the U.S. military.
“If the world keeps telling me that I don’t have a reason for me to be here and the world is going to keep shaming me for being here. Then why live?” Paul added.
The rhetoric hasn’t slowed and has been a messaging tool Trump uses to galvanize his base by saying that Democrats like Vice President Kamala Harris “want to do transgender operations on illegal aliens that are in prison.” Trump made that claim at the presidential debate against Democratic presidential nominee Kamala Harris.
Not only do Trump’s actions hurt Paul, but they also affect 17-year-old Jacie MichelleĆ©, a transgender person at Friendly Senior High School.
“When former President Donald J. Trump speaks on transgender [individuals] in a negative light, it saddens my heart and makes me wonder what he thinks his personal gain is from making these comments will be,” MichelleĆ© said.
“When these comments are made toward trans immigrants or the transgender community, it baffles me because it shows me that the times are changing and not for the better,” MichelleĆ© added.
The Congressional Black Caucus Foundation responded to Trump’s rhetoric that opposes the transgender community and how it affects democracy through programming at its Annual Legislative ConferenceĀ in Washington.
“Our agendas are not set by what other groups are saying we should or shouldn’t do. It is set by our communities and what we know the needs and the most pressing needs are for the Black community, and we know that our global LGBTQAI+ communities have needs; they are a part of our community,” said Nicole Austin-Hillery, president and CEO of the Congressional Black Caucus Foundation.
One pressing need is suicide prevention, which theĀ National Institute of HealthĀ deems necessary, as 82% of transgender individuals have reported having suicidal thoughts, while 40% have attempted suicide. This research applies to individuals like Paul, who reported contemplating suicide.
But instead of choosing to self-harm, Paul metĀ Latrice Royale, a fourth-season contestant on āRuPaul’s Drag Race,ā who was awarded the title of Miss Congeniality while on the show. Paul said that meeting brought meaning when there was barely any left.
“It was like I met them at a time where I really, truly, not only needed to see them, but I needed to be able to actively know ‘girl’ you can live and you can have a really a good life, right? And Latrice was that for me,” Paul said.
Though Trump is representative of a lot of movements that are clashing with society, theĀ Democratic PartyĀ is actively pushing back against anti-transgender movements and says there is āstill much work to be done.ā
Not only did Royale model success for Paul, but they also share the same appearance. Paul proudly identifies as “fat” and uses this descriptor as a political vehicle to empower others in the book “Black Fat Femme, Revealing the Power of Visibly Queer Voices in the Media and Learning to Love Yourself.”
“My book, my work as a Black, fat femme, is inherently political. I say this at the very front of my book,” Paul said. “All three of those monikers are all three things in this world that the world hates and is working overtime to get rid of.”
“They’re trying to kill me as a Black person; they’re trying to get rid of me as a fat person. They are trying to get rid of me as a queer person,” Paul added.
Besides Paul’s political statements, the book’s mission is to give those without resources a blueprint to make it across the finish line.
“I want them to look at all the stories that I share in this and be able to say, ‘wow,’ not only do I see myself, but now I have a roadmap and how I can navigate all of these things that life throws at me that I never had, and I think that’s why I was so passionate about selling and writing the book,” Paul said.
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Jussie Smollett asserts innocence while promoting new film
āI know what happened and soon you all will tooā
Jussie Smollett, the actor and musician who was convicted of lying to the police about being the victim of a homophobic and racist hate crime that he staged in 2019, attended a screening of his latest film āThe Lost Hollidayā in a packed auditorium of the Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial Library on Aug. 28.
In an interview with the Washington Blade that took place before the screening, he continued to assert his innocence and responded to concerns within the LGBTQ community that his case has discouraged real victims from reporting hate crimes.Ā
The former āEmpireā star wrote, produced, and directed āThe Lost Holliday,ā his second feature film to direct following 2021ās āB-Boy Blues.ā Produced through Smollettās company, SuperMassive Movies, he stars in the film alongside Vivica A. Fox, who also served as a producer and attended the library screening with other cast members.
In the film, Smollett plays Jason Holliday, a man grappling with the sudden death of his husband Damien (Jabari Redd). Things are complicated when Damienās estranged mother, Cassandra Marshall (Fox), arrives in Los Angeles from Detroit for the funeral, unaware of Damienās marriage to Jason or of their adopted daughter. Initially, Jason and Cassandra clash ā Cassandraās subtle homophobia and Jasonās lingering resentment over her treatment of Damien fuel their tension āā but they begin to bond as they navigate their grief together.
Smollett, Fox, Redd, and Brittany S. Hall, who plays Jasonās sister Cheyenne, discussed the film in an interview with the Washington Blade. Highlighting the wide representation of queer identities in the film and among the cast, they stressed that the story is fundamentally about family and love.
āWhat we really want people to get from this movie is love,ā Smollett said. āIt’s beneficial for people to see other people that are not like themselves, living the life that they can identify with. Because somehow, what it does is that it opens up the world a little bit.ā
Smollett drew from personal experiences with familial estrangement and grief during the making of the film, which delves into themes of parenthood, reconciliation, and the complexities of family relationships.
āI grew up with a father who was not necessarily the most accepting of gay people, and I grew up with a mother who was rather the opposite. I had a safe space in my home to go to, but I also had a not-so-safe space in my home, which was my father,ā he said.
āThe moment that he actually heard the words that his son was gay, as disconnected and estranged as we were, he instantly changed. He called me, after not speaking to him for years, and apologized for how difficult it must have been all of those years of me growing up. And then a couple years later, he passed away.ā
Smollett began working on āThe Lost Hollidayā eight years ago, with Fox in mind for the role of Cassandra from the outset. He said that he had started collaborating on the project with one of the biggest producers in Hollywood when āā2019ā happened.ā
In January 2019, Smollett told Chicago police that he had been physically attacked in a homophobic and racist hate crime. He initially received an outpouring of support, in particular from the LGBTQ and Black communities. However, police soon charged him with filing a false police report, alleging that he had staged the attack.
After prosecutors controversially dismissed the initial charges in exchange for community service and the forfeiture of his $10,000 bond, Smollett was recharged with the same offenses in 2020. Meanwhile, his character in āEmpireā was written out of the show.
In 2021, a Cook County jury found him guilty on five of the six charges of disorderly conduct for lying to police, and he was sentenced to 150 days in jail and 30 months of probation, along with a $120,000 restitution payment to the city of Chicago for the overtime costs incurred by police investigating his initial hate crime claim.
LGBTQ people are nine times more likely than non-LGBTQ people to be victims of violent hate crimes, according to a study by the Williams Institute at UCLA School of Law. Upon Smollettās conviction, some in the LGBTQ community felt that the case would discredit victims of hate crimes and make it more difficult to report future such crimes.
Smollett seemed to acknowledge these concerns, but denied that he staged the attack.
āI know what happened and soon you all will too,ā he told the Blade. āIf someone reported a crime and it wasnāt the truth, that would actually make it more difficult [to report future crimes], but I didnāt. Any belief that they have about the person that Iāve been played out to be, sure, but that person is not me, never has been,ā he said. āSo I stand with my community. I love my community and I protect and defend my community until Iām bloody in my fist.ā
āAnd for all the people who, in fact, have been assaulted or attacked and then have been lied upon and made it to seem like they made it up, I’m sorry that you have to constantly prove your trauma, and I wish that it wasn’t that way, and I completely identify with you,ā he added.
An Illinois Appellate Court upheld his guilty verdict last year, but Smollett has since appealed to the Illinois Supreme Court, which in March agreed to hear the case. He has served six days in jail so far, as his sentence has been put on hold pending the results of his appeals.
The screening at the MLK Jr. Library concluded with a conversation between Smollett, Fox, and David J. Johns, CEO and executive director of the National Black Justice Coalition. Smollett discussed his current mindset and his plans for the future, revealing he is working on a third movie and will be releasing new music soon.
āIām in a space where life is being kind,ā he said.
āThe Lost Hollidayā recently secured a distribution deal for a limited release with AMC Theatres and will be out in theaters on Sept. 27.
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